HELP!!!
So, my 18 1/2 year old daughter is a senior in high school. Her boyfriend is an almost 17 year old junior.
They have been friends since middle school and began a more intimate relationship about 3 months ago. Both are excellent students, my daughter works and is quite responsible in most areas of her life. Both she and her boyfriend are virgins, from what I can gather.
When she turned 18, she told me that she wanted to go on birth control. She and I have always had an open and honest relationship which I am SO grateful for. However, I told her that I was not comfortable or okay with her becoming sexually active at this time. Needless to say, being an "adult", she made her own decision, paid for the Nuva ring and began using it today.
Tonight, she came to me and asked me to loan her $50. Because she works, she understands that I don't make a habit of loaning her money. In any case, I asked what she needed the money for and lo and behold it turns out that she wants to buy some sexy undergarments which she plans to wear "for him" . AArgh! She swears that they are not going to have sex... yeah right... that isn't even the point. I really don't want her "playing" at sex regardless of whether they "plan" to actually have intercourse or not. I understand that she is 18, but she is still living in our home and being supported by us. Additionally, her boyfriend is still legally at an age where she could be prosecuted should they decide to have sex.
Any thoughts and/or suggestions would be very much appreciated. ↓
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| Name: babycrowd sucks dong | Date: Feb 19th, 2007 10:16 PM |
Well your daughter will have sex if she wants to regardless of sexy undergarements...
Really i think 18 is a mature age to start a sexual relationship with someone, she has been with for such a long time. She is technically a adult now, forbidding or stopping her will only encourage her.
I know its hard to accept because she is your daughter..but it will happened regardless..all i can say is support her and give her all the help and advice she needs. No that doesnt mean giveing her $50 to buy sexy shit either ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Feb 19th, 2007 11:24 PM |
are you from the US?
18 is considered an adult here.
You have a great relationship with your daughter and she has been open with what she is doing.
i would let her go....dont give her the money, because it is money that is being spent of stuff that makes you uncomfortable.
my mother was not comfortable with my brother when he had his girlfriend over on weekends....but she said to me at the time, that she would rather them 'be together' at home safe than out on the streets....and of course to use contraceptives.
He was 17yo at the time, but had a full time job and was responsible and mature.
i didnt think 17yo was considered under age for sex.
i suppose i would reinforce that fact first and foremost
good luck :-) ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Feb 20th, 2007 3:27 PM |
| If that were my daughter I would agree...if she helped me pick something sexy out for myself and her father. ↑ |
| Name: PosersNFakes | Date: Feb 20th, 2007 4:17 PM |
im 14, and have been brought "sexy undergarments" doesnt mean anything..
doesnt automatically make you have sex ↑ |
| Name: PosersNFakes | Date: Feb 20th, 2007 4:20 PM |
| Name: chantel1 | Date: Mar 23rd, 2007 8:30 AM |
| hi there i was bying sexy stuff to where all the time but was a virgin for ages, before i even done anything, and aren't you glad she's so honest with you i'd feel priveleged if i were you, you must have a very strong and trusting bond, and she must feel she can trust you, i think it's a good thing she open with you:) ↑ |
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