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| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 16th, 2005 9:49 AM |
| Hi JayLynn, You are right, how can you only accept a healthy baby. To us once an adoptive family has bonded with an expectant mom and the baby she is expecting you have to be committed to that baby no matter what. If it was our own child would we give it away because it was not perfect? No way, we would love it just the same, so why should it be any different in adoption? We have been trying to adopt for some time now. So if you are interested in learning more about us, please check out our website and let me know if you have any questions or want to talk. Look forward to hearing from you. Jess www.achild2love.com ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 16th, 2005 11:00 AM |
| JayLynn, I am not sure, but it sounds like from your message you may be talking about some substance abuse issues. And I if this is the case I just want you to know that there are a lot of women in your situation who are also pregnant and they are able to find loving, wonderful homes for their babies, even if they have also been affected. So I wouldn't worry too much about being able to find a great home for your matter no matter what the circumstance. Just concentrate on getting yourself well and if adoption is right for you, finding a family for your baby. You may even find that when you choose adoptive parents that their support and help may be able to help you get back on track too. Good Luck! Jess www.achild2love.com ↑ |
| Name: Janice | Date: Dec 16th, 2005 11:17 AM |
| Hi JayLynn....How are you doing? My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for 9 yrs, the drs don't know why its not happening. We live in the mountains of Colorado, I am a realtor and my husband is a Heating and Plumbing Service Tech. We would love to talk to you about your baby. You can email me at ejgrabowski@msn.com God Bless You, Janice & Erik ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Dec 16th, 2005 11:29 AM |
| JayLynn, Hi, how are you doing? That is great that you are thinking about cleaning up your life. We adopted our son 2 years old through open adoption and the birthmother is now finally getting her life together, it sounds. I healthy baby is great, but I have to tell you that are son is a child of no prenatal. It can be a scary thing but we never gave up on him through her pregnancy. We would love to talk more to about you and adoption. How far along are you? And what State are you in? Please email mail us at itsgreat2adopt@yahoo.com or visit our website. Miranda www.luv2adopt.net ↑ |
| Name: Jackie | Date: Dec 16th, 2005 12:38 PM |
| Hi JayLynn! How are you ? Don't be so hard on yourself. You are chosing life for your baby - that is great! What Jess said is right - concentrate on getting yourself well and finding a family for your baby. The right family will be happy to help you and your baby through these delicate times. You didn't mention your due date ? I am assuming your past your 1st trimester as you refer to the baby as "she" .... And, depending on how far along you are and what may have been consumed and when could make a difference in the health of your baby. You have been given some good advice on this board - everyone here is very supportive and would be more than happy to help you get through this difficult time with peace. If you would like to talk - my toll-free number is 1.888.759.5188 Good Luck JayLynn! Jackie www.momdad2bee.com ↑ |
| Name: Joi | Date: Dec 16th, 2005 8:27 PM |
| Dear JayLynn, We want you to know we would love any child god blesses us with. We commend you on the brave choose you have made, Adoption is a wonderful and loving choose you can ever make for your self and your child. We understand that you are under a lot of stress and are over whelmed with what to do next. Please look at our letter and if you would like to learn more about us you may call toll free or e-mail us. Even if we are not the family for you we would love to just talk or help in any way we can. http://steveandjoi.hopetoadopt .com/index.phtml?TypeID=1 Tak e care, Joi ↑ |
| Name: JayLynn | Date: Dec 17th, 2005 12:25 AM |
| Please bare with me. I'm living right now in a women's center and my room mate and I have to share acess time. The answer to the question about drugs, it is yes. But I have other problems that I would prefer to talk about only to the family that I have picked. Some information that you might want to know. I'm having girl. I'm due on April 28, 2006. And yes she is drug exposed up til last month. Had I know earlier I would have been here sooner. I have a social worker who is helping in the this process. I'm not working right now, but I need to so I can keep moving up in rehab. In January I will be going to classes to learn clerical skills so I can get a good paying job. But I feel that every day is a battle to us drugs and my daughter deservers a better life. Her father is no where to be found. He is a dealer and (yes my dealer) when I told him he bet me up and put me in the hospital for about a month (I just got out 1 1/2 weeks ago). But the baby is fine from that. I think he moved away. I now have been in the rehab a l month, but it was mostly spent in the hospital getting better. I have been with my room mate for about 11 day, she is helping me cope with all this. I need to be in bed in 10 mins so I have to go. Thank you and be patient I have a lot to look at and deal with. Thank you for the kind words, and please don't judge me. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 17th, 2005 10:32 AM |
