| Name: Jeni Stiltner | Date: Feb 23rd, 2012 11:11 PM |
| My son is 16 now and we have fought ADHD especially hard in the younger years! He just got his permit, making C's in Geometry, passing all his classes this year, in tenth grade now! So what I am about to tell you will work but you MUST follow through! You must always mean what you say and say what you mean. You must learn to get your devil voice, "thats what my kids call it". When you say get down, dont say it more than twice. Grab him sturdy by the elbow pretty strong where he can jerk away, look him straight in the eyes and with a deep growl you must set him down. I dont mean oh baby we need to talk about your behavior. I mean in a voice he doesnt know if what you are going to do. You must be direct and growl your instructions to him and take away something he loves. Tell him for two days or 3 to start out. Dont give in, that comes back to say what you mean and mean what you say. Also dont be afraid to ruffle his butt! There is a difference in beating your child, then discipline. Remember in the bible it says "Spare the rod, spoil the child" of course you dont wanna use a rod!! A chore list helps, even if its for a dollar a week, when they get that dollar they are so happy, when they dont get it they will try harder. You have got to get your bluff over on him and let him know you are the boss of the house. If you dont it will never end!! ↑ |
| Name: BurntMama | Date: Feb 24th, 2012 2:11 AM |
I have an 8 yr old daughter that's severley ADHD and now possibly bipolar as well. So far we haven't found the right ADHD med... And I'm beyond frazzled. Every day presents a new challenge and I just don't see light at the end of the tunnel yet.
Andme --- I hope that's a bad joke and that you're not abusive to your child. It's not easy to constantly remind ourselves these kids can't help most of what they do.... But seriously?? You either need help or child protective services to be called on you. ↑ |
| Name: GET A LIFE | Date: Mar 4th, 2012 8:09 PM |
| Name: vichkelly | Date: Mar 9th, 2012 8:13 PM |
| Name: katrina | Date: Mar 10th, 2012 6:59 AM |
| can you help me and my kid ↑ |
| Name: chanse | Date: Apr 14th, 2012 3:29 PM |
| Name: bevgrega | Date: Apr 15th, 2012 3:45 PM |
| it sounds like your son has both adhd and odd (an oppositional disorder) im the grandmother of a 29 year old adhd son and i am the caregiver of his eight year old son who also has severe adhd and odd.....i understand how frustrating this can be for you....your gp may not be able to handle this you may need to switch to a pediatrician or pharmacologist who specializes in adhd. the right medication will help your son, but you also need to address what it is doing to the rest of your family.....a support group could help you a lot....getting your child involved in an active sport such as cross country running can help....or trampoline , swimming are good choices too. find a friend with similar problems ....they can be a lifeline for you when you think you cant handle it anymore. ↑ |
| Name: cutekelsy1 | Date: May 9th, 2012 5:44 PM |
| I am a single mom of three and my oldest is 8. He is severly nice and has been on seven different meds and is currently on the Daytrana patch but the highyest dosage. Today I get ANOTHER txt from the school and I dont know what to do. Today it's a lighter at school, he's already been suspended from the bus 3 times, this time for the semester. He is mean to his brother and sister, 3 and 2, and we fight, constantly. He refuses to do his homework. He refuses to read like he's supposed to. He tells me that I love tha babies more than I do him and that we NEVER do anything together. I remind him of his love for video games and cartoons, then he stops. He walks on the counter and home and knocks the stuff off the ceiling and won't clean it up, to which his Dr. tells me that we need to get his ADHD under control before we can worry about this. So I say, "GET IT UNDER CONTROL!!" I'm losing my hair. I work 50+ hrs a week to go home and clean for an hour a night plus cook and clean up from that, fight over his homework before I finally give up. Yes, I said give up. He wins, I can't. He has control, I don't. What do I do? ↑ |
| Name: Jentle | Date: May 17th, 2012 4:40 AM |
