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Hello all... What a day I have had. I had been talking with a wonderful family about becoming a surrogate mom for them. And it doesn't look like it's going to happen. The couple I was talking with (the woman) has become ill, and they are not comfortable with starting the surrogacy journey. And I understand, I'm just disappointed. I have become friends with them. and I still call them friends. I hope everything works out with them. It's just now I'm back to square one looking for another family to work with. I know when the right couple comes along, everything will work out perfectly. Thanks for listening!.... ↓
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| Name: Carolyn | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 6:03 PM |
I am so sorry that it doesn't look like it will work.
I pray for all of you.
Hugs-
Carolyn ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 6:06 PM |
| Thank you so much Carolyn.. I pray everything is ok with her. And I still consider them friends, and I'm not upset with them...just disappointed (and I know they are too)...Thanks again! :) ↑ |
| Name: pwdrblu | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 6:12 PM |
momof1,
I'm soo sorry to hear that. I hope that you find another wonderful couple to work with.
I'm sorry to hear that she has become ill. Please let her know that we will be praying for her.
Take care,
Paula ↑ |
| Name: Pattyjb | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 6:20 PM |
| I know how much disapointment can hurt and sting. What type of surrogate were you looking to become... I know that we are in Michigan where it is not legal, but hey, there are 50 states, after all. I understand there is gestational surrogacy, where the surrogate carries the fetus but does not contribute eggs if I have this correctly. The compassionate where the surrogate is not compensated for carrying baby... ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 6:26 PM |
| I'm open to both a GS (gestational surrogate) and a TS(tradional surrogate) pregnancy. I don't think is it fair to say that your are not compassionate if you receive compensation. I would love to be able to do this for nothing. I'm not in this for the money, But I can't do this for free. What i'm asking is way less than what the average surrogate moms is asking for ↑ |
| Name: tamara anderson | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 10:49 PM |
Hello everyone, And hello momof 1. Sorry I have been so quiet lately. I know most everyone knows momof1 was hopefully going to help us become a family. I had a kidney stone last week and things got a bit complicated and turned out to be more. Still waiting on test results. But, that is another area.
I want to say that Momof1 is a wonderful loving person and has a great heart. She will be the perfect surrogate Mom for a great couple. She is hoping to get started soon and until I am certain there is truly not something else going on. I can not make that commitment. I really want to be involved from day one. We hope that she finds the family she is looking for. Thanks so much Momof1 for always saying great things about us. ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 10:56 PM |
| Thank you tamara for the kind words. You know if anything changes, I'm here. Even if it doesn't you still have a friend in me. :) ↑ |
| Name: tamara anderson | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 11:09 PM |
| Thanks mom should know more Mon. or Tues results back then ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 11:10 PM |
| please let me know. B/c if everything is going to be ok, I would to still work with you, if your still intrested. ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 11:11 PM |
| oops. left out I would still love to work with you ↑ |
| Name: Carolyn | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 11:14 PM |
Tamara and Momof 1, I feel really bad it is a bad time.
Tamara, I had kidney stones 6 years ago. That was my one and only experience, and I know how entirely painful it was. The doctor said to me "Congratulations Mrs. Kady, you endured something more painful than childbirth." I told him (actually snapped it) "not the thing to say to someone who has wished for children for years." I was in the hospital 10 days. I could have had three childbirths via csection in that length of time!
If you need any help or have questions, please feel free to email me.
Hugs to you and Doak, and to Momof1 too. You are all in my prayers.
Love,
Carolyn ↑ |
| Name: 2poms4us | Date: Oct 7th, 2006 1:23 AM |
Hey momof1 and Tamara,
I am so sorry to hear your news. I pray that all works out for each of you. Tamara- I had kidney surgery 3 years ago and my life was a mess for a while but thank God things have gotten better- I hope the same for you.
