| Name: Susan | Date: Jul 20th, 2006 5:38 PM |
| Thanks chris but I dont want to take the risk of my mother finding out she has already demonstrated to me she can humiliate me big time so im just going to keep wearing the big pants at least its not pantygirdles like some have to wear thanks. ↑ |
| Name: Laura | Date: Jul 20th, 2006 6:47 PM |
What difference does it make?
Is someone seeing your underwear?
If they are there is something you are doing that is undermining the glory of your body.
Don't cheapen yourself, you are worth far more then bikini underwear.
Don't you know your value? ↑ |
| Name: Alex | Date: Jul 21st, 2006 6:54 PM |
Tell your mother that now you're are a teenager and are curious about more adult things. Explain to her that you'd rather learn those adult things from her then from your friends or other older women in your life, and if you really want to scare her, from boys. Maybe she'll feel more a part of your growing up and at least consider letting you get more mature underwear.
And if she pulls the "well your sister likes them/doesn't mind them" then remind her that you and your sister are two different people with different tastes.
And if all else fails, ask if you can go with her and pick out some underwear and get her approval before buying them. You may not get the kind your friends do, but you might get something better then the full-sized briefs. ↑ |
| Name: rain | Date: Jul 21st, 2006 8:20 PM |
| Begin to plan now for the future, and I assume you may always have this relationship with your mom. Although some people mellow out. Some don’t. You could try writing letters to your Mom, explaining how you feel. But underwear may be the least of your problems. I am sure you love your mom, but have different beliefs about life. I would try to move out of state when you turn 18. If you bust your bottom on the grades you could get a free ride to college. Or there are organizations you could join at 18 that will take you out of state. Does anyone on here have any suggestions for that type of thing? ↑ |
| Name: momofangels | Date: Jul 22nd, 2006 1:31 AM |
| oh my gosh people.....are you all really that stupid to be arguing over underwear???full sized briefs never hurt anyone.Susan you should just be glad that your mom even buys you any.by the way,i think most girls now a days look like sluts with their belly shirts,painted on jeans and bikinis.save them for when you are older. ↑ |
| Name: Susan | Date: Jul 22nd, 2006 9:42 AM |
| Thanks Alex but I have tried to get my mother to let me choose my undies but she wont let me.She is in charge and she pays the bills so I get what im given its not that I want to show them of I just want the same as my friends and wear the latest fashions. ↑ |
| Name: To Susan | Date: Jul 23rd, 2006 4:06 PM |
| You have already been punished by your mother in a public manner what will she do if she finds out about this chat room you are a very silly girl just wear the pants and stop coming on here ↑ |
| Name: Susan | Date: Jul 23rd, 2006 6:16 PM |
| Do you think I would be as stupid as to let my mother find out about this chat room you dont know anything about humiliation im not a silly girl im a lot more cleverer than you. ↑ |
| Name: momofangels | Date: Jul 23rd, 2006 9:19 PM |
why don't you just get off this site and go play with your barbies?little girls have no business being here,this is the moms with teens forum. or better yet,why don't you go study your grammer???
typo; it is more clever; not more cleverer ↑ |
| Name: Lynn | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 12:44 AM |
Susan,
I'm a mom of a teenage boy and a teacher as well. But, I remember when I was your age like it was yesterday.
I can understand why you feel weird wearing the full size panties. Even back in the seventies I didn't wear them when I was a teen.
Here's what I advise you to do:
1) Making sure you are mild and respectful, ask your parents nicely why they feel it's best for you to wear full size panties.
2) Listen carefully to their answer and say it back to them in your own words to make sure you understand.
3) Tell them that you appreciate them caring about you, and while you would prefer to wear what they other girls your age wear in terms of underwear, you will choose to respect their rules.
4) Ask them if there would ever be any conditions under which they might reconsider. For example, would they let you wear something that is "in between" in coverage or a younger style?
For example, would they let you wear french cut breifs (they go up to the waist but are high cut on the sides). This is a younger look than a full breif and would cover the issue if your parents are worried about you showing your crack when you sit down. Or, could you wear boy short breifs, that are below the belly button but not low and have the little legs on them...but have a more stylish look to them. And, there is a style that is lower than that but not as low as a bikini. If they don't want you revealing anything when you sit down, maybe you can wear bikini underwear or something less than full briefs if you wear a dress or other clothing where your backside can't show when you sit down regardless.
The more respect you show and the more you try to understand their reasons, the more likely they will compromise, even if there is a delayed response.
And, if they don't compromise, what's the point in fighting them anyway. If they provide well for you and care about you, you're ahead of lost of kids, so you might just have to deal with this and get over it.
I personally would let a daughter wear bikini underwear as long as it (and her behind) didn't show in any clothing in any position. But, I don't think it's something that you can't work around until you are an adult.
When your parents make rules like that, they are not invading your privacy. They are giving you a dress code that they feel will be best for you. Even if you don't agree, please understand their intentions are motivated by love. Plenty of girls' parents don't care what they wear. I've had to explain to parents of girls I was teaching that when they come to class in tops that fall open when the lean over their schoolwork, it's not just me and the other kids who can see it. It's also the grown male teachers, the school police officers, the custodian and the other kids' dads. I ask the moms if they really want those men to see their teenage girls' breasts hanging out. Usually, the mom sits up and turns white as though she has never considered that and gets her girl's dress in code pretty quickly.
As young women, it's very easy to be naive about things like this and only think of fashion. But, I suspect your parents are trying to protect you out of love, even if it's not the way I would do it. How about hugging them and telling them "Thanks" for loving you enough to care?
But, if you show them respect and obedience and carefully as about slight compromises, you might come up with a win-win situation. ↑ |
| Name: twostepsback | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 10:24 AM |
My mother is just like that.
