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My last period was on Nov. 12th 2005 and my doctor is telling me that my due date is 08/19/2006. My mother and father are telling me that I have to place this baby for adoption and they are contacting several agencies and I do not want them to be part of my agreement. I want to find someone that will take care of my child until I am able to get a ged and job and take care of this baby. If you are willing to take care of this child for 5 years until I turn 17 and let me involved in the childs life please post your email addy here. I do not want to sign my right away ↓
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| Name: Kim | Date: Jan 25th, 2006 8:41 PM |
Cirra,
If you are for sure on this, I am a volunteer with an organization that will help YOU! Whatever your wishes are. You can email me and I will email you the information. What you are asking is difficult and may be hard to find but can be done. First you are a minor and that can be difficult but like I said, we can help. I am not with an adoption agency nor do I work with gov't agencies. My email address is kwfelske@charter.net if you would like any more information. All information and emails are kept strictly confidential.
Kim ↑ |
| Name: Just a question for clearity.. | Date: Jan 25th, 2006 9:19 PM |
Cirra,
I was wondering if you are looking for an adotive couple with a full open adoption. I understand that you are scared but there are alot of couple on this board that can help you. Are you wanting to work with an agency, or are you looking for a private (with an attorney) adoption. ↑ |
| Name: Its not going to happen....... | Date: Jan 25th, 2006 9:45 PM |
HI Cirra-
Couples are on this board because they want to adopt a child; I find it highly unlikely that anyone on here is going to be willing to get attached to your baby, love it, feed it, house it, pay all the bills for 5 years until you are 17, at which point you would want to take it back ? It is NOT going to happen...............
Your parents have both yours and your baby's best interests in mind in hoping to find adoptive parents for him or her.
Best of luck to all of you........................ ↑ |
| Name: carolee | Date: Jan 25th, 2006 10:12 PM |
I agree you can't "loan" your baby to someone and then take it away from the very people the child find his security in. That would not be fair to the child. Think about it! Now an open adoption is a different story. You could still be in your child's life, but would not rip it, a 5, from the home it is being raised in! You have to think about the child, not yourself, and at 12 you are not used to that!!! Anyway, I wish you the best and your child too. We want to adopt, but not unless the biological mother feels that it is the best thing for her child. If you do come to the decision of open adoption, our email is cjandm@ socal.rr.com
Please take care of yourself, Cirra! ↑ |
| Name: Hey | Date: Jan 25th, 2006 10:48 PM |
| Email me: granny_wiggins@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: Kim | Date: Jan 25th, 2006 11:01 PM |
| who's email address is this? granny_wiggins@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: My name is Ellen | Date: Jan 25th, 2006 11:02 PM |
| Name: Kim | Date: Jan 25th, 2006 11:10 PM |
| Just wondering if it was Cirra's or not. It wasn't directed at anyone in particular so I just thought I would ask. ↑ |
| Name: Cirra | Date: Jan 25th, 2006 11:26 PM |
I am pretty sure that I will find someone that will want to help me with this child. I am sure that foster care will do it. I am going to contact them tomorrow. My counselor at school told me that I need to be happy with my choice and if that is my choice then she will try and help me. She told me that DSS should be able to help me with that because people foster babies all the time. I just want to make sure that the baby does not get thrown around from one home to another. I think that if I can get my parents to drop the charges against this baby's dad then he will probably do that. But at this moment I think that it is impossible. So after I talk with DSS I might have the solution that I am looking for.
I am not looking to sign my rights away to this child. I am the one that is going to have to have a major srugery to have this baby and i am not going to go threw all this pain to give someone else my child that will not let me see them or call me mommy. I just wanted someone to take care of the baby until I can get my GED and get a job at McDonalds or somewhere to take care of this baby. ↑ |
| Name: Nicole | Date: Jan 26th, 2006 3:14 AM |
Please write me Cirra,
mayby I can help you .I know a lot about forster care.
