| Name: Felicia Tucker | Date: Jul 9th, 2009 8:34 PM |
| Hello there. I too have a husband with ADHD. He has known since he was 6 that he has it. At times he is hard to deal with and does get mad easily, however, we don't have any children yet. I don't suggest threatening him with divorce, because that may make it worse and besides is divorce what you really want? if its not then don't threaten it. My husband doesnt take medication because when he did it only made him into a zombie. He didn't talk or get active. He only wanted to sit on the couch and do nothing. I would suggest changing his diet or telling him to go to a dr. to see what else besides medication he can do to help his condition. For instance, changing his diet or being really active has helped my husband. good luck! ↑ |
| Name: mary | Date: Jul 27th, 2009 4:25 AM |
| i believe my husband has adhd: my son has adhd and my other son has autism. I can control the autism behavior but 2 adhd. Boy do i need help. I can handle the kids but an adult. that's more stressful. how do i cope with my husband when i don't know much adhd in adults. he's diabetic as well. Help?! ↑ |
| Name: delong | Date: Sep 3rd, 2009 8:29 PM |
| beat the snot out of him and leave ↑ |
| Name: itsagift | Date: Oct 4th, 2009 7:08 PM |
| Hello, As a male with ADHD, i can see many of these traits but have learned to controle or adapt to them, one of the best ways to under go controling them is to asess and adress diet issues, i have noticed my moods get very swingy when i have not eaten, or when i have taken in a lot of sugar. the reasoning for the mood swings is normal among individuals with adhd but can be controled. adjust the diet to healthy eating and you should see the mood swings level out a bit, they will always be there a bit but they dont have to be so off the chart!! ↑ |
| Name: meggiemae | Date: Feb 27th, 2010 9:37 AM |
| I have been dating a guy with severe adhd for a few months and have had a great time. We challenge each other intellectually and have a great sex life too. recently I hvae noticed that he never sticks to one thing for long and has no conscience about moving to the next challenge and leaving me. I have supported him because i love him, but now he thinks he is able to fly and doesnt need me. It is so hurtful and he says very hurtful things to me.. discussing his bright future- without me and my children. I know he loves me and know he needs me. Im so worried about him but feel powerless to help as his mind is set on leaving soon and says I hvae to come to terms with 'the end'. he is constantly jealous still, and has more frequent and aggressive temper tantrums.... blaming everything on adhd as an excuse to hurt me and shout and try to control me. How do people cope with loving an adhd when it is good it is the best there is, but the bad times are more heartwrenching than ive ever known. ↑ |
| Name: Julie | Date: Mar 10th, 2010 9:34 PM |
| My boyfriend has ADHD and has always made me aware of this, the answer is simple. We have a camper van. When we fall out he goes away for a few days, stays at the beach and sorts out his disarranged head. I carry on as normal with the child. When he is ready he comes home. I do not contact him as pestering does not go down well. I have always trusted him and think of it as a break. ↑ |
| Name: Betty from Canada | Date: Mar 14th, 2010 5:43 AM |
Well, hello to all of you. I have been with my husband for 23 years; some of the best and most definitely the most difficult/troubling I have faced in my 53 years. My husband's outrageous behaviour really concerned me. He has 2 grown daughters from a previous marriage, and when I became pregnant all 3 of them lost it on me! One of his daughter's said, "how dare you become a father again, you were the worst dad in the world!" That should have spoken volumes to me, but I still missed it. At any rate, I almost lost our beautiful son, thank God that he made it, he was born 9 weeks early and weighed just less than 3 lbs.
I work in education, when our son was about 5; I was working extensively with a 15 year old teenage boy. A light went off for me, when my husband's response to a question about his behaviour and he responded by saying that he didn't know why he said and did the things he did. Earlier, that day, I had posed the same question to my student; he had responded in the way same. I knew that the boy had been diagnosed with ADHD. So I grabbed some reading material from our school library and read everything very thoroughly...I knew then that my husband also had ADHD.
