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| Name: lorilea | Date: Aug 17th, 2006 9:45 PM |
| HI MY NAME IS LORI. I WOULD LOVE TO TALK TO YOU. IF YOU WOULD LIKE YOU CAN EMAIL ME AT 4LORILEA28@NETSCAPE.COM ↑ |
| Name: penny | Date: Aug 17th, 2006 9:54 PM |
| HI Brittany, It`s good that your Mom and Ryan are willing to help you in anyway. My husband and I are one of the many couples that can`t have children. We live in California and are hoping to adopt . We are homestudy approved and have a great nursery waiting . If you would like to email us we would love to hear from you. Our email address is marknpenny@gmail.com. Good luck and best wishes in what ever you decide to do. Penny ↑ |
| Name: EricaRFT | Date: Aug 17th, 2006 10:08 PM |
| Hi Brittany, My name is Erica and I am a counselor with a non profit agency that provides pregnancy/family counseling and adoption planning should you chose. I encourage you to locate an agency or counselor you are comfortable with so if you do decide on adoption, you will always have someone else to support you through the journey. If you have any questions that I can give you a non-bias opinion on or if you would like me to give you info on a counselor in your area feel free to email me at EricaRFT@gmail.com Blessings! Erica ↑ |
| Name: Flowergirl | Date: Aug 17th, 2006 10:19 PM |
| Dear Brittany, No one is judging you for an accident that could just as well have happened to any one of us! You sound like a very responsible girl, who is looking for the best option for you, your boyfriend and your baby. Adoption can be a wonderful option for all of you and for a loving family somewhere, if *you* feel it is the right thing to do! Research it very well, consider contacting your local pregnancy help center and ask them for some adoption information. Don't ever let *anyone* else tell you what is best for *your* baby! You are right, there are many, many loving couples out here who can't have children or have just chosen to add a child to their family through the miracle of adoption! I'm sure you will get a ton of response to this post... just remember that adoption is a very serious, life long decision, one that will impact your life and the life of your child, forever. Adoption can be a wonderful experience... I was adopted as a toddler and my adoptive parents were the best! In choosing adoption, most Mommies (and Daddies) are able to choose the 'perfect' family for their baby, whether it be first time parents, a big happy family, a family with pets, a family that likes to travel, a country family or big city folks. There is open adoption, where you are able to maintain a relationship with your child and his or her adoptive family, there is semi-open where you would be able to have some contact, such as pictures and possibly letters and then there is closed, where you and your child do not have any contact until he or she is older and only then if you both agree to meet and form a relationship. All these options are *your* decision to make and many times, the degree of openness is easily agreed upon, once the adoptive and birth parents form a relationship. You are welcome to email or IM me at flower2fotogirl@yahoo.com and I would be happy to chat with you more! If I don't hear from you, I want to wish you, your boyfriend and your baby all the very best in *whatever* decision you make! Adoption is a loving and selfless decision, but then again, so is parenting! ;-) Warm regards, L ↑ |
| Name: Melis | Date: Aug 17th, 2006 10:20 PM |
| Hi Brittany It is great that your mom and Ryan are willing to help you in any way. Having family to support you is important! My husband and I are trying to adopt, since we are unable to have children. If you would like to talk to us, or want to know about a couple of adoption places I researched email me. Thanks and Good Luck! Melissa melisrat@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: susanandscot | Date: Aug 17th, 2006 11:21 PM |
| Hi Brittany It must be very hard to find out your pregnant and not know what to do. I'm glad you have the support of your mom and boyfriend. If they're supportive, I'm sure your family will be also. I'm sure it's very confusing right now, and maybe a couselor can help you sort through your feelings and help you decide what to do. We have a tremendous amount of respect for your courage and your selflessness to put your baby's well being before your own. This is an important decision and shouldn't be made hastily. If you do decide to make an adoption plan, we would love for you to consider us as parents for your baby. Unfortunately, we're not able to have children on our own. Our dream is to become parents together and we're hoping there is someone out there that will help us achieve that dream. Our homestudy is complete, and we are fully certified to become adoptive parents. We are financially secure, I don't work, so I'll be a stay at home mom. We just bought our first house, it's in a quiet town in a safe environment with many activities for children. It has a huge beautiful backyard where children can play freely. We each come from a very close family. My brother lives in the next town over with his family. Each of our families have given us their support and are very anxious to welcome someone new to the family. If we are blessed with the chance, we will dedicate our lives to your child's loving, safe, secure and happy future. We will encourage your child to get the best education possible and we will them the direction and support necessary to allow them to pursue and reach their dreams, your child will be loved and cherished by us forever. We would love to talk with you! You can email us at susanandscot@gmail.com or feel free to contact us toll free at 866-837-7472. Best wishes to you and your family, whatever your decision may be. Take care, Susan ↑ |