(ParJaRuss@aol.com) ↑ |
| Name: Melissa | Date: Jan 26th, 2006 11:00 AM |
Cirra,
Are you wanting to move into a familys home or what? I would be more than glad to take both you and the baby into my home until you can get back on your feet...You are right, you should always be allowed to see your baby...Where do you live? Email me at mbailer@scottsboro.org or pris2504@yahoo.com...I would love to talk with you somemore.... ↑ |
| Name: Betsy | Date: Jan 29th, 2006 6:53 PM |
| wow...thats really touching. I wish I would have thought about doing that but instead I actually gave my rights away. I can totally see where your coming from. If you would like to you can email me or im me at tereleealan@yahoo.com and tereleealan(yahoo im). im totally here for you. then we can talk. ↑ |
| Name: Babyieangel | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 6:23 PM |
| My name is Jessica Sinkewicz , I'm newly married and I cannot concieve. I'm looking to adopt a newborn baby but not really wanting to go through an agency. I am more than willing to travel any distance to adopt or to sign any necessary forms. I am even willing to pay someone that is considering giving their baby up for adoption. We are a very loving couple and been together for 4 years now. I have always wanted a big family and we are ready to start that family. My husbands name is Patrick Sinkewicz . He is starting college in the fall to be a financial advisor . He also has a decent paying career at the moment but wanting to beable to give our children a very good loving life and a great home. I don't work and don't plan to , I want to be a stay at home mom for I can spend all the time I have with my child. Please get back to me . I live in Illinois and my phone number is 1-309-716-2479. You can call any time of the day or even in the middle of the night , I would gladly take your call. My email address is Babyieangel@aim.com. If you would like to contact me through IM my aim screen name is Babyieangel. Thank you for reading this and hope to hear from you very soon. ↑ |
| Name: Dreamsofchild | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 11:24 PM |
Cirra so exactly whom wrote this for you dear? A very Mature post from one so young. Also why would anyone do this? maybe a family member is your best bet or foster care since that is exactly what your wanting. Talk to a school or pregnancy crisis center for some counseling and assistance in your choices as well as your rights. Best wishes
Dreams ↑ |
| Name: sweething772 | Date: Jun 23rd, 2006 9:10 AM |
| I would gladly help you out. I have actually done this same thing before I would take your baby in my home like and aunt to the child untill you are able to care for him or her the right way I am 29 I have three children 11, 9 and 7 I would love having a baby around please email me back sweething772@hotmail.com ↑ |
| Name: ilovesummer189 | Date: Jul 2nd, 2006 1:56 PM |
| i know somebody that would take ur child and then let you see this child and also she would let the child be in ur life but she will pay for the expenses ans take care of it ↑ |
| Name: aava | Date: Jul 2nd, 2006 3:46 PM |
I just wanted to see if anyone knows how it's going for Cirra? Has anyone heard from her?
I'm glad she made this post but I have to say the replies from the few that were suspisious and the one that stated NO BODY on this board is going to want to help is the exact reason that I've got 15 birth mom email sitting in my inbox of girls that wouldnt and shouldnt subject themselves to the attacts of the woman on this board. I dont blame them one single bit for not and it's a shame because there are some very wonderful couples on this board that would most likely benifit if they would weed out all the sherlocks and lend support and not scare the crap out of all these young ladies!!
JEESH
Flame Away
dezzy@bellsouth.net ↑ |
| Name: Faith | Date: Jul 3rd, 2006 6:22 PM |
Cirra,
I think your parents are tring to give you a new start and I think they are right in telling you that you should give this baby up for adoption. I know it can be hard but you need to think of that baby, and what's best for him or her. i am adopted and It was really hard for my mom to give me up, really hard. Trust me. But she gave me a chance for someone else who couldn't have children. I love all of them. I still have contact with my birth mom and it's great. But one thing i think you should take into concideration is that it is hard for someone to take care of someone elses child and then be asked to give it back.
It must be very hard for you at your age, but at the same time, it is about this child and not you. I'm sorry to say that and sound mean, it's not intended to but. Listen to your parents, trust them.
Good luck ↑ |
| Name: Me | Date: Jul 4th, 2006 12:54 PM |
I worry about this baby spending his/her 1st 5 years with out a permanent home. That in itself is sad. As for your parents getting involved with helping you, one day you will count your blessing on this. 11 is way to young to make any sort of a choice. The only clear cut choices you can make or should be making is what to wear today, what foods to pick out at the school lunch counter and which girlfriend do you want to hang with. Beyond that, you have no clue as to what can or will happen. You will be unable, maturity wise and legally to make a choice as to where your baby should spend the rest of his/her life.
