Name: Sheila Title: Child Support

My ex and I had a seperation aggreement with child support and visitation regulated.
He took my child to a therapist and it was agreed that the child would spend equal time at each of our houses. He has decided to stop paying child support, because equal time is spent at each home. He makes more money than me and refuses to help pay for extra curricular activites, or winter clothes etc.
Any suggestions?  ?

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Name: Raina • Date: 01/18/2006 17:57:48

Hi Sheila. Here's a thought. Keep the issues focused on helping his child, not helping you. Perhaps letting your ex know that all issues between you and he aside, your hope in co-parenting with him is simply to offer the best collective care to your child in the big picture. Consider telling him that you understand you each now have equal expenses in raising him/her - of which you are capable of (food, shelter, day to day clothes, etc.), however, you find it more difficult to provide your child with the extras you would like him/her to have, such as a new winter coat or lessons. Maybe by telling him that you are not looking for support he'll be more responsive to contributing to the individual extras that will keep 'his' child happy and warm. By always keeping the focus on the best interest of your child he may realize that buying a coat or enrolling in an art program is only helping his child, not you. Some parents get too caught up thinking they are providing for their ex-partners and lose sight of the fact thay they are providing for their children. Hope this helps!  =

Name: Casey • Date: 01/19/2006 08:36:07

He should still be paying you child support. Have you been to court yet to have a judge set an amount? If not you need to do that. I have the same custody situation with my ex. We both have the same amount of days of visitation but before we went in to see the judge we agreed he would pay me 50 dollars a week. When we got before the judge the judge looked at me and said.. Are you sure this is enough child support for you? And like a fool I said yes, but it is in no way near enough. So I think where you make less money than him he should be paying you child support. I'd look into it. good luck.  =

Name: Rae • Date: 01/19/2006 16:23:40

Sorry to hear that.I think a good way to deal with this is legally through the state.Child support gets taken out of my ex husbands check every month.This way you'll never have to deal with it or talk about it.Contact your local child support agency(district attorneys office)I had full custody of my son till he was 3 then I had full physical custody and we shared sole custody.Now we both share physical and sole.(He's friends with his lawyer)A child support aggrement was set at 259.00 per month 6 years ago which still stands.My son is now 9. No it doesnt pay for much. He's never paid a cent of childcare,sports,clothes, busspasses for school, nothing. Since he got half custody last year, hes seen him 6 times.Funny hes and electrician and owns a home and drives an infinity suv. My best bet is to not waste my energy on fighting with him over it. Its best to just take what he is willing to give and the rest is up to you. No its not fair,and we struggle but be proud you are the parent who provides your child with his/her needs. Its a great thing!  =

Name: afro_sista • Date: 02/12/2006 23:07:24

I would suggest retaining a lawyer if you really need the child suppport money  =

Name: Christie • Date: 10/08/2007 01:14:19

My husband pays child support for 3 other kids and since he had that set up he and I had two kids together will that effects the ammount he pays to his other kids even if the two we had together live with us?  =

Name: patty • Date: 10/09/2007 19:29:34

He can't just decide not to honor the contract, its called contempt cf court.
Just because the time is 50/50 that does not mean that he is taking her shopping and getting all the supplies that she needs.
Keep all of your receipts and give him a copy so that he will know monthly what you are spending to support her. Explain the same copies will be going to court.  =

Name: autumn_leaves • Date: 10/11/2007 01:48:27

Why should he pay u child support? When u have them, u support them, when he has them, he will. Agree to split costs of activities, 20 bucks for this activity, 20 for that. Besides that, u should be responsible for your house, and him for his.  =

Name: Bigge • Date: 12/13/2007 21:18:26

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Name: melissa • Date: 04/23/2008 13:31:01

can you help me  =

Name: pryer • Date: 07/01/2008 19:43:23

how do i find out if my husband is paying childsupport for other children?  =

Name: pryer • Date: 07/01/2008 19:47:10

if my husband has 3 kids that he pay child support for but is married to me and we also have 3 kids can his hildsupport be lowered? he only brings home $200 bi/weekly  =

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