I hate my dad but i am forced to see him.
he put my mum through hell.i have to see him.
any tips to help me? ↓
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| Name: emj | Date: Dec 11th, 2005 11:47 AM |
i dnt no what 2 say
sorry ↑ |
| Name: tb | Date: Dec 12th, 2005 7:16 AM |
| Sometimes relationships don't work out. I'm not sure what your dad did but I see you have alot of anger where he is involved. Try to hang in there. Things will work out for you. ↑ |
| Name: to emily | Date: Dec 12th, 2005 11:06 AM |
| you have every right to have the feelings you have towards your dad. I am sure you have good reason for feeling that way. You should have the choice whether or not you wish to visit with him or not. Maybe you just need time to take everything in and look at the big picture. Maybe you could just try to tell your dad you need some time away from him to think things over and come to terms with whatever it is he did. good luck to you!!! ↑ |
| Name: Mrmom_Kenny | Date: Dec 12th, 2005 1:41 PM |
| It really hurts me to see that you hate your father, but I can say that you everyone should be able to talk to their parents when they have been hurt from someones action. Try talking to him and let him know that you are really hurt by the situation, and if he's not willing to listen then he has a problem, and you need to ask for some time away from him to get your thoughts together, depending on your age(which shouldn't matter) you should be able to decide if you want to see him. Parents should be open minded and discuss when theirs a problem, Yes we always want what's best for our children and sometimes we make mistakes( were only human ) So talk to your parents and it maybe the best conversation the family has had in awhile. Good Luck ↑ |
| Name: jen | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 8:54 AM |
| You have rights too. If seeing your father is not in your best interest and things are going on there that are harmful, you do not have to see him. If it is more than just normal teenage or petty things make this clear to your mom. If this does not work than call someone who will listen to you. ↑ |
| Name: Chelsie | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 11:17 PM |
| I was sort of in the same position and I know that is miserable. My father treated my mom absolutely horrible and divorced when I was tiny. I chose to see my father up until a few years ago, when I was old enough to realize the things that he had done, etc. I have tried my hardest to get my father out of my life. When I was younger, I never really realized that everything my father did was a show. He didn't *really* want to see me, and honestly he could have cared less. Both you and I share a hatred for our fathers, and alas I don't really know how to help you any better than I do myself. Talk with your mother or a close relative and see if there is not a way that you can stop having to visit your father. If worse comes to worse, take him to court. If you have a step-father, he could legally adopt you which means that you would never have to see your father again, unless you choose. ↑ |
| Name: ashley | Date: Dec 24th, 2005 11:25 PM |
| i hate my dad as well. i feel so guilty tho if i go to court and refuse to see him because i feel like he does love me regardless of all the mean things he has said or done to me. ↑ |
| Name: scoter | Date: Dec 28th, 2005 11:32 AM |
| I have the exacte same problem and its eating me up inside.I took my anger out on myself.Bad idea.I think the best idea is to write everything down and if you think it would help show it to your mum.Never forget that your number one in your life ↑ |
| Name: bianca | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 9:25 PM |
| you have the right to be mad, however he is your father. a lot of kids get mixed up in their parents problems but dont really now what happened on both sides. only you know what you have witnessed but the most important question is, has your mother forgiven him? if she has then you should to. you will never know how to move on with your life if you cant forgive your own blood.forgiving doesnt mean being someones friend, it means forgiving the situation. think about it ,while youre out hating your father hes moving on not letting hate hold him back. thats why you also need to move on. good luck ↑ |
| Name: Kerry | Date: Jan 14th, 2006 9:49 AM |
january 14. my birthday. everything was going well until my dad got mad again. i have a bit of a drug problem and he has a bit of a CRAZY problem. so this year, for my birthday, i got another black eye
i know what your feeling ↑ |
| Name: suzy | Date: Jan 15th, 2006 4:07 PM |
i have no idea what could possibly help.
