Hello- Well I read some other posts from women with my same problem I am having but I would still like any advice that all of you reading may have for me.
I am 24 years old and have been in the Army for 6 years, I have seen places all over the world (Many I wish I hadn't) and have a very stable life. My husband and I have been married for a little over a year-together for almost 5.
When we got married he said he didn't know if he wanted kids- I thought either A.) He would decide that he did want to have kids or B.) that I would be able to live a happy life with him without kids, although I have always planned on having kids.
There's always a twist so here it is- early into our marriage he decided that he did NOT want to have kids, but then out of the blue some trampy woman from his past appeared, with a kid who is apparently his son. Now I can't be mad at him for something he did before he met me but, it still hurt me a lot and I stood by him through all that drama.
The thing is now I am deployed and will be returning home in October with high hopes that he would change his mind since he knows how important this is to me but that doesn't seem to be the case and I'm heartbroken.
Please don't think that I don't care about my husbands wishes because I do, more than anything which is why I didn't just "accidentaly" forget to take my birth control or some other shady method of me getting pregnant by tricking him...
I would give him all the time in the world to decide but I feel like we are on a schedule because he is older than I am... I married him knowing that one day I would end up taking care of him in his old age, and I love him more than anything. He is an amazing husband- I am just having a hard time determining where the line is between sacrificing something for the sake of my marriage and being true to myself.
It just seems like now would be the best time with my finishing college, we own a house with plenty of room, are financially capable of taking care of a child, etc... All the cards seem to have fallen into place except the most important one-My husbands desire to have a child.
Any advice? Thank you in advance. ↓
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