I somehow, got him assessed, I don’t recall now, but probably under the threat of divorce. That is how most things have been sort of resolved in the marriage created in hell. Some of the more positive things that did work for us: was when my husband was having a “fit” of temper or whatever, I would take my son out of the house for several hours. My husband would try to engage me into an argument, by saying things such as, “you are running away!” and I would very calmly reply, “no, I am taking away your audience, so go ahead and perform for yourself, see you later!” When we would come back home, my husband would be very repentant and I would continue to disengage. We spent many hours in our car, I even got to the point where I had a church key and used church as a sanctuary. I remember, laying my little boy on the pulpit in a sleeping bag and reading him stories and trying to help him deal with what he had just witnessed.
Over the years, we have been to so many counsellors, he found something wrong with every one of them. He went to anger management for men, and I attended a wives support group, it helped for the while he stayed in. My husband is extremely controlling either by his behaviour by doing the exact opposite of what he was asked to do or by manipulating the circumstances to get me angry. We also have different doctors and his doctor had repeatedly refused to share any info with me because I am just the wife! Not his patient.
We have some friends who live a few hours away, they have 5 children, I would take our son and go visit with them , one summer we stayed away for the full 8 weeks of summer holidays. My husband always knew where we were and would sometimes come for a visit, but he knew he would have to behave himself. Another thing, I have done, is have travelling adventures with my son alone, we have travelled a lot of places without my husband and my son and I have some wonderful memories. We would go to the park, go to the beach, go for picnics, and just have fun, without any bad behaviour from my husband.
Our son has just graduated high honours and is now in his 1st year of civil engineering – he does not have ADHD. For your information: ADHD can be genetic, mostly passed onto the sons of the marriage, interestingly, in our case, it is my stepdaughters who seem to have it, and so does my brother-in-law.
I left twice, the first time for a month, and we stayed with a great couple who took care of us. When I went back, very quickly I found that nothing was changing. I moved to another bedroom in our home. I took a position full time and found myself exhausted; I was later diagnosed with an autoimmune illness. I made him leave and before I knew it, he came for our son’s birthday and brought his stuff home...so then I left and took our son. We would see him on the weekends as long as he behaved himself. When he lost it, we would leave and go home. That went on for a year and a half, by then my physical health went downhill and I had to go home because I had to go on chemo. I think for my husband, he was glad that he was in control, maybe that is because he lives so out-of-control. Well, after almost dying, I fought back once again, and took myself off of the chemo. My rationale was if I am going to die, than I will spend whatever time I can with my son.
So now, I have taken back my life, at the moment we live in the same home but on different floors. My husband’s behaviour has changed somewhat...now he promises not to do whatever again...until the next time. When I confront him, he says things like “that was before” or “that was in this past:” even when what we are discussing only happened 2 weeks ago.
He has absolutely no communication with his daughters or grandson, and our son is very well, he has a great attitude and we frequently discuss “dad’s condition”.
In the next 2 years our son, will be moving to a large city to finish his schooling, I don’t see how we will survive that. If we make it that far, I think I will probably file for divorce. Part of what keeps me here, is our son, he cannot be manipulated by his sick father with me here and when our son leaves, there is really no reason to stay together under this pretence of a marriage. My husband ( he’s almost 62)still after 23 years, still stays out all night, trying to pick up women either in bars or on the streets – so we no longer have a sex life. We can hardly go on any holidays together, because he will flirt with anybody and everybody including our waitresses and any women we meet along our travels. He has taken this to a whole new level lately by flirting seriously with some of the younger more confused women at church. I think he is trying to get me to stop going to church – taking away one of the only comforts in my life.
I am fighting back though...last September, I went back to university. He is furious with me for trying to have a life, 20 years ago when I went back to school; he cheated on me as a means to control me and unfortunately it worked, I dropped out of school. So, I am saddened to tell you that after all of these years I no longer believe in my marriage, it is a facade. Thank God I have great friends, a Great God and a great faith in my creator, and an amazing son. Take good care of your children ladies, they are the ones who are going to need to understand the most, because one day, they too may get married and they need to know how to act and what behaviour is acceptable.
