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Name: feebee [ Original Post ] Hope you can help with this one! I have a stepson of 30+ and 2 kids with my husband (just 10 and 12). My stepson has been a complete a...hole since day one. He lived with us when we got married 15 yrs ago as his mum was out of picture altogether and was as awkward as it is possible for a teenager to be. We spent a fortune getting him thru uni and then emigrated only to have him turn up on our doorstep penniless as usual. My husband never saw a problem but I thought at 20+ he should be doing ANYTHING to earn some money rather than me working 60hours a week to make ends meet. He got married (to a wealthy family) and now has everything handed to him on a plate. We became the 'lowlife family' and if there was a trip on the 'boat' to be had he would just dump us for whatever better came along, even not turning up to our daughters 5th birthday as he was too tired from sunning on the boat all day! Last year he didn't even bother to send me a 40th birthday card, let alone a present and now I have just had enough of him. He's a grown adult and quite frankly I'd rather my own children had nothing to do with him as I don't want them learning to be so disrespectful and thoughtless. Husband thinks the sun shines out of his proverbial - what can I do? I'm fed up with feeling so annoyed at the kids seeing him and don't want to feel so bitter all the time - would just like to forget he exists? ↓

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Name: NCmom | Date: Dec 21st, 2006 8:53 AM

i know the feeling. my Mother-in-law is a REAL b****!! i finally had to put my foot down with my husband, i told him it was either me or his mother. he thought she could do no wrong. but i was the daughter-in-law from h***. we haven't talked to her in about a yr. your stepson seems like a real jerk (no offense). but some people get like that. alot of families break up over things like this. i hope it doesn't have to come to that, but you're just going to have to put your foot down and explain to him. good luck!! ↑

Name: momoffour | Date: Dec 30th, 2006 9:51 PM

I am sorry for what your going thru. I always hear these statistics that say money is one of the top reasons for divorce but I think family tops that. I too had the MIL from hell and it took my come to the breaking point till my DH finally realized it. Now that there all gone we have the most happy family unit. Your just going to have to get him to wake up and hopefully you can before your relationship gets ruined or you get to resentful, because believe me you will. I do not understand why you even have to deal with him though if he's out of the house? Its your family and home. Tell your DH you respect his right to see him but you don't feel you need to be hurt any further. Good Luck...... ↑

Name: Lizzi | Date: Jan 6th, 2007 9:30 PM

I don't think there's a whole lot you can do feebee. I mean he does exist like it or not and he is always going to be part of the family. I think all you can really do is keep your thoughts to yourself and bite your tongue when he's around and hope he doesn't come around much! ↑

Name: marija | Date: Jan 6th, 2007 10:35 PM

reply in kind....act the same way he does...dont invite him to anything...dont pay for anything and if you have a spare room in your house....fill it up quickly, just in case he needs it to crash...if and when he comes around...take yourself and the kids off to a movie...pointedly ask when he has to go and then say i'll be home around the same time. He's an arse...acted like an arse...and you have let him get away with it for 15years...which makes you stupid...sorry but you should have nipped this in the bud earlier.. the molehill became a mountain good luck hope all works out for you ↑