| Name: chick 473 | Date: Dec 27th, 2008 10:25 PM |
| I have a niece and she has two kids the girl is 5 and the boy is 4 he is a holly terror at home and every where they go,No matter what the mother does he still goes right back to being mean and in to trouble constantly he loves to push the mothers buttons he is so demanding about he would tare the house upafte she has cleaned it.WHen ever he gets a hold of lighters or knifves he would try to threaten it with different people including his mother no matter how hard she hides those he knows how to find them,Its a waist of time when she punnishing him because he will go right back to his mean evil self.He was in a store picking up toy gus and he would I'm going to shoot every one in this store his mother never did tough him that his dad must of done that the parents are together,So what should niece do her 5 year old daughter is nothing compaired to her brother.She is dreading putting him into school as mean as he is,If you have some addvice I woulld be glad to know this is her Aunt ↑ |
| Name: kelly | Date: Jan 16th, 2009 2:13 PM |
| wat the heck are u guys talkin bout weirdos ↑ |
| Name: Christy | Date: Jan 23rd, 2009 9:15 PM |
| I cam identify with so many of these posts! I think when we are at the end of our rope we search out others who know what we're going through! I have 3 children ages 10,4 and 2. Our 4 year old son is out of control or rather in control of our household! He screams, hits, throws toys, is defiant. I have a degree in Early child development and have dealt with children like this but never thought it would be my kid! His behavior is making our home miserable and our marriage is taking a back seat to his uncontrollable behavior. I am told by his pre-k teacher that he is not demonstrating theses behaviors at school. I don't know what to do? We've tried time outs...he laughs and get up. I've tried holding him there which works but defeats the purpose. He can be the most loving child but then turn and be the opposite 1minute later. His behavior is at it's worst when visitors come over or when he's tired which is everyday because he will not nap. I run a in home childcare and have had clients pull their children because of his behavior. I’ve also had potential clients choose not to attend because of his behavior while they were interviewing! My 2 year old is displaying similar behaviors due to his modeling! Our 10 year old did not display these types of behaviors when she was young. We made the decision long ago w/ our first child to not spank…however our sons behavior has driven us to spank many a time…but in reality it does nothing to curtail his behavior and leaves us feeling horrible! I think he may be ADHD…but was just hoping if I wait it out he would grow out of it? I don’t think our family can wait it out any longer so I guess the next step would be to get him assessed for ADHD? ↑ |
| Name: zen | Date: Jan 24th, 2009 5:58 PM |
| I am a parent of a 12yr old and i am looking for answer. For some reason my daughter can't seem to consentrate in class and she to so very hiper how can i handle this situation? ↑ |
| Name: karen thomson | Date: Jan 25th, 2009 12:59 PM |
Hi, I completly understand how you feel. My son is now 16 and was given a diagnosis of ADHD when he was 6, but like you we knew that "something" was wrong.
In the end we stopped going to functions and our life revolves around our son.
You will not get him diagnosed til he is 6 as the guidelines for precribing medication is not authorised til then.
The only things may help just now are adding Omega3,6,&9 to his diet you can get these as supplements and the best are (eye -q).Other than that i would suggest enforcing boundaries at all times,forward planning events and avoiding those events with excess stimulation.
And for you always have the same bedtime for the kids so allow you some adult time, have "quiet time" each day adaing for all the kids, this is a time when th ey ahve to stay intheir rooms and play.This will be difficult to enforce in the beginning but kids with ADHD love set routines and he will respond to this in time.if you want to chat just contact me at karen.thomson11@sky.com
I wish you and your family well. ↑ |
| Name: jennifer | Date: Feb 8th, 2009 9:56 AM |
| I have a son who I thought had adhd from the start of last year. I brought it up to his doctor and he has giving me ideas but none of them have worked. so we proceeded to go see an behavior consultant at Children's Mental Health Services this year. We go see them once a week . My son Christian hit's.kicks, screams, throws long tantrums. I have gotten to the point where i didn't know what to do but put him on meds. i also want to get myself some consoling. i have read that this type a disease is genetic. If anyone has some good idea's to try to help with a child that has adhd please e-mail at jlee23ricanbaby@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: rochelle | Date: Mar 3rd, 2009 2:19 PM |
| my son was diagnosed with autism. i am having the same problem. just count to ten.yes get him reevaluated he is not to young. just stay calm everything will be ok. ↑ |
| Name: rose | Date: Mar 4th, 2009 1:32 PM |
i have a 4 year old very sneaky. like to get in things that are dangerous i am tierd of repiting my self. she does not want to sleep in her own room. She acts up in the stores all the time she wants to be notice.
when she in school she pees on her self dont want to play with other kids.. or when i bring her around my friiends and her kids she strats to be a bully. with her sisters is the same way her older sister she look up to her middle sister she is mean to her.. she wants her way my mom spoils her to much and baby her. my email rosealberty@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: Isabella | Date: Mar 8th, 2009 11:01 PM |
| Name: sarah | Date: Mar 28th, 2009 6:05 AM |
I am struggling with my 3 yr old boys behavior! It has only become an issue since he started nursery sessions that he has begun to hit, kick, bite etc. There has been issues where he has scratched the teacher, hit etc but its like they are describing a completely different child to me as he does not behave as bad as this at home! He has never lashed out at me like this, he's been such a sweet, affectionate boy and i feel awful as a parent because everytime i go to pick him up from nursery i am always geting told he has done something wrong.