Hi I have a 7 year old
Son that also has ADHD, we have our battles on a daily basis, homework, chores but mostly can't concentrate and is defiant in school. I have stared with flaxseed oil and lots of omega 3, does anyone know if that actually works? I will never hit my child but there are always consequences for his action, taking away the hings he likes to do( video games). I am talking with him lots about it and how he's not alone and here's lots of kids out here like him, and also starting a reward and point chart, does something good gets 3 pnts does something bad takes it away and at the end of he week he gets money for the points, .25 cents a point, then at the end of the month we go see a movie his choice if he has enough. So let me hear comments about this I'm new and would love advice, thanks ↑ |
| Name: Arianna | Date: May 22nd, 2012 11:47 AM |
| I think he has a bad day at school, and you should just sit and hold him for a second until he is relaxed and calmed down. my daughter who is 12 has ADHD so i know how you feel. maybe he is stressed with school or homework and you should take things away from him. example: Wii, computer, ipod, Ds, ect. that is what i will do and make him a snack while he is doing his homework. if he refuses you, let him go in his room and take a break until he calms down and see how that goes. my daughter takes pills called Intuniv it is a medicine you swallow it can last for 24 hours and you can take it every morning. there are 1mg 2 mg 3mg ect. my daughter takes the 3mg and she is focused. if your son likes music , let him listen to music when he is working. ↑ |
| Name: egor | Date: Jun 1st, 2012 6:42 PM |
| Name: mom of 4 | Date: Jun 3rd, 2012 2:20 AM |
| my 5 year old was getting in trouble at school for hitting kids twice his size in k . kicked his teacher exc he has even hit me. we tried several meds . last one worked ! vivance. it made him a totally great kid. he now has a heart defect we don't know what yet it is just beating to fast sometimes. his dr says no meds till he is diagnosed . i have him on the feingold diet and it makes it like he is still on the pill it is amazing. i pray for you it is so hard to love someone that has adhd and keep your temper all day. hope this helps. ↑ |
| Name: cameron | Date: Jun 4th, 2012 7:04 PM |
| Name: jean nystrom | Date: Jun 24th, 2012 8:48 PM |
I have a child with ADHD. I tried the Ritalin with little to no success. I found the drug made my child lethargic and once it wore off she would either crash or become even more hyper-active. Believe me, I tried it for a period of time to see if it would build up in her system and alleviate not only the behavior but the side effects. It did not. After doing much research I found two programs that are working for my daughter and my family. I use Play Attention and ADHD Nanny. Play Attention is a program that builds behavioral shaping and she loves to play it which makes it that much more easy on me. ADHD Nanny (she is young), gives me and my family tools for everyday structure to assist her. Recently divorced I found it difficult to keep her structured because of going back and forth from two homes. Now, each household uses it and it is working for her and the family.
jnystrom ↑ |
| Name: jnystrom | Date: Jul 10th, 2012 4:40 PM |
I have a child with ADHD. I tried the various meds with little to no success. I found the drugs made my child lethargic and once they wore off she would either crash or become even more hyper-active. I tried for a period of time to see if it would build up in her system and alleviate not only the behavior but the side effects. It did not. After doing much research I found two programs that are working for my daughter and my family. I use PlayAttention and ADHD Nanny. PlayAttention is a program that builds behavioral shaping and she loves to play it which makes it that much more easy on me. ADHD Nanny (she is young), gives me and my family tools for everyday structure to assist her. Recently divorced, I found it difficult to keep her structured because of going back and forth from two homes. Now, each household uses it and it is working for her and the family. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated. I am constantly looking for other alternatives to medication.