I wish you all the best in your journeys. And when I get to heaven that will be my first question of my God! Why didn’t you fix him? I should add that my husband is taking 2 meds – (wellburtin and sertraline)-they seem to have helped somewhat but he hates to take them and often doesn’t. I did change his diet – hardly any white sugar, no white bread, and no preservatives or food colouring -- that worked until I discovered him buying crap food everyday and eating that stuff in his truck. He also has OCD, that with the behaviour aspect and fowl mouth...it’s all a little overwhelming for this girl. ↑ |
| Name: Judi | Date: Jun 11th, 2010 1:19 AM |
I have 3 kids with ADHD, LD and I can live with this NO PROBLEM! My husband; however, is driving me insane and leaves me to deal with all the organizing. Bills are never paid on time, he loses everything and gets moody. Nothing is ever his responsibility. He has absolutely no filter when speaking and my self esteem is rock bottom.
I'm so frustrated, depressed, disheartened.........but still care for him.........but want him gone........
It's such a burden!
Promise after promise after deal, and yet another deal. But never being responsible for himself and following through......My kids have had Concerta, and it helped them through a few tough years in school. He tried it for one week and my world changed.........but he was convinced he couldn't sleep...........I was the one not sleeping. I'm desperate for advice? Has anyone been there and found light at the end of the tunnel or is my solution to finally say.........I want out??? ↑ |
| Name: Greatmomi09 | Date: Jun 11th, 2010 4:48 AM |
| Hello there i too have the same problem here at home with my husband and we have been married 2 years. He has the worst mood swings and temper as well. I sometimes find that it is easier to just let them come out of the mood and relax. This helps because sometimes they really do not realize what they are doing. I have to have the most patience for him we have children as well and one night we got around to discussing that whenever he feels that he may not be able to control his moods he should take a walk. That way our children do not see that behavior and try to imitate him. It has helped for me because he needsto realize that he has that problem before you can try to help him with it. I hope this helps! :) ↑ |
| Name: Jen | Date: Aug 9th, 2010 11:47 AM |
Leave. Now. I have been dealing this for 10+ years and it does not get better. If you are sticking around waiting for it to get better, it won't. This is how his brain is.
If he starts meds and its a 12 hour drug, you still have to deal with him for the hours before and after it takes effect. That is still 4 hours of arguing every day.
It is not worth it for your kids. ↑ |
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| Name: Paul | Date: Sep 16th, 2010 2:10 AM |
| Just saying, I have ADHD. It makes relationships really hard, I just man always fighting, The pills I stopped taking a year ago I felt like they made me someone I was not. They stole my appitite and Interest in life and Made me even more emotional, Yea AD HD dose and will cause problems in the relationship, Ive been in and out of mine 5 times. Its hard, me and my wifey try to find everyway to cope with my Problem. Talking problems out always escalates into a verbal fight, and in the end it ruins us and leaves me destroyed when i come to reality for that one second and realise what ive done and quickly off to another thing. Has anyone found any remedy besides the pills? ↑ |
| Name: sarah | Date: Sep 18th, 2010 4:52 PM |
WOW! all of these posts i have read are really sad. do you ever wonder WHY your husband with ADHD has such a bad temper and is defensive? I have ADHD and my entire life i have been put down by teachers, relationships and parents for doing or saying things that are not in my control. This goes for many other people with ADHD. JUST IMAGINE, living a life where you do something on impulse you cant control or you say something and you can't understand how it hurt someone, and then at the end of the day your looked down at for something you don't understand. When my boyfriend gets in a fight with me, because i said something that may of hurt his feelings, and i have no idea how i hurt him, its very frushtrating to always have people tell you, "You never listen! You dont even care! You dont even Try!I cant believe you dont know what you did!" it makes us feel like a really horrible person, and it's not fair. but then we remember we are not bad for whatever we did, because from what i know, i always have good intentions and often i am found getting in trouble instead.
Keep in mind, people with ADHD may feel attacked and they become defensive and have a bad temper because they end up in positions where they dont know how or why.
