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Name: simplybria. [ Original Post ] Okay so my mom has been with this man for about seven years . When i was younger i used to get along with him.As i got older things changed, he tried to take on the role of being my dad and started demanding different things about boys and everything.Basically being annoying and stupid . My mama always took his side and i always kind of resented her for that kind of stuff . Eventually we moved out because of that and their own r/s probs. So why now , hes constantly over here and i just feel if if knows how i feel about him why is shy doing this ? I know thats her bf but i thought i come first before anyone ? I confronted her about it a couple days ago and nothing has changed . I feel like im going to end up hating her and i told her and still it seems like thats what shes asking for . ↓

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Name: simplybria. | Date: May 2nd, 2009 10:54 PM

what should i do ? ↑

Name: jamie_ogren | Date: Jul 11th, 2009 12:24 PM

maybe she's got alot going on. or maybe, since he's over all the time, do they fight? she may feel trapped in her relationship. it's so... so easy to hide. you have to pay a little more attention. any new bruises cuts on the face, burns, anything.. also, try to listen to her conversations with him, or a close friend or anyone. if she seems a little TOO happy, or a little sad, or if she whispers on the phone, or anything. you can always tell. this might help you understand her situation a little better, when you find out, post again, and id be more than happy to help seeing as ive been in this situation before. i should stop writing for now. it's nap time. feel free to email me sometime jamie.ogren@yahoo.com ↑

Name: alyssa | Date: Oct 7th, 2009 6:55 PM

i understand how you feel completely my mom doesnt even know me anymore! it hurts and im ready to pack my stuff and move in with my real father. ↑

Name: BabyLovin | Date: Nov 10th, 2009 7:49 PM

It sounds to me like your being a little selfish. I only say that because I don't know the whole situation, but by you saying you don't like him because he's asking you to do stuff. He might not have tried to take the role of being your dad, he might have just taken the role of being the man in the house, which is completely understandable. Now, your mom should not always take his side, but there shouldn't be a reason for her to be put in the position to take sides. Maybe the situation was something obvious that he was in the right and you were in the wrong, but you are taking it the wrong way. Just like it could be vice versa. Again, IDK what the sitaution was. Is it just him that you feel about this way? or is it any man in her life? It might just be jealousy, this is something you need to sit down and think about, because it might not be fair to your mom. You might be denyin her the right to be happy, because you are jealous that you should be the only person in her life. BUt what ever the case maybe, you should NEVER hate your mother!!! THink about what really bothers you in this situation. Is it just because you don't get all the attention? Is he really that bad? Their relationship problems, should not concern you unless it gets physical. I suggest you to speak with her and if it doesn't work out... then maybe it is as you say... Again, this is my opinion. Good Luck! ↑