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as you all know, Ive been taking care of Tyler all by my self since he was in utero. Chris will be home sometime this October. I as well as many of you have your own ways of taking care of your babies, you all have your ways of how you do every thing. like how you change a diaper, how you fold it up, or how you give a bath... yada yada yada. what do i do when he comes home?? There is a certain way i do every thing, and a certain way i like it done, now when he comes home hes going to have no clue how to do any of this stuff, and im so scare that im going to get so frustrated at him, and just make him feel bad, like how do i teach him how to do things. some of the things that i do, like Keeping his Diaper Stacker always having diapers or always refilling the wipes containers so that when one runs out i just reach under a grab a new full one, and then promptly refill the empty one. may be im OCD but i don't know how im going to start to prepare for him coming home ↓
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| Name: MyTwoBabies | Date: Aug 29th, 2007 3:04 PM |
| I am the same way hubby is with me and he still can't do it right! I know I wasn't no help, but it annoys me when he does it another way. ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Aug 29th, 2007 3:07 PM |
Well, we all do things are own way, and I do get frusterated at Tyler sometimes because he seems to not have any common sense.
If I were you I would put myself in charge of refilling and stacking and just let him be a dad. He is not going to care for organizing, so let him change diapers or whatever and be glad for the help. Tyler does things way differently than me, but as long as it works, I don't care too much. ↑ |
| Name: MyTwoBabies | Date: Aug 29th, 2007 3:07 PM |
| I am a control freak lol ↑ |
| Name: Opheiliamath | Date: Aug 29th, 2007 3:14 PM |
I've been at it along since 3months along, and then D got deployed. So i have a certain way of doing things to and a TIME schedule...which is REALLY important!
Espically with putting him to sleep....on of fears is D will paly with him alllllll day and mess up our routine adn when he leves i'm left with the a backlash
Well, for my Denzale will be here Thursday WOOHOOO but i work and my mom watchs Christian.
She'll be leaving Sunday and we are going to have a "weekend baby traning" how to change his diaper, feed him, burp him, put him on his tummy...etc.
To prepare Chris before he gets home i say....i'm not sure if you write him, IM, or talk...but repeat you and Tyler's routine to him so he knows what to expect.
But also....its something you can't help....he'll get the hang of it! ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Aug 29th, 2007 3:18 PM |
| Well your routine will change a little when he comes home though, and it's a huge adjustment for him. It's not completely fair to make him listen to everything you say and be expected to follow that. My husband is going to be going back up North. That means he is gone 20 days and home for 8. I know I can't expect him to suddenly get back into it... just like on weekends I am a little more lax with our routine when he is home. ↑ |
| Name: Opheiliamath | Date: Aug 29th, 2007 3:18 PM |
| Totally ditto on Randi's last post! ↑ |
| Name: FatallyYours | Date: Aug 29th, 2007 3:46 PM |
| im worried about the same thing but hes offered to take braden whenever he isnt at work so i can start classes n catch up on sleep but the first couple weeks i gotta help him get int o the swing of things ↑ |
| Name: ..RoSey.. | Date: Aug 29th, 2007 4:42 PM |
| oh god i get frustrated at my boyfriend.. NO COMMON SENCE MAN ! ↑ |
| Name: NIKKIS | Date: Aug 29th, 2007 4:57 PM |
i get mad at john when he is around because he doesnt know how to do thing, but i have to remind myself that he isnt with brooke 24/7 and that he is still learning, and just cause he isnt doing things my way doesnt mean he is hurting brooke.
(but just so you know i often dont take my own advice...) :) ↑ |
| Name: Lola | Date: Aug 29th, 2007 5:24 PM |
I don't get mad, but I get frustrated because he can't leave her alone sometimes when she's sleeping and keeps her awake.
Or feeds her every time she makes a bit of a fuss even if she's just had some an hour earlier.
But it's nothing that bad.
You'll probably find that you can let him find his own way of doing things and relax for a while yourself. Things don't necessaily have to be done one way ya know. Everyone's different. He'll probably be nervous about messing up anyway!
I was terrified I wasn't doing things right when I was in the hospital...but when I got home, everything just fell into place 'cause I felt I wasn't being watched.
So try to give him his space with baby when he gets home and he'll find his feet :) ↑ |
| Name: Meggles18 | Date: Aug 29th, 2007 8:38 PM |
haha...lol Nikki I love you!
He is going to mess up so I guess just get use to the idea. He is going to leave a diaper around and he is going to not fill up the diaper wipes or put to much baby powder all over tyler. Just know macie is doing great and andy was the same way. ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Aug 29th, 2007 8:47 PM |
dont worry lala i have the same fears of jonathan
and he thinks she is going to sleep through the night....wtf ever...
he claims he can do a better job than me and that i spoil gabs too much...she is 10 weeks old..how spoiled can the girl get...i want her to have the best and know i am there for her so if she is spoiled wtf ever....
ok tangent much
anywho your fears are normal and like everyone said he will screw up (and i add) but just be happy he is there screwing up and now in germany anymore......I heart you! ↑ |
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