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After reading a couple other posts i fianally got the nerve to ask ( i really need some sensative posts here, please)... does anyone ever think that their spouse may have some mild learning disability or aspergers? after dealing with my 5 year old son and learning all the little signs (he has aspergers) i see a lot of them mirrored in my husbands actions. (no, he doesn't watch barney 20 times in a row or anything like that, so no stupid replies please!) it isn't bad enough that i would say he's handicapped in any way, but just different. socially he's a little off and sometimes i feel like he doesn't really understand me when i'm talking to him. he says i talk to fast. it's embarassing to admit that i married someone who may be a little slower than me, but he is a good dad and has a great job and loves me a lot. i've had a few friends comment on the intelligence difference (which is emphasized by the fact that i'm much younger than him) i dont know how to handle it. ↓
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| Name: Heather | Date: Jul 18th, 2006 1:39 AM |
| My fiancee and I both have Asperger's syndrome - and it sure makes things interesting between us. Your son will have a unique experience because he'll be able to relate to his dad and won't feel alone. We've had our misunderstandings (two people with a disorder affecting communication skills -big surprise...! :-P) but now that I know that I'm not the only one who is the way I am. And about your friends - if they're going to be so petty as to comment about your husband's intelligence... they're immature (unless it was out of genuine concern for your wellbeing) but if things are going fine for you the way they are - tell them . Tell them that the quirky bits your husband does are part of the charm. And most of all... tell them that love is blind and if it doesnt bother you... it shouldnt bother them, but thank them for their concern about you. ↑ |
| Name: tammie | Date: Jul 18th, 2006 10:35 PM |
| you married him for a reason.........there is something about him that you love and just because he isn't on the maturity level you are doesn't mean much........who cares what others think and what they say......if you love him then you love him for who he is and not all his flaws.........everyone is slow in some ways or another..........some are book smart and street stupid or vice virsa............and some are just dingy people......but thats what makes them who they are and makes them human!!!! Just love him and ignore the comments everyone else makes about the man you love!!!! ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jul 19th, 2006 12:04 PM |
Nicole,
To be honest, most of us who work with children who have autism have occasional noticed the symptoms in one of the parents. We have been saying this for years. Recently the scientific world has begun to study this avenue. Some people who evaluate the children are now evaluating the parents for the more subtle forms, as well as interview them about grandparents and other family members. It does not mean your husband has asperger’s, but may have subtle traits. There is a big difference in the two. I watched a documentary on it, can’t remember the name of it, sorry, but if it comes on again I will post the show for you. My personal belief at the moment is it is caused by hereditary factors and environmental factors. That is until they come up with more info on the environmental issues. What they have found so far on the hereditary issue is that people in families can have very mild symptoms that no one attributed to autism, it can run through some families like this, and then boom, a child is born with a more severe case. They had to know for years this was a question when some families had more than one child with autism, not sure what took them so long. Your husband may have-or may not have; only a physician can say, mild symptoms. People today are wondering why so many cases are diagnosed now, because the spectrum is larger now. I work with high functioning autistic children who would not have been diagnosed with autism years ago. They would have said they were emotionally imbalanced or severe ADHD, due to the fact that they have good language abilities. Many years ago it was only diagnosed in the severe cases. It hasn’t been that long since they discovered asperger’s in the 1940's. Here is a site that discusses it. http://simple.wikipedia.org
/wiki/Asperger's_syndrome
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wouldn’t worry too much; this condition knows no boundaries when it comes to love. I hope my opinions have not caused you sadness. I often keep this issue to myself, as moms blame themselves enough as it is. I hope this was helpful sweetie. ↑ |
| Name: mazzz | Date: Dec 17th, 2006 8:29 PM |
| Read the book called Loving Mr Spock it abeautiful story of a woman wo fell in love with a man with Aspergers. my son is 16 and on the spectrum I fought and struggled for yrs to his rit eto an eduction but he has never got one!! he is now very happy in his own skin an amazing young adult ,except your husband as he hs a caring gentle man ↑ |
| Name: shari | Date: Sep 28th, 2007 12:47 PM |
