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my name is jessicka and im 13 and im pregnant. i really dont know what to do because i told my boyfriend and he wants this baby more than anything but he thinks im too young to have one. he really wants me to give it up but i dont know. i would just love to have this kid but like my boyfriend said im too young. i havent told my mom yet and im scared to because of what she might say and do about it. help please. ↓
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| Name: ticosluv | Date: Sep 6th, 2007 12:19 PM |
Hi Jessica
I sorry that you are in this postion, but before you do anything, talk with your mother, sure she may be upset at first, but mothers love their children and I am sure she will be there for you. If you wnt to talk you can email me atjescasmom@yahoo.com We are looking to adopt a second child, but I think you might just need a friend to listen and I am here. ↑ |
| Name: cherisalorraine | Date: Sep 6th, 2007 6:27 PM |
| remember that not all of the people you will talk to on these sites are wanting to help some of them are so blinded by their need for a baby that they ignore the pain that they might cause you i dont mean every body but some please do talk to your mom she will have to be involved no matter what you decide and the earlier you get proper medical care the better off you will be because your age makes pregnancy alot harder on your body than it would be in even three years please speak with an out side person at a support group or something similar before making any decision because an influence who is not involved on an emotional level can be a big help and it might be easier to talk to your mom with a mediator present so that you feel like you have support ↑ |
| Name: Private-eye | Date: Sep 6th, 2007 8:55 PM |
| Nobody and I mean NOBODY who is intending to adopt should be anywhere near a pregnant 13 year old! Disgraceful! Don't you have any morals Ticosluv? ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Sep 7th, 2007 9:58 AM |
Hi,
I agree with everyone else I would talk to my parents as possible. Your parents might be upset to begin with but, more than anyone else in the whole world they have your best interest at heart. Maybe your parents can help you figure out what would be the best thing for you to do. You really need to get prenatal care. If you just can't tell your mom yet at least go to a free clinic and get some prenatal pills. If you you would like to talk you can email me at michelle.miller @pobox.com I wish you all the love and luck in the world.
Love,
Michelle ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Sep 7th, 2007 1:39 PM |
Hi,
When I responded to your post earlier my son wouldn't let me finish what I was trying to say. My husband and I were wanting to adopt that is why I am on here but, recently we thought we had found our match just to find out the girl was a fake. Needless to say we were heart broken. So right now my husband and I are not sure that we are even going to adopt anymore. So if you are looking for a friend and some unbiased opinions your are more than welcome to email me at michelle.miller@pobox.com I would be more than happy to be here for you. I have a 13 year old myself and I am sure you are going through a really hard time. Well I wish you, your boyfriend and your baby all the best.
Love,
Michelle ↑ |
| Name: Mom2BEE | Date: Sep 7th, 2007 9:47 PM |
Well Jessica you need to tell your MOm right now. You need to be getting health care and eating properly. Also adoption is not the In thing with girls your age. If you do plan an adoption know that as much as we that wish to adopt want a child many especially those that are young do not look at adoption as giving your child a future, They have not gotten the facts and the information so that they too knew all the information before making the difficult and life altering choice to parent. Its hard at any age especially if your still a teen and have so much to look forward to.
Best wishes
Mom2BEE ↑ |
| Name: Private-eye | Date: Sep 8th, 2007 12:25 PM |
dmt/Michelle at least your son let you sign off with your signature in your first post.
And I say again, no-one on here has any business "just being a friend" to anyone they think is a pregnant 13 year old. Have you lost all of your morals? ↑ |
| Name: ticosluv | Date: Sep 8th, 2007 6:45 PM |
| Private-eye if you read my post I suggest to Jessica to talk to her parents. I offer a ear to a child that is all, I feel that I would have been a lie not to say we are intrested in adopting, not that I want her child, I think if she is only 13 as she stated, she may need to talk, If my child was in any kind of trouble I would hope he could come to me, but if he were scared, I would hope someone would listen and guide him to come to his parents. sorry if I offened any one, and Jessica, I hope you have spoken with your parents, because as I said before Parents love their children ↑ |
| Name: Private-eye | Date: Sep 8th, 2007 10:56 PM |
| Ticosluv, she is not your child and you have no place trying to be anywhere near a pregnant teens when you are seeking to adopt. You say, you don't want her child, and yet on what basis? You'd take any other baby that was offered I'm sure. ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Sep 9th, 2007 9:57 AM |
Hi sweety,
Have you told your parents yet? How did they take it? Are your parents being supportive. I hope that your parents can help you figure out what is best for you. Good luck.