jnystrom ↑ |
| Name: ARIANA | Date: Jul 13th, 2012 6:51 PM |
| Name: jnystrom | Date: Jul 16th, 2012 7:35 PM |
| I realize I am new to this group but I have done a lot of homework on this topic. I found no quantitative statistics that convinced me that medication is the way to go. I feel that parents with children and persons suffering from ADHD/ADD should seek alternatives to the current medications available. I have a child with ADHD. I tried the Ritalin with little to no success. I found the drug made my child lethargic and once it wore off she would either crash or become even more hyper-active. Believe me, I tried it for a period of time to see if it would build up in her system and alleviate not only the behavior but the side effects. It did not. After doing much research I found a program that is working for my child and my family. I use Play Attention. Play Attention is a program that builds behavioral shaping. Since investing my child's mental health into this platform I have now learned that they are using this program at nuclear power plants, nascar mechanics use it, why? To focus and reach their maximum potential. Personally, I just want my child to live a normal, loving life and enjoy life to the maximum. Jnystrom ↑ |
| Name: CrystalK | Date: Jul 26th, 2012 1:28 AM |
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| Name: mark54321 | Date: Jul 30th, 2012 7:17 PM |
| Name: adriana | Date: Aug 6th, 2012 8:40 PM |
| OMG I thought I was the only one that felt like a crazzy mom ready to quit.lol Glad Im not alone. My son is 7 and has had problems with his school since kindergarden. Love him to death. Somethimes it feels like as a parent of a child with ADHD you cant ever just relax. I noticed most of our kids seem to love TV and video games. I thought that was weird. ↑ |
| Name: tina | Date: Aug 15th, 2012 11:59 PM |
| hi my name is tina and my 2 year old son just found out he got a d h d he never sleeps we have him him out every day to see if that helps on a night but nothing he behavior is out of controll we have a 1 year old daughter as well i cant leave my son in the sam room he cant play with other kids as he to agressive towards them they cant putmy son on any meds as he to young any comments or thoughts what to do as iam just so tired i dont know what to do any more we are breaking point with him ↑ |
| Name: alicia prouse | Date: Aug 21st, 2012 11:48 PM |
| hi, a have son who sounds very much like yours and i feel like im at breaking point. He is on ritalin and catapress they seem to only take him so far during the day. What is the Daytrana patch you speak of because my son refuses to swallow i have to crush his meds and hide it in foods. its nice to feel that your not alone as it is a losing battle on our part alot of the time and you feel like no one else gets it and there are not alot of support out there. lookind foward to your reply ↑ |
| Name: sinead | Date: Aug 27th, 2012 11:04 AM |
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| Name: Kdez | Date: Aug 28th, 2012 7:17 AM |
| I have the same issue. I am the step-mom to an 8 year old boy, who for the last 4 years has never done what we asked, doesn't follow the rules, and has gotten in trouble in school and on the bus. I wouldn't say his behavior is as bad as some of your all's posts, but it's definitely getting worse than it use to be. I feel like giving up as well, but the only suggestion I have is to try to always comment positively on things the child did, even if it wasn't to your standards. Find other ways to ask them to do what you wanted when they disappoint you. I am starting to try to use positive reinforcement for example: If I asked him to put his shoes in the closet and he tosses them on his bedroom floor, I will say "I appreciate that you brought them back to your room to get them out of the way, but I had asked that you put them in the closet, so please do that now." Then stand there and watch to make sure it gets done. This is a positive comment in a time where he didn't even do what was asked of him. If we aren't negative all the time and shouting at him with anger, I am hoping he will do better. I will let you know how it goes! ↑ |
| Name: tinalmanza | Date: Oct 20th, 2012 11:59 AM |
It is natural to feel that way. But, children with ADHD needs more understanding and attention. You can try doing the Music Therapy to help set your child's mood in doing his homework, Music Therapy has been proven to improve behavior and learning of children with ADHD. Why don't you try it at home before giving up on your child.
http://music.sound-add-adhd
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| Name: Megan | Date: Nov 24th, 2012 5:42 AM |
| I have a 6 yr old with severe ADHD and probably ODD too. He is on the Daytrana patch and doing much better (well, when he's on it....when he isn't it's tough). I feel so bad for kids who have parents who resort to some form of violence because they are suffering from a neurological disorder. They don't want to act this way. It's like punching some blind kid for not seeing. Honestly! Think about what you are doing. I understand it is tough. I get it. But take a step back and get some perspective. These kids need support and care. The only reason what you did seemed to have worked is the fear factor and someday it'll come back to haunt you and you'll have to sleep with one eye open. Why live like that??? Violence begets violence. I am a parent with a kid like yours and so I hate to pass judgement but when it comes to that I really just have to say please get help. This will only get worse becaues now you've crossed a line. It's hard to go back now. Find a good dr who can help you with the medication. It's a very long, hard journey but we have to remember that they are just kids. Kids first, THEN kids with ADHD. Good luck ↑ |
| Name: Megan | Date: Nov 24th, 2012 5:43 AM |
| Sorry, I just realized I was responding to the post by Andme. Not yours. But I guess I'd still recommend working with a good dr on medication. We tried so many things until we found the one that worked well. It is out there. I know it's a tough journey. Hang in there! ↑ |
| Name: kerry | Date: Nov 25th, 2012 9:37 PM |
| my son is always worse after tv or video games so we are really careful ow much time we allow for such things instead we use board games and painting an arts and craft sorts of things. I also cook every night try to avoid processed food in general and i started buying organic when possible. It doesn't stop him being agressive or having an attitude and being really hypo but it does seem to reduce these behaviours. It's more work but might be worth a try. ↑ |
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