| I also have a son 10 and husband 34 weve been married 12 years and have 4 kids ...what do you do when the wont come to terms with it ..Its so bad lately I dont know if I can do it anymore He can never be wrong he interupts people in the middle of talking ..he only want to talk about what he knows I you know something he dosent he dosent listen and he give way to much info about everything ..but not emotion.I do everything I homeschool our aspergers I put my other son in school I have a 4 month old and a 3 year old and a seven year old who feels like he dosent get enough attention ...Im having to sue an insurance comp. by my self because of rita" hurricane"our 5 year old home is molding and were all getting sick he has no logic...we have no van and cant fit in our crv but he wont buy a van and the brakes are going out ....Hes Self centered ...HELP ↑ |
| Name: jean | Date: Oct 6th, 2007 1:13 PM |
Shari,
I know it is very hard, but there is hope and help. There are doctors who can help him with medication to help him focus, andhelp him to look beyond himself. It is not that he doesn't want to.....his brain is just wired differently. He needs help to see your needs and the needs of his family. Ask for help from his family.......they may be able to talk him into getting help. Be strong. You will make it. ↑ |
| Name: irish Amy | Date: Oct 7th, 2007 7:25 PM |
| When we got our son diagnosed with autism we were told that because of the kids being diagnosed they then went on to diagnose a LOT of fathers who always KNEW there was something with them but didnt know what! ↑ |
| Name: lereca | Date: Nov 29th, 2007 8:12 AM |
| I am in the same situation my 6 yr old has aspergers. When I received the information on the condition, it all came together.My husband has always had social problems no real friends,he is not emotional on any level almost like he has no soul,he is not sexual he never initiates sex never holds my hand never comforts me unless i ask or initiate it. He is very awkward around others.I realize he also has aspergers.I believe his mom does too.They are quiet ,but quick tempered,are content with most boring mundane things.He can remember every headlight for every make of car,he tells me these odd facts but cant remember easy daily things a 4 yr old can remember.I know other people know their is something a little off with him he laughs at the wrong time his timing for things is just off.When we got married I thought he was just shy and sweet a hard worker with a good job.As time went by I knew something was different with him I just could not put my finger on it until my son was having some little problems and they suggested aspergers when I got the paperwork the lightbulb flicked on 'AHAA' this was the answer,it has not changed anything we still fight and do not along well.We have been married almost 14 yrs I think about divorce all the time but, we have three kids 9,6 my youngest is 17 months and he has a very good job I always feel trapped in a marriage,BUT WHAT CAN YOU DO? ↑ |
| Name: irish Amy | Date: Nov 30th, 2007 5:29 PM |
| oh Lereca, I feel for you really I do, (((((hugs)))), that must be very difficult, how is he with the kids especially your 6yr old who has been diagnosed? ↑ |
| Name: MP | Date: Dec 28th, 2007 5:41 PM |
| I am experiencing the same thing. I have a 5 year old with HFA or AD and I saw so many of the symptoms in my husband and other members of his family. He is very smart, has a graduate degree and a great job. However, he is so preoccupied with special interests and really doesn't know how to connect with me or the kids on an emotional level. He thinks our son's autism can just be fixed. He refuses to read anything about autism. We argue so much and now just sort of live along side one another. ↑ |
| Name: Lola | Date: Jan 2nd, 2008 2:46 AM |
| I'm learning to make the most of being married to someone with Asperger's. We've been married 11 years and have 5 kids (his, mine and ours). All four of our boys have "traits" while one was considered fully "autistic" at age two. My DH is awkward in social situations which is now very obvious to me, but I missed it during our courtship. On the plus side, he doesn't drink, use drugs, cheat, lie and he has a very good job. My first husband did not have aspergers but he was out partying all the time and was constantly getting fired from jobs. So by comparison my aspergers hubby is a dream. I've never met anyone who was perfect. ↑ |
| Name: Mary H. | Date: Jan 4th, 2008 5:06 PM |
| I have suspected my husband has a form of autism. It was validated by a therapist who observd rare behaviors during a counseling session. My husband's social awkwardness, facial expressions, and inability to sustain eye contact during a conversation among other behaviors has affected our relationship. Like your husband, mine is a great provider, hard worker, devoted and loyal. I believe he loves me and our 10 year old very much but after 11 years of marriage I feel out attachment or bond has faded through the years. My son was diagnosed with ADHD at 2nd grade and exhibits similar behaviors. They get along and speak the same language, rarely anyone else understands. My husband refuses to accept that he has any kind of disorder. I'm looking for anyone encountering a similar situation. ↑ |
| Name: Brenda | Date: Jan 25th, 2008 10:38 AM |
