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i have a seven year old son who just can not sit still he wriggles and figets all the time. He is like this at school as well and can sometimes be disruptive in class but he is extremly popular at scool and highly intelligent, can read anything and spell anything , can answer mathimatical questions before they are written down. is this adhd, i have a sister with adhd but she is very aggressive and my son is not. Anyone who can help me ↓
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my son is eight about to turn nine. three out of four doctors that he has been to in the last three years have told me that he has sever adhd. My son has never gotten anything less than a B on anything. he is the highest scoring student in math in his school and i even had one doctor to tell me that he was just not being challenged and that it was the schools fault. my son can not sit still for anything, even when he is doing something he loves, like playing his playstation he still can't sit still. he can't do it. he has even said "i wish i could just sit still" I don't know if this helps or not but I have been trying for three years to help my son and so far nothing has worked. he still gets A's and B's on everything and his teacher says that he is a bright student and a plesure to have in class but he needs to learn to sit still. if you would like to hear more about what i know i would be more than glad to tell you, i know where you are at, i have been there. Hope it helps.
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| Name: Layne | Date: Apr 27th, 2006 9:54 PM |
i am in the same boat with my 9 year old daughter. she gets A's and B's But the teacher complains of her being inattentive. She suggest i take her to be evaluated. That will lead to medication. I know this because I have 2 adhd boys and have been dealing with adhd for 15 years. I refuse to medicate a child that not only is passing but doing well. Teachers need to controll there class room. (If you cant stand the heat get out of the kitchen.)
I volenteer 2 days a week in the classroom and have no trouble with my daughter staying on task. I cant wait till summer break. I'm fed up. ↑ |
| Name: said | Date: Jun 29th, 2006 1:04 PM |
| Name: Layne | Date: Jun 29th, 2006 1:26 PM |
| I have had luck with omega vitamins with my daughter. and because it is summer break now is a good time to start as it takes a good month to get in system. also i put her on a multi vitamin.i even bought the cheap brand at the dollar store. they say they aernt as good so better vitamins should even have more sucess.good luck ↑ |
| Name: AJ | Date: Jul 2nd, 2006 12:09 PM |
| Hi Hayley, your son sounds alot like mine. He'has formally been Dx with combination ADHD (meaning he has both attention deficit and hyper activity) he's a good boy not oppositional He has found his niche at school as the class clown. He also is a math prodigy and scores off the chart in math and recall. He also can't sit still, is always moving, if he is quiet and sits still he's sick. He'll blurt things out and can't wait for his turn and you can forget sitting at his desk quietly can't keep a thought in his head for more than a minute, including directions like clean your room etc... I had him tested by 2 differnt Dr's and formally Dx so I could get his school to cooperate and give my son the rights of a "person with a disability" his school will now have to adjust the way they teach him and assign him to a teacher who is able and aware of teaching a child with ADHD. ↑ |
| Name: Mel | Date: Jul 23rd, 2006 9:19 AM |
Hello....I have 3 children, ages 13, 9, and 8. All three of them are ADHD and all three of them Take Adderrall XR 30mg in the morning, then take an Adderall 10 mg (regular) in the afternoon.
I would not be here today if it were not for this medication! I went through a very nasty divorce and was struggling with that, learning how to be a single mom, and asking God WHY did I have to be a single mom of three kids with ADHD! Dont get me wrong, I would do ANYTHING for my babies!! But having three that were a lot younger at the time, and that were absolutely uncontrollable was enough to break anyone! My oldest son was diagnosed first. He had always been an honor roll student,and believe it or not, he kept his grades up even before the medication. He just was constantly in trouble and couldnt sit still. He has never really studied, all of his schoolwork just came to him. I know...it sounds crazy, but it's true! But after he was diagnosed, and we FINALLY found the right drug, it ws like a new child had been born. He was happy, calm, and began to excell even more at school! We had tried A few different drugs, but each had their own side effects. But when he started the Adderall, I KNEW that was the one. Now it took almost a year to get the exact dosage adjusted right, but he has now been on this dosage for going on two years now. He has started puberty, and I havent really seen anything odd or out of the norm for him because of the meds. Me second and third children were diagnosed within a year of my oldest son being diagnosed. And again, with them too....the whole world changed! MY WORLD CHANGED!! I noticed that in myself I was not NEARLY as stressed and depressed, and snappy or irritable. All of frustration I blamed on just life, I truly believe now was having to survive three undiagnosed ADHD children as a brand new single mom. Once they were all diagnosed, and all the dosages set right....WE ALL WERE HAPPY AND BEGAN A NEW HAPPY AND PEACEFUL CHAPTER IN OUR BOOK OF LIFE!
