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Just me again. I'm glad to see your doing well. I saw where daddy wants a paternity test, it's probably best for all parties and will assure him he is the father. if you choose not to you will probably be asked to if you apply for any public assistance in the future. i believe there's a question on the applications that asks "who's the biological father". they will try and establish paternity and get him to reimburse the state for any funds/benefits you and your child receive.
that big day is right around the corner, keep those spirits up
david ()
I would love to see some pictures of your sweaty flipflops and possibly some pictures of your soles.
I feel your pain, leterally!! My baby seems to enjoy playing in my ribs too and it is very uncomfortable. Anyway, here is a little something that I seem to have learned through this pregnancy. Have you ever noticed how sometimes when you put your hand on your belly because the baby is kicking that it stops? Well this happens to me all the time, I mean my hubby has barely had a chance to feel the baby kick at all. I have discovered that the baby likes the warmth of touch and therefore stays still when someone's hand is there. Now to get your baby to move positions just try the opposite. If baby is really bothering me, I put an ice pack where the baby is and withing moments of cooling down, baby rolls away and finds comfort elsewhere. I know it sounds silly, but it really seems to have worked for me!! Hope you have the same luck. Let me know how it turns out. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.
Janis
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this girl once told me "i don't want to have ugly children" & "No one wants to be with someone they are not attracted to" it sounds a little shallow, but maybe that's what's going through his mind.
If that stupid ass doesn't want to have anything to do with his own child all you can do is feel sorry for his retarded ass. My son is going to be 10 years old next month and his biological father has never wanted anything to do with him. I spent several years hating that piece of sh1t but at some point that turns into feeling sorry for him - because he's got his head crammed so far up his own ass that he can't see the light of day - he doesn't get it that he's elected to miss out on the only truely meaningful and wonderful thing he's ever taken part in. Does the "who's my daddy" talk hurt you? More than anything you've ever known. I tell my son when it comes up that his father was very immature and he wasn't ready to be a daddy. On a few occasions my son made up stories to tell his friends so he wouldn't feel isolated from them, once he told everyone at his daycare center when he was 4 that his grandfather was actually his daddy (eww..) and as recent as 9-11 he told kids in his class that his father worked in those building and had died when the planes crashed into them. I'm with a wonderful man now who Nathan is proud to call daddy, and that talk almost never comes up anymore. I'm certain it will revisit sometime during the teenage years and we'll deal with it then. You CAN do it on your own. I had Nathan when I was 18, statistically the odds are against him being successful in life - but he's a star soccer and basketball player, he gets straight A's and B's at school, he's the best sax player his band teacher has, and he's one of the most compassionate people I know. And I know he wouldn't be quite so wonderful if he were exposed to the influence of his biological father. Everything happens for a reason, its hard to imagine, but maybe its really better this way.
Never feel bad for something you can not change! It may take time but his father will regret missing out on all the things you get to enjoy. I speak from personal experience, not through the pregnancy stage but around 5 years old, my son lost his daddy to another woman and her children. He accepted her son and daughter as his own and doesnt care to see my son. In fact, he even offered last year to give up custody only because he doesnt want to pay support. I used to feel sorry for my son too but now I feel so sorry for my ex for missing all the good times and yes them bad times. It will take time and even when your son may ask that imperilous question... who's my daddy? You can always say I am both mommy and daddy! As long as you love him, you're all who matters to him. Take care and hope it works out for ya!