| As a born caregiver, I truly believe I married my husband because he had not "experienced" life. I could show him laughter, a true sense of family and just plain fun. After 20 years, NOT working! I am exhausted. I am officially a mother of 3, but consider myself a mother of 4. My 2 daughters show no signs of autism, however my 10 year old son is listed on the spectrum. Husband, "undiagnosed" by "professionals", but undeniably diagnosed, by me, as Aspergers. I believe I have more viable informaton on this, than anyone else. Being 45, I feel utterly trapped. I have always had pride in myself as being a caregiver, because ultmately I have seen results. He is exactly the same as when we started. I am an extremely social person, that goes no where. I am a closet comedian, with no audience. Thankfully I have a sister that I call 10 times a day, to release my new material. I miss the life I could have had. I LOVE my children. My daughters can see how different dad is. I feel sorry for them. I had a great dad and would have loved to see them have the same relationship. As with many that have written, Dad is a great provider, in the monetary sense only. As one ages, the big house and designer clothes mean nothing. I could never leave my husband. The guilt would be overwhelming (I tried, once). I felt as though I left a starving puppy in the cold. Sorry about the rambling, but I feel a little better now. ↑ |
| Name: Icesis458 | Date: Jan 31st, 2008 2:01 PM |
| I realized today after 20 years of marriage that my husband has a mild form of Aspergers. He is successful and a good provider BUT the emotional distance is there. No question about it. He does have friends in his "lodge brothers." For years I couldn't understand, nor could his stepdaughter, why he wouldn't look at me or her when talking to us if we spoke to him. We just thought he was weird in that respect. He does not initiate anything in the romance department and will wait months until I finally give in. It all came together for me today when I read Nicole's post. ↑ |
| Name: Icesis458 | Date: Jan 31st, 2008 2:06 PM |
| I want to say one more thing: What now? What do I do with this epiphany? He'll never accept my "diagnosis" of mild Aspergers. So, I am asking for suggestions on how to handle this. Should I observe him and take notes? LOL!! I can tell you that I feel like a big weight has been lifted and I can't wait to tell my daughter. She also kept saying for years something is a little off with him. ↑ |
| Name: Susan G | Date: Mar 11th, 2008 2:11 PM |
Nicole
I started realizing that my husband had asperger's syndrome after my 3 year old was diagnosed a very mildly autistic. (Asperger's is a form of autism, but you probably know that by now) My youngest boy has sensory disfunction, mostly with smells, sounds, and clothing , and gets very frustrated and angry when his schedule is changed, among other things. I found out about Asperger's syndrome when I was doing my own research on Austism. My husband and I have had ALOT of communication issues and he has done and said things that were so hurtful, neglectful, and downright mean. When I would tell him how wrong his actions or words were and explain it to him later, he would say that he understand but at the moment it was happening he didn't get it that what I was telling him would have been the more appropriate way to respond (i.e. our 3yr old fell about 2 feet head first and had to have a CATScan. My husband decided to go about his day instead of going to the hospital with us, even though our son was throwing up and felt too bad to walk, he only wanted me to carry all 40lbs of him everywhere and even knowing that we could be facing emergency surgery).. There have been many many circumstances where my husband would act totally inappropriately and it kept getting worse and it was a horrible cycle of him doing or saying terrible things and then apologizing for it over and over and over again. I was at the absolute end and was ready to really get a divorce if he didn't start acting like a responsible father, not just some of the time, ALL of the time. I showed him lots and lots of information about Aspbergers and he now believes that he was misdiagnosed as a child with ADHD. The information he read about the way Asperger children behave in school was like reading about his own childhood for him. We are seeing a psychiatrist who does neurofeedback therapy twice a week, and acupuncturist 1x week for circulation in the brain, and counseling every other week. It's a lot of work, but I'm seeing a difference and he is seeing that I'm happier , our sons are happier, and our home is more peaceful. I hope this helps. If you want more details on how I presented all this information to him just let me know. ↑ |
| Name: judy | Date: Mar 23rd, 2008 4:40 PM |
| My 5 year old grandson has been provisionally diagnosed and it was at that time we realized that his dad [my son] most probably has extremely high-functioning aspergers as well. It was actually somewhat of a relief for him to have a label for what seemed like just constantly being out of step for a lifetime. ↑ |
| Name: Michelle | Date: Mar 28th, 2008 6:00 AM |
My son has an official diagnosis of high-functioning aspergers and my husband certainly has traits. Both are extremely intelligent. Just not emotionally intelligent! I prefer to look at AS as a difference rather than a disability. Of course it makes life harder in some respects but it also often comes with lots of strengths. I would try and use your new found knowledge about your son and husband to better understand your partner and your relationship with him. I don't think you have to convince him he has AS but he may be able to better understand what your son is going through if they share traits. My husband's father has even more pronounced traits that if he were a child today would definitely attract a diagnosis. I have 4 kids and I am beginning to suspect my 3rd child may also have some traits.