Love,
Michelle ↑ |
| Name: GraceRose | Date: Sep 12th, 2007 12:27 PM |
My name is Faith Rose, and I read your post. My husband and I are unable to conceive and are actively looking to adopt a precious angel. Your blog seemed like a miracle to us. I think you are EXTREMELY COURAGEOUS and LOVING to choose the option of adoption. So many others choose abortion!! I think you are amazing and your child will be EXTREMELY grateful that you gave him/her the gift of life. Where are you from?
My husband Mike and I have been married for 2 years and were high school sweethearts. We have a loving home with loving families on both sides. We each have several brothers and sisters, as well as parents who can't wait to spoil their grandchild. We have an adorable playful puppy named Belle. We also love to travel and spend time with our families. I will be a stay-at-home mom, which I cannot wait to do! Raising a child is my dream! We are from NJ and are willing to travel and pay any expenses necessary. If you are interested in learning more or pursing this further please email me back or you can call 973-580-0549.
In His Name,
Faith ↑ |
| Name: ticosluv | Date: Sep 12th, 2007 9:50 PM |
Hi Jessica
I hope everything is going well for you. Have you spoke with your parents? Please let us know that you are ok. Good luck and God bless. ↑ |
| Name: praying4babyboy | Date: Sep 13th, 2007 12:24 PM |
| Oh Jessica! My heart is breaking for you and your boyfriend and your parents! I will be praying for all of you to know what decisions are best for the BABY and YOU. If you are certain that you will not be putting yourself in an abusive situation, I think you should tell your parents so they could help you. My husband and I have 3 girls- Chelsea is your age, Carlie is 11, and Hattie is 6. We so much want to have a baby boy and unfortunately I cannot have any more children. Although we know we are blessed with three healthy and beautiful girls, we feel it would make our family complete to have a little boy. If you need somewhere to stay throughout the pregnancy and wish for us to adopt or if you just want to know more about us just let me know. -Brandy Marie ↑ |
| Name: lyndielou27 | Date: Sep 13th, 2007 8:18 PM |
| I have four boys and me and my husband. If you need a place to stay during your preganacy, please have your parents contact me. 4794749505. I want a baby so bad. We will do whatever we have to do to help you. I will gladly talk to your parents. Please have them call me. ↑ |
| Name: deanna123 | Date: Sep 13th, 2007 9:25 PM |
| lyndielou27 or Donna or whatever name you like. Wanting a baby is one thing but asking a 13 year old for a child is stupid and against the law. She can not at 13 enter into a contract. ↑ |
| Name: praying4babyboy | Date: Sep 13th, 2007 9:59 PM |
| Jessicka, How are you doing? Are you ok? ↑ |
| Name: Lynne Banks | Date: Sep 14th, 2007 1:17 AM |
You shouldn't be on this forum. You are only 13 and in no way are you mature or capable of making a choice on your own. You need the adults in your life.
No agency will work with you, or attorneys,,,,,,,,,,ethical ones anyways,,,,,with out your parent(s).
If you are scared, you need to find a teen pregancy site.
Good luck ↑ |
| Name: hopetoadopt | Date: Sep 16th, 2007 10:18 AM |
I don't know your situation or your relationship but I think you probably need to tell your mother (or some loving, caring adult in your life) before talking to anyone about adoption. If it is too scary to tell her without help, you need to tell anohter adult who you trust who can help you do this. Maybe the mother of a friend, or the school guidance counselor. If you can get there, planned parenthood offers counseling- they do not just do abortions but also offer counseling about all options. Here is a website that might help you start to think it through but I would recommend getting some additional support from a person: http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/2
005/if-20050812p375-pregnant.php.