For us...ADDERALL is the miracle drug, and NO WAY will i EVER be ashamed or feel bad for "drugging" my children!! ADHD is a disease that requires medication, just like if I had high blood pressure or diabetes and I needed meds. There is no difference in my opinion. My children stuggled with their own lives everyday, and had to put up with me almost to the point of a nervous break down. All of that VANISHED with getting them diagnosed and treated!
I will tell ANYONE tht questions themselves about putting their kids on medication, that if anything should be called "bad parenting" then it would be "YOU NOT GETTING YOUR CHILD THE HELP HE NEEDS!" I dont see why ANYONE would WANT to watch their child struggle EVERYDAY just to make it through the school day, and then allow that stress to come home from school with them and bring total chaos into the home.
Sorry for preaching here..lol...but this is one subject that I will preach all day about because it has made such a huge difference in our family!
I am now engaged to be married to a wonderful man who loves my kids and we now all go on camping trips and family trips weekly! That was something I couldnt even consider back then before the meds. Shoot, I couldnt even take my kids in the grocery store to get a gallon milk! It would be a HUGE episode if I did!!
Thanks for letting me ramble on here...and I hope my story might help some family out there....
Mel = ↑ |
| Name: Mel | Date: Jul 23rd, 2006 9:36 AM |
Layne,
When you stated you refuse to medicate a child that is passing or doing well, and then blame the teachers for your daughters medical condition, that really worries me. Teachers are there to teach our children, not babysit them. It is not their responsibility to "MAKE" your child sit still. It is YOUR responsibilty, as her mother, to find out WHY she cant sit still. That's just like saying if you had a case of on going diahrrea...that never goes away....then just keep drinking the pepto!
You have to treat the condition, not slap a band aid on it.
No offense intended here, just stating my opinion.
I'm sure your daughter struggles everyday with this...why would want to sit back and watch her suffer?? And why is your deciding factor the fact that she is passing and doing well? She could be a genius, but still suffering. My son has Always been a straight A honor roll student, and has photographic memory. He has never had to study for a test all his life. But he struggled DAILY just to make it through the day. He could fly through a test and get a 100....but then the 30 minutes it took for the rest of the class to finish was pure Hell for him...and 9 times out of 10 he ended up in the office because of it. He couldnt just sit there and be quiet!
Being smart or very intelligent has nothing to do with with the condition in their brain that keeps them from sitting still or paying attention.
Again, no offense intended, just feel very strongly about this, and felt I had to at least put in my two cents... ↑ |
| Name: CrazyLady | Date: Aug 3rd, 2006 4:07 PM |
| My 8 year old boy does that same. Boys just like to be active .....move and be stimulated. You can expect them to sit extended periods of time listening to the teacher drone on. That is just normal boy behavior. Boys also like competitions. Wiggling around in the seat is a problem my son had at school. What we did is work out a "competition" between him and his teacher. He gets a check each day he sits nice in class. At the end of the week if he gets all 5 checks he gets to pick a prize. He makes an effort now to sit still. It seems to be working. Each week he gets a fresh start. It works for him but each kid is different. ↑ |
| Name: jacobsyummymummy | Date: Aug 12th, 2006 8:49 PM |
| Hi, my son is exactly the same at 6 1/2 yrs . He is being tested for adhd and autistic spectrum disorder, although the latest hospital test/observation last week they said he seems sociable and responsive so they doubt it is autism on any scale, but they were concerned he doesn't seem to like eye contact so they are going to do some more observations. In terms of adhd, we have done 3 repeated connors rating scales. this is where the school answers some questions (tick boxes) and parents answer a separate question sheet... They idea if the answers correspond (the behaviour have to be the same in both settings) for it to trigger a referral or diagnosis... my son's disruptive in school and not really at hom but he is an only child, he is very excitable around other kids and very sociable. It is the shool that has been pushing us down these routes however, always complaining about him. He was even sent to a special class for children with behavioural problems for two terms, and this class said he should never have been sent there... SO we have now changed schools and he starts a different school in september. He still fidgets (unless it is something he is really engrossed in). Everybody knows his name and knows who he is. Reading/matchs excellent (handwriting not so good but he's left handed too). I am convinced he is exactly the same as I was when I was younger and that he just needs to 'mature' a little bit. If you want to go down the 'test' routes, either speak to a teacher about getting an assessment with the educational psychologist, or refer to your GP.. They can do it through the medical route or educational route. If you are in the UK (like me), ask to do a connors rating scale... Hope that helps... ↑ |
| Name: jamberrt | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 1:00 AM |
| My daughter is 12 and is on concerta and risperdol...I noticed huge changes when we started the meds. Her intelligence really showed and her emotions came out...I've started some vitamins that are a high quality and I notice a difference. Also trying some "adult" dosage by weight stuff and I don't think I'll know how well they work until school starts. The same company makes everything to clean the house so I changed all that and my 2 year old has way less outbursts (I don't like calling them temper tantrums)... ↑ |
| Name: help | Date: Jul 16th, 2007 12:28 AM |
| What were your children with ADHD like as babies/toddlers/young children? I know ALL toddlers are active, but I do worry about my son who seems out of control most of the time. ↑ |
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| Name: flavie | Date: Jan 25th, 2008 3:11 AM |
| Name: ADDer | Date: Feb 7th, 2008 8:14 AM |
Gah, NO MEDS!!! Your kid is smart, that's great. Most intelligent people with ADD never get diagnosed... i never did. I phased out at school my entire life, got headaches in highschool from being so bored.... but i could always maintain A's and B's with no trouble. I'd phase out, not really listen to what was being said, AT ALL.. but my unconcious could still process the information and sometimes you just "feel" that an answer should be the right one on the test... other times its deductive thinking and problem solving skills that lets you come up with an answer....
