| Name: j | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 12:59 PM |
| Name: Charlotte | Date: Feb 17th, 2008 1:45 PM |
I don't think that a father and daughter being close is sick at all. My husband, Rob, and I have been married for 17 years, and we have a 16 year old daughter. My daughter and I are close, but she is also very close to her dad. Now, that is not to say that they sleep together, bathe together, and he's NEVER hit her, but he will check on her during the night, call her pet names, give her a kiss, and baby her when she's sick. When she was little (maybe 2-5 years old) and she had a bad dream, she'd come crawl into bed with us, but that stopped shortly after the age of 5.
Last fall my daughter was badly hurt in a car accident, and was hospitalized. My husbad stayed with her 24/7 until we took her home, and babied her until she was fully recovered. By "babied" I mean, doted on her...brought food/drink to her, rubbed her back for her, she was in a lot fo pain, so we gave her a lot of attention.
I don't think that a father being close to his daughter is a bad thing at all, in fact, I like how close they are because I never got along with my father, so I like providing what I didn't have in my life for my daughter.
However, I do think that if my husband and daughter were to begin to sleep, bathe etc. together, I might have a problem. If he spanked her now, at 16-years-old, I'd also have a problem. As for kising, they give a peck on the cheek, and sometimes on the lips, but it's nothing long or passionate, like a husband-to-wife kiss. In the morning before he leaves for work he'll walk up to her, give her a peck on the cheek or lips, and tell her to have a good day at school. I find nothing wrong with this. They don't really cuddle on the couch or anything...my daughter's boyfriend, Jack, and her do, so that fills that space. My daughter will sit on the couch with him and put her feet in his lap, he rubs her feet. Again though, I find nothing wrong with this. ↑ |
| Name: Shane | Date: Feb 18th, 2008 1:36 AM |
| There's a time when lip kissing should be strictly between a man and a woman. His kids are old enough for a kiss on the cheek to suffice. Even though it's not intended to be sexual, there is a sexual element involved especially with older daughters; it just "creeps" me out to see that with older daughters and fathers. Cold sores, viruses,and other contagious agents and "body fluids", especially if the daughter has a significant other...ugh!, are easily transmitted even by a simple kiss. ↑ |
| Name: Cheryl | Date: Jun 4th, 2008 5:20 PM |
| I am faced with the same situation and have made mention of it to my boyfriend. I got the " you are jealous " comment. Call it what you will but, I think it is wrong after a certain age. It sickens me and I think it is inmoral. ↑ |
| Name: haileydoran | Date: Jun 6th, 2008 4:11 AM |
Well im nearly 21yrs of age and i still kiss my dad , now not on the lip, but i still give him hugs and stuff. The reason is that im really close to him cos my Mum died a coulpe of years ago, im now due my first child in 5weeks, and my dad has been the best ever!!
I dont find u bein parinoid about the 12yr old still gettin into the bed with him, she needs to get out of that big time, Dads will always see their daughters as little girls no matter wat age they are. Maybe when the 12yr old will stop doin it when when she does become a woman, if not then i would say it to her father!! good luck!! ↑ |
| Name: stepdad | Date: Jul 2nd, 2008 12:24 AM |
| my step dau and i sleep together often. no actual sex {i wish i would} but i do feel her ass and tits. {i want to touch her pussy so much} her mom would kill me if she knew i touched her dau ↑ |
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| Name: charlie | Date: Aug 11th, 2008 3:11 PM |
| I think there is fixing to be a problem.they are too old for this as it will lead to problem of incest later .i don't thik it's being paranoid because i went threw a phase with my father and later he forced oral sex on me from him and discovered he raped my siblings ↑ |
| Name: debbiea12 | Date: Aug 11th, 2008 4:59 PM |
| to "stepdad" I wouldn't blame her mom for killing you. You need to be turned into the authorities. You are a very sick person and that girl needs to be away from you ASAP. ↑ |
| Name: Angelique | Date: Nov 1st, 2008 5:40 PM |
It's perfectly normal. As a teenage daughter, I guess I can explain from my point of view. I stopped kissing my dad on the lips around 11, but it was perfectly normal because that's how I was raised. My mother was okay with, however after becoming more....womanly my father started to get uncomfortable because family never even kissed each other on the lips. I stopped that, but always told him that I loved him and he's the best in the world.
