Hi guys! Long time, no chat with! LOL.
All is well on my end. I'm a stay-at-home momma now and Chloe is almost 1 year old. I swear that first year flys by. Well, since there is such a big gap between my 2 kids (Christian is almost 6 and Chloe is 11 mo.), because of us waiting so long and also losing a baby.....I was wondering if you all think that now is the time to start trying for #3? Me and hubby want 4.....5 max. So, I always see the moms on the playground with a young child (maybe a year old) and they'll be pregnant again. So, is now the time to get going? I mean, I don't want to have 2 in diapers either. I just wanted to know if there is a reason why alot of moms have such young children (practically babies) and are already pregnant again. I was thinking it was b/c they just want to get them out of the way, so they can return to work (alot of them I talk to are stay-at-home moms). But, I've never asked them why they are pregnant again so soon. Have any of you had your kids close together on purpose? I mean, I guess if I get started now, Chloe will be almost 2 (assuming I get pregnant right away) and will hopefully be potty trained or almost. But at the same time, the thought is a little scary b/c Chloe will still be 100% dependent on me for everything. See, Christian is almost 6 now and even when Chloe was born, he was 5 and he did/does everything for himself. He even helps me with her-ALOT! He just can't make his own food, but he gets himself snacks and juice. So, its kind of like I only have one child at the moment, so I've had it a little easy. (not really b/c Christian has ADHD and is on medication and he keeps me SUPER busy as well!) But, I don't know. Hubby wants to start trying now. Another reason is b/c he is 40 and I'm only 28. So, he said he doesn't want to be having kids at 50. I guess he's right. What do you all think. I don't mind, esp. b/c I'm staying at home now and don't have to worry about daycares, traffic, stress, working, etc.
But, will I be able to handle potty-training a young toddler and the tantrums......AND a newborn?!? I guess I should ask myself this question. LOL. I don't know. Please send some advice. :-)
Oh, I'm still breastfeeding Chloe as well, so how does it work when you get pregnant? Does your milk go away? Are you supposed to stop so that your current baby isn't sucking all your nutrients out that are intented for the baby inside of you? How does that work? Well, I plan to stop when Chloe turns 1 next month, so I guess I don't need to worry about that.
Thanks guys, Tasha. ↓
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| Name: Opheiliamath | Date: Aug 18th, 2008 1:31 PM |
=I just wanted to know if there is a reason why a lot of moms have such young children (practically babies) and are already pregnant again.?
A= Its that in my experience its VERY EASY to get pregnant if you just had a child. It’s so much easier to conceive when you just had a baby. ↑ |
| Name: Opheiliamath | Date: Aug 18th, 2008 1:33 PM |
| I understand the age issue with your husband its something to very much consider. If I was looking at only the age issue alone (which I am to be honest) I would start trying ASAP. I know after 30 I plan on not having anymore kids because I don't want to be "old" and still raise children I want to “old” be still “young” enough to still enjoy life. ↑ |
| Name: Opheiliamath | Date: Aug 18th, 2008 1:34 PM |
| You can really never prepare yourself for mom hood doesn’t matter how many kids you have, because every child is different. You may not know what to do with a newborn, a 2 year old who’s potty training, and an older son who has ADHD. But you know what? You can handle, because you have this “thing” in you to be a mother. You want to be a mother or 3-4 children, and to want those kids you will do what you have to take care of all their wants and needs ALL AT THE SAME TIME. You don’t know how you’ll do it, but you will. Have more confidence in yourself to know you can raise more than one child at a time close in age, its not impossible. ↑ |
| Name: Opheiliamath | Date: Aug 18th, 2008 1:34 PM |
| So, you’re looking for advice, I say you and your hubby start making more babies tonight! =) Good luck ↑ |
| Name: LindsayK | Date: Aug 18th, 2008 2:35 PM |
| Hey Tasha, nice to hear from you! My two are going to be fairly close together. Just under 23 months. (I'm due next week!!!) I always wanted to space my kids approx. two years apart, so that's what we did. We too, are planning on four kids total. I'm sure I'll be busy though! Nursing and getting/being pregnant is no problem at all. I continued nursing Gabbie until she was 17 months old, and that was 4 months into my pregnancy. I have heard that the milk can take on a more salty taste eventually though, so some kids choose to wean themselves. Gabbie was down to only a few feedings a day by that point anyway and it never bothered her. The last month I nursed her it was really painful though. My nipples were very sensitive from being pregnant. But I got through and let her self wean. To me, it sounds like you're ready to start trying soon and I agree with your ages it's best to do it within the next couple years. I'm 25 now, and I'd like to be pretty well done having kids by the time I'm 30 too, like Yannick said. Good Luck! ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Aug 18th, 2008 11:56 PM |
Well first off its good to hear for you!!
Im only 20 so I still have a while till I hat 30 but Chris just turned 26, we plan on having 2 or 3, but i'm not ready for number 2 yet, Tyler is 15 months old and when Chris gets back from Afghanistan(he just left again!) in July/August 2009 Tyler will be like 26-27 months old, and then i want to re adjust to having my family back together before baby 2 comes but I figured Tyler will be closer to 3 before we start trying... That's all if I dont get Knocked up on his R&R LOL!!!!!!!!
I just want to start my Career, Chris being in the military, its scary to think what could happen, and god forbid, if something did happen, I would have to take care of my family with out a steady job, that would be such a horrible mess, so its very Important for me to do what I need to first, just get my foot in the door, if you know what I mean!
But hey, if you guys are ready by all means go for it!!!
How are you feeling by the way, I know you were having some problems!
~Lauren~ ↑ |
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