Name: andreal527 Title: Why do Couples change minds?

Just wondering why couples, would email you, talk to you and when you have become 95% sure that. a couple is right. A couple would change mind? Out of the two couples I really liked, and spoke via the phone etc many times, one said the adopotion would cost way too much, and another had a change of heart and didn't want to adopt anymore. I invested my time and effort in sorting through all the emails etc, sharing my life story, asking questions only to be out a couple. I have decided to go through a adoption attorney here as I learned the computer is not the place. Just was wondering why this would happen and if you want to adopt so bad, why would money make you change your mind, I was informed since my baby is older, and is covered under my medical etc, that the adoption attorney to attorney should only run about 2,000 to 3,000 and airfare to and from my state? I have read where people spent 10,000 and up. Just confused. For those that will give me a nice answer! God Bless and Thank You in advanced. I want to be clear, I am not looking for a couple on here, just an answer!

God Bless,
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Name: Tonia • Date: 05/08/2008 13:10:34

I am so sorry that this has happene to you. When all you wanted was a good family for your child. Good luck in finding a good family for your child. If you would like to talk feel free to email me or call me toniaprice75@yahoo.com or 5749527048.

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Name: teedee • Date: 05/08/2008 19:30:14

Hello,
My husband and I are have been married for 6 years and are currently looking to adopt. We have been trying to adopt for a year now and have been unsuccessful up to this point. As for why a couple may change their mind about adoption have a great deal to do with their financial situation and being scared. See adopting a child is very expensive and time consuming for everyone involved, especially if the birthmother need financial assistance,and the couple needs to travel outside of their state. The couple may also be scared that the birthmother may change her mind about placing her baby up for adoption and they will not only be out of money, but also have no baby to call their own.  =

Name: annie7224 • Date: 05/08/2008 21:45:28

I think that a reson they would change their mind is maybe they felt you werent committed to the adoption plan and they didn't want to invest anymore time or or have their hearts broken. As hard as it is for you. It is extremely hard for the adoptive parents who wait and pray for someone to pick them to raise that birthmother or natural mothers child. It a huge wave of emotions and people aren't willing to gamble on their heart. I know first hand all about that.way to well. Anyway thats my two cents and your right this iste is no place for anyone its turned people off and for us. We are in our 40's and we stopped looking. don't get me wrong if a situation was to fall in our lap we wouldn't ignore it .

I wish you all the luck in the world and I am sure using an attorney is the best way to go especially since you said your child is older. Have a wonderful mothers Day. At least you are a nother so many of us want to be and can't. annie7224@gmail.com  =

Name: BRENDA N RICHIE • Date: 05/08/2008 22:44:04

I'm sorry about the problems you had but we're not all like that as there are people on here that really want a child and the birthparents said changed their minds and left the adoptive parents hanging. There are good couples on here, those couples weren't suppose to have your child, God only knows the right ones. Don't give up, my husband and I are still interested. praying4ourangel@hotmail.com  =

Name: BeverlyKing • Date: 05/09/2008 08:30:02

They probably thought you were a scam. So many people are. And if someone thinks you are then nothing is going to change their mind. Then again there is the off-chance that they were the scammers (emontionally) and they got their kicks by leading you on. So there isn't an easy answer.  =

Name: Stacey And Brian • Date: 05/10/2008 20:23:41

I can't imagine why, I'm sorry you've been through that. We reciently had a birth mother back out after we had custody of a toddler and a baby of hers for 19 months. I know how horrible it is. I wish you luck with your search.
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