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Hi all! I am 5 months pregnant but starting a new job very soon. I didn't tell my employer when I was interviewing for fear of rejection and also at the time of interviewing I was only 3 months pregnant. I thought that I should wait past the 3 month mark just to be on the safe side. What do I do now?
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Name: Yvonne | Date: Oct 6th, 2005 11:56 AM
I too started a job pregnant and was 3 months when I started. I now am 5 months and I am afraid to tell my boss. My plan was to start and prove to my boss that pregnancy does not affect my work or ability to show up everyday. I think when I can no longer hide it I will go to him and tell him. At least we are half way there! 

Name: Erin | Date: Oct 8th, 2005 1:42 PM
I'm going on an interview and I'm three months right now but I plan on telling them in the interview. I figure it's good to be honest from the start and I'll make it clear that I must return to work after the baby is born for financial reasons. 

Name: MELISSA | Date: Oct 10th, 2005 12:26 PM
I am 11 weeks pregnant and started a new job 2 months ago. I am also very nervous to tell my employer since I am so new to the company. I am going to tell my boss this week, today actually, and I will respond to you with is reaction. I think it would be best if you told your boss as soon as possible because that way you can quit worrying about it. I have literally been sick to my stomach for weeks about telling, but I know I have to get it over with. It is just not worth being nervous over all the time. 

Name: sara | Date: Oct 20th, 2005 1:28 PM
i am in the same position and i am 5 onths pregnant my colleagues r beginning 2 notice but i need the money 2 and im covering a temporary maternity leave!! how weird! 

Name: lnoble76 | Date: Oct 20th, 2005 4:37 PM
I interviewed at 3 months pregnant also and didn't inform them of my pregnancy either. I got the job and told them at 4 months along when I started showing and made sure everything was well. (I suffered 2 previous miscarriages so I waited). My boss took it very well and luckily I work with two single moms who are very family-oriented. Don't be stressed and just go with the flow. Life happens and timing cannot always be perfect. I'm now five months along and HAPPY! Good Luck! 

Name: sara | Date: Oct 26th, 2005 1:23 PM
Hi. I just wanted to offer some words of encouragement. I know exactly how your feeling. I have been with my current employer about a month and a half and they do not know that I am 28 weeks pregnant. I was hired when I was only about 5 months and like you I was afraid of rejection if I shared my being pregnant. I still have not discussed being pregnant with anyone. I am really in a bind. In your situation though I think at this point you can contact human resources, get the info your going to need (length of leave your entitled to, who to inform first, ect.) and then follow the instructions given. Seeing that you were only 3 months at the time of hire, I think you should be safe in disclosing how far along you are. I also think it is wise to tell how far along you are in weeks not months. I just think it sounds better (sounds like your not as far along as you really are) than saying the amount of time in months. Good luck and congradulations on being a new mommy! 


Name: Candace | Date: Nov 1st, 2005 3:42 PM
I am starting a new job in the next couple of days and I'm 4months and a couple days along. I to aslo don't know how to tell my manager, or if I should wait and prove that it wont interfere. I know how you feel your not alone. 

Name: Valerie | Date: Nov 2nd, 2005 4:13 PM
Candace, let me know how it goes for you. I just went to my docotor to confirm that I am Pregnant. I start my new Job tomorrow I am about 7 weeks and on November 23 I will be getting a full exam to know for a fact how far along I am. I figured that I would wait until after the New year to tell my new boss since I am planning on telling my family on Christmas
I just discovered Ginger Altoids so I should be fine, at work as far as getting sick, I will say a little prayer for all us going through the same thing. keep me posted 

Name: Bonnie | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 10:04 AM
Hello! I am almost 4 months along and I was recently hired at this really great company. I did not tell my employer I was pregnant at the interview. Now I am not sure when to tell them, I really don't want to lose my job I need all of the money I can make right now and after the baby is born. 

Name: Jeannette | Date: Dec 5th, 2005 3:04 PM
I am excited to find this forum. I am curious as to which of you women have talked with your bosses and how it all went. I am currently looking for work and awaiting a phonecall this week to let me know if I got a positon. This weekend I tested positive for a pregnancy test. I figure I am early on, a month at the most. Last year I was pregagnt. I was finishing up graduate school at the time and tuned down an opportunity because I did not think the timing would work. I lost my baby at seven months. This time, I am afraid to plan my life around another preganancy. I really want to put a lot into my career, but I also want to start a family.
I think that I have a good shot at this job. My first interview was over a month ago and since then I have had two more. The job requires some regional travel, which would probably not be a problem early on. If I get a job offer this week do you think I should tell them I am pregnant? I guess they can't actually take the offer away, but it may cause them to look at me differently.

