| Name: carl | Date: May 20th, 2006 4:23 PM |
| I think she has evrey right to that. I hate my stepfather so much as well. i cant wait till I get the hell out of this house!!! ↑ |
| Name: Sharon | Date: May 31st, 2006 1:05 AM |
| my 15 year old son is finishing his 9th grade yr in high school with 4 d's and an f , we've grounded him - no tv, ipod, cell, etc basically the whole year. My husband wants to keep him in his room for the summer and write standards like his father did. He gives us NO other problems -drugs, etc, but the grades are causing my husband and I to argue more, What should we do? ↑ |
| Name: Been there | Date: May 31st, 2006 8:51 AM |
| Honestly, I DESPISED my moms boyfriends. Thank God she never married any of them. The reason most kids hate step-parents is because they try to move in on your (emotional) territory and act like they can control you. And it should always be your kids before your boyfriend or S/O. And just for the record, if Alexander is still reading this, I would beat the shit out of someone for talking about my kids that way. Men are not your blood. You do not have a bond to a boyfriend like you do your own child. If my mom or dad ever chose a lover over me, they would never see me again. Or their grandkids. And just an FYI: People break up ALL THE TIME. It's not too often you see a kid break up with their parents. ↑ |
| Name: Robert | Date: Jun 6th, 2006 6:14 PM |
| im 16 yrs old and i hate my stepfather and within good reason. denise i think ur daughter hates this man as much as i hate my stepdad and i think she does because i mope around all day and dont speak to my stepfather or my mum and that is because i cant stand to be around them. if she hates this man so much it isnt ever going to change. just reassure your daughter that she comes before your husband any day and mean it. ↑ |
| Name: puja_1`43 | Date: Jun 8th, 2006 4:49 AM |
| Name: nicholas | Date: Jun 11th, 2006 2:46 AM |
| so is my but he likes 15 and he's 14 ↑ |
| Name: Lea | Date: Jun 13th, 2006 9:20 AM |
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| Name: KATHY | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 8:19 PM |
| Well helen, i am 13 and i also hate my stepdad. See what u parents don't get is that we don't hate them because they change our moms, we just hate them. We hate how they embarrass us, how they bud into things and think they're the boss of u because u moms say they r, how they r smart ass to us when u moms aren't looking, and especially when they act like freakin 3rd graders and tell all the conversations or arguments u have with them to the moms. I, like your daughter, have considered living with my real dad too. Here is the solution to your problem. Make that step dad be in a seperate room than her than all times, and make your daughters rules be from u, not him. Another possibilitie is your daughter just might not care any more, like me. She might have finally relized why try to change things when they're just not gonna change. She probably now finds u annoying and useless because u let her down by letting the stepdad have a say in her life and only uses u for money and nessesities and wants. In this case, just deal with it and tell your husband to bug off and let her have her way. I have no sympathy for u as u should have told your husband to bud out a long time ago... now you're just stuck with the consequences. ↑ |
| Name: Rachelle | Date: Jul 6th, 2006 9:28 PM |
| are you with him for you or for you and her? all i am saying is that when you married your new hussband did you think about how you felt. you only cared about yourself. Your daughter is the best thing that hapen to you. if you don't fix your problem she's going to hate you for the rest of her life. then when you desireve the thanks she's not going to say "thank you" she's just going to walk away. she's close of going to college think fast. ↑ |
| Name: YASHI | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 4:27 AM |
| MAYBE SHE THINKS DAT U CARE MORE ABOUT THEM AND NOT ABOUT HER US TEENS AND AT THIS AGE WE THINK ALOT OF THING AND MAYBE THIS IS THE TIME SHE NEEDS HER MOM THE MOST BUT SHE'S SCARED THAT IF SHE COMES TO U , U WONT CARE ↑ |
| Name: karen | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 11:55 AM |
| insted of kissing her butt try spanking her butt if she says that nobody her age gets spanked tell her I get spanked and im 21 mother still takes down my panties and put me over knees and spanks me with a hairbrush I do not kile being spanked but I still live at home ↑ |
| Name: Scooby | Date: Jul 15th, 2006 10:00 PM |
Well long story but have 3 kids - oldest 2 came to live with me a 13 and 14 (boy and girl) cuz they werent getting on with mum and social were going to take them into care - I was always painted as the bad apple by their mum but i wouldnt say anything to them - it is still their mum - daughter was here for a year then i met a new partner - week after she moved in daughter wasnt happy so goes to police after talking to mum - i tried to get off with her mate - charged sexual assualt - end result daughter goes back to mum - charge is dropped after year and half and i suspended from work pending enquires it was resolved - but i could of ended up inside for that - but now just me partner son and her young daughter - my son doesnt want my partner there like my daughter didnt - had more accqusations - not feeding him proper - etc etc - all after conv with mum - man i must have had a bad previous life - son still with me now but he and my partner argue like f**k and i caught in the middle all the time - he blames her - she blames hims - my kids want just me and no one else - am i allowed a life after my divorce or not? - if i had walked away when we split when the kids were 4,5,6 would there have had a better life without their heads being filled full of s**t - I dont know - but from what i been through i can understand why some ppl walk away - I love my kids but i want a life a well and i have been given constant grief via the kids from my ex. I can see no solution but am open to advice - Kids mum paints me black - as i see it she is still there mum so i wont say anything to them despite what i think - am i wrong or right - i love my new partner but the grief kids are causing - mum has told there - "she not your mum - she cant tell you what to do" - etc etc - I agree my kids come first but when faced with a constant negative stream from their mum i am at a loss what to do - this is not a negative post against women - just one woman in particular cuz i know there are some very decent ladies out there - i just met a bad one - At the moment my son is in hospital as at 14 is has just gone as OD on drugs and alcholol and i am stuck at a junction of what to do - do i let him rule my life and get rid of my partner which i dont want to do - or fight it out again with parenting classes etc etc which i have done but seem to make no difference. He is my son - I love him to bits - but should he be able to dictate who i see by his actions - i dont think my partner is being unreasonable with him - we have come to an understanding when she will not decide any rules for him - i do that - but she is there to monitor if he abides by them -
I am a lost soul and any helplnes advice that can be offered would be much appreciated.