I have tried disciplining him at home, im not a parent who would turn there head and ignore it i DO NOT want my child to be the bully in school! Only two weeks ago i got called into the headmistresses office to talk and try and come up with a solution so we tried some different things reward chart, naughty step etc and i also agreed to see a lady at the school that deals with behavioural problems in school this was a week ago i saw her and also agreed to some other things to try i cut out his sweets completely in the week and used them only as a treat at wkends and limited his intake of juice, he has a regular bedtime routine etc and the nursery informed me there has been a bit of an improvement but then only yesterday i went to pick him up i got called into the headmistresses office to be told he has bit one of the nursery staff and that he can no longer attend nursery there!!
I am a working parent and cannot afford not to work and this has put me in hell of a situation, he was also down for a placement to start school there in september and my 6 year old daughter attends the same school.
I am frustrated that i do not feel the school has at all given it long enough to try and help my son it was only a week ago i saw the behavioral women and the school has not even given it a chance to try and change his behaviour i feel they have just given up on him! where i was seeking help agreeing to try things to change his behavior yet i know that staff dont need to put up with him scratching and biting them but i just feel completely lost now, i feel as if no one is really trying to help me overcome this problem and yet i want my son to have a good education! ↑ |
| Name: clyton | Date: Apr 23rd, 2009 7:23 AM |
| Name: trasca | Date: Apr 29th, 2009 12:38 AM |
| Hi Please Please Please do me a favour people if you haven't already read these books do so. One of them will help you understand adhd from the point of view from the person that has it and the other just gives you a great insight into buys.the first is called ONLY A MOTHER COULD LOVE HIM...Writtern by the boy him self Benjamin Polis..If this is the only book you ever read or have time for please do it and the other one is called Raising Boys By Steve Biddulph.I also have 2 sons 1 is 16yrs old and the other is 6yrs old and yes I have lived through it and still going through it.but there can be some good news it does get better for some kids if not all of them in time.I know it sounds like its a long way off especially when your little one is only 4 yrs old but they can control at some stage when they are older with alot of help and no meds either. if you would like to hear more please leave a post thanks from Australia. ↑ |
| Name: sam | Date: May 26th, 2009 7:22 AM |
| Name: robin | Date: Jun 1st, 2009 6:31 PM |
| trust me it's not just you. i have an almost four year old with the same problems...look into a pediatric behavioral/developmental specialist. if you'd like to chat about it let me know...mommy_robin2@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: chn | Date: Jun 6th, 2009 12:10 AM |
| my 2year hit me always what 2 do ↑ |
| Name: grace | Date: Jun 13th, 2009 7:39 AM |
| say pooooooooooooo it makes them calm down for me ↑ |
| Name: sarah | Date: Jun 18th, 2009 12:44 AM |
| i need help with my 4 year old son. when i tell him to old something he tells me no or to shut up. he does not listen and when i try to punish him he is very mouthy and he thinks everything is funny. does this have anything to do with his age group . i need some help ↑ |
| Name: twila | Date: Jun 25th, 2009 10:05 PM |
| my son is the say way what have you found that works????? ↑ |
| Name: phyllis | Date: Jun 29th, 2009 10:13 PM |
my two great grandchildren have moved in with me ,can not control them ,they will not listen or continues bad behavior ,they are both boys 3 and 4
does no good to do the time outs or spanking ,what can i do ↑ |
| Name: Tierra | Date: Jul 6th, 2009 11:42 AM |
| Your just a hater u have to many kids get over it women leave folks alone some times gosh i dont beleive it you are a hating lier ↑ |
| Name: jenny | Date: Jul 9th, 2009 6:43 AM |
| hello my daughter is 5 and was diagnosed in feb now the only reason i got her diagnosed so young is cos i took her to the doctors every week untill they would help me, you know your own child and when they not average as a mother you know. my daughter is hyperactive innatentive and impulisve she acts out when we visit people and i have had the same you dont telll em off enough, its not a case of telling them off they need a consequence say removing there toy from them for ten mins they have it back when they calm down or things they enjoy doing they cant, sounds mean but does work but if you do that you must reward them for being good , also children with adhd thrive on routine and good praise and i mean over the top good praise if he buttons one button its omg your such a clever good boy , trust me there are plenty of methods to try i have just come off a course about it and would love to share with anyone so feel free to ask away im no proffesional but i live with it just like you ↑ |
| Name: Chelsea | Date: Jul 27th, 2009 5:27 PM |
Hello, I am having the same problem with my 4 year old, I dont know what to do everyone says he's just being a boy..but something feels wrong..hes so mean, yet can be the sweetest little boy..but he will never listen and the more I spank him the more he acts up, Ive tried everything a I am persistant but, no one will keep at it with me. He always has to have his way and he wantsw to always be eating...its getting to the point where I cant handle him.
I think I may have to go to a certain kind of doctor...Im not sure what else to do ↑ |
| Name: reachstar | Date: Aug 31st, 2009 9:53 PM |
| There is help at an early age, somehow I stumbled on checking to see if my son was autistic, some of the signs are the same. I called the #number for autism and they referred me to a number where they actually have testing at the school. He went through about 5 different tests and we filled out extensive questionaire. He didn't quality for any program but it did show ADD/ADHD and they put him in a pre kindergarten setting to get him up to speed in his motor skills. There is hope but you have to find any source that will get you to the next step. I'ts so hard ↑ |
| Name: fishman | Date: Sep 18th, 2009 8:03 AM |
| You may want to look into a child behavior modification program that will help you get a handle on your child's defiant and [a href="http://www.thetotaltransformation.com"]out of control behavior[/a]. ↑ |
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