| Name: FriendForAdoption | Date: Aug 17th, 2006 11:44 PM |
| Hi Brittany! How are you doing? I 'm sure this is a difficult decision you are considering - I can't even imagine, since I haven't been in your shoes. You are fortunate to have the support of you mom and boyfriend to be there for you during this time. It takes a lot of courage to put your personal story out there, but it sounds like you are also putting a lot of thought into considering adoption for your baby. I have several resources to refer you to should you decide you need more info about adoption and pregnancy resources in your area. You are very wise to begin considering your options and making plans early on - it tells me that you really have the best interest of your child at heart! You sound like a wonderful person :-) I also have a married friend (also an adoptee) who is hoping to create her family through open adoption. I am not a facilitator or agency...just a friend trying to help friends whom I know will be wonderful parents! She and her husband are well-educated, have a stong relationship, and lots of extended family waiting to welcome a baby and birthfamily into their lives. My California friends are homestudy approved, have the flexibility to BOTH be stay-at-home parents and are ready to dedicate their lives to raising a child. They will also welcome a relationship with any and all of your family members if you choose. If you would like more info about them, feel free to email me at luvknitting@myway.com. I thought it might be more confortable to make the first contact to a third party and I would be happy to share their story with you and also let you know the URL to see their adoption profile. You may then request their contact info from me at any time (they also have IM). I hope to hear from you. Warm wishes and prayers to you - Nicole ↑ |
| Name: Dreamer | Date: Aug 18th, 2006 12:05 AM |
| Chica107, FIrst of all what do you want? I would talk about hs between yourself and Ryan. There are alot of programs out there that can assist you to become a good parent. If you decide that the best interest for the child is to have an adoption plan at least it is well thought out. This will not be an easy decision on your part and one you will live with for the rest of your life, so make sure you have a great support team in place. Good Luck to your and If you want to chat feel free to email girl4jk@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: cookiemonster | Date: Aug 18th, 2006 12:25 AM |
| Hey Brittany, if your looking for someone to talk to to help relieve your mind you can email me....cookiemonster@yahoo.com Doesnt even have to be about baby stuff, I know at times when things are stressful I like using an outlet for anything and everything. ↑ |
| Name: 2poms4us | Date: Aug 18th, 2006 12:48 AM |
| Hey Brittany, We are so happy to hear that you have support at home and with Ryan- that is so important. You should not worry about being judged by anyone- like the old saying goes "Until you walk a mile in my shoes you have no room to talk"- however I do understand your fears from peers your age ( I have a younger sister). My husband and I would love to tell you our story and for you to look at our website http://home.nc.rr.com/karenandphil or call us toll free at 1-866-814-0756. I am sure you are going to get a lot of responses to your post please take your time and really get to know what kind of parents you are looking for to raise your baby. You also may want to look at a few websites to get help from others in your situation like www.birthmombuds.com or aboutadoption.com or adoptionhelp.org. Hope that helps and once again we would love to hear from you. Best wishes to you, Ryan and your baby, Karen ↑ |
| Name: michellesnook | Date: Aug 18th, 2006 7:39 AM |
| Hi Brittany, I don't think that anyone here would judge you, especially since most of us here are people who are looking to adopt. I hope that you are able to find the perfect family for your baby should you decide to place him for adoption. We live in Canada (near Syracuse NY) and have one son who was adopted at birth from Utah. We are looking to have an open adoption again with our second child. If you would like to look at our profile its www.snook.ca/adoption2/profile. Also please feel free to email me at any time - michelle@ snook.ca. I hope that you find the support here that you are looking for! Best wishes! Michelle ↑ |
| Name: Joce | Date: Aug 18th, 2006 8:57 AM |
| Brittany, What a tough week you are having. I would recommend finding a counselor to disucss your options. You are early in the pregnancy and right now it is a crisis in your life. You need time to process that you are pregnant and what your options are. A few good places for counseling are crisis pregnancy center and right to life centers. They are usually free and not connected to adoptive parents. If you decide to make an adoption plan, you will find many couples on this board and other internet sites. I would also recommend trying to find some sites for birthparents as they can provide insight from their perspective. We are looking to adopt and would be interested in talking with you. Feel free to email jodyc@woh.rr.com Best of luck, Jody ↑ |