So to all you people wanting to threaten or leave your husband for being who he is, you don't deserve to be with him. If you cant accept your man the way he is, you must be really selfish. How could you threaten someone with a disorder saying your going to leave them, because they have ADHD temper/mood swings. You'll make them feel even more bad about themselves, because it's out of their control. ↑ |
| Name: jane | Date: Sep 18th, 2010 5:00 PM |
to the person who had their ADHD husband cheat on her ...
im really sorry that he cheated. I can't give you much advice but i'd like to tell you, I have ADD aswell and i have cheated on my boyfriend before when i was a little tipsy. It wasn't that i forgot about my boyfriend but when your somewhere and your in the moment of something, your not thinking, you make poor decisions on impulse, and later become shocked with what you have done. My boyfriend broke up with me when i told him, and a couple days later he took me back, and we made some rules so he would feel more comortable like i couldn't drink when he's not around etc.
We loved eachother too much.
Now, we have been together for a very long time, and personally, i think that after having cheated on him, i've grown extremly honest and truthful than i have ever been in my life because i have learned such a lesson.
People with ADD/ADHD have behaviour issues, and i have made many poor decisions that have effected my life for the good and bad. ↑ |
| Name: jackie | Date: Nov 23rd, 2010 2:07 AM |
| My husband has been diagnosed with adult adhd and is very verbally abusive to me and the 5 children. Sometimes i have had enough and want him to leave but i feel when i married him it was for better or worst richer or poorer. I feel it is my job to try to make it work out. But its so hard and tears flow down my cheeks and i dont know what to do. please help ↑ |
| Name: poor mom | Date: Nov 30th, 2010 1:56 AM |
| i have almost same sitiation like you. My kid was being shout by his dad, he just only 3 years old , but he already know how to defense by shouting back to his dad.. ↑ |
| Name: Karen | Date: Dec 22nd, 2010 10:01 PM |
I am reading this blog and frightened to read what I am reading. I have been married to my ADHD husband for 5 years. He is verbally, emotionally and physically abusive as others have said as well. This is not a result of the ADHD, though. This is domestic violence and is another problem on top of the ADHD. My husband is now going to domestic violence treatment and I go to a support group for victims of DV. It really begins to shed light on the whole situation.
But in the end, there is no excuse for mistreating people-cussing,yelling, hitting-i have dealt with that through our marriage. You are not responsible for other adult's problems-including ones with ADHD. If there is no respect, there is no reason to stick around. ↑ |
| Name: diana | Date: Jan 20th, 2011 2:55 AM |
| I wish thqt I KNEW. i AM MARRIED FOR ONLY TWO YEARS AND FEEL LIKE AFAILURE. ↑ |
| Name: aniad | Date: Jan 20th, 2011 3:07 AM |
| Name: Anonymous | Date: Mar 12th, 2011 12:43 AM |
| My fiance has adhd, and we are struggling, weve been together for two years, but his anger is getting more and more out of control, hes started getting physically abusive, Ive been on a few hospital trips, we argue daily, he throws lots of low blows, I get very upset, he cant handle my crying, he gets physically abusive, then its all my fault I shouldnt have "wound him up"......we dont stop arguing, everything that goes wrong is my fault, our bills are never payed, I can clean my house and leave it for five minutes when I get back its trashed, he fiddles with things without realising, I cant count how many keyboards, remote controls, forks, spoons, lighters, etc we have gone through, Im getting so depressed and he cant handle me being upset, but I cant help be upset, It makes me think, maybe it is my fault and I just dont know how to handle him, ive never met anyone with adhd before let alone live with them,.....perhaps my tolerance is to high and i dont respond properly, I just feel so undervalued, he dosent take anything I say seriously, if I say "Im very worried that we wont have enough cash this month for our bills" his response would be "dont worry".......and nothing gets done..........if I say "Look...you really hurt my feelings with what you said to me" .....his response is "sorry" ......we dont speak unless its about him.....perhaps he dosent care anymore....anyone got any ideas? ↑ |
| Name: Sarah | Date: Mar 14th, 2011 11:06 PM |
| I really love my boyfriend but he has ADHD. I was wondering about wat things to look out for and how to avoid losing him. Please help me anyone. ↑ |
| Name: Anna | Date: May 8th, 2011 7:24 PM |
