| Name: Michelle | Date: Oct 15th, 2006 2:53 AM |
| My mother chose her boyfriend over my older sister and now they barely talk. She chose him over me and I have no intention of having any contact with her. A surefire way to screw up your kids is to choose a boyfriend over them. Just speaking from experiance. This is what years of therapy has done for me. ↑ |
| Name: kaitlynn1835 | Date: Oct 18th, 2006 11:35 PM |
| I am in complete agreement with Lizzi. If your kids absolutely DO NOT get along with your boyfriend, then you need to dump the boyfriend. As harsh as it is, your happiness means squat when it is at the expense of your kids'. ↑ |
| Name: Been there, mom ruined that | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 2:54 AM |
| YOUR BOYFRIEND NEEDS COUNSELING] No home is a military base, as far as your children, how dare you, as a mother let it get this far. Your children are your life, and to set aside their emotions because of your need for partnership, is absolulety irresponsible. Dont ask, tell your bf that he is going to change or you are through. Your children come first, so I suggest you start rebuilding your relationship with them before its too late. ↑ |
| Name: connielast | Date: Nov 20th, 2006 1:05 PM |
To been there Mom:
Wow well said !!
The home is sure not a Military Base. I believe is discipline and a reasonable kept home, BUT its a home you and your children should feel safe and comfortable there. ITS NOT the Military.
Sit down talk to this guy, but I have the feeling it won't do any good. Next step is open the door for him. Sorry I don't have good english, but I try hard at it. ↑ |
| Name: questionable | Date: Feb 8th, 2007 1:30 AM |
| My mother's last boyfriend, was a jerk and I hated him also...Just a word of advice if your kids don't like him a red flag should go up...Eithier he's a jerk to them when your not looking or maybe he gives off a negative vibe (I'm not saying eithier of these are true), but eithier way there's something they don't like about him and I suggest you ask them what it is... Once you figure that out it might ease your mind a bit. ↑ |
| Name: questionable | Date: Feb 8th, 2007 1:32 AM |
| Not that it's really your mind that needs easing... (sorry if I sound rude.) ↑ |
| Name: dragraught | Date: Mar 1st, 2007 10:57 PM |
| well i dont know why i am on here i just logged on and this popped up well i am in the same situation i am 14 years old and dont really hate my moms boyfreind i just dislike that they are together. i can talk to u more if u want my page is on divorced family forum and is called lizzy answer plz can talk anytime ↑ |
| Name: Lauren | Date: Jun 13th, 2007 5:03 AM |
| OK well i think that a boyfriend should always come after your children your boyfriend may later be gone but u have already made the mistake or your son leaving and u then won't be able to change it and they won't forgive you for stuff you should do whats best for you and the kids because they will be there forever he might be gone later. ↑ |
| Name: Rockin Roberts | Date: Jun 26th, 2007 11:15 AM |
I don't think you should loose a kid by a man.
There is plenty more fish in the sea.
If your kids don't like him, send him packing!
Think about it,
who do you love more your jerk of a guy or your 15 year old?
Who's worth it?
I think your a selfish cow if you choose ur boyfriend but thats my opinion ↑ |
| Name: Kenya | Date: Jul 2nd, 2007 1:33 AM |
| I think u should say to your kids that i love him but im going to boot him out of my house ↑ |
| Name: victoriaalice | Date: Jul 2nd, 2007 12:00 PM |
| boyfreinds come and go family are for life! remember that. ↑ |
| Name: Aldana | Date: Jul 14th, 2007 12:04 AM |
| Hi, my name is Aldana! My mom has i new boyfriend and i HATE him. Your kids are probably thinking that you don't love as much as you do your boyfriend.If you are forced to pick between your kids and your boyfriend, PICK YOUR KIDS!!! You should have already broken up with him after the first blow up with your 21 year old daughter. YOu have done many wrongs in this relationship already. Have a family meeting (not including your boyfriend and his kids) and ask your kid's opinions like if you should let him go. Maybe you need to go back a couple steps and see what it was you did wrong. Take some action before this gets too bad.......its almost there!!! so hurry!!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: April | Date: Jul 15th, 2007 12:06 AM |
| your kids should mean more to u than any guy. explain to the guy that the kids just need a break and that u need to try out living w JUST the kids for a while. if he loves u he will understand ↑ |
| Name: Mohsen | Date: Jul 16th, 2007 6:22 PM |
| Name: tionma | Date: Jul 18th, 2007 4:47 PM |
| wanya did maiae tell you what i said ↑ |
| Name: chelsea | Date: Aug 3rd, 2007 2:49 PM |
| Name: angela | Date: Sep 7th, 2007 6:46 PM |
| move on...u will lose your kids fr good if u stay w this nnoying man....do u really luv this man??? ↑ |
| Name: Jodi | Date: Sep 9th, 2007 11:42 PM |
| I am in a similar situation right now. I have 2 children from my first marriage, ages 12 and 10 (both boys), and my 12-year-old hates my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I have 2 children together, ages 6 and 2 (boy and girl), and so this just adds to the already tough situation that we are all in. My 12-year-old is a very jealous son, jealous of his own siblings, but nonetheless jealous of my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I have lived together 2-3 times and I have had to come to the conclusion that if he is worth it, he will be there after my children are all grown up and can stand on their own. We do not live together anymore but we still care for and love each other very much. I could just get rid of him but I simply am not ready to let go. So, I just do not have him around my older children, I only see him when my children are with their father. It has been 7 years and my oldest son still hates him, mainly because he wishes that his father and I would get back together and remarry. My son tells me that he wishes that I had never met my boyfriend because his father and I could have worked things out. I left his father and I have tried to tell him that we are never going to be back together. But he thinks that if we would get back together, then things in his life would be so much better. He has a lot of emotional problems and is a really sensitive child. As far as the boyfriend goes, you have to side with your children right now. But, that does not mean that you cannot see him when your children aren't around and like I said if he loves you, truly loves you, then he will be there when the children are all grown and out on their own, and then you can focus on you and what you really want in a boyfriend - whether it is your current boyfriend or another. ↑ |
