Name: capricornbaby Title: Pregnant by married lover

I am 26 years old and 7 weeks pregnant by my married boyfriend of 2 years. When he found out he completely freaked and told me to get rid of this baby. He also said that i am selfish and only think about myself and i would be mad to want to have this baby. He said that if his wife found out she would take everything from him and he would probably hate this child. I told him that he could walk away because i wasn't supposed to be able to get pregnant and i would do this on my own but he keeps saying no. Why should i have to give up something this important to me because he can't or won't walk away. He has already proven that he doesn't care  ?

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Name: Mahaillasmom • Date: 12/17/2007 15:57:47

Do not get rid of this miracle!!! This is not his decision! If you weren't suppose to get pregnant then this is your chance to be a mommy! So do not give into his threats or this leaving you!! You had to of known he had a wife so its not a supprise that he is now a chicken shit and wants to end his mistake! You can do this with out him and your family will be so happy that you did get pregnant. Leave him and have your bundle of joy and then take him to the cleaners on child support!! His wife won't have to love your baby, it will get plenty of love from elswhere! THink about that!  =

Name: mich • Date: 12/18/2007 15:36:57

Hi,

Please do not get rid of this baby. If you can't keep the baby please give me an email at michelle.miller@pobox.com My husband and I are trying to adopt a baby. If you are interested we would be honored to get to know you. Best of luck to you and your little one.

Love,
Michelle  =

Name: cjsims • Date: 01/14/2008 15:55:05

NO baby is a mistake. Don't abort, please. Don't listen to him. He knew he was married when he slept with you, now it is time for him to deal with the consequences. "Your sin will find you out." As my DH always says. If he doesn't want to be apart of the kids life, then tell him that is fine, cause he can't force you to go to the abortion clinic. Otherwise, if you decide you don't want to have to go through parenthood alone, then there are plenty of awesome couples on this forum, and all around the US and abroad that would LOVE to take on the responsibililty of the baby. Keep your head up, Jesus loves you.  =

Name: lindalu • Date: 01/14/2008 16:59:37

Capricornbaby I hope his reaction was not a surprise to you, most men who are cheaters will always go back to their wifes when this kind of thing happens. Can I ask why you was fraternizing with a married man? you must have known that it wasn't going to go any where.

Unfortunately now you will have to decide how to deal with this pregnancy alone, it seems he has made a decision. Sorry hopefully all turns out well for you!  =

Name: samesit • Date: 02/01/2008 11:28:33

I am going through the same stuff and need the very same advise you need. What do I do?  =

Name: rachelmayes • Date: 02/02/2008 18:15:18

samesit! I am interested in talking to u about your situation!Also if you do decide adoption is an option for you i would love it if you would consider are family for that! I had a daughter who died of a brain tumor a few years ago, and im scared to have another biological child! It would be a dream come true for us to add a child to our family! Thankyou for your time! Rachjelmayes@gmail.com or u can call 618-447-1038!  =

Name: capricornbaby • Date: 02/02/2008 22:51:06

I have been so devastated that I didn't remember to update this. I had a miscarriage on dec. 17th 2007 due to high blood pressure. I felt like I just wanted to die. I feel like such a wreck now. What do i do from here? Where do i go?  =

Name: Capricornbaby • Date: 02/05/2008 16:56:41

Hi Samesit all I can tell you to do is to be strong and do what is best for you and your baby. Don't expect him to leave his wife because they never do. Please don't fool yourself. Unfortunately, I had a miscarriage. It devastated me but there was nothing I could do to stop it from happening. If you need to talk to me please feel free to email me at lliana@caribsurf.com  =

Name: caucajun32 • Date: 02/07/2008 19:19:51

Your both selfish self centered people and there isn't one of you that is a better human being than the other. It takes two too cheat !

Yet you can pass him up in that catergory if you abort, that would be even more selfish.

May all the people that are going to be hurt when this gets out , and ......... it wil, his wife will find out, all the inlaws, his co-workers, his parents brothers and sister, nieces and nephews, the list goes on and on of the hurt you both are responsible for.

Your baby will have to deal with what ever comes, I would hope you will become more responsible.  =

Name: og217 • Date: 03/04/2008 15:11:50

Just what the world needs - your illegitimate child. Please.  =

Name: caldwell36854 • Date: 03/14/2008 21:49:24

my husband had an affair with an 18 year old and she got pregnant from this affair.i found out when she was 4 months pregnant with her child,just think about this :her child is two years old now and has never met his father she refused to go to court when the baby was born and so did he,him because he wanted to act like it never happened,her because she didn't want a step-mother for her child she wasnted him or nothing at all and she just new one day he would come running..i still keep track of her to this day,only because she needs to take him to court she's trying to raise this little boy on her own and it ain't that easy being a single mom wanting love and being young and wanting to go out.i myself have been pregnant 4 times,3 miscarriages and one set of 24.5 week twins.losing,is losing and it still hurts no matter who the father was,but look at it like this you have a chance to find a guy who loves youand only you and is happy as hell when you tell him your pregnant.leave the married men alone they are their no matter what they say for onething.......nomatter how bad their wifes are and they scream it.we (the wifes) are no better than the "other women" and the "the other women"are no better than us....the same game that got us to marry them is the same game they tell ya'll.....ya'll see what we did in them and it is so fake,if it was for real would that nice good guy be out cheating on his wife?  =

Name: caldwell36854 • Date: 03/14/2008 22:25:22

dear samesit,just let him go be happy for now and have your baby when the baby's born go sue for child support,don't tell his wife just let her find out when the papers come in the mail,let him explain to his wife,he knew when he left you at night that he went home to another women,now i'm not saying you wasn't wrong for not sending his puck azz packing when you found out he was married in the first place,just don't be foolish to tell the wife yourself that will be alot of anger she should give her husband.If he knows your cell number and house number change it leave him be,don't let him come over for no reason at all do what you should have at the start send him packing back to his wife.  =

Name: caldwell36854 • Date: 03/14/2008 23:01:42

oh,yes to add a mistake is a one night stand that you feel so bad about that you tell on yourself,months,years cheating is not a mistake it is a want or a need.  =

Name: annie7224 • Date: 03/15/2008 17:46:22

HOW ARE YOU DOING? annie7224@gamil.com Feel free to contact me directly instead if you prefer  =

Name: hurt • Date: 03/31/2008 10:42:04

Fell in love with a military officer, smitten and had a 6months relationship, got pregant and i was 4 months pregnant when he had to go to the states, when i found out he was married and have a 16yrs old daughter. He didnt tell me and didnt confessed till when i provoked him to confess. When he did, he said hes jst waiting for his retirement and will soon divorce his wife to be with me and with my son, Im confused now i busted him of taking his leave and seeing his family on a trip. Need advice and confused.  =

Name: ross4545 • Date: 04/11/2008 22:05:49

I am so sorry and can't imagine how hard that must be for you. There are many families including mine who are looking to open adopt. I am looking for someone who would like to put their child up for adoption but still be in their life.
Please email me if you need help or support or if you are interested in this type of situation.
ross.4545@hotmail.com...
You are already in my prayers.  =