Either way, I've always done better, and been thought of as smarter, than any of my peers... except for the ones that would go and study all day at night.. compared to my barely ever studying at all and writing papers the night before
With ADD we are not a good fit for current societal standards... there is nothing WRONG with us.. we are just outnumbered by other people and so the system isn't setup for us... then again, our school system is in such bad shape that it's sad
and with the ratio of succesful entrepreneurs, ADD people wont be the lower percentage of the population forever....
Adderall and meds do help... you want to know how? It makes us slower, stupider, and interested in mundane details that we would not otherwise hold our interest for 5 minutes, if that long... I'm glad it was not around when I was a kidand that I was never diagnosed.. ... or i would be a COMPLETELY different person today
my advice.... screw what the teachers think, your kid can beat the broken system and come out better for it than those who have to follow it... trust me, i have lived it... i didnt slow down or struggle until the very end of college, and you know what... thats when i started taking the meds ↑ |
| Name: Samantha | Date: Feb 29th, 2008 3:50 PM |
| My son is 8 years old he has all A's,but the teacher can not get him to sit still,he wants to help everyone else with there problems,or trade things in class,he is the same way at home. and sometimes he can be aggressive with other kids.he has been in trouble alot at school for hitting or fighting,but when you ask him if he did it he will not ly he will tell the truth no matter what,this is a really good thing.he is a really sweet boy when he wants to be!! could this be adhd, or is he just being a boy?? ↑ |
| Name: Samantha | Date: Feb 29th, 2008 3:59 PM |
| I have a 12 year old son that has taking many meds for adhd, and nothing seem's to work,he is now in the 5 grade he could care less if he turn in his work,or if he reads that book. he ly's about everything to me, his teacher's i am not sure what to do at this point. he is a really smart loving child just choice not to use his brain!!! ↑ |
| Name: Paca | Date: Feb 29th, 2008 4:20 PM |
| I have to agree with ADDer. My son, age 11, can not sit still. Either his legs are going or his bounces. He says if he tries to stop those things, he clenches his fists and eventually that begins to hurt. He has scored in the top 3% of the nation on math and science. The only challenge I face is that he does zone out in class because he is not challenged. ADDer, do you have any suggestions that seemed to work for you? ↑ |
| Name: Heather | Date: Mar 14th, 2008 10:07 PM |
| ADDer, I couldn't agree with you more. When my 7 year old son started showing problems in school sitting still, paying attention, etc. we took him to his doctor for an evaluation. I researched all I could about ADHD, drugs, behavior therapy, etc. When I started reading about some of the adult signs of ADD, who did I see? Myself! I am a successful, happy, creative adult, but the more I read, the closer my jaw came to the floor. It explains a lot when I look back at my youth, but I now believe it is a gift. This is why I am so good at multitasking, why I have such artistic ability, why I can think outside the box, why people in my industry call me genius. This is why I have always felt different, my brain is wired differently than most and I wouldn't give it up for anything. My son is a beautiful, talented, thoughtful little boy who has been given many gifts. For many children the challanges are reading, math, logical thinking and deduction, etc. These are a breeze for my son, his challenges are controlling his impulses, and acting appropriately in certain social situations. It is not the school's responsibility to teach such things, after all, it is an academic institution, so they needent be concerned with it, as long as his ACADEMIC performance is up to par. My son will grow up knowing that he is lucky, and he has an opportunity to do something special with his abilities. Of course we, his parents and strongest advocates, will do all we can to help him learn how to channel that extra energy so that he too will find his niche, using the gifts he has been given. Why would we ever want to take that away from him? ↑ |
| Name: darsh | Date: Mar 20th, 2008 3:14 PM |
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| Name: nikita | Date: Aug 20th, 2008 11:12 AM |
