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I hate that all these teens keep coming on here and are pregnant and have no clue how to take care of themselves, yet are going to be a parent. It is so unfair that they get a baby and I still don't have one. ↓
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| Name: April Sue | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 3:52 PM |
| I have been ready to be a parent since I graduated college and have waited, because I wanted to bring my child into a stable situation. I know that this was my choice, so I am not complaining about that so much as the number of unwed teens you get "knocked-up" all the time. Does nobody understand how to use contraception? ↑ |
| Name: April Sue | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:00 PM |
| Sorry about the rant but it is just so frustrating to try for months to get pregnant and every month there is another 2 or more girls on her saying "I'm 18..." or "I'm 16...and pregnant". It just bothers me and I feel it is unfair. Not really their fault that I can not get pregnant, just makes me feel hurt that I'm not. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah M | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:02 PM |
| Well in some girls defense I was a Unwed teen. But I knew what I was getting myself into and I knew my bf would stay with me. I now have a 2 1/2yr old daughter who has never suffered because me and her dad have given her a great life. I went to school with my daughter and choose to stay home with her instead of go to college. I understand if your talking about the ones who are acting stupid or do it on purpose knowing that they can not support that child but not all teen moms are immature and some of us do know how to take car of ourselves. BTW I was out of my moms house before I even concieved. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah M | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:05 PM |
| Oh and I dont think marrage has anything to do with if you can start a family or not but thats just my opinion and I am really not tryingto argue lol ↑ |
| Name: April Sue | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:08 PM |
No, I understand that. Like I've said before my mother was a teen mom. She was 19 when she had my older brother. Yes there are some who are responsible and do a great job. There are just as many who can't take the responsibility and should not have had the child.
It's mostly becasue I am a teacher and I live in an area where there are too many teen mom's and their kids come to school and just can't cope. They are just not properly cared for, or they are living with an aunt, or grandma. The parents have the kids and then take no responsiblity for them. ↑ |
| Name: April Sue | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:10 PM |
| I have my opinion about marriage and having children, and it is in disagreement with others. I'm not the type of person to condemn others for their opinions or decisions. But I also have my own opinions. ↑ |
| Name: April Sue | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:12 PM |
| I'm mostly just frustraited that I am not pregnant yet and so many people are just like "Oops, I'm pregnant." I'm being a little immature in that I feel it is just not fair. I'm not trying to argue with others just get my feelings out. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah M | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:12 PM |
| Yes see that i can completely understand. If you and your mate cant care for a child DONT have sex simple as that cause even birthcontrol and condoms dont work 100%. But I will defend till the end the teen mothers who do make it and do care for thier children and take care of them. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah M | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:13 PM |
| Yes we ALL have opinions lol. Yea I dont like the immature girls either. ↑ |
| Name: spankyx0711 | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:13 PM |
| I have to agree with you April Sue. I'm 18 and pregnant and the first thing I thought of when I found out was how unfair. I felt sooooo selfish at the fact that I, an unmarried (at the time uneducated) teen could get pregnant yet there are people out there more financially able and psychologically able to have children who can't. I really feel for women who can't/or have difficulty having children. It just goes to show you that God works in mysterious ways ↑ |
| Name: Sarah M | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:15 PM |
| I think if more of the teen girls would come her asking for advise and not being so immature and saying stupid stuff or just stuff that doesnt make sense more people would see that all teen mothers are not immature and can handle thier children ↑ |
| Name: nicole miller | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:16 PM |
This is going to sound a little defensive... but I don't think that the age is the issue. There are plenty of 20 year olds (or even 25 year olds) that find themselves pregnant and are no more informed than the particular 18-year-old that you're talking about.
I'm 18, and WAS married when I fell pregnant (granted, I am not anymore). More importantly I know what I'm doing, and took the time to "do my homework", so to speak, before getting pregnant. ↑ |
| Name: connie | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:19 PM |
April I am sorry how you feel. But also remember there has been some fake post too, so I wouldn't think to much about the posts on here.
I am sending baby vibes to you right now, so hopefully you will get them. ↑ |
| Name: spankyx0711 | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:19 PM |
| I agree with you too Sarah. After I found out I was pregnant, I wrapped up highschool and got my associates degree at a state college. After that I went on to get my mortgage license and I'm not a mortgage lender working for an established company. I still think it's unfair to my child that she has to come into this world RIGHT NOW. I love her to death, I just wish I would of fell pregnant with her 5 or 6 years down the road. What makes me mad, and I think April Sue would agree, are the girls that want a baby just to have one and are barely out of high school and have the iq of mayonaisse. Granted, your iq has nothing to do with your abilities as a mother, your concept of responsibility does. And getting pregnant before you yourself grow up or before you can have a stable job/career is somewhat irresponsible. I consider myself and my pregnancy irresponsible so I'm not pointing fingers or putting anyone down ↑ |
| Name: Logan | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:22 PM |
| April, hang in there, it will happen for us.... I will bet when one of us becomes pregnant all others TTC will to... BABY DUST!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: April Sue | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:25 PM |
| It is more the issue of them being irresponsible, and less about the age. ↑ |
| Name: April Sue | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:26 PM |
| Name: SaRaH | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 4:52 PM |
I hope you do get pregnant soon April, but what you said about stupid teens getting pregnant is way out of line, I wont say anything because it will just start a arguement.