What is most important is that you do an open adoption, or make sure that the parents have all your identifing information, and they sign a post adoption agreement so that you and your baby can and will see eachother as you both grow up and one day your little one and you can reunite and build a relationship.
Good luck to you and I keep you and your baby in my prayers.
You need to put your baby first, and I k now that is hard to do as an 11 yr old. I know all the preteens and teens in my life "it is all about them", and that is the way it should be. Don't miss out on these most important years in your life.
I know this is a tough spot to be in, we all go through them in our lives, but ↑ |
| Name: Me | Date: Jul 4th, 2006 12:57 PM |
| Correction, stated wrong age. But 11- 12, it is all the same. ↑ |
| Name: lecko | Date: Jul 4th, 2006 7:40 PM |
| i feel for you hun i have just turned 22 and my partner is 23 and we have just found out that i can never have children it breaks my heart knowing that i can not give the man i love a child i know i am still young but i love children and have first hand experience of looking after them as i have looked after my four year old cousin/godson since he was minutes old as his mother has had a series of oporations. i would love you to be involved in the babys life after all you carried the baby for 9 months and the mother i the most important person in a childs life xxxx ↑ |
| Name: dktumlinson | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 2:08 PM |
| Cirra: I understand what you are writing, but you are not being realistic sweetheart. How can you ask people to take your baby care for it, until you are able to get on your feet, and then give you the baby back, after they have given that baby their hearts, love, caring, attention, and their whole lives. Be fair Cirra, that would be heartless, and cruel. You have to see that you have to either have an open adoption, where you can see the child, and keep tabs on it, but leave it with its new parents, or just give up up and never see it again, or keep it. Because taking it away, after people have made your child part of their lives, would be criminal, and unfair. ↑ |
| Name: babygirl2006 | Date: Jul 8th, 2006 12:00 AM |
oh sweetie my hart gose out to you i will help you any way I can
my addy i angela1979is @yahoo.com i will do every thing i can to help you .you sound like you have a goodhead on your sholders girl dont give up here is my #256-931-4732 call and let it ring 2 times and if im here i will call you back.
my name is angie tidmore ↑ |
| Name: cj1234 | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 11:11 AM |
hi im 17 an would like ot help you i think that sounds better thatn getiing rid of your baby completly maybe jus find someone who wants joint responsibility to take the pressure off??
crystaljoymoore@hotmail.co.uk ↑ |
| Name: helpme | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 10:29 PM |
| hey are you keeping your baby? and do you need any thing ↑ |
| Name: helpme | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 10:35 PM |
| hey are you tere if so get back to me ↑ |
| Name: gastoniapirtle | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 11:27 PM |
Hi! I would love to get to know you and to help you in anyway I can. I have three lovely children and know what it is like to be prenant. I have three girls but would love to add a boy to the mix.
please email me at gastoniapirtle@aol.com ↑ |
| Name: babygirl2006 | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 3:17 AM |
| yes sweetie i will do that i know not meny people would but i have been in your place before i had a baby at 15 and quit school and i would love to help you if you would let me keep being apart of the childs life after you are ready my # is 256-931-4732 or email me angela1979is@yahoo.com plz we can talk ↑ |
| Name: terrytanya | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 6:56 PM |
| Hey Cirra. I am thirty two and would love to help you. I dont have children but you and your baby are more then welcome to come and live me and my husband. We would enjoy having you both. All we ask is if we can still be in the baby's life when you decide to move out. I would be more then willing to work something out with you. I hate to see you put your baby in foster care because it is so had to get the child away from the state once they take a child. Please find someone who will help you. If need someone to listen just call me anytime. My phone number is(260)-868-5850. I live in indiana but i will help if i can. Tanya ↑ |
| Name: readytoadopt | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 8:00 PM |
| I would love to talk to you..sunanddreams@mail.com ↑ |
| Name: Cadance | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 9:15 PM |
I really hope you find someone that will be willing to help you in any way that they can. But like a lot of the ladies have said most people on this board are looking to adopt. Here is my E~mail if you need to talk though icadance@mac.com. Good Luck hun!!!
Loves, Cadance ↑ |
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