She dies for the grannies, like, huge ass white panties.
But I like cheeky panties alot.
I just went out shopping with my friend and bought it myself.
Its underwear, you shoul be allowed to make that choice. ↑ |
| Name: ME | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 10:32 AM |
| Name: Susan | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 2:43 PM |
| Thanks smart arse momofangles bet you wear pants up to your ears ↑ |
| Name: Jane | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 3:06 PM |
| No wonder your mother spanked you what a brat you are people are trying to help and you make comments like that ↑ |
| Name: susan | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 6:06 PM |
| You think you are dead clever as well dont you Jane with your smart arse comments you are like momofagles at least ive got barbies to play with you losers ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 6:34 PM |
I dont see anything wrong with bikini underware. Even I dont like the high waisted panties.
I do hope however the thong underware are a thing of the past by the time my daughter is a teenager. same with the jeans that the crack of your butt shows.
I wish the styles would show a bit more class. ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 9:07 PM |
P.S. I hope Im this open minded when Michael and kate get to this age.
LOL. :) ↑ |
| Name: andrew | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 9:12 PM |
| Name: smart ass | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 11:31 PM |
| wow! you really do have a smart mouth don't you? I don't know why anyone even bothers to help you.By the way, I understand why your mom beats your butt.....because you deserve it!!! ↑ |
| Name: baby girl | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 11:36 PM |
| AMEN!!! What a jerk! and by the way I agree with momofangels you are far to young to be wearing bikini underwear.It is because of clothes like these that girls like you are raped and murdered every day.Instead of sitting around bawling about your underwear why dont you turn on the news and see how many girl are missing today? ↑ |
| Name: Jane | Date: Jul 26th, 2006 4:27 PM |
| I dont think you are 15 more like 5 you should not be on here but in bed with your teddy little girl!!!! ↑ |
| Name: ani | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 12:41 PM |
| what the hell is wrong on this site?why the heck do you let little girls post about things like sex and underwear?This is supposed to be a mothers of teens forum,but it really pisses me off. ↑ |
| Name: ann m | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 7:49 PM |
i wear thongs and i am 17
tell your
mom what you want to wear! ↑ |
| Name: Jan | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 5:01 AM |
| I dont understand your problem susan I have 3 daughters 12 14 and 16 and they all wear fullsize briefs as do I they have never said anything about wishing to wear smaller ones.They all wear fashionable clothes so whats your problem??? ↑ |
| Name: bladerunnerx16 | Date: Aug 9th, 2006 1:03 PM |
If you are going to bitch everyone out, then don't ask for fuc***g help.
Dont be a fuc/***g wimp! if she hits u, hit HER TWICE AS HARD! ↑ |
| Name: bladerunnerx16 | Date: Aug 9th, 2006 1:05 PM |
| you obviously don't have much of a problem if you whine and bitch at EVERY suggestiion given 2 u. ↑ |
| Name: loveguide | Date: Aug 14th, 2006 2:51 PM |
| dont go against your mom. just dont tell anyone what underwear you wear. they dont need to know. and nobody has to see it. its your underwear! WHO CARES!! dont wear different underwear because you want to fit in. be yourself and right now you need to listen to your mom. if you need help email me at iwant2bmore2u@aim.com ↑ |
| Name: babey_g_311 | Date: Aug 29th, 2006 10:19 PM |
| maybe you should be thankfull for what you have in life, some kids cant even afford underwear! Some kids get beat for no reason not just spanked, and some kids parents could care less what they are up to so they dont feel loved.If your not having sex what does it matter what kind of underwear you wear? who do you have to impress? Be thankfull for the life you have in which you complain about not having the right kind of underwear. When my husband was growing up his mom would go out and smoke meth and leave him to raise his 3 little brothers by himself and try to go to school on top of that! So to hear someone complain that their mom cares is a crock, get over it. ↑ |
| Name: wasabi | Date: Sep 11th, 2006 10:41 AM |
| My daughter came home from the mall w/ a ruffled little lace thong last year -- complete with skull & crossbones on the front -- EEK! I was mortified. After hyperventilating briefly, I reminded myself it was only an article of clothing, but told her it might "send a certain type of message" to other girls in the locker room at school. She claimed "everyone" was wearing them. I explained that our washing machine would quickly shred such a delicate item, and showed her where the Woolite was, and described how she'd need to handwash them, gently blot them with a towel, and lay them somewhere flat to dry, taking care to remember that the laundry room in our house is a fairly public bathroom when guests are over. Interestingly enough, she only wore them once... ?? ↑ |
| Name: Steph | Date: Sep 12th, 2006 10:06 AM |
| simply tell them that either you are wearing the underwear that you like or no underwear at all... and make this clear and reinforce it hun! we are living in the 21st century they design this underwear for a reason... and underwear has nothing to do with sex or sexual intention its what you feel comfortable in... wear what you wnat dont let the old folk stop you... be stubborn .. if it makes you happy do it xxx ↑ |
| Name: question | Date: Oct 1st, 2006 3:13 PM |
Im sorry,I have to disagree with you steph,you say underwear has nothing to do with sex or sexual intentions....I don't feel that this is really the case.I am 24 years old and I know exactly what kind of underwear turn my boyfriend on.The smaller they are the more he likes them.The less they cover and more they show the sexier and greater he thinks they are.That is why the underwear industry keep changing the underwear styles,because they know what is sexy and what will sell.
I don't feel that a girl of 15 should be wearing these kinds of underwear if her mother doesn't want her to.Susan,as long as you are at home,please try to keep the peaces and when you leave home go underwear shopping and then you can really enjoy doing it knowing that you will be able to wear them and enjoy them without worrying about your moms disapproval. ↑ |
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