I am trying to adopt a baby, so obviously I support adoption, but I think it is too early for you to talk to someone trying to adopt until you have someone who is going to help you tell your parents and make the choice that is best for you. Don't try to make this decision with your boyfriend alone- I think you need more information and some adult help with this. Best wishes. Kimberly ↑ |
| Name: tabspyv | Date: Sep 26th, 2007 9:34 PM |
| hi Jessicka i know how you are feeling I was 16yrs when I had my first child it was scarey but wonderful all in one please talk to you Mom she will understand and may even help you raise your child? Good luck ↑ |
| Name: tackie | Date: Oct 9th, 2007 5:21 PM |
HI PEYTON... I MAY HAVE AN ANSWER FOR YOU...FIRST LET ME TELL YOU A LITTLE ABOUT US....
I TO HAD MY FIRST CHILD WHEN I WAS 15 IT WAS A WHOLE LOT OF WORK...I GOT MARRIED HAD ANOTHER CHILD AT 18 AND ANOTHER AT 21... WE DIVORCED WHEN THE KIDS WERE 3 MONTHS 3 YEARS AND 6 YEARS... i AM NOW HAPPLY MARRIED FOR 19 YEARS COME APRIL... ALL MY CHILDREN ARE GROWN, MARRIED AND HAVE CHILDREN OF THEIR OWN... MY NOW HUSBAND ABOPTED MY YOUNGEST HE WANTED TO ADOPT ALL THEM BUT THEIR FATHER WOULD NOT LET HIM ADOPT THE BOYS... THE 3&6 YEARs OLD...HOWEVER THAT DIDN'T STOP HIM FROM LOVING THEM AND BEING THEIR FATHER... MY OLDEST SON IS NOW 26 HE HAS THREE GIRLS...TWO BY MARRIAGE HIS YOUNGEST IS ALMOST 2... HE WORKS FOR THE POWER COMPANY...HIS WIFE IS A STAY HOME MOM AND BABY SITS WITH THE FAMILY CHILDREN... MY MIDDLE CHILD, SON... IS 23 HE HAS A SON NOW 2... HE AND HID WIFE ARE KARATE INSTRUCTORS...HIS WIFE IS ALSO A FULL TIME STUDENT, SHE STARTS MED SCHOOL IN 1 YEAR... MY YOUNGEST, MY DAUGHTER IS 19 SHE HAS A SON NOT QUITE 1 YET... HER HUSBAND IS A PHYC MAJOR...THEY ARE ALL GOOD KIDS... I LOVE THEM AND MY IN-LAWS AND GRANDCHILDREN VERY MUCH...WE ARE ALL VERY CLOSE AND LOOK OUT FOR EACH OTHER...MY HUSBAND AND i HAD BEEN HELPING TO RAISE MY COUSIN'S DAUGHTER SINCE SHE WAS BORN...SHE IS NOE 2...SHE WAS BEEN BACK HOME WITH HER MOM FOR 2 MONTHS NOW... I HOPE THIS PLAN WILL WORK FOR YOU...