| Dear JayLynn, I hope and pray you won't have to worry about anyone judging you here. Everyone is pretty supportive. And I think most people will respect your privacy in what you are comfortable revealing about yourself to anyone, but the family you chose. You have some deeply personal issues going on and at this point they are really no one's business but yours. Just realize though that we all go through hard times and make all kinds of mistakes, it is how we cope with them that shows our true character. It takes a lot of courage to admit to yourself that your life is not going where you want it to and to then find the strength to make the changes to get you back on the track you want to be on. I know the road has been tough so far, but you need to be giving yourself a lot of credit for trying to get yourself better, that is something your daughter will really respect about you later on. It is always much easier to stick with old habits, but you have taken the first steps to making a better life for yourself and that is awesome. It is also great that you will be getting some job training to help you get back on your feet. And I am happy you find some support in your roommate. That is so important. I am also sorry to hear about what you have to go through with the physical abuse, no person should have to endure that. So take your time and concentrate on making yourself feel healthy, well and stable again. We will all be here to talk when you are ready. Just hang in there, I know each day is a battle, but just have faith that you can get through it. Let me know if you want to talk. You are in my thoughts. Jess www.achild2love.com ↑ |
| Name: Jackie | Date: Dec 17th, 2005 11:04 AM |
| Hi JayLynn..... You sound like a very strong woman. Congrats on taking that step to recovery, you are on your way to a wonderful life. I think that is is great that once you found out that you were pregnant you chose to do what was right for the baby. I am so sorry about the abuse from the birthfather, no woman should have to go through that. The classes that you are taking will help you find a stable job when you are ready to return to work... good choice. And I am glad to hear that your roomate has been so supportive of you .... we all need support. You concentrate on getting yourself better and stay strong , and when you are ready to talk, as Jess said, we are here for you and any of us would love to be able to be there to support you during these difficult times. Talk soon.... Jackie www.momdad2bee.com ↑ |
| Name: JayLynn | Date: Dec 17th, 2005 7:33 PM |
| I have had a challenging day today. We have freedom in the afternoon on Saturdays and i so tempted. But my roommate is staying with me. I think they are going to send me to a clinic. I scared. but I know this can be bet. Thank you for the incouraging words. They make me feel like I have a mom right there for me. You guys a great. I have to talk to a social worker now so I will talk to you tomarrow. Thank you Jess and Jackie. ↑ |
| Name: Jackie | Date: Dec 17th, 2005 8:34 PM |
| Jaylynn ..... thanks for keeping us updated - and use us for support ...thats what we are here for! If you are having a hard time and feeling tempted - just think about how far you have come and how many days you have been clean, think about your unborn baby, think about us here, your new friends offering you support and encouragement! I am glad that I can be here for you ... and Jess and I will be here for you as long as you need us. Jaylynn - do you have an email address ? I would prefer to keep in touch with you through email if thats okay ? Stay safe and well ...... please keep us updated and let us know if there is anything we can do to help :) Jackie www.momdad2bee.com ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 17th, 2005 9:20 PM |
