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my name is peyton, im 15, and i am 5 1/2 months pregnat with a girl.my boyfriend is happy and willing to support the baby, but its my mom thats the problem. my mom is making me either put my baby girl up for adoption , or get an abortion. i DON'T want to. this is my baby, my flesh and blood, my daughter. i already have a name for her.[denise-haily] i want to keep her, but my mother says its out of the question. im so sad. i dont know what to do , does anybody have any advice, on what i should do? how i should convince my mother to let me keep denise? can she MAKE me give my baby up?please help. ↓
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| Name: adoption | Date: Apr 17th, 2006 8:45 PM |
You need to get off the net and get help locally.
No 15 yr old should be looking for pap's alone. 15 yr olds are way too immature and do not have a clue what is included.
Make sure you get counseling too,,,,,,,sounds like you have alot on your plate. ↑ |
| Name: Hello | Date: Apr 17th, 2006 8:51 PM |
I would love to talk with you please email me at
tryingforbaby06@aol.com ↑ |
| Name: Naiyma | Date: Apr 18th, 2006 2:28 AM |
| You should get some help ... it's your baby and you can't be forced to give her up ... but that might mean living in a shelter with your baby if your mom is really against you keeeping her. But you cant be forced to give up your child .. when a counselor asks you if your sure its what you want just say no. ↑ |
| Name: Kelly J | Date: Apr 18th, 2006 9:23 AM |
| What happened to the post I saw on here last night about this being another derric scam? Honestly I kinda thought the same thing ↑ |
| Name: richard and lorrie | Date: Apr 18th, 2006 1:36 PM |
| hi we are richard and lorrie and would love to talk to you and your mom. we can be reached at poohbear124@gmail.com ↑ |
| Name: lin | Date: Apr 18th, 2006 3:23 PM |
| OH I sure hope you can keep Denise, Maybe you could call soc. services and ask them if she can make you give her up, sorry I do not have an answer for you, Good Luck hun! ↑ |
| Name: Jen | Date: Apr 18th, 2006 8:51 PM |
| Hi, If you want to talk please email me at speed678@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: To:Peyton | Date: Apr 19th, 2006 8:40 AM |
| No matter what state you live in your mother can not make you sign your rights away. She can turn you over to fostercare. But no one can take your baby without you signing the papers ↑ |
| Name: Terrie | Date: Apr 20th, 2006 3:55 AM |
I agree with the other poster. Talk go to your High school or school counselor they can also help with your mom.Best wishes
Terrie ↑ |
| Name: Maggie | Date: May 22nd, 2006 10:22 AM |
YOUR 15 YEARS OLD!
You can't support the baby, you will drop out of school, you need counseling you could try cotholic charitys.
please think of adoption please! ↑ |
| Name: Sharla | Date: May 22nd, 2006 12:03 PM |
| She can't make you give up your lil angel. can you move in with your boyf or a shelter?? your mum might come round in the end, when I refused to have an adoption they kicked me out and I went to live my boyf. Now I'm a proud mum of 2 year old twins, (I'm 17) and couldn't be happier. You'll regret it so NEVER sign the papers. ↑ |
| Name: Mrs. A.M. | Date: May 22nd, 2006 7:09 PM |
| No one can make you give up your babies. Adoption is hard enough without being forced to do it. I have to agree.....talk to your school counselor. ↑ |
| Name: m | Date: May 22nd, 2006 7:15 PM |
| At 51/2 months abortion isn't an option. That little girl is fully developed and just waiting to be big enough to be born. How about his family? Will they take you in. Adoption is a very serious decision that both you and your bf have to agree on. ↑ |
| Name: trina6913 | Date: Jun 1st, 2006 3:46 AM |
| hi peyton...my husband and i are wanting to adopt a baby...guess6913@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: Sara Jo | Date: Jun 1st, 2006 5:07 PM |
| My Granny had my dad at 15 and shes fine...well she died but she was old! SHE CANT MAKE U GIVE UP UR BABY!! DONT SIGHN ANYTHIG.... NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! when u have ur kid she will fall in love with her!!, until then talk to ur bf see if u can move in their! ↑ |
| Name: Dreamsofchild | Date: Jun 1st, 2006 5:41 PM |
Peyton I agree its time to call someone locally try calling your local protective services for children., Legally your the childs mom Your Mom has NO rights to make Your choices for you. Call an local crisis pregnancy center they can assist you in making the choice that is right for you. Also NO one goes by months anymore. So how far along Are You?
Best wishes
Dreams ↑ |
| Name: Dreamsofchild | Date: Jun 1st, 2006 5:43 PM |
Ok people this is how this Is. She is a mom to Be. first and formost So never Push an adoption choice on any mom to be. Their choice their option. A loving and caring one Yes. I am for your information an adoptive mom. Best wishes
Dreams ↑ |
| Name: aava | Date: Jun 2nd, 2006 3:54 PM |
Peyton,
This must be confusing as all get out for you to even read these posts. Honey you need to talk to somebody in your life. An adult. If you cannot talk to your mom talk to your next closest adult. You are way way to young to even be having these msgs sent to you without some advice from a nurse a school conciler somebody you can sit and talk with! I was also once a 15 year old pregnant gal and it's a hard situation to be in. Although your mother is your boss she cannot make you do anything you dont want to when it comes to YOUR BABY!! Sweetie look in the yellow pages under pregnancy and options! You best friend will be knowledge so go and get some help!! We are all praying for you and hang in there girlie it will all work out!!
If you need a shoulder to lean on feel free to email me and I will give you my phone number so you can call collect if you just need someone to talk too..