you're in a very difficult situation,so it's diffucult to know what to
do.no body in this world should be forced to see
someone that they don't want to see.maybe talking to your mom about it can help?although,i'm not in that position so i don't know. ↑ |
| Name: jack | Date: Jan 16th, 2006 1:08 PM |
My dad is a raging lunitic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111111111
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| Name: Anonymus | Date: Jan 19th, 2006 12:15 AM |
| It's ok my dad puts me through hell to and i just ignore it. act like he doesn't exist or else he'll push u over the edge 'n' you'll end up killin urself. I've tried it. when he yells, zone it all out. ↑ |
| Name: Noelle | Date: Jan 20th, 2006 9:43 PM |
| I hate my dad but I am forced to live with him. So, it could be worse for you. Nineteen years of emotional abuse from him, and watching him rip apart my family because of his ego has made me completely hate him. I would suggest that you see him if you must, and try to find something good about him. Your mom did marry him for a reason, and all people are flawed. And take comfort in knowing that you won't make the mistakes he did, and that you wil treat your family better. Good luck! ↑ |
| Name: olivia | Date: Jan 21st, 2006 8:48 PM |
| how old are you if your 12,13,14 you don't have to as long as you talk to the people who operrates it ↑ |
| Name: meg | Date: Jan 22nd, 2006 2:36 PM |
| don't see him,, i gave up seeing mine. Nobody can force you to see him, you are a person of your own you can make your own decisions. You should not have have to put up with it...so just don't see him. ↑ |
| Name: JARRIT | Date: Jan 26th, 2006 2:10 PM |
| Name: Jonelle | Date: Jan 27th, 2006 12:44 AM |
I'm in trouble with my dad too...i try not to use the word hate but it's nothing but hate and anger i feel about him. HE is the worst dad ever...pisses me off all the time. I live with him...i feel like i live in hell...he doesn't let me have fun, go out, shop, have friends over....he's awful...my mom should have divorced him and sent him back to his crazy family ....
i just pray for god to make him better which is almost impossible ↑ |
| Name: Anita | Date: Jan 29th, 2006 5:40 AM |
| Name: saz | Date: Jan 29th, 2006 12:40 PM |
| I hate my dad too. He was always mean to my mum too, so when she finally got the courage to move out he blamed it all on me and my brother. He turned us against her, so we didnt see her for nealy a year. Now my dad has met a girlfriend and doesnt want to know us. He keeps yelling at us saying that we are being nasty to his girlfriend and she's not helping. She wants us out and dad isnt doing anything to stop her. He leaves us alone all the time while he goes up his girlfriends, he's there now. My mum only lets us round hers on Fridays because her boyfriend doesnt like us, so its just me and my brother. ↑ |
| Name: Taylor | Date: Jan 30th, 2006 4:34 PM |
| Name: haley | Date: Feb 1st, 2006 5:56 PM |
| i HATE MY DAD mainly y i came to this chatroom ↑ |
| Name: haley | Date: Feb 1st, 2006 5:57 PM |
| Name: nikki | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 3:07 PM |
| hey emily you are not alone my dad is the same way... but i dont see him. he put my mom through hell to and all my life my mom raised me ↑ |
| Name: gemma | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 5:00 PM |
| Name: blutzlebob | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 8:51 PM |
| i have no idea what to say ↑ |
| Name: blutzlelebob | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 8:53 PM |
| Name: Agnes | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 9:06 PM |
| In most states, if you are 14 or older, you can decline visitation with your dad. You and your mom might look in that. ↑ |
| Name: RHMJ | Date: Feb 6th, 2006 11:57 AM |
| Man, I really hate my dad he really pisses me off sometimes cause he will only take my step moms side and then me and him get into it and he always gets pissed off at me. My step mom just tries to get me into trouble... I am getting really tired of my dad and step mom... ↑ |
| Name: To Emily | Date: Feb 9th, 2006 6:25 AM |
How Exactly did he put your mum through hell ?
If you don't care for your dad say to him, Dad i don't think we should see eachother any more and they can't force you to see him if you dont want to ↑ |
| Name: paul | Date: Feb 12th, 2006 11:54 PM |
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