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I just relocated and begin working tomorrow...I also just found out I am pregnant last week!!! I don't know when to tell my employer and HOW to tell my employer. Should I wait? I haven't actually had my first doctor's visit yet, so I am not sure how far along I really am. Should I wait until I start showing? What will my employer think when I tell them I have a doctor's appt the first two weeks I am there? ↓
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| Name: Jessica | Date: Sep 8th, 2005 9:56 AM |
| Hey hun. I would tell my employer as soon as you can. Just be open and honest. Your not the first woman to get a new job and then find out your pregnant. Your not alone in this, there is so many good women on here to support ya. Take care ↑ |
| Name: Sam | Date: Oct 1st, 2005 6:10 AM |
| You should just let them know as soon as possible..so that they can accomadate to your doctor appointments..i was very fortunate to have been hired by a great employer.and I started working August 1 and right now i'm currently 7 months pregnant. They have been the greatest. So let them know it will be alright. ↑ |
| Name: dee | Date: Oct 29th, 2005 10:57 PM |
Hey Kelly,
I too am in the same situation as yourself and I can't stop worrying, I am 8 weeks pregnant and am starting a new job on Wednesday. I resigned from my last job 4 weeks ago not knowing I was pregnant until 2 weeks ago. I know stressing isn't doing any good but I feel like I am heading into the unknown. I am just hoping that it will work out. ↑ |
| Name: tiffany | Date: Nov 6th, 2005 6:33 PM |
| i know how you feel!i found out i was pregnant the day before my first day of work.i think you should wait 3/4 months just to feel the vibes there.good luck!! ↑ |
| Name: mpumi | Date: Nov 11th, 2005 8:01 AM |
| i had the same problem cause i just started working 2months ago and i was already pregnant ,i only discovered that i was 5 months pregnant last month so i decided to tell my colleage whom i trusted ,i explained the situation to her and together we went to the boss and he understood. it's better for you to spil the beans now so that they can make some means for when you are in maternity leave ↑ |
| Name: confused | Date: Nov 12th, 2005 3:48 PM |
| Hi Kelly and everyone else...I am in the same predicament. I just graduated from college and I am about to start a job this month and I think I am pregnant. I am 1 week late and I don't know what to do. Should I tell my employer once I start and is it common for companies to not hire people once they find out they are starting the job pregnant...Any advice please? ↑ |
| Name: Ella | Date: Nov 23rd, 2005 2:38 PM |
I too am in the same boat - just got a job and then found out I am pregnant -
has anyone had any luck in telling thier employer and what about maternity leave? Don't you usually have to be at a job for 12 months before you get it?
Does anyone have something to share about what HR said about maternity leave when you have only been at a job for a month or so?? ↑ |
| Name: Kristin | Date: Nov 24th, 2005 12:21 AM |
| WAIT UNTI L YOU ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO AND ARE READY TO SHOW!!!!! LADIES-we live in a mans world. If you don't agree....go ahead and deny and suffer the consequences. No need for anyone to know until they absolutely have to.....notifying earlier does not make a difference for you personally or professionally. If they are so honest and it doesn't make a differnece to your superiors, why shoulld it matter if you tell them when you are 6 weeks or 20 weeks. Definitely not until you are sure you know. If you find out for sure that it is yes, you should let every one know shortly before you think everyone can tell physcially (when you need to go buy maternity clothes and everyone is looking at you funny). We live in a mans world and if a man thinks his bottom line is going to be impacted or the work force that impacts his bottom line will be impacted.....watch out...they will pull some amazing strings. ↑ |
| Name: Jen | Date: Nov 24th, 2005 6:52 PM |
Hi Kelly,
A few things for you to consider: The Pregnancy Discrimination Act is an amedment to the Civil Rights Act of 1964. This makes it unlawful for an employer (with 15 or more employees) to discriminate in the hiring and employment of pregnant women. Therefore, even if you had been showing during your interview, they would have had to come up with a legitimate reason (other than your pregnancy) for not hiring you. Since you have been hired already, it is also unlawful for your employer to terminate or discriminate against you in any way due to your pregnancy. In addition, since pregnancy is considered a disability, you must be treated the same way that a disabled person would be (i.e.: reasonable accomodations, if necessary). That being said, you may want to consider this: most employers will have an "introductory/probabtionary period" (three months is common) where the employee and employer use this time to see if the job is a good fit for all involved. It is during this time that one can be terminated without necessarily going through the standard disciplinary process. In other words, if you have a less than sympathetic employer that does not like the fact