| Name: Seanix | Date: Oct 2nd, 2009 9:52 AM |
| keep the baby and love it with all your heart! [3 ↑ |
| Name: kendall. | Date: Oct 26th, 2009 1:20 AM |
| hi im 16 nd im a week pregnant? helpp? ↑ |
| Name: angela | Date: Oct 27th, 2009 2:39 AM |
Bianca,
A baby is a blessing. I wouldn't be able to get rid of him/her if I were in your shoes. If you want to keep the baby, DO IT. And don't worry about your boyfriend. Nobody deserves an abusive relationship. And I'm sure your baby will make you the happiest person. Just do what's right for you and your baby. You have a lot to think about. What's best for YOU?? ↑ |
| Name: Matt | Date: Dec 22nd, 2009 7:59 PM |
| Guys, Bianca posted this almost 4 years ago. I wonder what she decided to do. ↑ |
| Name: Sam | Date: Feb 4th, 2010 2:08 PM |
Im Also 19 And Expecting :) Im 4 Weeks Now And Me And Me Boyfriend Are So Happy, At The End Of The Day Its Your Decision,
Good Luck x ↑ |
| Name: Claire | Date: Mar 14th, 2010 2:33 PM |
| I have 2 beauitful girl i had my first 1 at 19 best thing i ever did dont get me wrong i find it hard but i lv them x ↑ |
| Name: Amber | Date: Mar 20th, 2010 3:45 AM |
Dear Bianca, This is the time for you to find whatever strength you can in yourself, and don't look for a boyfriend to save you. You DO have choices.... terminate pregnancy, adoption, open adoption, or raise your child on your own. None of these choices is perfect, but each must be explored. After all, you made a choice when you allowed yourself to conceive this child, and the responsible thing to do now is to look at the choices that lie ahead of you. Don't forget, doing nothing is also making a choice -- the choice to bring this child into the world and be fully responsible for providing a good life to this new person. Whatever you consider, you need to look at the LEGAL consequences of your choice. Like it or not, the baby's father will have rights. (The last decision you get to make totally on your own is to keep the baby.) Once you decide to carry this pregnancy to term, the father will have rights to visitation, and he will be in your life, like it or not. Or, if you choose adoption, he also has rights. I urge you to not just consult with a doctor, friends, and people in your same situation, but to talk to a Family Law Attorney about what your rights and obligations will be once you bring this baby into the world.
To start learning what the issues are, I suggest you google "Uniform Parentage Act."
Wishing you strength and wisdom as you face these decisions,
Amber ↑ |
| Name: Victoria | Date: Mar 28th, 2010 4:43 AM |
| hello everyone im 19 & pregnant as well and @ tha peak of my academic career..im 5weeks pregnant & im scared as well. Bianca dont worry u can get thru this. God will be with u.. talk 2 god & hell let u know tha best decision in this matter :) ↑ |
| Name: Kris | Date: Mar 30th, 2010 4:07 PM |
hi bianca. Well I'm going to tell you I was pregnant when I was 19. When i told my parents my mother scheduled an abortion app. for me. She didn't like the father of my child and he also didn't want it. But I did want it so i kept her. Now she's getting ready to turn a year old and my parents couldn't love her more. As for the father leave him. My boyfriend came around and accepted her. If your's doesn't leave him. Even if he does come around leave him anyway. Abuse of any kind is unacceptable!!!!
