I am new on this site,and I don't know if it is any answer to my question or not.
I just going to tell what happened to me last year 2004.
I hope there is some information available for
me and better yet someone will be able to read
what I am about to say.
I was happily married with a very sweet godly woman for 12 years and we have a wonderful son
in january 1995.
We discovered in his early age that something
was not quiet right with him and we did not know at that time that he was autistic until
3 years later when finally after wrong diagnoses from doctors we learn of his condition when we move to another county.
It was hard in the beginning to accept that
our only precious child was autistic.
We learn how to cope with it and tried all kinds of treatments like changing the diets and other therapeutic treatments.
We were fortunate that our son is not the aggresive type,and that he is very affectionate and very obedient and that he recognize his parents,and know how to express his feelings.
The major concern is that he is not talking
although he can vocalized and he hears very well.
Other than that we were happy as a family
and very united until finally tragedy came
to our lives.
In 2003 we have the terrible news that my wife have cancer,and unfortunately her health was rapidly deteriorating and in september of 2004 she passed away while I was holding her hands.
It was a terrible blow for us and at the same time we had a hurricane passing thru
our county and it damage my carport.
Then all of a sudden I realized that I was along as a single parent with an autistic child.
On january of 2005 I moved to the Orlando area because I found an excellent school for
autistic children and thanks God my son is doing great.
Now,after a year and two months following and advice of a friend I decide to find a soulmate.
I am missing the marriage life,and someone to loved and be loved in return.
When my wife realized that she was going to die she also told me to find a good wife because she cares for me and our son very deeply,but I was not ready until now that finally after much grieving and learning to
cope with reality I decide to move on with life.
Unfortunately,I have not found a soulmate
yet.
In my church there is no one available because they all married and I even tried online dating and in the beginning the women
were willing to date,they like my profile and picture,but when they learn about my son being autistic they run away from me like a plague.
I tried to explain that my son is a mild autistic and a good boy but they do not even want to listen.
I came to the conclusion that it is going to
be very hard to find a woman that has a heart for children with special needs.
Now,my question is if there is a dating site specially for single mothers and fathers with
the same situation like me that want to find
their soulmates.
I will love to find a decent lady that has a
heart for children like mine,and even if they also have children with special needs such as
autism,down syndrome,aspergers,or anything like that I will work with her and help her
to take care of our children with love and compassion.
Of course we will have to fall in love and not only because it is convenient for our children.
I am a Romantic Christian man seeking a Christian lady for a serious relationship/marriage.
I have a good sense of humor,but I also have a serious side
as well.
I have a lot of love to offer to the right lady.
I like reading,listening to classical music,I enjoy operas,good movies,traveling,camping,working out,nature,walking and holding hands with the one I love at sunset,candlelight dinners,going to church,doing beautiful things together and spent the rest of our lives together
until death do us apart.
Ladies if you are ready for a loving,romantic,passionat
e,compassionate
christia
n
man to come into your life and share the beautiful things that life has to offer send me a
message,
God bless,
Jose ↓
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| Name: Rian | Date: Nov 20th, 2005 12:34 AM |
Hi ,below is something I wrote for a personal as awhile ago... I don't really use this site for that purpose, but this does say alot about me in a few words. One thing it does not touch on is the fact the I (also) have child who has is has an ASD. I'm just interested in chatting more.
I'm on my way out but will be back on later. ~Peace & Blessings
I LOVE....God, My Child, Lefty-Politics, Confidence, Intellect
Nature,Board Games ,Solitude, Coffee, Wine, Music, Laughing and Love. I’m a true and loyal friend and an awesome mom! Little known facts about me I’m great at giving directions, and I love 80’s music. It’s all pretty cheesy - but it’s me, in a nutshell. Now it’s your turn...
The person I choose to spend time with will...