| Hi Jaylynn, I am sure it was hard when they give you free time and trying to keep busy so you are not tempted. It will be a battle at first, I think you know that, but it will get better. But also just know it is a battle you CAN win! Just know you don't have to go it alone. As you know you can always talk to me or Jackie, and as Jackie said sometimes email is easier because you can talk more privately and comfortably. It also sounds like your roomie is helping too, and don't be afraid to let her be a shoulder to lean on also. And please try not to be afraid of going to the clinic or working with a social worker. They understand how hard this is and will do everything they can to help you. But I know it will big a change and scary to think about what the future may hold, but try to stay positive and remember that sometimes substances can take over your body and become physically addictive, but you have the strength in your heart and mind to beat it. I hope tomorrow goes well for you and just know we are all pulling for you! Jess www.achild2love.com nomadjess@msn.com ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Dec 17th, 2005 11:32 PM |
| JayLynn, Keep strong, you are doing the best for you and the baby. If this is the motivation for you to help yourself that is wonderful. I know that you are really trying if you are asking for help. Tyler and I went throught with something close to this and have a wonderful son, he is 2yrs now. Its so neat that our sons birthmother is doing so well today but it took time, she told us the other day that she is happy that she chose us as parents. One thing that has been on my mind did you check yourself in to rehab? I hope that your big sister helps you out with all the struggles that you may face. If you need to talk just email itsgreat2adopt@yahoo.com we would love to talk more. Miranda www.luv2adopt.net ↑ |
| Name: JayLynn | Date: Dec 18th, 2005 5:09 AM |
| Well it is Sunday morning and I have to go into the rehab center in 1 hour. I will be there for 16 weeks. I won't have privileges right away. But as long as progress I will be give them privileges back. You won't hear from me till then. Please pray for the baby and me. I know that I can do this I just want to have support when I come back. Again thank you. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 18th, 2005 1:27 PM |
| We will all be here when you get back, take care of yourself and your little girl! ↑ |
| Name: Lee | Date: Dec 18th, 2005 11:35 PM |
| Hi I want you to know that it takes alot of courage to get on here and tell complete strangers that you can not care for your child I was where you were as a child my mom could not take care of me but the choice she made was to give me to some one to help raise me and that is what she did and 30 years later with a great mom and mom (lol) I love soo much I want to give a child that kinda of life I have a nephew that was stuck in the wound and was and is now slight retarted but we love and respect him and also I have a Neice that did street drugs and had a little girl and she was a blessing to our family so I am Hands on to take care of a healthy child everyone needs some one and my calling in life is to to help so I do not mind if I have to go over the moon I will please feel free to contact us @ lookingfor_a_miracle2000@yahoo.com anytime. God Bless ↑ |
| Name: Karla | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 12:37 PM |
| Hi JayLynn- I know you probably receive tons of messages and I just wanted to take a second to let you know that we are interested in adoption. We have 5 children now and I am hoping to adopt one more or possibly two. We have enough love to go around. I have always wanted a big family (since I come from a small one). I would love to tell you more about myself and my family. If you would like, you can call me at 574-607-7144. What you are doing takes alot of courage and I commend you on that. I don't know if I would have ever been as strong as you to make such a hard choice. Unfortuantely, I do not have a website but I would be more than happy to send you pictures of our family and answer any questions you might have. I hope to hear from you soon. Karla ↑ |
| Name: confused | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 6:11 PM |
| it seems JayLynn may have been refering to this add... Name: Jackie Title: LOOKING FOR OUR LITTLE ONE We are hoping to adopt a newborn baby, we dont have a preference as far as the sex of the baby - just healthy :) If you are looking for a forever family to love and cherish your baby ... please visit us at www.momdad2bee.com Hope to hear from you soon ... Jackie Then this is her response: Hi JayLynn! How are you ? Don't be so hard on yourself. You are chosing life for your baby - that is great! What Jess said is right - concentrate on getting yourself well and finding a family for your baby. The right family will be happy to help you and your baby through these delicate times. You didn't mention your due date ? I am assuming your past your 1st trimester as you refer to the baby as "she" .... And, depending on how far along you are and what may have been consumed and when could make a difference in the health of your baby. You have been given some good advice on this board - everyone here is very supportive and would be more than happy to help you get through this difficult time with peace. If you would like to talk - my toll-free number is 1.888.759.5188 Good Luck JayLynn! Jackie www.momdad2bee.com I don't get it....I feel Jackie is changing her story for JayLynn just so she can be a potential adoptive parent. It is my hope, that Jackie is just trying to be her friend and not telling her what she wants to here. Just my two cents. ↑ |
