I am a stepmother to two lovely boys aged 9 and 11. Their Dad is the best Dad to them! I have 2 children of my own - 14 and 16 still living at home. We are a happy little unit..
My DH's ex wife is horrible. She became seriously horrible when she found out DH was serious about me. She left him for another man 3 years ago and took the children. She said she would come back several times during their separation. Once she sent him and the children away on holiday so she could move back home. She rang when they were 30 minutes from home saying she was waiting for them but when they got home, she wasn't there. The children were devastated and so was DH. To this day she has no idea that what she did caused hurt - that's so spooky!
Her behaviour over this last year has been awful and communications between DH and ExW completely broke down. They share 50/50 care and custody.
She recently announced she intended to take them overseas on holiday for three months. DH offered 6 weeks so she went to lawyers and threatened court. The debate has become about how bad a father he is and how terrible it is for her children to have to be with him (and me). She said she needed to take them on this tip because I have a son with Aspergers and because I had breast cancer last year. She says he is no good as a Dad because he used to travel for work and he once missed a parent teacher interview.
TBH, I am worried about her state of mind. She doesn't seem to have it together at all. She introduced herself to me for the first time 2 weeks ago - even though she came to my house months ago to shout at me in front of my children (3 days after my surgery). We have seen each other several times since then.
I feel like I am Alice in Wonderland and no one is listening or seeing what's really there. I think there is a real danger in her taking the children for so long but I don't want to create a worse situation. Any advice or comments would be very welcome. Mostly I think I just want some support so I can give DH support. ↓
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