Someone who knows what makes him - himself. A man who loves life, and is confident about the important stuff. Someone I can enjoy talking with and respect for their personal interests, goals, beliefs, etc. Most of all a man that loves God and sees THAT as the center of any relationship. ↑ |
| Name: Tonya | Date: Dec 28th, 2005 11:06 PM |
I applaud you on a job well done. After reading your information, it seemed as though I was speaking to you about my situation. I have an 6 year old son with Autism Spectrum Disorder. He is described the same as your son, and I love him greatly. It is amazing how your story coincides with mine. I'm sorry about you'll lost. I have not experienced the idea of death in my situation, just a man who couldn't accept the thought of raising a son who would not be able to play football or etc. We're in the same situation, just different circumstances. If you ever need to talk, or just ask questions please feel free to email me at [email protected]
Take Care of Your Son & I will do the same. Believe me, things only get better when you find out the real reasons to the odd behaviors. ↑ |
| Name: Laura | Date: Dec 29th, 2005 3:24 PM |
| I admire you so much for the simple fact that you are so honest. I an a nurse as well as a single mother, not an expert but very empathetic. You have got to find time for yourself and to nurture yourself. Being they only parent to your son is very rewarding but can be exhausting. Always be upfront when you introduce youself. Mine was Hi, I have four kids, you would be surprised how many me run, and I don't blame them! Eventually I met the man I am dating now he didn't run he just responded with his challenges in life! You are a man of faith and have a pure heart and motivation for your son. Kee praying and just have faith that God has a incredible woman for you and your son. I hope the very best for you and will also pray for you ↑ |
| Name: Steph | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 2:51 AM |
| Would love to email. But you didn't include your email address. I have son with PDD-NOS, soon to be 6yrs old and a 9 yr old daughter with ADHD. They both move my heart in different ways. Not going to lie. Each can be challenging at times. But, very interesting too. Both of them are very intelligent as well. ↑ |
| Name: Miss SS | Date: Jan 13th, 2006 5:20 PM |
Dead Dad,
I read your story and it broke my heart. I am a behavioral therapist and I work each day with Autistic children. I am truly sorry about your wife and I am sure she is watching over you and your son. In regards to your question, I feel that maybe you shouldn't give all your information at once, let the person know YOU instead of your whole life right at the beginning. I hope you don't take this the wrong way either. However, if you want to find your soulmate and someone who will love your son completely, then I would pray, find some peace and closure before moving into another relationship that may lead to a life time commitment. I understand that it can't be easy and I have seen this happen with a family I have worked with. Let me assure you, that in God's own timing, everything will fall into place. I always believed that when you go through bad experiences in your life, it is only preparing you for something greater then you can't even imagine. So, maybe if you stop looking, that answer will come to you. If you keep looking, it may be a slow process. you never know!!! I hope I have helped in some way...again, trust your heart and let it happen in God's own timing. Maybe God is waiting on you to talk to Him...I will be praying that God will bless you with a true love. Keep your head up and stay focused - you have a son who needs his dad more then anything. ok?
Blessings
Miss SS
[email protected] ↑ |
| Name: bej | Date: Jan 21st, 2006 2:05 PM |
Dearest Father.. God bless you with your journey.. my EXPERIENCED advice.. (I am FROM Orlando!) leave... leave that school you think is good, it's not.. leave Florida..
We have and have recovered our child. I know the school you speak of and it's detrimental, not helpful. You just don't know any better.
Enjoy every success with your son, I know even the smallest are huge victories.
If he is still not verbal.. PLEASE try to leave Florida. You need to be in the NE.
good luck, Jose' ↑ |
| Name: Jamie Gollwitzer | Date: Feb 12th, 2006 3:34 PM |
| Hello, I feel your pain, I have three children, My oldest are 10 year old twin boys who are Autistic, My youngest 8 and very typical and intelligent. My ex-husband recovered from a rare cancer and this made him very bitter. Our marriage sadly fell apart. I have been alone for six-years, This experience has brought me closer to God. But as far as dating, I feel the same way. I have plenty interested in getting to know me, but the word Autism seems to scare most. I love my children with all my heart. They have made tremendous progress, but it still does take a large part of me. I pray everyday for guidance and strength, and at times I do feel alone in this world. I do have friends, who have autistic children, they all are maried. sorry to rambel. my email is [email protected], If you are looking for at least a friend who feels what you feel, I have been told that I am attractive, 5'4 slender, blond, green eyes, your friend Jamie ↑ |
| Name: dana | Date: Feb 16th, 2006 2:02 AM |
