| It hurts but you have to move on. Sandra in life we have to make some difficult choices which can either hinder us or make us grow. Allow this horrible circumstance make you grow. You are a strong women to even reconcile with him in the first place. Pray and ask God to heal your heart. Be strong for your child. I went through a similar situation, moved on. Needless to stay the relationship between my baby daddy and young lady are not together at all, and he is still a bum. ↑ |
| i too have been through this.. not once... but twice.. 1st time I was married and he cheated and got her pregnant... years later I was with my two boys father... and he too cheated (many times) and I later found out he had a 4 year old daughter. she is basically in the middle of my two boys. It was devastating and i won't lie.. i felt as though I was superwoman and I could "once again" forgive. But, I can't let go. It has taken a long time for me to get over it as I was with him 8 years. I have his two boys and he is very manipulating. But, I have come to finally realize I am never going to change him and i don't deserve that. men who cheat are rarely going to change. it takes a miracle or something very big to change a person like this. love yourself and your child/dren and sooner or later your pain will start going away. I PROMISE! Good luck. I hope this helps. ↑ |
| Im in this situation right now. My daughters father and I were college sweethearts. We lived together for 7 years, and seperated when out daughter was 2 years old. After that we were on and off for about a year, but after awhile, I couldn't take all the 'other women'. One even emailed me to leave her man alone...?!?!? Anywho, it was really hard to stop having sex with him, as at one time I equated each intimate activity a sign that we were going to get back together. We hadn't had sex in over a year after that, but were still reallllly close...God I love(d) him. This past Tuesday, he told me that he had a 3 month old daughter. I've pretty much lost it. I had NO IDEA that he had even been in a relationship. Men like him are VERY manipulative, and will do and say anything to make THEIR lives simpler. I'm slowly accepting what's happening, but the distance and tension between us is stifling. Our friendship is forever altered. I dont know, it sucks, but it's a blessing. I could have been chasing after this man for the better part of my life (im 27now) But I'm grateful for the opportunities that will come from this. In just one week, I have registered for school (night and weekend courses) I'm heading in the right direction..and will not look back. He is in over his head at this point, and the only thing that matters is our child together. She will not be lost in this mess. ↑ |
My sons father got a women pregnant 2 months before me. I found out in July when I was 5 almost 6 months pregnant. I also found out then that he had many other women the whole time we were together and that there was a chance he had other kids out there. I ended it right then and there. I havent heard from him since, in fact he doesnt even know his son is here. But I am ok with that, as I want nothing to do with him and I dont want my son growing up to think that type of behavior is ok.
It was and still is hard because I loved and trusted him and he didnt feel the same way about me. After everything I found out it was easy for me to know what to do. He really made the choice for me. You need to think about whats best for you and your child. Do you want him in your childs life? Does he even want to be in your childs life? But I think you need to move on. You and no other women deserves to be in this kind of sitution, you deserve better then that. Its hard to do but moving on is the best idea. ↑ |
