I'm 27 years old, and about 4 months ago my mother died. My father was in jail at the time, thus leaving my 5 younger siblings with no one to care for them. I hadn't seen my siblings since I was 18, but I brought them from New York to live with me in California. The three oldest of my siblings are all teens and are seriously out of control. My 17 year old brother has some drug issues and is always in trouble. My 16 year old sister is pregnant. My 14 year old sister has alcohol issues and she doesn't eat. They never listen to anything I say, and they're always just doing something crazy and stupid.
I don't know what to do to get them under control, and I don't know what to do to help them. I'm trying to handle them while at the same time, looking out for the younger two, who are 8 and 5. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks. ↓
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| Name: me | Date: May 17th, 2006 10:50 AM |
| sounds like you need toget your older siblings medical attention... all of them.. The 17 yr old and 14 yr old need rehab and the 16 yr old needs prenatal care. With the 2 in treatment centers, this should make it easier to care for the other 3. ↑ |
| Name: Rachel | Date: May 17th, 2006 6:46 PM |
| Well, things have improved a bit. And I really want us all to stay together, and I want to work things out. I'm hoping to find some way to deal with all this without anyone having to go to a treatment center. Do you have any ideas on how to do that? ↑ |
| Name: Lynn | Date: May 17th, 2006 11:09 PM |
| It makes sense that you would them all to stay together. I think that you should try your best to do that. Eventually, they will come around. ↑ |
| Name: Julie | Date: May 17th, 2006 11:21 PM |
| Everything gets messed up when one of the parents is in jail doesn't it? I'm so sorry that this has happened to your family. I'm not sure how to help, but I will keep you in my prayers. So may God bless you and keep you. Best wishes. ↑ |
| Name: Jenny | Date: May 18th, 2006 10:51 AM |
| Gosh you have ALOT on your plate and I feel for you! It is sad to say this but not much good will come out of anything with the 17 year old. For the 16 yr old, you can only hope that when she has this baby the maternal instincts kick in and she will be a good mother, Do your best right now to show her responsiblities and how to be a good parent. There may be little help for the 14 yr old but it is always worth a shot, Counseling maybe most of all show her love and praise her for the good she does and scold her for the wrong! The 8 and 5 year old's are the ones you need to concentrate on right now. They are still young enought that you will have a BIG influence on their life and lead them away from going down the same road their older siblings have traveled. My heart goes out ot you and if you need someone else to talk too please email me @ jennygirl47803@yahoo.com. Good luck ↑ |
| Name: Serina to Rachel | Date: May 22nd, 2006 10:08 AM |
Hi ,
I am so sorry for your lose! You have taken on a great deal! I I do understand that you want all of you to stay together but I think a treatment center is the only wat top help or at least counseling ...actually for all of you.They have had the odds stacked against them and you too.A counseler could help you deal withthem and they could get the help they need with out being sent away.It might come to a piont that the 17 & 14 yrs olds might need to be sent away to get the help they need.
Hon, I am so sorry for all you have to deal wish I wish I couls help!May God bless you and gfve you strength, peace and happiness! ↑ |
| Name: Lizard02 | Date: Jun 14th, 2006 12:39 AM |
| I think, unfortunately, that you need to target the younger 2. The older ones are already on a path that they need professional help to change, but you can help the younger 2. The 14-year old needs medical help. You say the 17-year old has drug issues - what drug? Pot, no big deal. But coke, crack? Rehab and complete location change, or there's no hope, from my own personal experience with my sister. The pregnant one needs you. She may be savable if she wants what's good for the baby. Is there a father who cares? You have chosen a really hard road, but I think that you are awesome for trying! Even if you can save one of them--even if it's the unborn baby--if will have been worth it. ↑ |
| Name: nuveeel | Date: Jul 14th, 2006 10:09 AM |
| Name: da man | Date: Aug 6th, 2006 6:19 PM |
| send dem to da childrens home LOL ↑ |
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| Name: bruce | Date: Aug 29th, 2006 3:03 PM |
| I would bring together and tell them if they don't start to behave you wont take them in and they will become wards of the state the 18yrold wont care because he is an adult I woulld tell the rules and the punishment for breaking them then the first time one of them broke a rule punish him or her and tell them thats their last chance for staying a family.belive it or not try spanking if done right it might work if not at least you tried your best thats all uou can do good luck ↑ |
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| Name: Beckie | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 9:58 AM |
| I feel that the best thing for you to do is to try going to family counselling and explain your sitution and try to get to know each other because as you have said you have seen them since you were 18. They are probably still suffering inside over your's and their mother's death. I hope it works out for you x ↑ |
| Name: to rachel | Date: Oct 6th, 2006 10:07 AM |
| remember a good barebottom spanking goes along way they are not to old to be spanked ↑ |
| Name: rafat | Date: Oct 8th, 2006 5:42 PM |
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