-Jeannette 

Name: lauren | Date: Dec 13th, 2005 8:27 PM
I don't know, I am three months, and about to start a job...but if you figure it out, please let me know, because I am freaking out. 

Name: hey everyone | Date: Dec 14th, 2005 2:25 PM
i work for a temp co im out of work next week and need to find work i think some employers will not hire you if they know up front cuz they will need to hire someone while your on maternitiy leave so id wait for a month or so . I figure after im at a job for a month i can say i found out i was pregnant after i started i didnt want to say anything until i knew pregnancy was progressing and no chance of m/c then they cant fire you so at least you have a job till leave then if they are mad you can look somewhere eles while on leave. 

Name: Sheryl | Date: Dec 14th, 2005 11:17 PM
Good luck to all of you, especially Jeannette. I hope that this is a healthy pregnancy for you! I was at my job for only a year when I left for a mat leave (we get a year's leave here!) I Returned back to work this past September, and now I'm pregnant again. I'm a teacher, so at least I'll get a full school year in. But out district is amalgemating schools together, and I'm afraid that I'll get bumped from my job. I too dread telling my news to the boss! 

Name: nicky | Date: Dec 21st, 2005 2:54 AM
work for 2 months then tell him that they moved your due date up. hey they move that stuff up all the time. i jumped two weeks and my co-worker jumped a whole month. 

Name: nicky | Date: Dec 21st, 2005 2:58 AM
BTW:: I'm really glad that you found a job that would take you, that goes for everybody in here =) you had to do what you had to do. Fornatley you understand the importance of having the a job to support you babies. I see way too many girls where I work, make their mothers pay for them for them or just acting irresponsible. I'm 7 1/2 months pregnant working 6 days a week-tired but doing it. Glad to see you guys working too. (even though it is hard!) 

Name: Nichole | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 1:14 AM
I have a simular experience, I was off for over 3 months on stress leave (which turned into a medical leave when I discovered I was pregnant -as I had a miscarrage at 9 weeks pregnant just 7 weeks before so the doc said no work till after 13 weeks) I returned to work on friday. The night before I could not sleep I was so worried. I went to work on tuesday and meet with the new human resource manager ( they have to keep anything you tll them confidential) and I asked her how to go about telling my bosses ( I had to tell 3) She suggested that I start with an upbeat attitude and approach the subject as a good and happy change(which it is) I told my bosses all at the same time along with the human resource manager (for support) I said: I have asked you all to come to this meeting today because I have some good news- I am pregnant. As you all know my husband and I lost the first one and we are very happy that this pregnancy is going good, Iam 15 weeks along and have had no complications. They all said congradulations and good luck! they were happy to hear that it was going well. My advise to anyone telling their boss the big news is to- keep it up beat and tell them with a smile on your face, tell them how far along you are and how things are going. If you know what your plans are for the future, tell them (ie maternity leave) Good Luck to you all 

Name: michele | Date: Dec 22nd, 2005 10:48 AM
has any one got hired after telling in an interview you were pregnant. Im not sure what to do cuz they will probably pass up the pregnant girl knowing they will need to cover her for maternity leave! 

Name: lonely | Date: Dec 26th, 2005 4:26 AM
i feel better after reading all this. I'm 3 or 4 months pregnant(havent figurewd out yet) with my 3rd baby. I've been to a couples of interviews and getting a reply soon, i didnt tell them i'm pregnant, and not planning to until i prove myself or when hiding would be impossible. in my country if i havent been with the company for more than a year when i have the baby i get half paid for maternity leave, so i guess i'm not doing anything wrong, but i'm still paranoic a bit, but i pray for all of us for the best.
good luck to all of yous. 

Name: zoe macdougall | Date: Dec 30th, 2005 8:10 PM
I am so glad I found this forum. I am 6 weeks pregnant and just had a job interview, I am waiting for the phone call to find out if I got it. I am feeling so guilty that they will hire me not knowing I am pregnant but I need the money. Goodluck to all of you! 

