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| Name: Lisa F | Date: Jun 23rd, 2009 1:10 AM |
| I just had my surgery late this afternoon. This is my second miscarriage in the last four months and I'm so numb that I don't know what to do. I don't understand and I think that's why it's so hard. I can't sleep and I'm angry! ↑ |
| Name: mommy2b210 | Date: Jun 23rd, 2009 3:50 PM |
| IM SO SORRY ... IT WILL GET BETTER. ↑ |
| Name: ness23 | Date: Jun 29th, 2009 8:52 PM |
| im 18 and i miscarried maby 2 months ago is it normal i jus dont know what to do everyday i think y did it have to happen to me ↑ |
| Name: ness23 | Date: Jun 29th, 2009 8:53 PM |
| im sorry you miscarried it hard i know n only time will make you feel better ↑ |
| Name: ness23 | Date: Jun 29th, 2009 8:55 PM |
| i just dont know what to do this is my second one n i jus need to know if this normal you know ↑ |
| Name: lisanahum17 | Date: Jun 30th, 2009 11:14 AM |
| hi I just had a miscarriage. This was my first baby, I can not say how happy my husband and I were to be expecting our little one and I cant say how sad we are to loose our child. I was 6 weeks along, not knowing if we had a girl or a boy really hurts. we picked a unisex name he chose Hayden I chose Arron so Hayden Arron H. it is. It has been a week and I am still cramping and in pain. I am fearful I can never give my husband another child. I am 30 and he is 35 today. I have allways trusted God I know it is wrong but I am having trouble trusting Him now He could not help take care of my first Baby I am not sure if He can help me if their is a second. I feel guilty for loosing my faith I feel gulty for loosing my husband's Baby. I wish I could escape to a place where I was not reminded all the time. I had a friend who's 14 month girl died in her sleep they just picked up and moved to a different house. My baby died inside of me no matter where I go the place of my baby's death goes with me. I am suposed to be a place of safty and protection for his babies but I am just a place of death for his babies. he tries to love me and is nice but all I can think is how can you love and kiss the body that killed your little baby. I am so sad, I miss my Baby, I would have loved and cared for the child I did every thing the doc said I have never smoked, drank, or done drugs, my little sister smoked during her pregnancy I told her not to she might have a miscarriage and she said I did not know what I was talking about and she was right she has 2 healthy babies after party's drugs, skipping church, drinking, and smoking. I guess to have a healthy baby that is what you got to do it works for her. I am so sad I just want my baby back ↑ |
| Name: xtonix | Date: Jul 3rd, 2009 4:34 PM |
| im so sorry for your lost x how far gone was u x i had a misscarriage 4 months ago x it was a girl nd was 20 weeks x just remember it isn't ur fault and dnt always have a reason for why it happened x if u ever need to talk im here ↑ |
| Name: torigirl666 | Date: Jul 11th, 2009 5:56 PM |
| I just another ultrasound yesterday and it was confirmed that I had a gestional sac but it was empty......there hasn't been a change in 3 weeks........I now have to wait until wednesday to see my doctor.......I am going thru hell and I am completely devastated but what makes it worse......my husband doesn't seem to understand. ↑ |
| Name: torigirl666 | Date: Jul 11th, 2009 5:59 PM |
| I feel so alone and depressed and that maybe I brought this on........I have a beautiful 5 year old son and my husband has been out of work for sometime now.......so financially it might not have been the best time to have another child but I was happy just the same..........but a bit stressed out over the financial matters...........now I feel so guilty about worrying about money and not taking more time to be happy about this pregnancy and now its too late. ↑ |
| Name: Sophi | Date: Jul 11th, 2009 7:15 PM |
| Hi Everyone.....I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this ....You sound so much like me when I found out I was pregnant and then told my levels were dropping...you blame yourself first, then God always...It seems like someone is playing some cruel trick on you...I feel comfort in knowing that I am not alone, when I share my story and hear that other women are going through the same thing......I hope we can all insoire eachother to keep fighting for our children as if they were here and told that they were not going to live......we wouldn't give up on them then so we should try to fight for the ones that are unborn........Please don't give up trying...I know it's hard..... ↑ |
