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Name: Crissy
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HI, I am the aunt of a 13 year old autistic child. I am actually out of state as well as his grandmother (who is his caretaker). He is in his other aunt's care at this time.

I just got a call from her and she had just been in a struggle with him over getting to school. She had gone into his room when he was supposed to be ready and he was still in his towel on the internet (after he had been given an hour).

She talked to him and he got ready, but couldn't and wouldn't find his key, so she moved to turn off the electricity to his computer. He followed her and hit her a few times, then raised a screwdriver (?!) to her. She gave him a look and he put it down.

He won't talk to anyone and I don't know what to do about it. Any input you can give would be appreciated.

Thank You,

Crissy
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Name: mondo | Date: Oct 25th, 2006 3:11 PM
Wow, that is scary.. it sounds as though he understands enough to use the Internet which could also indicate that he can reason to an extent and is actually trying to get his way as in tantrum but heading into dangerous waters if he is using a weapon... age 13 ican be tough for any child but consult with an Autism specialist (the school should be able to give you a contact or bring you together to discuss behavior planning and modification)- there should be consequences for this behavior wether he has Autism or not. Getting rid of the Internet would be 'nipping his bad behavior in the bud" even if he puts up a colossal fight, he needs to know he is not in charge and that violent behavior is not acceptable. He sounds pretty high functioning from what you describe him doing (getting himslef ready for school, being on the internet, looking for his key, etc)- Structure is always a part of a helpful way in getting these kids to organize their day/time successfully, behavior always interferes at one point or another but at least they have some expectations to help set a stage for their role to play in this world. It isn't easy i know but from experience i have found that getting angry over a period months whenever my son would have an outburst of aggressive behavior, getting right mad back at him would make him back down eventually and over time the behavior has only become very very seldom, usually set off by a secondary factor which he is unable to express easily or at all!! (he is non-verbal), things like not feeling well due to other factors-ie-ingrown toenail which i didn't realize he had, or a head ache, constipation, etc.)-- Autism can make their victims kind of like a puzzle which we have to put together for them to be able to see the bigger picture of their worlds....
i hope you and your family can find some help and some solutions before he gets out of control, i wish you Godspeed in your effort and courage to find a way to help him and yourselves. 

Name: onlinedizzy | Date: Oct 26th, 2006 3:49 AM
My son is 6 1/2 has some language and can use a computer but wouldn't be described as high functioning. Stopping doing a task that they are really enjoying it can be very difficult. Your nephew may need to be reminded several times that it is time to finish computer. A timer can also help and you can then say ten more minutes and finish. I would recommend a schedule for the child for the morning. eg. first get dressed, have breakfast, brush teeth, then computer, then (time) school bus/ get in car for school. The key needs to be kept in the same place all the time on a hook near his door maybe. It is very difficult for these kids to organise themselves. In the long term I don't think getting rid of the Internet is necessarily the right thing to do, but there should be consequences- it could be banned for a while. The computer is a great tool to use as a reward. He could earn time on the computer . Once your nephew realizes the quicker he gets ready for school the more time there is for computer it could be an incetive to get him moving in the morning. Even very high functioning children find it very difficult to organize themselves and need reminding what to do or be told how to get started. Be very clear.. don't just say get ready for school, say put your school clothes on. Lay them out on the bed if necessary. Schedules are great. Give him time to finish what he is doing. My son cant remember where he put anything down and I label the shelves with pictures and words eg. shoes, hats.... Good luck! 

Name: Michelle Bowick | Date: Oct 26th, 2006 8:44 AM
Hi Crissy, I am from Australia and there is a woman here thet is great with things of this nature. Her name is Sue Larkey and has some great strategies with dealing with Autistic kids. Apparently alot have this same problem. I know that visual aids work well and perhaps a clock with an alarm - you set the alarm for the set period of time the child is allowed on the computer, if the child finishes at the appropriate time they can be given a small reward and gradually a pattern may form. Autistic children can never bear to leave something unfinished and sometimes this makes them not want to get off the computer. Im not a professional but if you would like more info about Sue Larkey I can give you her website info - sorry I dont have it on me right now. 

Name: jacksmom | Date: Jan 27th, 2007 11:37 PM
Aggression is something that I've read can be caused by genetic mutations. Sounds wierd I know... but we had our Jack tested by Dr. Amy Yasko's group and he was predisposed to react to vaccines and acquire autism. And there are genetic reasons why some kids will become violent. The good news... Dr. Yasko is having great results in helping kids recover from ASD and she uses genetic info. to help people to know which supps to take to COUNTERACT the genetic weaknesses. If you can't get testing done... I would suggest going to a health food store and talk with someone knowledgeable about supplements. Something like magnesium citrate might be calming. Valerian can be calming. But don't give supplements without reading up on them. Find a good naturopathic MD or chiropractor and get help. I certainly do recommend cod liver oil. Fish oil has been shown to help with mood. Below is ....

Jack's story....

After the 12 mos. vaccines my son gradually slipped into autism. He was head-banging, hand-flapping, twirling, lost speech, lost eye contact and he just withdrew.

Now two years later.... no head-banging, no twirling, no flapping, has eye contact and is starting to verbalize again. And... he has Down Syndrome to boot. :) Yes... even kids with DS get autism. Actually they get it at a higher rate.

What helped him? First I give God praise.... our son wouldn't be here without Him and we prayed and I believe He guided us. Second... supplements. Especially cod liver oil. I recommend Green Pastures CLO with the X factor. Check out Dr. Mary Megson's work on the web. http://www.diet-studies.com/megson.html Our Jack healed gradually... but he is healing. I actually had to make myself GET USED TO him not twirling everything any more!

Also check out Dr. Amy Yasko's work. www.holistichealth.com

We give Jack alot of supps - cod liver oil, probiotic, magnesium citrate, tart cherry and recently we added cilantro. He takes some other things too but each child is unique. It helps to find a good naturopathic MD or chiropractor. Don't use supps until you research things for yourself. Cilantro for example...should possibly not be used until some other detox has been done.

Don't give up. There is hope! And... I will be frank here.... many mainstream doctors know squat about how to heal autism. Don't let that throw you. There are people who do know how to help. God bless you! Love, Jack's Mom :) goodplans4you@yahoo.com

Jack's story....

After the 12 mos. vaccines my son gradually slipped into autism. He was head-banging, hand-flapping, twirling, lost speech, lost eye contact and he just withdrew.

Now two years later.... no head-banging, no twirling, no flapping, has eye contact and is starting to verbalize again. And... he has Down Syndrome to boot. :) Yes... even kids with DS get autism. Actually they get it at a higher rate.

What helped him? First I give God praise.... our son wouldn't be here without Him and we prayed and I believe He guided us. Second... supplements. Especially cod liver oil. I recommend Green Pastures CLO with the X factor. Check out Dr. Mary Megson's work on the web. http://www.diet-studies.com/megson.html Our Jack healed gradually... but he is healing. I actually had to make myself GET USED TO him not twirling everything any more!

Also check out Dr. Amy Yasko's work. www.holistichealth.com

We give Jack alot of supps - cod liver oil, probiotic, magnesium citrate, tart cherry and recently we added cilantro. He takes some other things too but each child is unique. It helps to find a good naturopathic MD or chiropractor. Don't use supps until you research things for yourself. Cilantro for example...should possibly not be used until some other detox has been done.

Don't give up. There is hope! And... I will be frank here.... many mainstream doctors know squat about how to heal autism. Don't let that throw you. There are people who do know how to help. God bless you! Love, Jack's Mom :) goodplans4you@yahoo.com 

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