MY HUSBANS AND I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO FIND SOMEONE TO HELP...WE HAVE HELPED MY CHILDRENS FRIENDS THEIR WHOLE TEENAGE LIFE...WHEN THEY HAD PROBLEMS AT HOME THEY CAME TO US AND WE HELPED THEM WORK IT OUT WITH THEIR FAMILY... WE HAVE HELPED MY COUSIN UBTIL SHE COULD DO IT ON HER OWN. NOW HERE IS WHAT WE MIGHT BE ABLE TO WORK OUT ...WE ARE WILL TO HELP RAISE A CHILD THAT NEEDS US WE WANT THE BIRTH MOTHER AND FATHER TO BE A PART OF THE CHILD'S LIFE AS MUCH OF AS LITTLE AS THEY WANT TO BE...IF YOU WANT THE CHILD TO KNOW YOU AS THEIR PARNET THAT'S FINE WITH US WHAT EVER YA'LL ARE COMFORTABLE WITH... IF THIS SOUNDS LIKE SOMTHING YOU MAY BE INTERESTED IN PLEASE E-MAIL ME AND WE CAN TALK ABOUT THE DETAILS AND WORK THEM OUT...MY E-MAIL IS....................... tackc143@bellsouth.net... if you just want to hear about the plan that's fine too. no presure! = ↑ |
| Name: tackie | Date: Oct 9th, 2007 5:22 PM |
I MAY HAVE AN ANSWER FOR YOU...FIRST LET ME TELL YOU A LITTLE ABOUT US....
I TO HAD MY FIRST CHILD WHEN I WAS 15 IT WAS A WHOLE LOT OF WORK...I GOT MARRIED HAD ANOTHER CHILD AT 18 AND ANOTHER AT 21... WE DIVORCED WHEN THE KIDS WERE 3 MONTHS 3 YEARS AND 6 YEARS... i AM NOW HAPPLY MARRIED FOR 19 YEARS COME APRIL... ALL MY CHILDREN ARE GROWN, MARRIED AND HAVE CHILDREN OF THEIR OWN... MY NOW HUSBAND ABOPTED MY YOUNGEST HE WANTED TO ADOPT ALL THEM BUT THEIR FATHER WOULD NOT LET HIM ADOPT THE BOYS... THE 3&6 YEARs OLD...HOWEVER THAT DIDN'T STOP HIM FROM LOVING THEM AND BEING THEIR FATHER... MY OLDEST SON IS NOW 26 HE HAS THREE GIRLS...TWO BY MARRIAGE HIS YOUNGEST IS ALMOST 2... HE WORKS FOR THE POWER COMPANY...HIS WIFE IS A STAY HOME MOM AND BABY SITS WITH THE FAMILY CHILDREN... MY MIDDLE CHILD, SON... IS 23 HE HAS A SON NOW 2... HE AND HID WIFE ARE KARATE INSTRUCTORS...HIS WIFE IS ALSO A FULL TIME STUDENT, SHE STARTS MED SCHOOL IN 1 YEAR... MY YOUNGEST, MY DAUGHTER IS 19 SHE HAS A SON NOT QUITE 1 YET... HER HUSBAND IS A PHYC MAJOR...THEY ARE ALL GOOD KIDS... I LOVE THEM AND MY IN-LAWS AND GRANDCHILDREN VERY MUCH...WE ARE ALL VERY CLOSE AND LOOK OUT FOR EACH OTHER...MY HUSBAND AND i HAD BEEN HELPING TO RAISE MY COUSIN'S DAUGHTER SINCE SHE WAS BORN...SHE IS NOE 2...SHE WAS BEEN BACK HOME WITH HER MOM FOR 2 MONTHS NOW... I HOPE THIS PLAN WILL WORK FOR YOU...