| Name: Sophi | Date: Jul 11th, 2009 7:16 PM |
| Hi Everyone...I'm so glad I found you. A week ago I found out I was pregnant, after being told it was impossible due to both of my tubes being blocked. My excitment was shortlived when after I took my second, third and fourth HCG test the levels were dropping slowly. My Dr. decided, on Thursday that it was a risk of being ectopic so she gave me Methotrexate. Yesterday I started to bleed and cramp.......then it became unbearable...as if I were having contractions...this lasted 40 minutes. After the pain subsided...I sat on the toilet and heard a loud splash. It was a complete mass of blood, fat tissue. Did I just have a baby miscarry from my uterus? DId I ever have an ectopic pregnancy? Since my doctor never confirmed that it was. What the heck can I eat since on tthis Mexotrexate I can not have Folic Acid? ↑ |
| Name: Nparas720 | Date: Jul 31st, 2009 11:39 PM |
| I am sorry for all of your loses. I miscarried my first baby in June. I was 10 weeks but apparently the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. I had to have a D&C. I am now trying to conceive again because thats all I can think about, but my cycles are off so I am very stressed. I don't think I am right in the head again. My husband can't deal with me anymore. Just looking for someone to talk to who actually understands how I feel. ↑ |
| Name: nuttydoughty | Date: Aug 10th, 2009 7:18 PM |
| i am 18 and and had a misscarriage about 4 months ago. when i first found out that i was expecting i was about 11wks my mum found it diffilcult to accept and we had a huge argument she told me that she wished my baby dead because she didnt like who the father was. my excitement was short lived and soon turned into devastation when just a week after finding out i got rushed into hospital because i was loseing blood. when i arrived at the hospital i had an emergency scan and even though i was early on in the pregnancy i saw a tiny little baby flash on the screen before my eyes the doctors confirmed i was misscarrying after doing some internal examinations and sent me home to 'wait' for the embryo to come away. i soon sank into depression and the words from my mum span round in my head. i have never felt so devastated and heartbroken and cant even begin to understand why this had to happen to me. since the misscarriage i have been trying for another baby and am struglling to keep my hopes up i know i am still young and have my whole life ahead of me but i feel like i am ready to become a parent i am in a happy stable relationship and my fiance has been a huge emotional help and we have helped eachother overcome some of our emotions. something we both would like to know and would be very greatful if someone had some information is how long usually after a misscarriage can it take to become pregnant agian and also is it more difficult to become pregnant again after a misscarriage? thanks for any help or advice you have to offer.. nat and conan xx ↑ |
| Name: lisanahum17 | Date: Sep 12th, 2009 10:44 AM |
| I am in a pickle, When I got pg in may I also got a uti which some docs say could have caused my Hayden Arron's death and some say it could not have. When Hayden Arron died in June I missed 2 1/2 days of work due to bleeding and cramping. when I came back to work I walked into a "we got to talk Lisa" meeting where they pulled me aside and said "my services were no longer nescesary" so this leaves me with out a job and without insurance and still sick. I to this day have the UTI I am on my 5th round of antibiotics and almost finished with the last one and still I have the UTI. I am told I can get insurance through DHS if I am pregnant but I still have the UTI. This month marks the 3 long months we have waited to try to have our second child but I still have the UTI. DHS says if I get a job they will not insure me if I am pregnant which I want to be, but not if I have a infection that may harm my next child. I have to get a job the only offers I get have no insurance benifits so I turn them down. Basicly it boils down to this... I realy need to get pg in 7 days from now so I can get insurance that will cover my child then get a job. DHS says If I get PG and get their insurance ther insurance will cover me if I have a job as long as I dont have a job when I apply and I get the job after I apply. This world is a mess!!! SO that's it. Please Pray I get PG this month when I ovulate between the 18th -20th and that inspite of my infection the Baby will be safe. I am so scared another Baby is going to die in me. Thanks - Lisa http://tac.families.com/tickers/ tdb.php?tid=1201907&ignore=1 Missin g my Hayden Arron Waiting for Hayden's Sibling [a href="http://tickers.families.com"][img border="0" src="http://tac.families.com/ezb/1201931.png"][/a] ↑ |