| hi ,my name is dana, when i read tour artical, i called my single christian friend mary, she ask me to respond for her since she cant get to the computer at the high school, where she tesches special needs kids, now her teacher friend has recently found out that her grand daughter is autistic, mary is a single christian woman that has been praying for a soulmate, that has a heart for special needs children. everything you'ved mentioned aligns up with her heart. if you would like to talk to mary, she would like to talk to you,she will be at the high school week days ,teaching her special needs children and will check her e-mail. sincerely mary friend dana her e-mail is [email protected] a blessed day write back please! ↑ |
| Name: dana | Date: Feb 16th, 2006 2:08 AM |
| im just hoping my message got through, ↑ |
| Name: dana | Date: Feb 16th, 2006 2:18 AM |
| i just wanted to give you my e- mail so in case you wanted to talk to mary when she,s at home i could call her over she just lives down the street and our time is different her in california ,today is feb. 15 at 6:16 pm talk to ya soon! my e_mail is my husbands at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Mary | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 1:40 AM |
Hello Jose,
My name is Mary. My friend Dana found your E-Mail when she was looking for a prayer list for my teacher friend who recently found out her granddaughter is Autistic. She read your E-Mail to me and my heart went out to you. I also read the other E-Mails and there was a lot of good advise. My friend E-Mailed you for me because I was at work. I thought I would write you. It is 2-18-2006. I live in a small mountain town in Porterville,California. I work with special needs children at the high school here. I have a huge heart for children with special needs and would like to meet a true Christian man that is like-minded. God has a plan for you and your precious son. He also has a special person. Don't give up! It is important not to be anxious. When we wait on God's timing we grow strong. I know because all the years I have waited has brought me closer to God. You sound like a wonderful caring man.
Prayer and Hope for you, your precious son, and whom ever God brings into your life.
My E-Mail is [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: joe | Date: Feb 20th, 2006 3:30 PM |
| Try just being normal around him ↑ |
| Name: cathy | Date: Feb 28th, 2006 5:05 AM |
| hello, I am a RN, single mom of 11-year-old, very sorry for you and the loss of your wife, It sounds like you are doing pretty well taking care of things, including moving to a place where your son can get the therapy he needs. It can be very hard being a single parent ,especially when you can't predict the future but have high hopes and noone to share them with about someone you love unconditionally(your son). I came to this website to talk with other parents about the stress of buying a house for the first time on one income and saw your message. I know of a family with a special-needs child(my godson). They could give you very good advice. He is a very smart energetic boy with other major issues. feel free to e-mail me.... ↑ |
| Name: 10 90 | Date: Mar 7th, 2006 2:22 AM |
| i am autistic and i am 10 years old you need to respect that your child is autistic if you dont your child will hate you so respect that he/she is autistic you have to put a lot of love in to this job. ↑ |
| Name: maryann | Date: Apr 12th, 2006 1:32 AM |
hello my email is [email protected]
contact me ↑ |
| Name: maryann | Date: Apr 12th, 2006 1:33 AM |
hello my email is [email protected]
contact me
sorry that was the wrong email address ↑ |
| Name: special mom | Date: Apr 12th, 2006 1:39 AM |
| Name: Gigi | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 3:33 AM |
| hi jose read your message i'll be praying for your baby and you i to live in orlando what church do you attend to maybe we can meet as friends i to am a single mom of a2yr old the love of my life sorry for your loss. PS my email is [email protected] if you need a friend ↑ |
| Name: Julie | Date: Aug 4th, 2006 7:26 AM |
| Jose, please contact me if you are still single. I have a 7 year old son with Autism. Julie at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Susan | Date: Aug 7th, 2006 7:25 PM |
Jose,
I know what you mean as far as finding a mate that understands, comprehends and is willing to deal with a relationship and the issues that come with us, as special parents.
Some people just don't have open minds and hearts, which is sad. For those that don't, they do not know what they are missing by NOT opening their heart and mind to that of a special child. ↑ |
| Name: Cece | Date: Aug 11th, 2006 12:06 AM |
Hi Jose,
I know I have sense of humor, I do care for childrens with special needs. I'm not married or a single parent. But I am 27yrs old. I am true christain, have alot of faith inside of me. I'm not sure your age. Of course I am living here in Albuquerque, NM with my mom at here house. I am onlt child myself I have special needs myself. Which it;s different story. I have three jobs here. 1.I do work with special needs at a preschool here in Albuquerque New Mexico. It called ( New Mexico School for The blind visionally Impired Preschool ). So I do know how hard this can be at a single parent. 2. American International rattlesnake Museum. 3. Petsitting jobs for friends and families. I am sorry to hear about the death of your wife. I hope you can find the right person too. I am in the same way. I am still trying to find the right soulmate too. I just haven't have any luck here.