Scooby ↑ |
| Name: Scooby | Date: Jul 15th, 2006 10:14 PM |
| Sorry my email is scooby_snax42@hotmail.com and i am open to any advice ↑ |
| Name: amyahlexus | Date: Mar 25th, 2009 9:57 PM |
| Okay, so i am 13 and i have lived with my mom and stepdad since i was 6. They got married when i was 12. They had a daughter (my half- sister) when i was 8. I despise my sister and we don't get along, she is now seven. I HATE my stepdad and think he has ruined my life. They just think that i'm being a teen but I truly hate him. He wonders why I disrespect him even though it's obvious. He has caused so many problems for our family and is soo immature about everything. He stays out with his stupid freinds all night and disrespects my mom so much. He calls her mean names, makes her cry, and even puts his hands on her. It sickens me when i see them kiss and don't see how my mom could love such a bad guy. He is a know-it-all and argues about the stupidest things like what color a car is. He is the biggest compulsive liar i know and i can't stand him. Here's a word of advice from someone who understands where she's coming from: Don't chose your husband over your kids and it makes her very jealous when you give the atteion to the cute little kids and even feels that everything is your fault when you are mean to her so i would talk to her and show her you really care. I hope this advice helps :) ↑ |
| Name: Sonnie | Date: Apr 6th, 2009 12:24 PM |
| My family is going through a little bit of what you are talking about. I am a christian and I have been remarried to a christian man since my daughter from my first married was 1 year 4 months old. She is now 15 years old. Back in October her grandmother on her dads side got sick, she passed away in December from complications to open heart surgery. Since October when her grandmother got sick she has been treating me, my husband, her step brother 7 years old and step sister 11 years old like crap. We have never left her out of a family decision. For spring break we went to search for diamonds in the arkansas diamond fields one day, another day we went to a discovery museum. The whole time all she did was go off by herself and complain and whine, and never even looked as if having a good time. The only time she looks as if she is having any fun is if she is around other people, and then she ignores us as if we are not even there. We get on to our 7 year old for trying to cut into a discussion between 2 people because it is disrespectful to do that, but if we get on to her for doing it she rolls her eyes and keeps talking louder to talk over everyone instead of waiting her turn. Her grades are up and down from day to day. I have went to counseling with her on one of her sessions and it never fells that she has to bring up something trying to make me mad but if I bring up how she is being hateful to the other 2 kids in our home she starts crying saying she doesn't want to live with us anymore and that she is mad at my husband for getting on to her all the time. Well I have told her if she would stop trying to hurt her now 7 year old step brother when me or my husband have our backs turned we would not be having to get on to her all the time. For some examples, she jumped out of a tree house that was 7 foot of the ground then picked on him calling him a baby until he did it, luckly he just got a scrap on his wrist, then there was last week he just learned how to ride a bike with no training wheels and my daughter was riding her bike standing up, she told him he was a baby if he couldn't do it so he tried, I managed to run and stop him and his bike before he plunged into the front grill of my car. I am protective of all 3 of my children but I can not have her constantly talking him in to doing things that could possibly seriously get him hurt by calling him a baby if he won't do it. Her dad lives alone divorced with a son from his second marriage. When my daugher visits her dad every other weekend she is the mom and has to cook for and watch her 12 year old brother that runs the roads when she is not there because her dad works all the time and leaves him at home alone. I am just about ready to send her to her dads so she can see what it is like to have to be an adult all day every day with no spare time to go out and play or sit and read with no disturbances like she has when she is here with me and my husband. The only chores she has at my house is to do her homework, keep her grades up, keep her room clean, do her laundry, and empty one of the shelves in the dish washer. ↑ |
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