| Name: lisanahum17 | Date: Sep 14th, 2009 9:28 AM |
| Hi Everybody, I just learned from another site that OCT 15th is our nation's "Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day" Go to http://october15th.com/ You can post a memory of your baby, they have a store where you can purchase different items personalized with your babies names and dates etc. I was happy to find it and I hope you also will find it useful. Lisa Nahum 1:7 ↑ |
| Name: cassie092009 | Date: Sep 16th, 2009 12:59 PM |
| ok im 17 i went to the doctor yesturday they couldnt find the heatbeat they said the bby is 14 weeks and im supposed to be 17 weeks but i dont have no signs of a miscarige should i get a second opion or just listen to what they say ↑ |
| Name: cassie092009 | Date: Sep 16th, 2009 1:03 PM |
| How do i deal with the pain of giving birth to a dead bby if its true. idk i dnt have a mom to go to these things what should i do?? i just dnt want to belive it. i know they have to be right i guess i just havent started to bleed yet idk i need help ↑ |
| Name: lisanahum17 | Date: Sep 17th, 2009 1:37 PM |
| cassie092009 So sorry to hear you are going through this. While using this site I would like to recomend another site that is very good, ladies usualy respond much quicker and their is a lot of them who have been through what you are going through their. I lost my baby at only 6 weeks so I could not give you as good advice as they can . go to http://boards.babyzone.com/chil d-or-pregnancy-loss-f38.html als o for a one time fee of $29.95 you can write to an ob / gyn as much as you want and ask questions. I have used this site alot. it is much cheaper to pay once for all my many questions that to pay to go see a doc every time I need an answer. the site is http://www.askanob.com/home.html hope this helps lisa Nahum 1:7 ↑ |
| Name: lisanahum17 | Date: Sep 28th, 2009 8:41 PM |
| A poem for my baby Sweet Baby Hayden Arron Sweet baby Hayden Arron sent from Heaven. From God to us a priceless child given. You came into our lives, Our hearts and arms open wide. Then with your presence on our minds, Our joy we could not hide. Though we know it was such an honour To be your Father and your Mother, And for each to say like none other, Sweet baby Hayden you are mine, For even such a short time. Yet so often we have sighed. And now there’s no way to hide, All these days for you I’ve cried. This world it seems so cold, Without you here to hold. And the people, they are so bold. “Be QUIET!” now were told. But even if they do not like it, We will not need a mic for it, Clearly unashamed our hearts will be SHOUTIN` it. Never will they be doubtin’ it. Even if it leaves them poutin’ bout it. As long as we are liven, Love to our Sweet Baby Hayden Arron We’ll be givin’, And one day from the Heaven, Our Saviour to us will come a bidden’ Then of this cold world we will be ridden’ For finally we too then will be leavin’, To meet you in that same Heaven Where once again and always we will be holden’ Our Sweet Baby Hayden Arron. By Baby Hayden Arron’s loving Mommy ↑ |
| Name: kimb00 | Date: Sep 30th, 2009 1:58 PM |
| I have just had my 3rd miscarriage in the last year and a half. I was 13 weeks this last time which is the farthest I have ever been. I have no children and and would love to be a mother so much. I am afraid that I will never be able to have children of my own. My mother never had any miscarriages, I was told that your pregnancies would be similar to your mothers. PLease let me know if there is anything I should do or just anything at all would help. Thanks! ↑ |
| Name: lisanahum17 | Date: Oct 1st, 2009 3:54 PM |
| Hi, so sorry for you your losses, it is sad to say that the first few times your babies die the docs just dont care. after the 3rd loss however they will start tests to figure out what is wrong, if your doc still does nothing after this loss CHANGE DOCS!!!! You are now eligible for all kinds of medical testing to get to the bottom of what is going on. I wish you well, keep us posted. Lisa Nahum 1:7 ↑ |