BIG HUGS
Desaree
aka
Ava ↑ |
| Name: aava | Date: Jun 2nd, 2006 3:59 PM |
Sorry honey I forgot to give you my email
dezzy@bellsouth.net ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Jun 3rd, 2006 5:35 PM |
| Peyton we need an update! You should either move in with your boyfriend or if your going to remain at home then you sort of do have to do what your mom wants since she is financially supporting you. Maybe she can't afford to raise a baby. Besides,I don't really think any mom wants her teen to have a baby,moms usually hope for better than that for their children. ↑ |
| Name: sweething772 | Date: Jun 9th, 2006 5:23 PM |
| I imagine that is a diffucult situation. Ask your mom is she was fifteen and pregnant with you would she have givin you up? ↑ |
| Name: Babyieangel | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 6:16 PM |
| She cannot make you give your baby up for adoption and I'm very sad to hear that she is trying to do this. She cannot make you have an abortion either. Giving your baby up for adoption, or even having someone else take care of it maybe a good solution for you. I am wanting to adopt a baby and would even be willing to take care of it and let you see the baby . We could make arrangements. My name is Jessica Sinkewicz , I'm newly married and I cannot concieve. I'm looking to adopt a newborn baby but not really wanting to go through an agency. I am more than willing to travel any distance to adopt or to sign any necessary forms. I am even willing to pay someone that is considering giving their baby up for adoption. We are a very loving couple and been together for 4 years now. I have always wanted a big family and we are ready to start that family. My husbands name is Patrick Sinkewicz . He is starting college in the fall to be a financial advisor . He also has a decent paying career at the moment but wanting to beable to give our children a very good loving life and a great home. I don't work and don't plan to , I want to be a stay at home mom for I can spend all the time I have with my child. Please get back to me . I live in Illinois and my phone number is 1-309-716-2479. You can call any time of the day or even in the middle of the night , I would gladly take your call. My email address is Babyieangel@aim.com. If you would like to contact me through IM my aim screen name is Babyieangel. Thank you for reading this and hope to hear from you very soon. ↑ |
| Name: helpme | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 11:16 PM |
| hey this is not about your mom and if you wount your baby then keep her because you will never for give our self if you dont and when you have a baby you are on your own ... look and see if you can get in to then teen mothers help home they will help you .. if not i will help you .... were do you live at ? ↑ |
| Name: jamiea | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 2:23 PM |
| HI peyton, My husband and I are looking to adopt very much. We live in the country and have lots of family and animals and tons of love. Please,lets talk. My sister was 15 many years ago when she got pregnant it was very hard for her. please email jamiea@mojosgear.com please email ↑ |
| Name: helpme | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 3:49 PM |
cALL ME IF YOU NEED HELP I WILL HELP YOU K
tIFFANY (801)568-0166 ↑ |
| Name: Denise | Date: Jul 17th, 2006 11:38 PM |
| Peyton, what ever you do, please do not have an abortion. You have a beautiful human being inside you. You will regret an abortion for the rest of your life. You will be haunted of terrible dreams that you killed your unborn baby. PLEASE, IF YOU DO NOT HAVE ANY SUPPORT FROM FAMILY OR FRIENDS, GIVE THIS BABY UP FOR ADOPTION. It can always be an open adoption. ↑ |
| Name: christie29 | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 2:19 AM |
| Dear Peyton,How are you?I'm really not sure if your parents can make you give up your daghter.My older sister was in a simular situation and our law,in the state that I am from is that once you become pregnant you automatically become an adult.So if that is the case in your state also then no your parents can NOT make you give up your daughter.Please consult a councelor or someone before makeing any decisions.Another option for you is open adoption,meaning that you give her up until you are the leagal age,in my state 18.My husband and I have would love this option.We have 2 children that want a baby bro./sis.so bad.This is a home full of love.We wold love her till you were ready for her back.What about the boyfriend?How old is he?What do his parents say?He and his parents have rights also.I cant Imagine your mom not loving her own grand-daughter.Whatever you decide I am here to talk to.My email address is stevies-girl@earthlink.net.Once you email I will give you my #.I hope to hear from you soon.Best Wishes!Christie ↑ |
| Name: Jessica Sue | Date: Sep 9th, 2006 6:03 PM |
I would be interestd, please contact me.
Jessica Sue ↑ |
| Name: Jessica Sue | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 2:51 PM |
Please contact me.
Jessica Sue ↑ |
| Name: drasticchange | Date: Sep 19th, 2006 6:23 PM |
| your young and you have every right to keep your child yes it will be hard but it will be well worth it and yes you will have to make sacrifices you would have to make them even if you were older im sure your mom is just worried youll miss out on things but missing out on youre child is very painful even in open adoptions im shocked that your here asking for advise on how to keep your child and people are telling that they would like to help by taking your child post for information on a site against adoption youll get more help theres alot of birthmothers who are still trying to reunite with there children that can tell you how they feel really look into it i made the wrong choice out of pressure and lies really look into it best of luck ↑ |
| Name: califadoptee | Date: Sep 19th, 2006 7:07 PM |
I usually don't jump on responses, but as a clincian I feel an ethical need to respond to this post;
PLEASE pay attention to Peyton's post - first of all, she posted in April at 5 1/2 months - she has most likely given birth and hopefully was able to parent her child.
Secondly, she is not asking for PAP's. She is specifically requesting assistance and info about keeping her child and how to effectively communicate and assert her wishes to her mom. We should be sensitive in listening to what is asked and not assume that she needs something beyond her question (ie: referring to willingness to adopt her child).
Thirdly, no one on this board should be giving advice to a 15 yr old or any minor. Support or referrals to resources are the only appropriate and ethical responses. Support is different from advice.
Peyton, if you are still looking at responses to this post and still want some assistance, I would be happy to refer you (and your mother) to free professional resources.
Susie
hope2bfamily@yahoo.com ↑ |
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