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I am thinking about going back to work sometime in the near future. I want to work full time, like I did before, but I am concerned about whether or not I should hire a nanny to look after my children. I have two twins, aged 3, and they are so precious to me. I am scared to leave them alone in the hands of a stranger for eight or ten hours a day. These days your hear stories about all kinds of horrible things happening to children, and I don't want to hire the wrong person for my children. I think part of me is just reluctant to let my children grow up a little...I realize I can't be there all of the time. Does anyone have any tips on interviewing nannies, or checking their credentials? Was it this hard for everyone else to go back to work?
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All I can say is to start as early as possible trying people out. And go with your gut...even the most "papered" with references, sweet, nurturing, peson saying all the right things might just give you an odd feeling. I choose my gut all the time...if someone sets off my creep-o-meter I listen to it. Usually, I'm right.
And watch the kids and how they respond to this person. 3 yo is old enough to answer "So do you like so-and-so?" and really, really listen to their answer. Somone "mean" may be no more than someone firm about taking a nap at 1 pm. Just as someone "fun" maybe someone who doesn't care if they jump on furniture. Good luck. = |
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If your in the USA then contact the childwelfare office for a list of recomended nannies in your area. Demand referances then check and double check them.
Finding a good nanny is not imposible it is just loads of hard work! = |
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Once you get your search narrowed down, there are private agencies that will do back ground checks. ( for a fee, varies) also she or he can down to the local sherrif dept and get a certified copy of their crimminal history to bring to you...of course you should draft up some sort of contract and have it notorized saying that they consent to this.
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I went back to work when my little boy was 6 months old, 3 days a week and I went through the delimma of trying to recruit a nanny. I too felt torn because of the horror stories you hear in the press but remember these really are the horror stories and don't reflect on the good people out there. I have recruited people into jobs for the last nine years and am a very experienced recruiter and know all the questions to ask, but all the questions in the world can't make up for your gut feeling!! You must feel comfortable with the person, watch how they interact with your child etc. I met with my nanny 3 times, once on my own, once with my husband and then with my husband and mother in law. I did police checks and reference checks as well. Very important to do police checks!! Anyway, 2 years on, I still have the same nanny, who loves my little boy to death. She is reliable, trust worthy and probably gives him more attention than I do. Anyway the moral here is that we have to put faith in others and trust that our instincts as a mother are best.
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is everyone in here a nanny?
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I'm 25 years old and i have a one year old. i'm amodel, i was working when i was pregnant and i never stopped.the minute she was born i was working again.My best freind is the full time nanny.I never wanted to be a mom, but my boyfriend and i had a baby anyway. I pretty much let my boyfriend and the nanny do it all. i sit on my butt and do nothing, i mean i work it as far as my kid goes. My life is great, so you should definetely get a nanny
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you post everywhere stay at home mum working mum i think you live in an imaginary world
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Earth to amanda.....this is a site for working moms....if you want to advertise to the world that you don't even want to be a mom I suggest you find another site. I have read a lot of your replys and I really haven't heard you say one thing that might be helpful to anyone.
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I have a lot of experience here, so I'll share with you. I've had some really bad experiences with nannies, but I've learned from them and refined my hiring process a lot. When placing an ad for a nanny, let them know up front that they will have to pass a background check and mental illness history check. Bam...you've gotten rid of most of your problems right there. I suggest offering to allow them to bring one child to work with them. Many good nannies who have one child will jump at this chance to work and not leave their own child alone. I'll write more to you later....running low on time, but I've got more tips.
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(continued) Before hiring them for sure, have them come over one day when you are home and stay all day. That way, you can tell them everything they need to know as it arises through the day, from where the baby bottles are kept to how you like the formula made to what you prefer the child to wear to the toddler's favorite movies and how to work the TV equipment. That way, when you do have to leave, you will feel they are very informed. You will also have a chance to see if the nanny will be able to "handle it all".
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Get a Nanny Cam + Recommendation from friends or church.
Do a background check. Trust your gut instincts. Leave them with prospective nanny for short time Before you go back to work. Observe them.... But never tell them about the nanny cam!! = |
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Amanda -- did your mom neglect you?
