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what should i do she refuses a counsler and only talks to her friends but they wont tell me anything ↓
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| Name: Lizzi | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 6:37 PM |
| Well Jess,you're the parent,take charge!!!!!! Take her to a facility where she can stay and get help!!! It's not up to her and if she wants to go or not. It's you're responsibility as a parent to get her there so she can get treatment!!!!!! She's just 14 remember?You are the parent,be one and do what's right! ↑ |
| Name: ^jess^ | Date: Dec 20th, 2006 9:37 PM |
| shes been b4 but as soon as she coems bac shes just back at cutting ↑ |
| Name: saxton_emma | Date: Dec 21st, 2006 5:09 AM |
| well try again.. what ever reson she is cuttin and tryin to kill herself hasnt been sorted. you should take charge before its to late ↑ |
| Name: lucie | Date: Dec 21st, 2006 8:30 AM |
JESS, SAXTON EMMA, LIZZI
in the ED forum jess is on there aged 14 asking for help. Jess is therefore not a parent.
Jess don't take offence that i have found this out, people are here to listen and help, just please be honest.
take care
xxxxx ↑ |
| Name: bladerunnerx16 | Date: Dec 21st, 2006 7:51 PM |
| I think I understand this.....she was embarassed and probably was trying to write in the third person to make it sound like it wasn't her becasue she didn't want to be judged, which she hasn't been yet. ↑ |
| Name: bladerunnerx16 | Date: Dec 21st, 2006 9:39 PM |
| Name: lucie | Date: Dec 22nd, 2006 4:31 AM |
yeah she just really wants help, i can she why she 'made up' the third party.
lucie ↑ |
| Name: Chikita | Date: Dec 22nd, 2006 4:08 PM |
| well i cant say nothin but idk cuz i do the same thing and we friends stick together and we dont speak nothin outta us friends ... I cut myself every day but theres lettter i have a cut on my leg and it has an A and L together and its my boyfriends inicials then i have a cut on my arm that is already curing up and the one on my stomach i cut myself everytime im mad and when no one lets me do anything ... anywayz bye ↑ |
| Name: ash2 | Date: Dec 27th, 2006 10:29 PM |
| Well just get as involved as you can in her life. Go shopping together, turn off the tv when you eat dinner. Take a mom/ daughter day and go skating, or catch a movie. Spend time with her and really listen. Get on her level . Apologize for not being there. Get to know her friends. ↑ |
| Name: mystic1306 | Date: Dec 28th, 2006 11:12 AM |
| Your daughter is suffering from a lack of acceptance from the hame. Everyone, especially teenagers, have the need to feel accepted. If they don't they turn to extremes. They feel no one understands where they are coming from or what they have been through. Your daughter may refuse a counseler because all she wants is attention and does not want to ask for it. Think of it as a game, your teen will give you clues, but you must solve the puzzle. I was such a teen and my parents did not listen to my clues, I attemped suicide, dropped out of school, got pregnant, and moved out at age 16. All I wanted was attention and to feel like I was a part of their family. See, I lived in a home with my mother, my stepfather and their daughter, I felt like I was just a burden inside their little happy family. They would not give me the love and attention that my little sister got, so I found what I thought was want I wanted elsewhere. Needless to say that did not work out for me, but eventually I found a better life. I am a nursing student now, have a wonderful man, and 2 kids. But that will never replace the way I wished my family loved me. It just makes me love my own more. My suggestion to you is to do things with your daughter that she enjoyed before the drama of teenage years. Read aloud taking turns. Set a time every week for you and her, and do something you both will enjoy. You don't have to spend a lot of money, just time. Find new things you both enjoy. Also, if your daughter is doing the goth thing, find out what religion she is practicing, you might be suprised. Take an interest in it and ask questions about things she likes, questions that will get you involved, not those like "why would you want to do a thing like that" One more thing, try to remember what it was like to be a teenager, it is not always easy. The best of luck to you. ↑ |
| Name: kb3lzh13 | Date: Dec 29th, 2006 7:15 AM |
| Cutting is not a form of suicide i did it when i was 13 and girl i am 13 only did it for a a year but it is a form of realing anger and stress i did it becuz my home life my bad and myaybe ask her why and tell her how u feel ↑ |
| Name: xsarahdx | Date: Jan 5th, 2007 1:50 AM |
| jess im 14 and i know you are probobly she thnot gonna take my advice into consideration but who better to hear from then someone her age. Your daughter is going threw the typical fase she thinks that she has no place here for her but all you need to do is show her she is important to you and shes probobly also facing a break up and that will aslo give her the fealing of no place on earth for her so you may want to give her a little space. please take this into cosideration because i garantee it will help ↑ |
| Name: tpeters | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 2:11 PM |
AsI read the responses of some people it really upsets me. my heart goes out to you. I have been through what you are going through. Long hard battle. Here is the help you need...This is a very sensitive subject for me. I am the parent of a daughter 15 years old. She started cutting, talked about and tried suicide and had major depression. On the outside she seemed happy to those around her. She was able to disguise it well. I, through a long process, found help and I want everyone to know.
