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Hi, I am interested in about your experiences with the foster adopt kids. Write me about positive experiences, I have already heard about the negative ones (and they really do put the scare in you when you contact the agencies placing kids-all but one so far) So if you have had a good experience or know someone who had a good experience, please let me know about it. ↓
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| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Feb 27th, 2007 1:04 PM |
I have checked this a couple of times: is there NO positive adoptions for foster? I guess I was hoping to hear of some good situations to help us have hope we can find one as well. I know that the children are usually removed from their homes (for a variety of reasons) but when you contact the agencies, they have only told us about all the things that can go wrong, instead of the things that can go right. We are leary about heading in that direction, because our family is currently happy, content, my 11 year old daughter tells me I am the best mom in the whole world. I asked her if she would put that in writing, she may not feel the same way in about 2 years lol. And our little man will be 2 in a month! We think he will walk soon. He has texture issues and would not cross the tile that seperates our family room from the rest of the house (which only made one room I had to baby proof) he has finally learned that nothing will happen when he crosses the tile and crawls down the hall banging on Grandma's door. He really is amazing, I look forward to the day when he walks and talks and we go back to the same neurologist that said he will have an early life expectancy, he probably won't walk, and probably won't talk and that he is severly retarted. (that is a word that is not normally used under the age of 3) Well he has already shown the doc he comprehends quite a bit and he stands on his feet and cruises and he has just started babbling putting different sounds together.
Sorry to have gotten off track, I guess I have a lot to talk about today :) ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn | Date: Feb 27th, 2007 1:51 PM |
Hi Tina-
I have applied for several foster adopt kids, and have never been selected, because our son is less than 1 year old, and they won't place (at least the kids we have applied for) when an adopted child has been with a family for less than a year.
So at the moment, I have nothing positive to report!
Good luck if you go this route! There are wonderful children waiting to be adopted.
Best wishes-
Carolyn ↑ |
| Name: Luann | Date: Feb 27th, 2007 3:15 PM |
| I adopted my son thru foster care. He came to us at 7 months as a 6 month placement and turned permanent within 3 months. I won't tell you the emotional hell we went thru as relatives and potential fathers came forward..I'll just tell you we were successful in adopting him in 13 months. ↑ |
| Name: kcg.65hotmail | Date: Feb 27th, 2007 3:18 PM |
| I have heard many stories both good and bad... what I keep hearing is how tough the situation is but how the rewards out weight the bad :-) My husband and I are hoping to go this route as well as a private adoption... kind of which ever happens first :-) I think its great that you want to foster adopt because there are soooo many kids in need of a wonderful family! We have been waiting since September but from what other people say it hasn't been long in comparison. Two friends of mine waited 19 and 26 months before their first placement... We have received two calls in the last two weeks which is exciting... The first situation we had to pass on because the little girl (she is 4) had previously hurt her brother (pushed him down the stairs) and had been hospitalized twice for her behavior - her social worker wanted her to only go to a family where she would be the only or youngest child in order for her to get a lot of attention... we want more than one child so that was the deal breaker. The second situation they called us just yesterday and its a 5 year old girl and her 2 year old brother! We will go in for an interview this coming month which is exciting!!!! I'll let ya know how it works out :-) ↑ |
| Name: kcg.65hotmail | Date: Feb 27th, 2007 3:20 PM |
| also about the girl who hurt her brother.... she was not able to be trusted around children smaller than her because she hurt them... we have four nieces and nephews under 5 so we were also worried about her hurting them or if we had a baby her hurting the baby we have. You do need to consider the safety of your children and those children in your life. But not all children hurt others... this little girl who we just got a call on can't wait for more brothers and sisters and mothers her little brother now :-) ↑ |
| Name: Joce | Date: Feb 27th, 2007 9:16 PM |
I do not have any experiences to share. I have been on a couple of forums that say California is a very active foster to adopt state. I know of one family that have three children under 2.5 years old. All placed as infants, two being siblings, and one still needs to be finalized.
If I lived in a more foster to adopt friendly state, I would look into it. I know it is an emotional rollercoaster because the children are placed with you while TPR takes place.
Check out Baby Corner foster & adoption board. A couple of foster families on it. ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Feb 27th, 2007 10:54 PM |
Hi thanks for your responses, interesting Carolyn our little man will be 2 soon and I also have read a lot of times that the children placing need to be the youngest.
After reading Luann and kcg, oh no not another rollercoaster! We just got off one ride thru surrogacy lol. Seriously, we had an update from the woman who was going to be our surro mom today and received new info. We decided to put the foster adopt program on the back burner for a few months.
Our TS told me today she had a chemical pregnancy. I didn't know what that was so she explained it more thoroughly and it appears that my husband may be able to produce after all. Sooo as we get on the next ride, we are proceeding with EXTREME caution. We just don't want to get hurt anymore or get our hopes up high about something that may not happen. So new plan (this feels like it changes way to fast for my liking) is to slow down, keep exploring all options (including the surro option) and just go slow. If something comes up (we get contacted for placement by our attorney, contacted by our ad we placed or if we do decide to move forward with surro) then that will be the answer to our prayers. Otherwise we will take a deep breath and relax, couldn't hurt :) ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Feb 27th, 2007 10:55 PM |
| Oh and Joce, I am sorry I didn't acknowledge your post, thank you, I will save that info for the future :) ↑ |
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