| Name: sally24 | Date: Aug 18th, 2006 10:33 AM |
| Whatever you decide , as long as it is what you want then it will be fine , I think adoption is a wonderfull idea , you are giving your baby life , and you shouldn't feel bad because you do not want to be a mother right know , you are doing what is best for your child and you defiantly giving a couple a priceless gift. I am not trying to be harsh or judge you , just some helpfull tips from someone that is older and wiser and has had sex more than once a condom can very easily be put on wrong it comes out rolled up and if you don't know exactly what you are doing and roll it down the wrong way it has a high chance of breaking , plus the condom is not supposed to go down all the way there is supposed to be a tip a small amount of latex at the end were the penis does not fit into , but to catch the sperm if its pulled down tight over the penis the force of ejaculation may break it. Having sex is a personal choice and if you continue to do so again make sure you see the doctor , get on the pill or something like that it is much more effective it stops ovulation , use that with a condom and there is also the morning after pill which is also effect if taken within the first 24 hours they say 72 but the sooner the better. Best of luck ↑ |
| Name: tamara anderson | Date: Aug 18th, 2006 10:51 AM |
| Brittany, Hello We are Tamara & Doak in Texas. I think by coming here and askiing for advise or help you have taken a step in the right direction. No matter what way you choice make sure it will be the right one for you. We are hoping to adopt a baby and have been trying for about 2 yrs now. We have met several women that are in your situation in that time so if you need help or have any quesions we maybe we can point you in the right direction to get it. And i you choose adoption we would like you to include us in your search. We are a very loving couple with a huge extended family that can not wait to welcome a new baby with us. We have a post on www.adoptads.com (Tamara & Doak) or can be reached at love4baby68@yahoo.com or 832-434-4407 Good luck and we hope you find your answers. Tamara ↑ |
| Name: NUTHIEBANKS | Date: Aug 18th, 2006 11:20 AM |
| Hi Britanny, My name is Denay I'm 26 now with a daughter who is 8. I was pregnant when I was 17 too. I was very scared and it sort of happened the same way as you. Yeah we fooled around a few times and I never thought it could happen that fast, but it did and man it couldn't come at a worser time in my life, I was so scared and yet I felt helpless. I can talk to you about it if you would like too. And I am on this site actually because of my birth experience with my daughter. It was life threatening for me and now I can't have anymore without it endangering my life so I am so eager to adopt a baby so that our feeling of emptiness can become completed. I am married to the same guy I feel in love with and we had to go through a crazy couple years but now we own a small business here in PA , we work right from our home and we want so badly to adopt a baby from any state. If you would like to talk or maybe you have thoughts of putting the baby up for adoption, please email me I'd love to talk about it with you. And girl I give you 100% respect for not haveing an abortion like all those girls who think it's okay to screw around then not care about an innocent life they created because of the mistake they made. I really respect you for the decsion your making. Email me at Nuthiebanks@msn.com Good Luck to you!! ↑ |
| Name: seal | Date: Aug 18th, 2006 9:41 PM |
| Hello Brittany, I think that you are a very intelligent girl. There are MANY couples who cannot have children of their own and you would be giving them the greatest gift God has. I hope that you and Ryan stay strong in your decisions and don't let the other's negative judments bother you. You do what is best for you and your baby. You will be in my prayers. If you want to talk my email address is destined2adopt@yahoo.com Seal ↑ |
| Name: julieann | Date: Aug 18th, 2006 10:33 PM |
| i wont judge you at all. I am pregnant myself. i was on the pill and it failed. you can talk to me if you wish. ↑ |
| Name: chica107 | Date: Aug 19th, 2006 2:05 AM |
| Thank you guys soooooo much! Me and Ryan are still deciding on whether this is a good thing for OUR baby or not. This is something I dont want to take lightly, but I want to make a decision before I get too attached. I'm in sort of a pickle!!!! If I do consider to put him/her up for adoption I WILL contact one of you! Thank you all for not being judgemental! I also thank you for all of your kindness! ↑ |
| Name: FriendForAdoption | Date: Aug 19th, 2006 2:58 AM |
| Brittany: You are being very wise to consider what is best for you and your baby! You have plenty of time to make a decision, and you shouldn't feel rushed. It's great that you are including the birthfather in this process. Often birthmothers wait until their third trimester to match with an adoptive family, but you can begin developing a relationship at any time. The wonderful thing about open adoption is the opportunity to continue a relationship with your child and the adoptive family. There are even adoptive families who will consider last-minute placements at the hospital - so again, don't feel like you have to follow anyone else's timeline but your own. You know in your heart what's best. I know of a wonderful website to refer you to for pregnancy & adoption resources, referrals, and support. Feel free to contact me - even just to talk. Take Care - Nicole luvknitting@myway.com ↑ |