Jan. 3,4,5/07 we were in California at the Amen clinic http://www.brainplace.com/ or http://amenclinics.com/ Before we left we put her on mood stabilizer Lamictal. It started to do wonders. Glad we did not go on Prosac, the psychiatrists here in CO were guessing, no thanks.
They were actually able to see into her brain at amen Clinic and figure out what was wrong with a new type of procedure called SPECT. They diagnosed her with Mood disorder, PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), and ADHD. The doctor we saw explained everything. They are very thorough. She is already improving on the Lamictal and they gave her a prescription for some wafers that are fast acting to put under her tongue for anxiety if she needs something right away.
The reason for the CUTTING!!! The Doctor there explained that when a person cuts, it causes the body to release chemicals in the brain that actually cool down the hot spots on the brain that are responsible for racing thoughts, anxiety, etc. It has a physiological reason. They are not crazy! It is a way to self medicate! Get help now.
So get help now. There is good help available. Dr. Clements is the doctor we saw there. He is excellent with teens and it doesn’t hurt as my daughter put it that “he is hot” (good looking for any parent reading this that is not familiar with that term .LOL Tell him I recommended him.
Also, talk to your counselor or principal at school and get her (easier after diagnosis) a 504 plan. It will take so much stress off.
Let me know if I can help further. Prayer works, that is what led me to the path that has been the answer.
Tina
tpeters@bresnan.net ↑ |
| Name: Devin_T | Date: Jan 10th, 2007 2:17 PM |
| She is just going through a hard time in her life maybe a boy, something at school..it could be anything,since she is a Teen She might thik something like that is the end of the world for her. ↑ |
| Name: TeenageWasteland182 | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 11:26 PM |
Hae'
well i tried to commit suicide wen i was 13, believe me counsiling makes things worse, she'll end up hating you more if you send her there.
Don't be silly , Honestly parents, of course her frendz wont tell you anything thats like betraying your frendship majorly, if something was reali wrong believe if her frendz cared about her they would come clean.
Obviously its not to bad, so don't dwell on the past step into the future and try to act as normal as humanly possible.
Ace ↑ |
| Name: luvheart | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 3:38 AM |
| Agreeing with first post. Take charge. 14 is too young to be making her own decisions. ↑ |
| Name: yet_another_tear | Date: Feb 19th, 2007 10:39 AM |
| Leave her the fuck alone!!!!! My parents sent me to a counsler, it just fucks with your head more!!!!!!!! Let her talk to her friends!!!!! They are who she trust and can trust obvously!!!!! My parents took all the phones in the house away and tried to make me talk to them. I went and fuckin loaded my cult 45, but that mutha fucker jammed. Let her be!!!!!! She just needs her space!!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Spoon | Date: Apr 4th, 2007 8:59 PM |
i tryed that wen i was fourteen thats only two years ago
tis a faze she'll get over it ↑ |
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