Name: lonely | Date: Jan 5th, 2006 12:29 PM
i got the job, but i didnt tell them i'm pregnant, i also feel so guilty but i too need the money, i'm so worried though that they will fire me as soon as they find out. I'm really trying hard to proof myself,
anyone here who got the job while pregnant and already told the employee?
good luck 

Name: Maddie | Date: Jan 9th, 2006 8:40 PM
Hi Guys..................I am 23 Weeks pregnant and got offered a Part-time Job at the middle of my third month. I didnt mention during the Interview that I was pregnant simply because I had some complications in the first trimester, with a previous miscarriage. After the doctors confirmed that everything looked good and I was in the clear. In mid December I worked up the courage to tell my boss that I was pregnant and mentioned the reasons I didnt tell him. He asked me a lot of questions, like, how far along I was and If I planned to come back to work after the baby was born. I mentioned because of complications, my husband and I hadnt discussed and thought thru those plans. My boss gave me a week to do some research on finding a babysitter and reporting back to him Monday morning. A week didnt give us much time, so I told him that, at the moment we couldnt find something affordable and may find something if given more time. He decided to let me go in Feb. His reason was that my parttime job required to much training, and he didnt want to waste it all on me, not knowing for sure if I were to come back. At least he was kind enough to keep me for a little longer. 

Name: cathy | Date: Jan 16th, 2006 10:30 PM
I am 14 weeks along and also was in the interview process. I felt it was best to be honest up front and disclosed my pregnancy in the interview - making sure to mention that I am in good health and planned to work up until term. I also reassured that I would return to work after birth. The interview went well and I think she appreciated my honesty - I was offered a job on the spot! 

Name: Jen | Date: Jan 17th, 2006 6:31 AM
Maddie-
What your boss did was illegal! I would investigate your options. Your boss has to know that pregnancy is considered the same as any other disability, protected under the Civil Rights Act and ADA. If you went to him and told him you had cancer, would he have fired you then, too? My guess is no. This is a clear case of discrimination and you have rights!!! I am so sorry to hear about your job situation but offer my sincere congratulations on your baby! Good luck.... 

Name: audrie | Date: Jan 25th, 2006 8:58 PM
Do wat u think is the best thing and hope the baby is a cutie! congrates too! 

Name: Susan | Date: Jan 30th, 2006 3:13 PM
As soon as I found out I was pregnant I told my boss. I am 5 months along and have been having some major back pain. My boss dosnt seem to understand that I have a hard time doing my daily duties. I am suppose to copy all the day and its hard for me to stand in that one spot. I let my boss know that when I got home I could hardly walk because I was in so much pain. He allowed he to switch with someone half way through the day and thats not even helping. I let the boss know that and he seems not even care. I am copying half a day and I go home in pain and can hardly move. What should I do? 

Name: Tan | Date: Mar 2nd, 2006 1:30 PM
I'm 6 msn pregnant and working full time as well my back is killing me to I sit all day and I found that if I get up and walk around and do some stretching exercises that it helps a bit. Also try rub A5-35 it helps for a bit but not long. My dr told me that i'm allowed to take a tylenol a day so if i'm having a real ruff day i will do just that but not everyday. IT's hard but I havn'et missed a day yet and I'm hoping on working up untill my due date. If you have any other advice on how to ease back pain please let me know. Has anyone tried massage therepy? 

Name: Stace | Date: Mar 2nd, 2006 2:20 PM
Again, Honesty is the best policy. It's going to come out soon or later. Your boss could look at you as given him/her the respect of the truth or he/her could wonder why you didn't say anything in the beginning and have mistrust in you. Now is the time to set things strait, so again tell the truth now. 

Name: SarahM | Date: Mar 4th, 2006 9:35 PM
They cant fire you if you are pregnant. Unless you can no longer do the tasks that the job requires such as heavy lifting ect. There is law that cover all that so do worry 

Name: Agnes | Date: Mar 5th, 2006 6:00 PM
I know this is a different situation, but I was 8 months pregnant when I interviewed for my job and everyone said I'd never get it. Then I actually rescheduled my induction in order to go to the follow-up interview! I got the job and love it. But I work in a family-friendly business, too. 

Name: Joe Doe (not really) | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 11:51 AM
My wife and I haven't had sex in 5 out 7 months of pregnancy is this normal. 

Name: Tara | Date: Mar 25th, 2006 2:52 PM
I started a new job three weeks ago and I just found that I am pregnant (home pregnancy test). How do I ask for time off to go to a doctor's appointment to confirm the pregnancy? How do I take time off on a new job for monthly doctor's appointments before I even tell my boss that I am expecting. I want to wait until after the first trimester or just before I start showing to tell him. 

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