| Name: Pattyjb | Date: Aug 20th, 2006 7:34 PM |
| Guess i will add us to your list James R and Patricia on ParentProfiles.com, very much looking forward to getting to know you bettridge@ameritech.net ↑ |
| Name: sshaw | Date: Aug 20th, 2006 10:25 PM |
| we would love to adopt your baby. ↑ |
| Name: califadoptee | Date: Aug 21st, 2006 12:40 AM |
| Hi Brittany! I hope you're doing well during your pregnancy. It's nice that you have support at home to help you during this time. You have plenty of time to make decisions. We are homestudy approved and ready to open our hearts to a special baby and birthfamily. Whether or not you choose adoption, if you need any pregnancy or adoption resources, feel free to email or IM me. Hope to hear from you - take care. Susie hope2bfamily@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: gina7273 | Date: Aug 22nd, 2006 6:19 PM |
| Hello, I would love to learn more about your situation. I wont carry on through this link so please email me and we can chat. Thanks and good luck with your decision. Gina ginac7273@aol.com ↑ |
| Name: Peabug | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 3:03 PM |
| Chica107, I am so sorry about what you are going through. I know it is extremely hard. Trust me, I know..If you need a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on please email me. Peabug@bellsouth.net ↑ |
| Name: Hollyv310 | Date: Sep 2nd, 2006 3:21 PM |
| Dear Birth mothers, My husband & I have been trying to have a baby since day 1 of our marriage. After trying for years, our doctors have finally told us that it’s probably never going to happen for us. We have went through medications, procedures, stress, depression…..you name it, we’ve went through it. We are now looking for a baby to adopt & become a special part of our loving family. If you are currently pregnant & have decided to put your baby up for adoption, I would like to thank you. If it wasn’t for good hearted person like your self, people like me would never get the chance to have a child. If you would like to hear more about me & my husband & consider us for adopting your baby, feel free to email me. Thank you, Holly. email address-hollyv310@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: bluitexan20000 | Date: Sep 2nd, 2006 6:50 PM |
| hi chica i was yr age when i got pregnant with my son i think what u are doin take courage and i respect u for that it is way too much responsibility for a 17 yr old to raise a child u know there are open adoptions so u can always keep in contact with the family that has yr child plz be wise and choose carefully look into all yr options find a family that will cherish ur child and most of love u as much as yr child cas u are bringin then a most precious gift from god good luck and my wishes for u and yr new baby tina ↑ |
| Name: lldrl | Date: Sep 7th, 2006 12:19 AM |
| Our name is Lynda and Dustin and we would love to talk to you about your baby and things. Oh it is good that Ryan and your mom are so willing to help you out in all the ways that they can. I am on that may never be able to have kids of my own cause I have polycystic ovary syndrome. If you want to know more feel free to e-mail us at lldrl@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: kering | Date: Sep 7th, 2006 12:59 AM |
| My husband and I live in a small town in Tennessee. We would love to talk with you. Please contact us at kksday@aol.com ↑ |
| Name: marilyn | Date: Sep 7th, 2006 3:23 PM |
| HI BRITTANY, I APPLAUD YOU, FOR SUCH A YOUNG COUPLE YOU AND RYAN ARE TRYING TO DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOUR UNBORN CHILD. MY HUSBAND AND I WERE BOTH YOUNG WHEN I GOT PREGNANT WITH OUR FIRST SON. I DO HAVE TWO BIOLOGICAL SONS, BUT WHEN I WAS PREGNANT WITH OUR SECOND I HAD A CAR ACCIDENT AND HE WAS BORN PREMATURELY AND I AM NOW UNABLE TO HAVE ANY MORE CHILDREN. SOME PEOPLE HAVE TOLD ME THAT I AM SELFISH BECAUSE I WANT MORE CHILDREN AND THERE ARE SO MANY WOMEN WHO NEVER HAD ONE AND WILL NEVER HAVE A CHILD. BUT THIS IS JUST WHO I AM, I WANT TO GIVE ANOTHER CHILD THE LOVE AND SECURITY MY BOYS HAVE. I MYSELF WAS ADOPTED WHEN I WAS TWO YEARS OLD AND I KNOW THE POSITIVE SIDE OF ADOPTION. I WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD AND KEEP YOUR HEAD UP , YOU WILL KNOW THE RIGHT THING TO DO AND WHATEVER DECISION YOU MAKE WILL BE THE BEST AND RIGHT ONE FOR YOU AND THE BABY. IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO TALK YOU CAN EMAIL ME ( US) AT nativehunni2002@yahoo.com anytime you can email me and ill get back with you..... marilyn and family ↑ |
| Name: baby2 | Date: Sep 7th, 2006 6:29 PM |
| Hi Chica107, I hope everything went as well as can be telling your family about the baby. My husband and I are looking to add to our family (we have the cutest little 4 year old boy through open adoption). If you would like to talk, please feel free to email me. I'd be happy to share our experience with open adoption. Thanks and take care!! eringoffinet@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: Canadian-Jen | Date: Sep 8th, 2006 6:39 AM |
| Hello Brittany, how are you doing? I don't know how you feel about single parents but if you are open to them. I would be very happy to get to know you better. If you would please email me at jen1204ca@yahoo.ca I will get back to you with more info. Take care of yourself, Jen ↑ |