| Name: sara jackson | Date: Oct 8th, 2009 4:28 PM |
| hi im new to this, i dont know wot to say or do. i found out tht i lost my baby yesterday i wasnt tht far only 8 weeks but it still hurts like hell ↑ |
| Name: lisanahum17 | Date: Oct 9th, 2009 6:42 PM |
| sara jackson, I am so sorry you have lost your precious baby. It does not make any difference if your child was one day, 8 weeks, 15, years or 70 years old your child is your child and all decient mothers hurt and grieve when the loose the life of their child. Their are no easy answers, You will cry, and be super sensitive, you will be angry, you will be jealous of others with babies, you will be envious you will be sad all this is normal it hurts like no hurt that can be imagined. It deepest pain lasts for at least 3 months, Dont be to hard on yourself you will never be the same again so dont expect it, you are now the mommy of a very young life who left you and that makes you different than you were 3 months ago. That is not bad (to be different) but it will take a lot of time and learning to get used to your new you. It is ok to grieve the loss of your little one. The world lost a lot when we lost your baby, all the good that child could have contributed all the "what if's" I am sad with you. Hang in their. Post hear as often as you would like also in a previous post I mentioned a site that has been very helpful to me in my loss and I hope that you will check it out and let it help you also. If you need to talk I am hear. Lisa Nahum 1:7 ↑ |
| Name: whyus | Date: Oct 15th, 2009 4:36 PM |
| Im sorry to hear all of the losses, i miscarried on sun 20th sept 09 and have tried to put on a brave face to everybody, but like some of you i just cant do it anymore, we had tried for 0 months so were over joyed to find out we were finally there i miscarried at 10 weeks. ↑ |
| Name: whyus | Date: Oct 15th, 2009 4:41 PM |
| sorry we had tried for 9 months ↑ |
| Name: lisanahum17 | Date: Oct 18th, 2009 9:25 PM |
| Why Us, I am so sorry to hear of your loss, It is so frustrating when the world expects us mothers to go on as if nothing happened when we loos a child, they are so cold. Children are so precious any good mother will grieve such a tragic loss. WE love our babies like no other can but others could work on understanding our love even though they cant understand our heart break. when we get that bfp that is the most happy wondrous moment of our life then when our loved child dies that is the darkest saddest most devistating day of our life. post hear any time you need a place where some one understands. you are in my thoughts - Lisa Nahum 1:7 ↑ |
| Name: zoey_marie | Date: Oct 23rd, 2009 2:16 PM |
| i found out i miscarried again today at 7 weeks after trying for like a year an a half after my first miscarraige i am actually gutted i tried to do everything right this time drinkin de-caf tea eating really healthy i quit smoking. I actually feel numb inside one minute im crying the next im angry at myself i dont know what to do somebody help please? ↑ |
| Name: MandiRose | Date: Oct 28th, 2009 10:12 AM |
| Hello everyone, I am so sorry to hear about everyones loss. I found out I was expecting Oct.12 ( I was about 6 weeks) and started bleeding Oct.22. I had just enough time to grasp the idea of being pregnant, then it was gone. At the time I found that I was PG I was going to school full time. I have Chron's disease and was having a lot of trouble. My DH and I decided it would be better if I quit school to take good care of myself. Two weeks ago I felt a like I had a purpose, now...I am feeling very useless. ↑ |
| Name: coral1718 | Date: Nov 1st, 2009 12:43 PM |
| I lost mine yesterday too! I started bleeding around 1:50 and was at the ER till about 8pm. this is my 5th misscarrige. the 3rd this year alone. There is something very very wrong but no one knows what. Its infuriating. My mom was is a really bad junkie and she had 4 kids. i dont do drugs or anything even close to that kind of lifestyle and I cant even have 1! Growing up I always belived that eventually the universe would HAVE to balance itself out. I dont believe that anymore. ↑ |
| Name: amandak | Date: Nov 19th, 2009 1:25 PM |
| i am very sorry to hear that ... i know exactly how you feel ... i miscarried on oct 26 ↑ |