I would recommend tracking down saome books by Tony Atwood for a good understanding of the diagnosis and a focus on the positive strengths of people with this diagnosis.
All the best.... ↑ |
| Name: Nance | Date: Apr 4th, 2008 11:04 AM |
Hi All
My story is much like the rest. My husband and I have been married for 11 years. The first 2 were good, and every year since then has gone downhill. Our 9 year old is on the spectrum - not officially Asperger's - but with clear characteristics. My husband finds this diagnosis hard to accept - but I believe that's because of his skewed frame of reference. I believe that my husband is also on the spectrum. The issue I am facing currently is how hard to push my husband to consider the possibility of him having Aspergers. I think that it could be a relief for him to discover that there is a reason why he thinks he's a great boss, great husband and great Dad, and the rest of the world thinks he's an arsehole. But he's not well placed to accept that given his God complex (an Asperger's trait). Is it my job to push him to self help, in the hope of creating a good marriage? Or can I allow the kids and I to slowly disengage with him until separation is easy for us - and feel justified in doing so? I've told him I think he has aspergers and he does nothing about it - not even consider the possibility that I might be right and read a chapter in a book about what it is! ↑ |
| Name: ginette | Date: Apr 16th, 2008 9:51 AM |
| Hi Nicole I have an 18 year old son who has an over growth syndrome with learning disabilitys his speech is bad and has a mental age of a lot younger. My husband I feel has a learning difficulty as well he sometimes cannot work out simple every day problems. Do not feel embarassed you were not to know only after years of marriage have I worked out my husband has a mind of a boy at times. These friends should surport you and not comment on your age! If they are good friends you should be able to tell them how you feel.My friends try to help by listening but dont really understand as you need to live our lives to know. Sometimes it feels like I am the only adult in my family and I have to cope with everthing, so lets be friends, if you need to have a natter or moan get in touch. ↑ |
| Name: Helen | Date: May 25th, 2008 10:34 PM |
| In reading your chats , I am warmed, I also believe my husband is different. But what I would like to know is how do other people approach asking there husbands to get diagnosed and how did it affect them . My Son was diagnosed at Age eight and is now a beautiful teenager, but I dont know waht to do with my husband he is getting stranger and more distant each day. ↑ |
| Name: Jo | Date: May 29th, 2008 6:12 AM |
| After reading all of your posts can I recommend a wonderful forum that is run by Karen Rodman called FAAAS (Families of Adults Afflicted with Aspergers) You have to complete a questionnaire about your circumstances and it takes a little while before your log in and password works but it is worth the wait. All of the women who post to this wonderful site are in the same situations that all of you find yourselves in - dealing with the day to day difficulties associated with having a spouse with Aspergers. It really is liberating to read other people's stories and strategies for coping. Anyway hope it helps some of you, it has certainly helped me a lot. ↑ |
| Name: pegschr | Date: Aug 5th, 2008 9:41 AM |
| how can we communicate with others in this forum? There seems to be no way to do that. I need a commrad in this daily fight to stay connected with my Aspergers husband. Anyone can email me. pegschr@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: Kristine | Date: Aug 27th, 2008 6:35 PM |
| I completely believe in a genetic link. ion going through everything with my two boys on the spectrum, it became abundantly clear to both myh husband and I that he too is an Aspie. This is not to say he is slower than me, quite the contrary in fact. He has always been genious according to all of his IQ test. Back when he was a kid they did not know how to educate a child with Aspergers. They always told his mother "He's the smartest boy but we can't get to him" So they packed him off to resource room to rot. Things have come light years in the education system since then. It can be hard to be married to him at times because of the communication differences. However, knowing what the issue is I have been able to adapt the way I try to communicate with him. I understand things so much better now because of my two boys that are on the spectrum. I use a lot of the same tricks that I have found work with them on him and our relationship has improved. Now I understand he isn't being dense or a jerk he truly dosen't get it sometimes. And I just have to find a new way to communicate my idea if it is important or I just let it drop. Life in our house is much happier. ↑ |
| Name: thomas harris | Date: Oct 13th, 2008 8:02 PM |
| Name: katie | Date: Oct 18th, 2008 1:39 PM |
| My fiance has asperger's. He really sweet and were getting married soon. Can we still have kids. We both want kids. I ove him sooooooooooooooooooooo much I could not live with out him. So my question is should we have kids? ↑ |