The bed thing, I stopped only a year ago. (which was....at 13), but I still crawl into bed like in the morning or during a movie and cuddle with my dad. Both things gave me a strong relationship with my dad, to the point if my mom isn't there to help with boy problems, he is! ↑ |
| Name: Kimberley | Date: Nov 10th, 2008 10:30 AM |
| My dad and I still kiss on the lips on occasion (I'm 23), and it's nothing weird about it at all... When I was younger I had a big problem with severe anxiety and had a problem with sleeping alone when it was at its worst, and would crawl into bed with my mom and dad until the age of 11. Sometimes my dad would be naked, as my parents were married and had sex as grown ups do. I crawled into bed usually in the middle of the night so he wasn't intentionally naked. I slept between them and that was completely normal for all of us (although there was no physical contact between us, I brought my own duvet, and my dad would put something on if he woke up and noticed me there)...Sometime around the time I turned 11 I just brought my mattress with me and slept on the floor, but if one of my parents were out of town when I had nightmares or couldn't sleep I would take the vacant side of the bed, regardless of who was in it until the age of 16 (I am now completely recovered and live on my own). I never thought there was anything weird about that until I read some of these posts. Well, I still don't think that's weird, but a lot of you seem to. Of course fathers have the same need to protect their children as mothers have. I don't see anything wrong with sleeping in the same bed, although there are exceptions, but to a normal, healthy father-daughter relationship it's not weird. A normal father would never have those thoughts about his daughter. I remember reading a post on another forum from a 15-year-old girl who was really sad because her father wouldn't let her sit on his lap anymore, because it wasn't proper as she was almost a woman. Not because he was sexually attracted to her, but because he was afraid what people might think of him. She didn't have the same closeness with him anymore because of the general paranoia about these things today. I'm not saying we should be less alert to such awful crimes, but not go around thinking that every single man is a untrustworthy pervert. ↑ |
| Name: Mike | Date: Dec 9th, 2008 12:34 PM |
| I am a Dad of 5 girls and 5 boys. 4 girls still at home. My daughters and I are very close. My 17 year old loves to hold hands in public. She is always asking for hugs.These are full frontal hugs and not sexual in any way. She has an excellent self esteem and has no need for sexual activity before marriage. I have a grown daughter of 27 who hugs me in a like manner. If Dads give appropriate attention and never crosses that very fine line then they are doing their daughters the greatest service possible. Our 12 year old just came in to our room one night recently and announced that she had just started her period with all the details. To much info for me but I did not let her know that. Our policy is that we respect our bodies but no subject is off limits. I hope my children know the proper terms for their body parts from the first day. A penis is a penis and a vagina is a vagina. Kissing on the lips can be a cultural thing. My in laws still greet with kisses on the lips. Not My culture. My wife still kisses her father, mother, sister, brother, uncle and aunts on the lips, I do not. Everything is not sexual, but, our culture has sexualized everything. ↑ |
| Name: James | Date: Dec 24th, 2008 9:16 AM |
| Kisses on the lips are normal. If this is how you were raised, as I was, is it natural and comfortable. I think it is also ok to climb in bed with dad once in a great while. Every relationship is different between fathers and their children. I remember watching an episode of "The Batchelor", when the guy brought the girl home to meet his parents. The Batchelor kissed his father on the lips on the way out the door. I remember thinking ... what a nice bond the dad had with his son. It was perfectly natural for their family. ↑ |
| Name: tattles | Date: Dec 30th, 2008 3:56 PM |
I'm in a relationship where the mother of the daughter 11 has her sleep with her nightly except when the boyfriend is over. Then shes banished off to her own bedroom. Her mother constantly tells her how lonely she is and how she doesn't want her to grow up and leave her. My husband feels guilt that she is slowly not coming to our house as often because "it's too much trouble" Definitely the mother speaking. She nows comes 2 weekends out of the month. She clings to her father and while there not a moment where she isn't on him. Sits on his lap, after dinner, watching TV, at functions, and at restaurants. I'm sorry, 11 and still needing to sit on dad's lap....always! It's a bit much and I'm not the only one who thinks so. I've had his family and other people approach me as to why can she not socialize with others and leave her dad for a moment. She also still sleeps with a bright night light on, has a bedtime story told and dad waits on top of the covers till she falls asleep. We've had some wind storms so the house makes some noises. I can sleep alone and learned this at an earlier age. I could go to my parents but they'd bring me back and sit a bit then more or less tell me to try to sleep and leave. This girl isn't learning how to cope.I believe this poor girl has learned dependency and can't deal with noise or darkness because both parents need to be loved by their daughter. They aren't teaching her what most doctors/lawyers/professionals and parents consider at her age as inappropriate.