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I would use a reputable nanny agency to help me with my search. Its worth the money. BUT only go with agencies who interview the nannies in person and do background checks. Make sure the agency is willing to speak with you numerous times about your needs. Avoid the ones who are too busy to give you the time of day. And only interview nannies who have either gone to a nanny training school or who have worked in the field for a number of years. I went through an agency affiliated with a nanny training school and I was glad I did. My nanny is the best! MY kids, husband and I feel blessed.
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I am a nanny and my best advice is you will KNOW who the right person is immediatly. You and that person click. I have been a nanny for 4 years and have only worked for the people who I felt would bring me into their lives as family. Helping these people raise their children has made my life better and I think you should try not to focus on all of the bad things you hear. You just hear about all of the bad stuff because the media never focus' on all the good people that you could bring into your childrens lives. Make sure that you check personal and work related refrences. Make sure that if your gut is telling you no, listen to it. If you are patient the right person WILL come along.
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Don't go back to work. Stay with your children until they enter school. Possibly work part time. No one can love your children the way you do.
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google brougth me here, I was looking to talk with some nannies about their experiences, there are a lot family's who misstreat their nannies.
If I was you I will spend time with my children until they are five years old cause that age is very important, they are waht they will be in the near future. or all their lifes. I had the pleasure to take care my nieces, nephews and some other 's chidlren families, but the decision is yours. Do you need some more extra money? is that really compasate? cause you have to pay your nanny too. so think about.... just me = |
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I was looking to becoming a nanny, Is there any schools in the east coast. If, so I would like to kow where they are.
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i have an au-pair!
Talk to me more about all this feel free ... www.Totstoteens.freeforums.org, you can contact me thru my website as i hate to give out MSN details! I have had an au-pair for nearly a year now and its the best thing for my kids as they know who they are being left with everyday!! Speak soon i hope! imi xxx = |
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before hiring a nanny I strongly suggest that you check out this website.... http://On-Track-Nanny-Contracts.com
It really gets the point across of what can all go wrong and how you can easily prevent it by making sure you are on the same page with the nanny you choose to hire. Honestly, I have been a nanny for 8 years and hold a BA in early childhood education. I love children and treat each one as if he or she were my own...well probably better because I can get 8 solid hours of sleep every night...lol. A nanny is probably the best choice. We are wonderfully fun!!! But even as much as I love the children and care about their safety and development, conflicts used to occur over minor issues (not even related to the children most of the time) between me and the family. The only way I found to resolve it was through the website listed above. = |
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I was a nanny for many years while working through Graduate School. I also worked at a placement agency for a few years. I now have a son of my own and have retired from that. My first recommendation is to either go by referral from a friend, or to use an agency. You can google nanny agencies in your area and find a bunch. It may cost you a bit more, but the advice and screnning you get will be worth it I promise. I went through a nanny agency to protect myself as well as the family. I wanted a good job myself. If you are looking for a person who is committed and serious about being a nanny and has nothing to hide, you will find them through an agency:) Also think about what you really want to offer to the nanny, and what you really expect from them as well. You MUST have a contract, just so everyone is on the same page. Definately watch how they interact with your children, on a few occasions. By age 3 your children can tell you what they think:) If you have any other questions I would love to help you!
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I have been a nanny for eight years and it has been the most fun i have ever had. Find someone who loves what they do and now a days you can get back round checks and finger printing. Also check out previous nanny jobs they may have had. good luck!!
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A great place to start is NanniesAmore.com. They offer a free background check with membership. Search for available nannies, chefs, maids etc... in your area or nationwide. Hope this helps.
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looking for someone that would like to live in Texas and help take care of my 82 year old mother
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I can understand your worry I have encounted this with many parents and it is difficult.If you are really unsure use a nursery or childminder so your not worrying at work. If you get a good nanny agency-do your home work as there are some bad agencies out there.Tinies are mazing and workdwide so they are the best. Have as many different interviews with different applicants and once you choose take a few weeks with them to get to know them and let the get to know the kids and visa versa. This is a big desision dont be rushed by anyone. Rachael
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