Good luck in whatever you decide to do!!! ↑ |
| Name: jessica | Date: May 27th, 2010 1:06 PM |
| Hello i want to say congrats on the baby. I have to say this i was 14 pregnant and gave birth at 15 i was a signel mother who was on birth control and first time ever. want to talk about god wanting to give me a baby. it is the best thing i can say i love being a mom and even if i have to be a single mother my son is now 6 about to be 7 and we have a bond like no other he feels he has to be my man at times but, now that i am dating and in a real relationship he has back off... lol.. i am now 5 weeks pregnant and i am only 21. there is nothing wrong with being young and having kids yes you loose out on alot but you can gain it back if you have motivation. i work for a big company and now can afford a house 2 dogs my boyfriends 2 children and mine ( i didnt graduate) god gave you a gift that he wants you to learn from and embrass it with postive it will be hard but, to see a loving face everyday will be will worth it. ↑ |
| Name: Brittany | Date: Jun 22nd, 2010 3:18 AM |
| Hi Bianca. Im Brittany I'm 19 and going to be having my baby next month. I was terrified when i found out I was going to have a baby. My parents werent too happy about it because my mom was a teen mom with me and had me at 16. My mom was a single parent with me and I love her to death. Don't listen to your boyfriend. Hes just scared like you and is trying to blame u. I was a heavy partier before I got pregnant and I can't be anymore grateful that I'm having a baby. It made me grow up but thats what I needed. Im so excited and happy to have my baby boy. I worried that I was going to ruin my life and you know what YOU ARE NOT. My mom did it and is working at a major counsulting firm and is still a single parent with my little brother. I think you will be so happy after you have the baby. I love feeling my baby move inside me except wen he's kicking my ribs haha but oh wow sooo much happiness. Im so excited for holidays where I get to be Santa and the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy. I'm so excited for when he will be able to walk and say "MaMa" :D I have found so much more joy in life and I cant wait to share it with my boyfriend and baby next month. Stay strong my family came around finally and are all super excited to meet my baby next month. You'll do great. Also about your boyfriend. You do NOT need people that will abuse you like that you need support and it is not wrong to be a single parent. You are protecting yourself and your baby from verbal harm. Find friends that will support you. I am here if you need a friend. ↑ |
| Name: alyssa | Date: Jun 30th, 2010 2:25 PM |
| hi, my name is alyssa and im 17 and i just found out that im 14 wks prgo and my bf and i just broke up bc if that he says he ant the the father b;ut we have been to gather for two years and idk wat to do ↑ |
| Name: Becky | Date: Jul 20th, 2010 6:54 PM |
| What is right in your heart counts the most. Bring a child in the world is the biggest miracles.I was pregnant last year, and we lost the baby at twelve weeks. It was so devestating. The depression I've been going through is always there. I hate being alone. And there's always constant reminders. If you decided to get an abortion I can't even think of the guilt you'll feel. I was just 18. now 19, I dont care want anyone else says, if I found out.. again.. I would welcome it open arms. But never forget the one we lost. Do what you want not what your boyfriend,parent, or anyone else wants. Because in the end its your life. ↑ |
| Name: Courtney | Date: Oct 4th, 2010 8:29 PM |
| Hi, I am 14 weeks along and I'm 19. My boyfriend left me right after the first ultrasound. I started thinking about not having the baby but the way i thought about it was my mom had me at this age and she had the choice to not have me and she chose to have me so why cant i have my baby? I was petrafied to tell my parents and when i did they were upset at first and now since the shock has passed they are happy. Theres lots of things to do to help you get threw the pregnancy. Theres tons of online support groups theres apps on cell phones, i mean theres tons of ways to get support. My boyfriend will not come around and will not pay for any of the doctor bills. So im going to have to be a single mom and ive just come to accept it. Believe me it gets easier with time. (ive known i was pregnant since 5weeks) A baby is supposed to bring happiness and joy. Your not ruining your life by having the baby. ↑ |
| Name: yasmine | Date: Oct 11th, 2010 6:32 AM |
| im 5mths pregnant how i should sleep, at what directions i should sleep can i turn while sleeping please any one answer me ↑ |
| Name: Stacey | Date: Oct 11th, 2010 9:15 AM |
Hi Bianca my name is Stacey.
I'm 19 and 6 week's pregnant. It's great to ask for advice and talk thing's over with your friend's and family but in the end, the choice is your's. I have had 3 abortion's and regret everyone. I was a confused teenager. Had many bad experience's that resulted in unwanted pregnancie's, some of the father's were abusive like your partner too.
I think about my unborn children all the time, wondering what could have been. I'm now engaged and in a stable relationship. I am going to give this child the life he/she deserve's. You need to really think thing's over, think about what's best for you and your child. Decide from your heart. ↑ |
| Name: Jen | Date: Oct 14th, 2010 10:03 AM |
Hiya, i am currently in a similar situation, I am 20 and recently found out i was pregnant. My bf and mum wanted me to have an abortion but i couldn't do it. I don't think there are any right answers you just have to do what you feel is the right thing. As for meeting the right guy it certainly won't happen while you are with the father. If you are unhappy leave him and give yourself a chance at happiness with somebody else.