| Name: Jennifer1234 | Date: Nov 21st, 2008 9:54 PM |
| I am so glad I have read these post. My youngest son has been diagnosed with aspergers. For many years I have dealt with the school system about his outburst. He has been suspended about half of his school life. I can personally relate to him but I am able to control it in the eyes of the public. I am guessing that I to have some form of aspergers. I have always been the provider in my home. My ex-husband would not and still will not support our two sons. I am a high school drop out who recently started attending college. Because school work comes easy for me I have decided to attend RN school so I can provide a better life for my children and especially my youngest. We live in a rural WV comunity that has no services for his condition. After I complete RN school we will be financially able to move to an area that will have services for him. I deeply regret that I was to blind to realize this years ago. After reading this I realize that people living with people such as my son and myself, don't really want to be around around them. Most of the wives that posted a post about their husband feel as if they are good providers but not someone that they want to be married. I am glad I have read this because it has opened my eyes to how it really is for us unusual people. I am glad I am single and feel sorry for the misfortunate men to be in such a sad situation. I dont feel so bad anymore about not having a significant other. I am better off without it. I will not be a guilt trip for someone. Thanks for letting us know. ↑ |
| Name: Juneau | Date: Jan 4th, 2009 10:40 PM |
| I believe that my husband has a mild form of Asperger's. He also seemed sweet and I was very touched by his honesty when we married. He has also been hard working all of his life. I started realizing that he has no social skills (although he thinks he is very personable). He doesn't know the right thing to say and often embarrasses me and my grown children . I had an old friend tell me many years after I hadn't seen her that she avoided me after I was married, because her husband didn't want to be around him. She said that it is obvious that he just "doesn't get it". When my daughter was growing up, she was also very naive awkward and slow to catch on to things. She has grown to be a very sensitive, caring and successful young woman but still a bit naive. Somehow a girl can get away with it better. My husband, however, has not matured. I basically brought up my children alone. The children now ask me why I married him and tell me that they never really had a dad. I currently moved into a 55 and over community in a new town and have found that everyone avoids us. He continues to say embarrassing things, and if I try to correct him, he gets angry and tell me that I make him feel bad. When we are with people he constantly talks about himself, and if the subject is changed, he brings it back to himself. I see people's eyes glaze over when he is speaking. If I tell him something in confidence, I find out that he told it to a neighbor or total stranger, so I have no one to confide in. I don't know what to do. I am isolated from my old friends in this new town. From my description, my doctor thinks my husband has a mild form of Aspergers. I am suffering from Depression and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and feel very lonely in this marriage. He doesn't like me to be away from him now that he is retired and just turned 61. I have led a very lonely life, and feel that there is nothing left to do at my age, as the stress of living with this has depleted me and left me too weak to work anymore. I wish I had an answer, but I think my problem is futile. ↑ |
| Name: Kelly | Date: Jan 18th, 2009 11:46 AM |
| I am astonished at what I've read here. I have been married 25 years and in last few years become increasingly fed-up with my husband's unattached, unemotional, lack of compassion, affection-less, detached, manner of being with me and our now young teenage kids. I began to wonder and really pay attention in last year or so to the strange strategies and behaviors that I constantly see that are almost camouflaged behind his Mr. Wonderful persona...true hard worker, almost to point of obsession, constantly has to be BUSY, a master of deflection & denial, almost seems to have a seething fury just below surface that only comes out if cornered in a conversation that isn't going his way, strange awkward behaviors in public that I no longer have the energy or desire to cover. For many years I have worked to "please and impress" my husband, to no avail - my eyes are open and I've given up on seeking his approval. I have begun to stand up and speak up but can never get through to him. It has been infuriating and fruitless. For a long, long time I have been "blamed" for not wanting to go anywhere, do anything etc. I've come to learn that it is always he that doesn't wish to socialize, but it is part of his strategy to blame it on me to avoid any responsibility. The interesting thing is that I thought he was just being passive-aggressive, I now think possibly there is an Apergers component to his personality - it explains a lot. I feel almost relieved, kind of sad, and at a loss as to what to really do. I love this man that is my first love - but it's like I've grown up - but he's in many ways remained as the 16 year old that I first met. Not so attractive now in my 40's, it's almost like I love him for the man that he could be, but truly can't be. ↑ |