| Name: Jackie | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 6:34 PM |
| Not too sure where the confusion is on my postings to Jaylynn. Yes - I am a hopeful adoptive parent - but I am also willing to support a woman if she decides to parent her baby as well! If I can be a friend to a woman who is undecided as to whether or not to place her baby - then I will be that friend without pressuring her into adoption just because I want to be a parent .... just my two cents! Jackie www.momdad2bee.com ↑ |
| Name: JB | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 7:17 PM |
| Of course Jackie is trying to be her friend. Like most adoptive parents she is compassionate and cares about these expectant moms. Does her post about wanting a healthy baby mean she is not allowed to offer comfort to a woman whose child may have health issues? Now that is silly. Most people want healthy children, that is natural for a parent to want their child's life to start off on the best possible foot. So I am sure Jackie, as well as, all of us can appreciate the value of being supportive of a mom who may have a baby with health issues that may need a little extra boost in life and trying to find a home for her where she will be well taken care of and loved. There is nothing wrong with that. ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 7:27 PM |
| To, Confused Don't read into the posts that much. You will drive yourself crazy. Everyone here has a good heart and only wants to help each other. ↑ |
| Name: JayLynn | Date: Dec 24th, 2005 2:01 AM |
| Just was thinking about you Jess and Jackie, I have a long way to go in my program. My social worker wants me to take my decisions slowly. I'm getting a lot of consoling. I want you to know my baby girls is measuring good and is very active. It like she know that is almost Christmas. I have know one to spend this holiday with. Everyone one has kinda disowned me. My consoler is trying to bring us all back together, but I'm afraid that I have screwed that chance forever. I'm hoping that you and your families are having a wonderful holiday. Oh, the doctor said that my baby may not come out drug addicted. That is really good. Well enjoy your family and I will have another chat in one week. That is my privilege right now. I hope to have more soon and an address to give you to e-mil me. ↑ |
| Name: Jackie | Date: Dec 24th, 2005 9:56 AM |
| Hi JayLynn --- How nice to hear from you so soon! Your counselor is absolutely correct, good advice : make you decision very slowly - its a big decision... make sure you put alot of thought into whatever decision is right for you! You said that everyone kind of disowned you - JayLynn, sometimes families don't know how to react to situations that are less than perfect ..... you have to 1st concentrate on getting yourself well...that is the most important thing! Once you are well then you can work on your family situation - I am sure that they will be so happy that you are well yourself and everything will be good! As far as the Holidays ...... enjoy them the best that you can with your friends that are there .... I will be thinking about you and hoping that you having a wonderful day !!! To be honest you sound like you are doing well there :):) YEAAAAAAA! Please keep us posted on your progress ... Maybe you can set up a free email account at Yahoo - and we could correspond that way .... my email is momdad2bee@yahoo.com. I wish you a very Merry Christmas and a NEW beginning in the NEW YEAR!!!!! HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!! Jackie www.momdad2bee.com ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 24th, 2005 11:34 AM |
| Hi JayLynn, It is so wonderful to hear from you!!!! How are you doing? Are you adjusting to your new home? I know how hard it is to be alone for the holidays, just know that Jackie and I are thinking of you too and hopefully you can feel some of that warmth and comfort. As far as your family...families are bizarre. We have all made some not so great decisions in our lives. Some families are supportive when we do and some are not. I hope and have my fingers crossed that yours will realize how much you need them right now and come around. But even if they don't please know you have the strength to do this on your own and even though it is not the same as family, friends and people here can help you through too. But I understand that mending family relationships can also be a big part of your road to recovery. As for that little girl of yours, I think she is excited because she knows that Santa has already given her the best