Both my bf and mum are supporting my decision now and hoping for a healthy baby, sometimes things just need a bit of time and they sort themselves out. Best of luck to you! ↑ |
| Name: tasha | Date: Dec 27th, 2010 4:06 AM |
| Well I have been tring to have a baby for a long long time and keeping it sounds like the best thing to do ↑ |
| Name: primm | Date: Dec 28th, 2010 2:04 AM |
Hello… My name is Angela and I am a Christian. I am 28 yrs old, and my husband is 30 yrs old. We live on 5 acres of land..I live in Tennessee. I love it here. It is so green, beautiful, country setting, quiet, nice people, freedom, and more. I am married and I also have 4 beautiful children. I have 1 girl and 3 boys. I am in the U.S. My family is very close and we are very good parents. My husband works, and I stay home with the children. I like to devote all my time to my family. They mean the world to me. All my kids are straight A students, all but one cus hes in Pre-K. and all my kids are active in School sports, as in cheerleading, the jump rope team, the football team, softball, and more. We are also into our church. Wed and sundays for sunday school church.. i have all pics of all there sports as i said. I love scrapbooking n photograpy as a hobby,, and i love doing them all of my kids. I have many pics I can send you, n send n e type of information u need to see to know we are a great family to adopt. Adopting a child into a good home is what i really want to do. A child is a lifetime miracle, and if we can give a child a loven home and into our family, we would be sooo blessed. Please email for any more information you would like. I would love to talk. U are welcome to email me to my email address at
[email protected] My family would like to adopt any race.. And any age… I would like to say this plse only email me if u are very serious because we hurt 2 times already and we don’t wanna go through that again. Plse email me [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: lily | Date: Jan 1st, 2011 8:42 PM |
| hi my name is lily. i think your doing a wonderful thing by keeping it. im 18 and im currently 24 weeks pregnant today. and i knw its going to be hard but im willing to do anything for my baby daddy or no daddy. if hes abusive dont stay with him. he could hurt ur little angel one day .i knw plenty of people that have done it alone with lots of support from friends and family. it will be ok. it is possible. think about ur babys happines. u will never be alone now. good luck! ↑ |
| Name: Korinne100 | Date: Jan 1st, 2011 9:52 PM |
| Congratulations honey! I don't think you are doing the wrong thing by keeping your baby, But then there really are no wrong choices to be made, abortion, adoption or keeping the baby are all choices that you have to make on your own and you just need to follow your heart and feelings along with thinking about how your babys life will be. You are not ruining your life, though you have to realize that pregnancy and motherhood will definitely make your life harder than it would have been originally. But its not going to RUIN your life, the baby can bring you happieness as long as you don't have a fantasy baby that loves you unconditionally, coos and laughs all day long. A baby is work. It's hard tough work. But at the end of the day, or when the baby is sleeping soundly in its crib for an hour at a time, through your exhaustion you will see why babies are the most amazing gift mother nature has given us. ↑ |
| Name: Noxolo | Date: Jan 22nd, 2011 7:46 AM |
Hi Bianca i am also 19 and 5 months pregnant and South African, listen at the end of the day it's ultimately your choice. whether or not the baby brings you misery or joy, remember it was your decision in the beginning to bring that precious life into this world. i say just fix your issues with your boyfriend, if you have to raise the baby on your own go for rather than sticking around to be abused.
When i found out i was pregnant having an abortion or even giving up my baby wasn't an option because i knew i was responsible for getting myself pregnant in the first place. All the best girl and i promise you there's no better feeling than when your babby moves around inside of you. TAKE CARE. ↑ |
| Name: adenike2003 | Date: Jan 22nd, 2011 11:07 PM |
Dear Bianca,
Believe it or not it's not the end of the world, when I got pregnant at 18 I was so scared of telling my mom I was almost suicidal, but one day I finally plucked up the courage to tell her and do you know what she was so supportive I wish I had told her before
What ever you decide you're not alone ↑ |
| Name: stephmlesh | Date: Jan 27th, 2011 2:38 AM |
| Hi Bianca, i am 20 with a 4 month daughter. If your boyfriend is mentally abusive to you he shouldn't be in the picture until he gets some help. Me and my husband fought alot when my daughter was first born and now he is being brought up on child abuse charges. I can't imagine my life with my daughter. And my mom wasnt to thrilled that i was pregnant at such a young age. But the bigger i got the more excited she got and now she happy being a grandma and spoils my daughter to death. I am recently a single mom, its hard but well worth it. I live 3 hours away from my parents and really don't know anyone around this area, so it hard but you aren't doing the wrong thing by keeping it. ↑ |
| Name: sarah | Date: Jan 31st, 2011 4:36 AM |
Hi Bianca.
Keep your baby. You already love it and thats all that matters.
It will bring happiness to your life!! As long as your willing to work hard and be a good mother, nothing can stop you!
Dont let your parents kill the baby you love. They have no right.