| Name: Carla | Date: Jan 22nd, 2009 1:35 PM |
Hi Nicole,
I am a mom of 4 boys. My oldest son who is now 14 was diagnosed with sensory integration dysfunction at age 8. I have a son now 6 years old who has high-functioning autism. As my 14 year old son has grown into teenager-hood, it has become more and more evident he has aspergers. And yes, as I've become more educated about it, there is no doubt my husband has it too. My husband is socially awkward, and does not emotionally connect with his children very well, and does not pick up certain social cues correctly. We've been married 16 years next month. His love for me is not failing. He is very romantic, very 'patient' with me and my short-comings. But there is an emotional disconnect that leaves me with the desperate need to stay connected with friends, which is very difficult in our busy society. When I had my second child (20 months after the first), life was very hard because my husband was working awful hours (80 hrs/wk). I went through awful post partum depression. It was the worst time in our marriage. He would so often work late and when I called him he'd coldly say, "I won't be home for dinner." Leaving me with the dinner and bedtime care of two little ones. THankfully he's had a job change in the last 5 years which has made hours wonderful. My husband can be difficult leading the family. It is very physically and emotionally draining for me. I have to pretty much be the one to "emotionally" train my children. And having a 14 yo with aspergers is the most challenging. We are currently meeting with a social worker/psychologist to get help with some issues I can not manage in my own strength.
I side with "rain" with regard to the heredity view. My husband I really believe has aspergers. I wouldn't say it is subtle. I showed a very good list of signs of asperger's to my mom, and she said that no doubt my dad has it also. So if my dad has it and my husband..was there any hope for my children!? But seriously I didn't tell you about my #2 son who is 12, and I didn't talk about me. My 12 yo and I both have ADHD. When my 6 yo was born, I initially said, oh, he has both ADHD & sensory integration dysfunction. Well, put them together and what have you got? BIppidy boppity Boo! : ) AUTISM. I often say that autism is born when those with ADHD are too much in love and not paying attention that the one they are in love with has "issues" and thus is born autistic children. Thankfully my 6yo has more of the ADHD issues than the sensory issues (although there's no doubt he has those). So my 6yo is very loving and fun loving like his 12yo brother. At the same time he's very bright academically like his 14 yo brother. This year my 6yo was mainstreamed to a regular ed Kindergarten because he had an excellent AU Pre-k experience for 2 years.
But back to the husband thing, I now understand my husband better, but it doesn't make things any easier. But it has taken away the guilt and bewilderment of 'why is this mothering thing so difficult?' It is because I am really taking care of 5 boys instead of 4. And my husband (a.k.a. child #5) I am starting to come to grips with may have hypoglycemia on top of it all. When he comes home from work, if I don't have an instantaneous meal ready for him he is even more disconnected than normal.
I would love to talk to others in a similar situation and perhaps also are Christians. I will elaborate how grace plays a part in all of this. Brenda, you sound just like me. I know this blog is old, but I just found it today.
One other trait of my husband's aspergers (and my 14 yo's) that is so difficult is his inability to admit wrongdoing. His inability to apologize unless I 'instruct' him to. I feel like I need to give him social stories! I used to tell him that he is like Arthur Fonzerelli on Happy Days where he can't say sorry, it comes out like "I'm ssszzZZZZZzzzz" If you'd like to contact me, do so at sgemommy@yahoo.com ↑ |
| Name: Megan | Date: Jan 27th, 2009 8:36 PM |
| Hello, I'm seeing a psychiatrist at the moment as i feel something isn't right with my husband as well. I spoke to the doctor and mentioned it might be asperges, she said it sounds like it, Anyway he is seeing her next week, i hope to get to the bottom of this as i feel my marriage is sufferering. Communicating is so hard sometimes because he doesn't seem to get small talk and sometimes i just can't understand what he is talking about. Socially i find it really hard as he seems slow. I feel embarrassed too as i am 5 years older. I hope the doctor has some solutions for us. ↑ |
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