gift of all. A mom that loves her and is committed to getting well so you can both be healthy and have a bright future. It is also wonderful that the dr think sshe may be healthy, that is great news! But even if she has some health issues, she will still be such a blessing. I will keep my fingers and toes crossed for you both. And I know you have heard it already, but now is not the time to make big decisions. You have way too much going on emotionally and physically from the pregnancy and getting your body and mind healthy again. Just take one day at a time. The most important thing right now is to focus on you and your goals. Everything else will fall into place when the time is ready. Anyway let us know when you can get email. I am glad that you have privilidges there and can keep in touch. Also I hope your holiday is the best that it can be. Jackie is right, just think of the new year as a brand new start . And focus on where you might be this time next year. It sounds like you are doing great so far and making some progress with the counselor's help, so just keep up the good work!!!!! Look forward to hearing from you next week. Hugs, Jess nomadjes s@msn.com www.achild2love.com ↑ |
| Name: Kim | Date: Jan 1st, 2006 2:13 PM |
| Hi JayLynn, I am very interested in helping you as well. I have met women in the past who have gone through the same thing you are going through. I must be honest some have made a come back and some have not but their children were adopted into very nice familes. I would love to chat with you. Do you have an email address? Mine is kwfelske@charter.net. Email me and I will email you my number and you can call me collect. I'm here for you if you need some support. Sometimes it is hard when you feel like you have no one. Yes, sometimes you may have pushed others away but you gain some new friends too. Would love to help, just let me know. ↑ |
| Name: kim | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 9:34 PM |
| i am very interested me and my husband and family. ↑ |
| Name: Bumo | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 9:40 PM |
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| Name: kim | Date: Jan 5th, 2006 9:39 PM |
| yes me and my husband are very interested my email is kim_copley2003@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: Jaylynn | Date: Jan 5th, 2006 11:03 PM |
| My social worker will not let me on this site past today. She doesn't like the attitude of the support. She is helping me pick an agency where there is no bickering. Sorry everyone. I think I will go with Bethany Christian. Good luck you and thank you for your support. ↑ |
| Name: Miranda | Date: Jan 6th, 2006 12:44 AM |
| Sorry JayLynn, I am sorry that you have to read all of this, most of us here do not act like this at all it just that someone is acting like a 12 year old girl/boy and thinks its funny. But if your social worker tells you that you need to search other places that is fine, this is mainly just to be a support group also and I do hope that she helps you out I wish you the best of luck with everything. I hope that you are doing fine and that your roommate is helping you out with everything. Best of Luck, Miranda ↑ |
| Name: Nicole | Date: Jan 12th, 2006 3:51 PM |
| Hello and friendly greetings from Germany, My name is Nicole and i dont know -----how to start this.... Im 30 years old and married with my sweet Michael since 9 years.I meet him for 12 years. We have a pretty house, a beautiful Garden, no financial problems, harmony family background....and mayby we have to be happy....but we cant. Since 5 years.I was pregnat at this time.I was on 6 month - but my baby died under my heart. And now i cant pregnant again.That hurts so much.I i always wit and hope that it will never heart some times. But that doesnt go. My friends do not have in the meantime Baby.Butnot I. I wish myself to see nothing more than a child.I would liketo see it would grow up-like into our children's rooms to go and play,sing...and all do a mother do.It would be so beautiful. For the moment only the children of the neighbours play with.But they go and we alone and sad.I ´m happy if they come....but have to cry if they go home . I would like so gladly which we our own child to have. It does pain particularly at Christmas.I hopes I has a chance .I would be also with it in agreement it an open adoption be it could contact have when always to her wants. I white it are so many... the one baby wish here... and I white not which I to write is, thus it you for us decide-deciding that does not make me very helplessly. I would be pleased if it us to write to us.So there are some pictures from us. 1. my michael with girl sarah .Daugther from his brother. 2.My an Michael.I´m adopted to.Im biracial.American and German.On Christmas, my mom and i.My mam...looks not always so :-)) . We can send you some more picture if you like. Lovely greetings......Nicole and Michael ↑ |