Just please be more aware of what you are saying before you do. ↑ |
| Name: momo | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 5:03 PM |
April Sue...I am sorry that it has been so hard for you to fall preggo...I can really understand your feelings. When my son was born with huge heart problems and almost didn't survive..I thought how can all these drug addicts and teens moms have these healthy babies and I have to go through this process of wathcing my child suffer..And i learned that its something that is out of our hands and sometimes we take our anger and frustration caused by this grief and try to put it on someone else..Its normal and i think what everone else needs to undestand is that your not trying to start an arguement nor are you trying to condemn people, but your expressing your emotions and grief that only way you know how right now. ..
I know our problems are different but i know the feeling of that grief..and just know that its okay...and while you are strong..its okay to feel the way you do..I am there for you ↑ |
| Name: nicole miller | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 5:22 PM |
Sorry it took a while to come back and read this post ( I was wasting my time in another thread, apparently, lol ).
Thank you for the correction April Sue, I think that's what all of us young women wanted to hear. : )
I understand how frustrating that must be. And I truly am sorry that it's taking you this long to fall pregnant. Just remember that you're doing all that you can do in the meantime. Chatting on here is probably a good way to pass the days. At least you're hearing others' pregnancy experiences, getting advice, and when you do write us to tell us you're expecting you'll have a ton of girls who will be so excited for you! Of course we're excited for everyone who starts posting... but the fact that we were all there from the start for you will make it that much more special. And just like everything else that is painful, once you get the positive result you'll forget how much it sucked waiting for it. Hang in there. ↑ |
| Name: April Sue | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 7:58 PM |
| Momo - thanks for your comment. You pretty much summed it all up. That is exactly how I am feeling. I hope your little one is doing well now. ↑ |
| Name: April Sue | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 8:02 PM |
SaRaH - I'm sorry I offended you. I did truly only mean the stupid teens not all teen moms. I know that many of the wonderful women and moms on here were or are young moms. As someone else said most of them are just fakers and I need to just ignore the post. Which I usually do. This was mostly in response to the post by Lokita. You are all probably right about her being a lier and I shouldn't have let it get to me.
So again I am sorry for offending you. ↑ |
| Name: SaRaH | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 8:07 PM |
oh no you didnt offend me! Lol i'm 21...i havent been a teenager for a while now.
Just there are some good teen mums out there that are in horrible situations and i hate seeing them getting clumped together with the rest of the idiots.
That Lokita or whatever is such a fake post, she is a attention seeking idiot, try and ignore her.
You will be pregnant in time! just enjoy the "making the baby" part :) And stop stressing so much! it will happen when you least expect it xoxo ↑ |
| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Dec 19th, 2006 10:34 PM |
| April Sue: I'm 19 and accidently got pregnant. But I'm married and I'm a CNA. I have a good job and my husband has one as well. So not all teens are bringing teens into this world who can't support them. And we did use protection. I was on Yasmin. ↑ |
| Name: April Sue | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 10:18 AM |
| Again I know that there are a lot of good teen mom's and that accidents happen even when you are careful. I was mostly upset by another post of someone who obviously was not ready to be a mom. But it turns out it was probably fake and I should have just ignored it. ↑ |
| Name: Nicola | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 2:25 PM |
| i hope you get pregnant. I dont know you but I wish that everybody who genuinley wants a baby could have one as they are so rewarding. It makes me physically sick as I nearly aborted my twins. I really find it hard to believe that I almost ended their lives. I get frustrated at the "stupid teens" as a few can create such a bad stereotype for the rest of us. People think i'm easy, cheap, chain smoking, druggie, and a slag and that im a crap mum which hurts the most. Im a teenager and im a parent. That doesnt mean im all the other things. Im a great mum and i know it. and i really hope you get your baby soon. ↑ |
| Name: Nicola | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 2:27 PM |
its just unfair that people who want babies seem to take longer to concieve and those who couldnt care less can concieve like that *clicks fingers*
I wish i was god. I would chop of perverts dicks, fertilise decent women who want babies and take out the wombs of those who are idiots and who create a bad name for teenage mums who dont really care about their babies,but for the benefits and the flat they bring with them. ↑ |
| Name: April Sue | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 3:02 PM |
| Thank you Nicola. I'm frustrated with my situation (ttc) and with the lack of parenting I notice in the area I live in. I have about 3-4 children in my class who come to school with dirt caked on their faces. It just drives me nuts that there are so many people who have kids and don't take care of them. ↑ |
| Name: becky20 | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 3:07 PM |
| so i am 20 does that make me a teen mum because if so i do a good job ov been a mother to my son and to my 2 step daughters so i am bringing my own child up and 2 other children that arent mine ↑ |
| Name: missmara | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 3:48 PM |
| April sue - I totally get where you're coming from. Your turn will come and you'll be a wonderful mother. Andthen you'll really wonder how young single moms do it. Parenting, not conceiving and delivering a baby, is the hardest thing I've ever done. ↑ |
| Name: popes_gurl_54 | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 4:46 PM |
| yeah, my husband and I have been ttc for almost six months now, we thought we were, but we're not....and yet girls in my younger sister's class *she's a freshman in high school* are pregnant. It's really crazy how people want a baby and have difficulty conceiving, and then there are people who don't want kids and go out and have sex once and get pregnant. ↑ |
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