As for the kissing on the lips issue. Please anywhere but North America it's pretty much a norm. Europeans kiss each other, male to male, female to female, old or young. As long as it's not long and lingering, there really is no need for discussion. ↑ |
| Name: d | Date: Feb 14th, 2009 9:52 AM |
| This is not so weird, I am 23 and still going to school. I grew up in a very open family where nudity and kissing was ok. I still sleep nude at home and away. I still kiss my dad on the lips when I see him. I have sleep nude in the same bed as him and nothing happened. All dads are not pervs. So unless he has give you a reason to think he is bad give him the respect of a good dad. If he has done something bad send him to jail. ↑ |
| Name: flahusfan | Date: Feb 15th, 2009 1:41 PM |
| seems like they have na good relationship ↑ |
| Name: brent | Date: Mar 10th, 2009 6:57 PM |
hello,
my 11yr old daughter likes to walk around my house in the nude. is that normal? ↑ |
| Name: brent | Date: Mar 10th, 2009 7:02 PM |
Hi,
my daughter wants to get a waxing...what age is ok to start? ↑ |
| Name: josh | Date: Mar 31st, 2009 12:42 PM |
| well i dont believe there is any harm in kissing your 12 year old daughter on the lips. if they fall in love someday then thats fine too. only God can judge them not you people. ↑ |
| Name: Jaime | Date: Apr 13th, 2009 10:10 PM |
| I think that is sick and wrong. The child has a digusting attacthment with her father or just men at an age way to young. Now lets be serious now, when did you start feeling attracted to men. Probably younger then her. If he is not willing to resolve the issue himself just imagine if you where to have children with him. Gross, makes me want to vomit. I went through the same thing but she is 7 and it happens every night, not on occation. He says well her mom sleeps with her. Well then they need to have there head examined, I would get the heck away from this guy. He is just sick. ↑ |
| Name: Daddy | Date: Apr 16th, 2009 6:52 AM |
| I don't understand what all this uproar is about. My daughter is 10, and she has slept with me almost every night since she was 5, when her mother deserted us. ↑ |
| Name: Daddy | Date: Apr 16th, 2009 10:07 AM |
| Brent, I don't think there's anything at all wrong with nudity at home. It's a much more free lifestyle, and much more interesting and stimulating. A couple of my daughter's friends like it, too, and since their parents don't object, why would I? ↑ |
| Name: guest | Date: May 11th, 2009 12:22 AM |
| i've started dating a man who says he's in love with his 24 year old daugher. hetravels often and sleeps with her. this goes on for many weeks at a time. he showed me how they hold each other and it spooks me cuz its the same as he cuddles with me. he says theres nothing going on and it's diffrent from us because they wear pajamas. they've been sleeping together since she was little, first with his wife too and after the divorce with him. he's also said she walks around in her underwear and she's the most gorgeous woman in any group. not sure why he keeps telling me this kind of thing. they phone each other every day, sometimes a few times a day and he sounds like a teenager talking to a bf. ↑ |
| Name: Cici | Date: May 11th, 2009 12:32 AM |
| i wrote earlier as "guest". as i said, i'm trying to keep an open mind but i'm uneasy enough to find my way to this forum. please give me some feedback. tks. ↑ |
| Name: al | Date: Jul 16th, 2009 4:26 PM |
| I always kissed my daughter on the lips till she was 15 or so and still crawls into our bed when she wants to be close ↑ |
| Name: CarlaC | Date: Jul 20th, 2009 2:26 PM |
| I am 19 and spend the summers home from college at my Fathers. We always kiss on the lips when we have not seen each other in a while. I find it innocent and loving. We have also slept in the same bed many times over the years. Weather on trips at hotels when they only had a King bed or when he lived in a one bedroom apartment or after my Mother died and we were both very much lonely, empty and sad. He has always at least had on boxers and I would usually wear boy shorts, panties and a t shirt or a nighty. We held and comforted but it was nothing sexual. I trust him more than any one I know. ↑ |
| Name: tate | Date: Aug 7th, 2009 10:18 PM |
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