| Hi my son is 4yrs old..ever since he was younger he was always building things, questioning everything, learning new words, he is very smart and has a great vocabulary for his age he talks with really big words..i dont know where he gets them..i dont teach them to him but hes always learning making up stories etc...but i have always know he cant stay still even when hes watching tv or anything once he gets bored thats it..or if it doesnt catch his attention he wont pay attention..he started pre-k and i knew this was going to be a problem..sure enough his teacher tells me he is so smart but cant stay still in reading time and when they sit at the tables in p.e he couldnt stay still..i dont know what to do?..i do discipline him (take away toys,tv time etc) and i also reward him for good behavior..i feel like im not doing enough..this is depressing me because i cant help him..someone if you have the same problem please help..as i am writting ideas down..im going to have a teacher conference and maybe the counselor as well i just need resources so i can help him achieve!!! THANKS TO ANYONE WHO TAKES THE TIME TO READ THIS POST ↑ |
| Name: Haz | Date: Sep 29th, 2009 4:45 PM |
| Hmmm, my son was diagnosed with adhd based on questionare! d Computer test declare him otherwise. nevertheless, he was put on RITALIN on d first visit to DR. my son was 7 when d school complained abt his disruption in class. Intelligent and finishes work fast, walks about to chat and play. He was not allowed to draw or read a book while waiting for others to finish. Wriggles and fidgets, fall off d chair while eating. We brought him in for a check as d complaints grew frequent. Till today, i believe we are pressurize by the school system, and what some teachers have lacked in patience. Now he's much better as we spoke to d form teacher on how to manage him in class, such as run errands, help out in cleaning up, allow him to do silent reading or draw,.somewaht drain d excess energy. but at hm, is a HUGE CHore! As i refrain from giving him his meds, which is twice a day.. Getting him to shower, dress(even to put on underpants which have been prelaid ), eat, homework/revision, is a nitemare! Tried d reward system, get up n go chart (by SUPERNANNY), it works for awhile, but draining as you still have to remind him abt it! d upside, my four yr old gerl, who doesnot have adhd, benefit from this system. In d country i'm in, the Professionals told me to just accept it, understand it, manage it myself, put on meds. It dampens my spirit n hopes for him to comes out of it. He's tantrums and reactions/actions to surrounding is sometimes puzzling. After reading what other parents goes thru, i wonder if anyone can help us parents to cope with d stress of raising our special kids. Highly intelligent, Highly active. wish i hav his energy to keep up. I m so occupied exhausted with him dat I now have to make for the lost time with my gerl.. OH please suggest/share even the littlest idea that anyone tried dat works even for short term. Thank you. ↑ |
| Name: kate | Date: Oct 1st, 2009 11:58 PM |
| hi im kate... i have a son called charlie who from 18 months used to head bang in frustrsrasin and from 3 was very aggresive and saould not wait in line or for his turn! I found this unessersy behaviour so u went to my gp and they said he had a lernt behaviour!! NOOOO since then the last 5 years he has totally rulled my life i have 3 other boys who he daily beats and lashes out on (and me) its only today that a consultant peadeatritian has diognoised adha and perscribed ritilen! i and my 3 other children get regualy beaten and abused by charlie.... its taken me 7 years for a gp to actualy take on board what i live with but from monday he is on 35mg of ritelin a day to calm his angry outburts down... Do u think this may help???? ↑ |
| Name: kate | Date: Oct 2nd, 2009 12:05 AM |
| hez my email is [email protected] and i think we would benifit from chat as this andatting as im new to all this and pretty much in termoil/ denial about my son but living with him is sssooooo bad i cant cope and would like to hear of someone in the same boat!! regards K x ↑ |
| Name: kateel123 | Date: Oct 2nd, 2009 12:18 AM |
| my boy will start on the eqivlent of ritilin wich is methylphenidate on monday! how will he be?? ↑ |
| Name: kate | Date: Oct 2nd, 2009 12:20 AM |
| my boy will start on the eqivlent of ritilin wich is methylphenidate on monday! how will he be?? ↑ |
| Name: Katel123 | Date: Oct 2nd, 2009 12:27 AM |
| ok...rigng toht... i have to say after reading all of your comments/opionions that i have lived with this boy..... charlie.... from birth obviously!! From 9 months he head banged in frustation until he was 3 then when he went to pre school he was so aggressive he could not wait in turn or tolerate other childrens emotions he would lash out and say inapproite things such as your breath stinks and you r fat!!! This was so embarrasi ↑ |
| Name: kateel123 | Date: Oct 2nd, 2009 12:36 AM |
| so whos son uses ritielin??? ↑ |
| Name: kateel123 | Date: Oct 2nd, 2009 12:38 AM |
| who can give a opionin on methylphenidate 10mg? ↑ |
| Name: itsagift | Date: Oct 4th, 2009 7:38 PM |
| i have a great understanding of Methylphenidate hydrocholide, what specificaly do you want to know!! ↑ |
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