MY HUSBANS AND I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO FIND SOMEONE TO HELP...WE HAVE HELPED MY CHILDRENS FRIENDS THEIR WHOLE TEENAGE LIFE...WHEN THEY HAD PROBLEMS AT HOME THEY CAME TO US AND WE HELPED THEM WORK IT OUT WITH THEIR FAMILY... WE HAVE HELPED MY COUSIN UBTIL SHE COULD DO IT ON HER OWN. NOW HERE IS WHAT WE MIGHT BE ABLE TO WORK OUT ...WE ARE WILL TO HELP RAISE A CHILD THAT NEEDS US WE WANT THE BIRTH MOTHER AND FATHER TO BE A PART OF THE CHILD'S LIFE AS MUCH OF AS LITTLE AS THEY WANT TO BE...IF YOU WANT THE CHILD TO KNOW YOU AS THEIR PARNET THAT'S FINE WITH US WHAT EVER YA'LL ARE COMFORTABLE WITH... IF THIS SOUNDS LIKE SOMTHING YOU MAY BE INTERESTED IN PLEASE E-MAIL ME AND WE CAN TALK ABOUT THE DETAILS AND WORK THEM OUT...MY E-MAIL IS....................... tackc143@bellsouth.net... if you just want to hear about the plan that's fine too. no presure! = ↑ |
| Name: mich | Date: Oct 10th, 2007 2:26 PM |
| Name: Laurar | Date: Oct 10th, 2007 4:53 PM |
| JESSICA[ WE CAN HELP YOU] WE ARE CERTIFIED ADOPTIVE ?FOSTER PARENTS[ WHICH MEANS WE CAN HELP YOU RAISE YOUR BABY IF YOUR INTERESTED YOU WOULD STILL HAAVE CONTROL AND BE IN YOUR BABIES LIFE LET ME KNOW IF THIS IS SOMETHING YOU MIGHT CONSIDER] Lauraronan@yahoo]com ↑ |
| Name: Lady Butterfly | Date: Oct 10th, 2007 5:53 PM |
Hello Jessica,
You can contact me via email at mela_butterfly75@yahoo.com
That way we can discuss what you would like to do and you can ask me as many questions as you want.
We would provide your baby a loving home...contact me ASAP.
God Bless... ↑ |
| Name: kimshreeve | Date: Nov 29th, 2007 11:54 PM |
My name is Kim Shreeve. My husband Steve and I are both 36 years old and we have adopted our 3 children. We adopted all of our beautiful children from birth and have had open adoptions. Our daughter Summer Noel is 6, our son Sailor Reagan is 3 and our son Soldier Brigham is 1 1/2. We have always dreamed of having four children who are close in age. After fertility treatments that all failed, we turned to open adoption to build our family. We have wonderful relationships with our children’s birth mothers and have a deep love and respect for them. Summer’s birthmother is from PA, Sailor’s is from AZ and Soldier's is from TX. We were at the births for all three. The miles have not kept us from developing relationships with these amazing and loving ladies.
We live in Southern CA, about 20 minutes from Disneyland and 10 minutes from Laguna Beach. We are all Caucasian and are a happy, outgoing and loving family. Steve attended medical school at UC Irvine and I was a dance teacher and high school cheer coach.
If you would like to get to know us or are interested in seeing our photos our website is http://s2s.org/adoption/2007/ and you can email us at kim@s2s.org. You are a strong and loving person to even be considering placing your baby for adoption. We wish you peace of mind and happiness.
Warm Regards,
The Shreeve Family ↑ |
| Name: cjsims | Date: Dec 5th, 2007 5:57 PM |
Hey Jessica,
I would like to tell you that I do agree with your boyfriend. You are awfully young for a baby. How old is he though? How many weeks or months prego are you? I am 22 years old, married, and I am blessed that I get to stay home with my baby boy full time. He is 15 months old. Having a baby is a FULL TIME JOB. You do not get to punch in and out of parenthood, like you can a job. You do not go at 8, and come home at 3 like you do with school, and you cannot play sick if you don't feel like being mommy for a day, like a lot of 13 year olds do to get out of school or soccer practice. It is a huge commitment, and I can tell you from experience, that I know what giving a baby up for adoption is like, cause I did it 4 years ago, when I was 18. I don't regret it one bit, cause even being graduated from high school, with a full time income, I wasn't married, and I was still in party mode, and knew that she would be raised by babysitters, because of both my job and not wanting such a commitment that would ruin my all nighter party life. I did not have the mindset or the commitment level required for mommyhood. I would look into adoption if I were you, and you and your boyfriend both need to tell both your parents and his. Maybe your situation is different than mine was, but I remember what 13 was like, and my advice to you is think about what being a child of a 13 year old would be like. What would that look like? What kind of life would you have? What kind of things would your mother know to teach you? I'm not trying to be critical, only give you some things to think about. This tiny baby's life is what matters.
cj ↑ |
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