I love work with childrens with special needs at my preschool. Because it teaches me more about there background and history of there families life style. If you know what I mean by that. I do understand parents life with a children, there background history. I hope you can come to a closer to someone that has the same feelings for you and them. I wish you luck too. Please write me anytime or email me at: [email protected] I'll be checking my emails. Hope to hear from you soon. ↑ |
| Name: staceykelley | Date: Aug 23rd, 2006 3:51 PM |
| my son is autistic my husband couldnt deal with it he was in denile and he left me and my two children at times its so hard i just dont know who could just leave their children special needs or not im not lonely im just looking for someone to talk to ↑ |
| Name: jenny | Date: Aug 24th, 2006 8:21 PM |
| mom of son with autism.no computer.please call 262 210 7644 I,m in the same situation and need to find my soul mate.My son is my life,and no man has understand this yet.And by the way.I"m told I'm great looking.But I,m too down to earth to realize it. ↑ |
| Name: rainbow17139 | Date: Aug 31st, 2006 2:03 PM |
| there is someone out there it took me a while to find him but i did and you will to ↑ |
| Name: Cheryl | Date: Jul 9th, 2007 4:21 AM |
| Your situation sounds a lot like mine. I also am a proud newly single parent of a beautiful autistic boy. We lost our husband and father a year ago to illness. I'll pray that God will send your soulmate and perfect new mom your boy, please pray for me and angel. ↑ |
| Name: Maria | Date: Sep 17th, 2007 10:19 PM |
I am not looking for a serious relationship right now but if you want we can get to know each other and possibly become good friends. I live in San Antonio, Texas and I am a single parent to three children. My oldest daughter is 16, my son is 12, and my youngest daughter is 8. My youngest daughter is autistic so i know what you're going through. My daughter is very loving and affectionate. She's very smart too and actually sometimes she seems fairly normal to me. She was diagnosed at the age of 2 after taking her to several doctors seeking help. You can write to me at [email protected] if you'd like to be friends with me. I wish you all the luck in the world with everything and I hope your son is doing good.
Maria ↑ |
| Name: josh | Date: Jan 4th, 2008 8:34 PM |
| hey anyone who would be intrested in meeting up wih me so we can have a laugh like son in dad shud im looking for a dad to get a long wth and to do stuff ↑ |
| Name: 50+ Female | Date: Jan 28th, 2008 7:57 PM |
| I'm in the same boat as some others here. Dad split when it was apparent son would always be autistic. Alone 6 years now. Son is 12 years old, a great kid, and has improved tremendously since dad left...his loss. Looking for a family man now. [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: oath of god | Date: Jan 28th, 2008 9:57 PM |
| Im sorry to hear about the news that you recieved, but i think that you just need to remember how much god loves you and pray for yourself and your son every day. You will be blessed with much if you remain faithful, but remember that to whom much is given, much is required. god bless you and I will be praying for you. ↑ |
| Name: Lauren | Date: Jan 29th, 2008 7:30 AM |
| Hi. I'm sorry to hear about you loss but you are one amazing father and person. Not many fathers are willing to take the responsibily like you have. I have a special place in my heart for any children, i would do anything and everything i possibly could to make sure no child in this world suffers and i know that yours has the best dad he could ever ask for. I am a single mom of 21 and my son is perfectly healthy and even if he wasn't i would still love him just as much as i do now. I live in South Africa so we can't chat and judging by your background, i'm too young. So all i really wanted to say was, keep on doing what you doing and you will find that someone special who can accept you and your son. Anyone who turns you away because of him, is not worth it. I wish you all the best ↑ |
| Name: benjamin | Date: Mar 14th, 2008 6:13 PM |
hello,i greet you in the NAME of our Lord Christ.
How are you doing? i hope you are doing well there.
plx i want to chat with you plx [email protected]
,i am someone who is loving,caring,adoring,want to meet someone who is willing to love unconditionally
just to b close to u girl,just even for moment or for an hour.i hav being througt soo many changes in life
first of all i want to intoduce my self to you.my name is Benjamin Agbley,i am 24 yrs old going to 25 on 3/13,and i form Ghana.i live at sakumono estate near Accra.my hobby are playing football,ruming,and reading, basketball, magazines.it is my great be come your friend ↑ |
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