that you are pregnant, s/he may decide to find other "reasons" why it isn't working out. Of course, if you could prove discrimination, you could contact the EEOC. You may want to wait a little while at least to demonstrate your abilities and have the employer get to know you and what you are capable of before throwing this (great!) news at them. Even if the result is not discriminatory in any way, once they get to know you, you are (in my opinion) more likely to get a positive response. Just an FYI: As far as FMLA is concerned, you must be working for an employer (50 or more employees within 75 miles necessary) for one year and have put in 1250 hours of work. You will likely not be covered under FMLA when you go out on maternity leave. However, your employer may have a policy on maternity leave that will grant you some type of coverage/job protection for a specified amount of time after you are no longer considered disabled (typically 6-8 weeks after the birth depending on the type of delivery). I would definitely check into it and consult with your HR Rep once the word is out that you are expecting. Lots of luck to you and CONGRATULATIONS!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Jen | Date: Nov 24th, 2005 6:56 PM |
Hi Kelly,
A few things for you to consider: The Pregnancy Discrimination Act is an amendment to the Civil Rights Act of 1964. This makes it unlawful for an employer (with 15 or more employees) to discriminate in the hiring and employment of pregnant women. Therefore, even if you had been showing during your interview, they would have had to come up with a legitimate reason (other than your pregnancy) for not hiring you. Since you have been hired already, it is also unlawful for your employer to terminate or discriminate against you in any way due to your pregnancy. In addition, since pregnancy is considered a disability, you must be treated the same way that a disabled person would be (i.e.: reasonable accomodations, if necessary). That being said, you may want to consider this: most employers will have an "introductory/probationary period" (three months is common) where the employee and employer use this time to see if the job is a good fit for all involved. It is during this time that one can be terminated without necessarily going through the standard disciplinary process. In other words, if you have a less than sympathetic employer that does not like the fact that you are pregnant, s/he may decide to find other "reasons" why it isn't working out. Of course, if you could prove discrimination, you could contact the EEOC. You may want to wait a little while at least to demonstrate your abilities and have the employer get to know you and what you are capable of before throwing this (great!) news at them. Even if the result is not discriminatory in any way, once they get to know you, you are (in my opinion) more likely to get a positive response. Just an FYI: As far as FMLA is concerned, you must be working for an employer (50 or more employees within 75 miles necessary) for one year and have put in 1250 hours of work. You will likely not be covered under FMLA when you go out on maternity leave. However, your employer may have a policy on maternity leave that will grant you some type of coverage/job protection for a specified amount of time after you are no longer considered disabled (typically 6-8 weeks after the birth depending on the type of delivery). I would definitely check into it and consult with your HR Rep once the word is out that you are expecting. Lots of luck to you and CONGRATULATIONS!!!! ↑ |
| Name: InSameSituation | Date: Nov 27th, 2005 5:10 PM |
| I am absolutely in the same situation! I am not sure what i am going to do but based on research it sounds like we should wait until after the third month. I just started about 2 weeks ago at my new job and so far I haven't been that sick but I am still in the process of just picking my health insurance-but now i am glad I have the time to really see which one is going to benefit me the most. ↑ |
| Name: Nicole | Date: Jun 7th, 2006 12:47 PM |
| I can totally relate to that. I was hired and then 2 weeks later found out I was prego. I just told my boss that this was not planned and that I had just found out. I think you should be honest and upfront because what if you wait until you are showing and then it will look like maybe you knew before you got the job. Remember to act SHOCKED about it. Good Luck =) ↑ |
| Name: Nakiya | Date: Jun 23rd, 2006 3:04 PM |
| I to just relocated 5 months ago and started a new job while i was pregnant. I didn't tell them until i was showing. Then a couple of weeks ago i got a second job...never told them either but i'm about to. The problem with telling them is they'll try to find a good reason to fire you. You have to work extra hard to prove your worthy. ↑ |
| Name: keke | Date: Jul 7th, 2006 9:53 AM |
| Hi I was pretty hesitant about telling my employer about my pregnancy. Is started work in december and now i am 5mths pregnant. I only alerted tem of my preganacy when i was three mths pregnant did'nt go as badly as i thought the sooner you tell you employer the better. ↑ |
| Name: jlerious | Date: Jul 8th, 2006 1:28 AM |
| Name: jd32506 | Date: Dec 15th, 2006 1:50 PM |
hi moms to be!