| Name: liz | Date: Oct 3rd, 2007 2:58 PM |
| girl you nd to mve on maybe his not the one for you i knw u said you love this guy but your kids come first!!!!!!!! your kids are always going to be there for you how do u knw your bf will??? dnt worry about nothing ok, everything wwill work out ↑ |
| Name: Adam | Date: Oct 3rd, 2007 3:23 PM |
| My mum has a bf she loves him the best ur kids mean more ten out dont they look just tell him to go i wish my mum would use kids fell like we are not importent ↑ |
| Name: dump dog | Date: Oct 8th, 2007 5:00 PM |
| my mom is dating a man how is so mean but hes never shown my mom but me. but my mom likes hem. some times i want to kill hem becuse hes mesing up my life. ps. what sond i dow ↑ |
| Name: guest | Date: Oct 10th, 2007 8:10 AM |
| I don’t thing most of this people understand what they talking about, I really think that dumping your boyfriend is NOT going to help,... It will make you unhappy, and you will be blaming your kids for that, and its not for sure that you will establish good relationship with your kids after that anyway…And it is not for sure they would like your next boyfriend,( if you will have one after all this stress )… Ideal solution is to keep everyone happy, and try to avoid confrontation on daily basis…And I should Say that, 15 y. old boys hate everything, including mums boyfriends. It is very difficult age, …All the best! ↑ |
| Name: brenda71 | Date: Oct 11th, 2007 3:17 PM |
| your children should come first ↑ |
| Name: dr truth | Date: Oct 24th, 2007 7:37 PM |
| move his ass out dont see him till he gets his own dam place let him be gi jo at his house ↑ |
| Name: Kate | Date: Oct 28th, 2007 11:31 AM |
| I hate mine because he sucks so bad ↑ |
| Name: robshawn | Date: Oct 30th, 2007 3:44 PM |
| do you still want to go out with me ↑ |
| Name: TME | Date: Nov 2nd, 2007 4:39 PM |
| I have a boyfriend who's 13 year old daughter is very disrespectful, rude and always has a comment or disagreement with me. He has full custody. She didn't know what a chore was ... never had to put a glass away or make her bed until I came around. I think sometimes parents do not see how damaging this could be to their children. The children are so spoiled they are rude. Parents think the child is cute and forget that they are not 5 anymore. It's not cute to be disrespectful and nasty to people. I do NOT agree that a parent should make their children number one. A parent is supposed to bring a child into the world to love, teach right from wrong, discipline when needed and hope the child grows up to be successful and happy. The world should not stop revolving (or your life) just because you have a child. That child will grow up and begin their own life with their own family. So why does everyone think the parent should make the child number one and not their future spouse/or friend. My boyfriends daughter is smart... waits until he is not around to insult me or make comments but acts sweet when he is around. So he doesn't see that she is capable of being so disrespectful. She always walks in between us and wants us to sleep downstairs together - she stares if she sees his hand on my leg. We have been together almost two years, like I said before, he has full custody of his daughter, and he doesn't shut the bedroom door when I stay the night - someone might break into the house and he won't hear it. My parents shut their door for privacy when I was young. My dad kissed my mom in front of us. My parents told me no and guess what - I turned out great. I would have been slapped if I disrespected my parents or an adult. She makes comments "my mommy is a size zero, what size are you" but then tells everyone she loves me. If I am around, she will not even hang around her friends - he thinks it is because she loves me so much but I know it's because of her jealousy. I am a very nice person but do feel that children need discipline so they are not disrespectful to adults. He wants us to move in together but refuses to move her out of her school district... 10 minutes away in a better school! So we have to buy a house together depending on her school district? That's why I think PARENTS need to start thinking more of themselves rather than revolving everything around their child. Why do you think children are so bad these days... they do not understand the word NO because they are brought up to be only number one to the parents. To me, it seems like parents are the children and the children are the adults. What is happening here? ↑ |
| Name: kelliebrown | Date: Nov 6th, 2007 12:44 PM |
| kids should come first and be the first priority not some boyfriend or girlfriend. adults have the rest of their lives to spend with their girlfriend or boyfriend after the kids are grown up. if you dont put your kids first cps can and will take them away and give them to someone who will put them first. i know many women who gave up their kids for some petty ass guy and i hope the guy is worth it. ↑ |
| Name: kaelyn | Date: Nov 6th, 2007 8:14 PM |
| MY NAME IS KAELYN.DO YOU LIKE ME? IF YOU DO YOU WILL HAVE TO MEAT ME FIRST TO MAKE U[P YOUR MIND. ↑ |
| Name: KINDLY FRIEND | Date: Nov 14th, 2007 9:08 PM |
Dear Lizard02,
My mom is with a complete loser and all of my siblings an i hate hime..... my mom is always telling us we cant hate anyone we just strongly dislike him ... but i disagree i HATE him .. i try to tell my mom but she never listens.. Well for advice i would listen to your kids because when you lose your boyfriend your kids may be gone out of your life and you will be lonely so just listen and love them to the end because all in all you kids come first. ↑ |
| Name: Rianna | Date: Nov 19th, 2007 2:17 AM |
My mum has a boyfriend to and I HATE HIM
YOU HAVE TO DECIDE OVER YOUR BOYFRIEND
OR
YOUR KIDS ↑ |
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