You are not doing the wrong thing. Stay healthy, dont smoke. Talk to your baby when you are feeling sad. It will always be there to listen no matter what!! ↑ |
| Name: Denise | Date: Feb 9th, 2011 2:22 PM |
I think keeping is a good idea i just found out too and im keeping her/him
do what byou feel is best.
yes a baby will bring amazing joy and happyness to you .
id say leave the boy he shouldnt hurt you in ANYWAY.. ?
good luck im here if you need someone ↑ |
| Name: elaine | Date: Mar 6th, 2011 4:13 AM |
bianca! im 16 & pregnent 6 week and i doontk know what to do or who to tell and i dont keven know who the father is like my ex or this kid im 6 weeks and i had sex with this kid with no condom 4 weeks ago but wiht my ex i had it 6 weeks ago with condom
and its really wierd that i says 6 weeks & i dont which one is it!! its so weired thogh well i dont know how to tell my parents EITHER im scared and terrified well i hope anyone cold help me and good luck bianca were with the same prob ↑ |
| Name: Hazel | Date: Mar 8th, 2011 11:59 PM |
I think honestly only you could know for sure what the best thing is to do. You say you have started feeling your baby moving, and thats amazing =) You must be starting to feel like a mummy now and no matter what your parents say it is your life in the long run.
If you weigh out the pros, and cons, probably at the moment it would not be the best timing in the world financially and I know you are worried about your parents reaction. However imaging if you did get rid of him/her.... and then you felt terrible and felt that you had made a mistake. Personally i think that would affect you a lot more.
I am sure your parents are just very shocked about the news but by no means would they want to see you unhappy.
As for the boyfriend, your baby is your main focus now, (depending on the decision you make) and you would not want your child exposed to the mental abuse that he has sadly exposed you too. If I was in your shoes, I would get rid of the boyfriend!
I wish you all the luck in the world
xxxx ↑ |
| Name: Palesa | Date: Mar 18th, 2011 3:02 AM |
| Gal u need to tel ur parents as soon as u can nd see hw thy react gud luk on dat 1 ↑ |
| Name: 19too | Date: Jul 4th, 2011 2:00 AM |
Hi Bianca,
Your situation certainly sounds like mine although my partner wanted me to keep it. I found out I was pregnant a couple weeks before I was 19 and I was scared to death. My initial reaction was that I wanted a termination and there was no way I could keep, let alone raise a child. I was 7weeks 1day when I had my first ultrasound and from that day I knew in my heart that I could never give my baby up, I fell in love instantly. I certainly grew up a lot and began to sort my life out, getting a place of my own, stopped going out and thinking long term instead of what I was going to do on the weekend. My partner on the other hand didn't or hasn't to this day shown any interest in helping me during my pregnancy and still continues to go out and party, leaving me at home. He's an abusive drinker and I'm the blinded one, scared to be a single mum and be another teenage mum statistic. I just want you to know that if you know in your heart that you truly want to keep it then go for it, but please don't make my mistakes and stay with your boyfriend for the reasons I have. Pregnancy is truly amazing and you deserve to be happy. Children are a blessing and the stereotype of "Teenage mums" are ridiculous - being pregnant has made me more responsible and independent not other way round. I am 19 years old and 20 weeks pregnant with a beautiful baby boy (due Nov 22nd 2011) - I have my own place and own my own car being financially stable without any help from anyone. I am stubborn and prefer to be independent then to let anyone know something was wrong. I am unhappy in my relationship but I believe there is good in everyone and I choose to stand by man even after the tears, fighting and lonely nights because once-upon a time there was the person I fell in love with. I came from a very strict family and didn't tell them I was pregnant until 18 weeks - to my amazement they were so caring and supportive. The support from my Family/Friends are what gets me through my days with a smile and knowing I am going to be a mother to a beautiful baby boy is the best feeling in the world. I hope my story helps you in any way - to go with your heart and to please don't repeat the mistakes I have because pregnancy is a blessing and there are so many support systems for teenage mums out there. Good Luck!!!
Ana :) ↑ |
| Name: -twins- | Date: Jul 16th, 2011 6:58 AM |
| Hi. I'm Emra, i'm 15 and pregnant with twins(i'm soooooo scared!!). But my grandparents wanted me to abort the baby, but I didn't. I am 8 months pregnant. I know it is going to be hard. But I encourage you to keep it. Even if you have no time for friends or dating, it will be worth it. Im giving it up for my girl and boy (i'm naming then Vladimir and Emma). NOOOO babies bring joy! YESSSS IT WILL BRING HAPPINESS. ↑ |
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