i am 14 weeks pregnant and i just started my new job this week. i too didnt mention that i was pregnant on my interview due to rejection. i need this job for financial reason and i LOVE the job. the job does not offer medical insurance but i do have it though the state due to a pregnancy earlie which unfortuanately i had miscarried. i am shoing a bit but i can hide it pretty well. i do not know what to expect when i really do start showing. we do not have a human resources dept...its a very small company and the owner is the only one id go to. i know i cant lose the job for being pregnant but he can use another reason. any suggetions? ↑ |
| Name: campingmom | Date: Dec 16th, 2006 5:51 PM |
I would wait until you are 3 months along because by then, the risk of miscarriage is lower and by then, you will start needing maternity clothes and be showing a little or shortly afterwards.
I asked my doctor about what to tell my boss and I have been with them for 1 year but because of the type of work and possible complications already, he said just to say you are having abdominal probs and need a doc's appointment. It's not a lie but it's not spilling the beans completely either. ↑ |
| Name: susanj | Date: Dec 21st, 2006 11:52 AM |
| I am in the same boat amazingly enough. I just found out today and I start Jan.2. If you hear anything or learn anything about what to do, please let me know. I fly out to London for training for a week from Jan.2 - 6th! I have no idea what I'm going to do! ↑ |
| Name: evasmommie2be | Date: Dec 26th, 2006 3:49 PM |
| I started my current job the first of May and found out I was pregnant June 8th so i was in the exact same situation. I was nervous like you are so I choose to wait unitl I was 3 months. I know its not honest but I called in sick one day and the next day I worked my boss asked me how I was feeling and I said "well I wasnt feeling good becasue apparently Im pregnant!" Luckily I work in a small office with mostly women(all mothers) so everyone was excited for me and it all went alot smoother than I thought it would. Good Luck! ↑ |
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| Name: carolinamom77 | Date: Jan 23rd, 2007 10:48 AM |
| WAIT!!!!! You should wait at least 30 days into the job before you drop that bomb on your new boss. "HI thanks for hiring me...I am going to need 8 weeks off in about 9 months...". Especially if you are on any probational-type period in your new job. I once read that you shouldn't tell anyone at work until you are past that first 12 weeks. That way it doesn't make work awkard if something happens to the baby unexpectantly. Just a thought. But I would wait to tell your boss until you have to (you are showing) or until you have established some credibility in your new role. ↑ |
| Name: sallen7 | Date: Mar 2nd, 2007 8:42 PM |
| It is illegal for an employer to fire you because you are pregnant. Tell him/her whenever you choose. Before long, it will be obvious, anyway. Do not feel intimidated. It is your right to bear children. If he/she is that insensitive, maybe you need a new job. Contact me: sallen7@houston.rr.com ↑ |
| Name: Wendy | Date: Jun 15th, 2007 7:30 PM |
| I'm in the same boat. I just found out I was pregnant an HOUR before my second interview which I decided to go on anyway and nailed. I am 3 weeks into my job and 14 weeks into my pregnancy. I have plans to tell them in a couple of weeks even though I have already started showing. I have 60 days left of my probabtionary period and I figure if I wait at least another 30 days to show them how competent I am they should then be a little more proactive when it comes to me taking leave for 6 weeks or so after I have the baby. I plan on going back after that. I highly encourage you to do the same. I feel like you need to prove yourself competent then they can't say anything because you showed them you can be pregnant and be efficient so how more effective you'll be after you have the baby and you don't feel sick anymore! That's my feelings. Just do what's best for you. Tell them obviously...but when you feel ready. ↑ |