Take care of yourselves,
Karen ↑ |
| Name: apurrfectplace | Date: Oct 7th, 2006 10:38 AM |
Tamara, good luck. I lost a kidney 5 years ago. It took a long time to get my strength back, but the surgery was a piece of cake. Get a 2nd opinion at a major medical/teaching hosp. near you and try and get the best doc. I went to Johns Hopkins and don't regret it, to this day.
momof1 - Andreas and I are considering surrogacy since our wait is taking forever for adoption. We live in MA.. I don't know what part of the country you live in? You can email me at micrimas@gmail.com
Tamara, same to you. If you want to know the name of a great kidney doc, I've got a few. One in DC at Georgetown Hosp one at Hopkins. You want the best of the best, so you have no complications down the road. Email me for info... I would be more than happy to help you down this scary path, having been there, done that!
Tammi ↑ |
| Name: Pattyjb | Date: Oct 7th, 2006 10:49 AM |
| Really nice to see warm fuzzies in here, a nice change for the positive side of life. ↑ |
| Name: tamara anderson | Date: Oct 7th, 2006 11:50 PM |
| Thank you all for your thoughts. I am hoping all is good. The stone just will not pass on its own. They are just running test to double check a few things since it would not pass. Better safe! ↑ |
| Name: bigangel200624 | Date: Oct 8th, 2006 3:02 AM |
hello my name is marie
im looking to adoption
Im am unable to have kids .
I have a lot of love to give a baby.
if you pick me i will be a good mom to your child ↑ |
| Name: AMC | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 2:53 PM |
sorry to hear this Mom and Tamera :(
Mom: I hope you find someone soon!
Tamera: Get Well Soon! ↑ |
| Name: tamara anderson | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 5:20 PM |
Hello everyone. Things are OK my way got positive results from tests. They will use an ultra sound machine to dissolve the stone. Should be done tomorrow. Drs ran the test to double check.
Thanks so much again for all the well wishes. :)
Tamara ↑ |
| Name: mommyinwaiting | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 7:33 PM |
| Hi momof1, I would be very interested in discussing surrogacy with you as I am unable to have children of my own due to a hystorectomy. Please contact me at tinasexton@charter.net I have lots of questions for you (as I am sure you will for me) to see if this is a journey we can take together. My husband and I adopted a beautiful little boy he is 18 months and has special needs. My husband has no biological children and this is something we have discussed. So we are interested. ↑ |
| Name: Gracie | Date: Oct 14th, 2006 11:03 PM |
Momof1,
My husband and I have been thinking of surrogacy. I have had 4 miscarriages. We do have two beautiful girls, but would love to have a little boy as well. One of the miscarriages I was 5 and 1/2 months along. That was bad!
We have been waiting for an adoption of a little boy for almost 2 years; we are on a list but nothing so far. It is heart breaking. Our kids are 6.5 and 1.5 years old. I wish that things would have been different and that there would not be such a gap between their ages. We have been trying to adopt one between the two and have thought about trying again for a little boy or boys of our own though IVF.
I think that surrogates are just beautiful giving people. It is refreshing to hear that you are not in it for the money, but the right reasons. You are truely someone that I would be interested in - in being a surrogate for us. And I would love to talk to you about the possiblilties of being our surrogate. If you are interested, please email me at grace@midrivers.com.
I would LOVE to hear from you!
Gracie ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Oct 16th, 2006 5:41 PM |
| I want to thank everyone for their kind and supportive thoughts. I am now in the "talking" phase with a new family. I will let everyone know how that works out. We are planning on meeting in the next couple of weeks. ↑ |
| Name: momof1 | Date: Oct 16th, 2006 5:43 PM |
| I would also like to add that if anyone has any questions about surrogacy, I would be more than happy to share the information that I have learned. I know there is alot involoved with it. Thanks! :) ↑ |
| Name: Pattyjb | Date: Oct 17th, 2006 2:21 AM |
| Wish it was something we could do... ↑ |
| Name: Gracie | Date: Oct 19th, 2006 12:19 AM |
Thanks,
I do have one question, If you are using your own egg and sperm with a surrogate. Then whos name goes on the birth cert. to start with? What do you do then? I wouldn't mind learning about your perspective of the process. How many times have you been one? Singles/multiples? Just wondering- you certainly do not have to discuss if it makes you uncomfortable. I was just wondering, since you offered some.
Thanks,
Gracie ↑ |
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