| Name: Yasmine | Date: Oct 25th, 2007 6:18 PM |
| I am about 7 weeks pregnant and found out the week I received my offer letter. I was really hesitant and had no idea what to do. I finally decided that I wanted to be able to enjoy my pregnancy and not have to worry about hiding it (who wants to deal with all that stress?) so I called up the hiring manager today and let him know my situation. I could tell he wasn't thrilled and that this may cause some problems for me now but I just have to wait and see what happens. I am however glad that I got this off my chest and I feel much better that they know before I come on board vs. having to tell them afterwards. It is sad though that woman even have to worry about something like this in this day and age. If it wasn't for woman having babies the whole human race would cease to exist. Bottom line, I think each person should do what they are comfortable with. ↑ |
| Name: Yasmine | Date: Oct 25th, 2007 6:24 PM |
| So stay tuned ladies and I'll let you know what the outcome of my honesty turned out to be .... ↑ |
| Name: helen | Date: Dec 22nd, 2007 3:55 PM |
| I started a new job 4 weeks ago and just found out i am pregnant and started showing. I am unsure to tell them now as i do not want to loose my job as i really like it. I hope any one can help as i do not know what to do? ↑ |
| Name: onnie100 | Date: Dec 22nd, 2007 6:10 PM |
| I am in a similar situation and a little confused as well. I am about 9 weeks pregnant and am deep in the interview process. It is a huge career opportunity for me and I really want it. So far the interview process has been going very well. I had thought I would only tell them after they gave me an offer, but am now reconsidering. They have been wonderful and real and I would hate to start off with them feeling I was deceiveing them in some way. Since it is illegal for an employer to discriminate against a pregnant woman, I feel as though they would feel backed into the corner if I told them after they offered me the job. I guess if it affects the way they view me as a potential prospect, I cannot control that. But, it could be an indication of it being a company I may not want to work for. Would love to hear anyone's thoughts. ↑ |
| Name: onnie100 | Date: Dec 22nd, 2007 6:16 PM |
| There is one more glitch that I forgot to mention in my last post. In the last two years, I have had 5 miscarriages so there is a possibility it could happen again. So that was part of the reason I was not going to say anything being that it is so early and there is not guarantee that my pregnancy will stick. What is hopeful this time is that I am taking progesterone and I have made it further than any other time. Very happy and confusing time right now. ↑ |
| Name: lisae_10 | Date: Dec 27th, 2007 2:59 PM |
| You probably won't show until 4 months or longer... you just might gain a bit of weight. Don't tell your employer until after the 1st trimester is over (to make sure you are pregnant too). Do you know how many weeks notice you need to give? Maybe wait until then. Just work as hard as your can to show your new boss your work ethic and build a good working relationship before telling him or her. This happens all the time. It's life. If you are happy to be pregnant then celebrate and don't worry about your boss's reaction. Hopefully your boss will understand. ↑ |
| Name: mheri | Date: Dec 28th, 2007 9:43 PM |
| The same thing happened to me the beginning of 2006. I didn't know what to do! The opportunity to tell my boss opened up in a casual conversation---and I went ahead and took it. Needless to say, it turned out to be a good thing letting him know up front (within the 1st trimester). I didn't have to go out of my way trying to hide it (doing tasks that a preg woman should not do). ↑ |
| Name: newbegining | Date: Jan 1st, 2008 2:49 PM |
| you and going to fine just listened you your heart. ↑ |
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