| I'm so glad I found this chat room becasue it means I'm not alone and other women experience the exact same experiences that I am going through!. My partner has ADHD and has really bad mood swings often. When he;s in a good mood-he is so loveky to be around but when he is in bad mood , it is like he brings an atmosphere of dark cloud, thunder and lightning which really puts me in s dressive state. We have been together for 3 years now and alot of the time I blame myslf for not being able to help or control the situation, He tells me I cant manage him r the situation which I feel is unfair but he doesn't seem to understand that. What I really worry about is our future becasue I really want to start a family with him - i thought this might calm him down and change him but reading some of the responses in this forum it doesn't look as is children will change him so sometimes I worry that aybe his anger and unpredictable mood swings wil affect the children in a negative way. Despite of everything I do still love him so much and I know he loves me too he such a good person with good intentions but he just cannot help it and I have to constantly remind myself that so I try to be as supportive as I can, However I really hate the unpredictable nature, blame culture and explosive anger...what should I do? ↑ |
| Name: bellatrix5 | Date: Jun 28th, 2011 8:08 PM |
| I can completely relate to what you are going threw , I have a 8 month old and a stepdaughter that is 12, my husband goes off about anything you may not agree with in front of the kids, also he calls me all kinds of horrible names etc. in front of the kids, I'm about ready to walk out because I can't take it, then he's sorry, I love him but his adhd consumes him. I feel your pain. ↑ |
| Name: Rachel | Date: Jul 7th, 2011 10:25 AM |
| Reading these posts makes me feel better, I feel so alone sometimes. I have been with my husband for 7 years. We have been married for 3 years and he works away . He is gone for 3 weeks at a time and I am left alone to renovate the house we just bought. He has severe mood swings and can't get anything done, he is horrific with money and he is a pathalogical liar. He says he is working away for "us to get ahead" but he spends most of the money on NOTHING and leaves me at home alone and for me to fix up the house. All of my time is spend painting, sanding, gardening and I work fulltime! he isn't doing it for us to get ahead because we are NOT! he is happy to leave me alone so he can jump on a plane and have everything done for him, he isn't in the real world at all. the camp feeds him, gives him a car with a fuel card, they have hotel rooms with cable and maids! i am lonely and have to be in the real world 24/7. he has always put himself first, I am sick of having the same fights OVER and OVER again. He can't control himself, if he is in a bad mood he doesn't hold it back, he has ruined christmas, birthdays holidays..EVERYTHING and then apologises after but, I always have to ask and he never means it. I have supported him in everything and he has thrown me under a train so many times I can't count. I don't know what to do anymore. I am starting to really hate my life and I can't see it getting better, he has agreed to go to counsilling but, we tried that before we got married and he missed the referals. at the time my best freind has jumped off the west gate bridge and killed himself and my husband ignored me. I think he says he will so i will be quiet but, he probably wont. Everyone thinks he is soooo lovely and I feel i can't talk to my friends about him because they all love him so much? only my sister and his family know what he is like and i dont want to talk to them about it cause they will think I am nuts for staying.... I am so lost. ↑ |
| Name: mybonkerslife | Date: Jul 7th, 2011 4:42 PM |
| I could'nt believe it when I read all of these stories.So many of them I can relate to. I love my husband so much but it is so challenging being in this marriage...especially as my 8 year old son has also been diagnosed with adhd and asd.life in our house is crazy at times,well, lots of the time.My husband cant deal with our son the way we have been taught because a) he forgets what we are supposed to doing, b) he gets so angry and wound up himself and c) because like so many other things he finds it easier to sit back and let me do it. I feel at the end of my tether. we have the same arguments time and time again.he can be really out of order with what he says or how he behaves but am lucky to even get a sorry from him half the time, with no effort made to make things right or to show that he does actually care. Special nights out and occasions, christmas birthdays holidays etc have all been spoiled .I just want life to be normal and calm.I would love him to occasionally do something thoughtful but it never happens..not without a big row,,by which time any enjoyment is gone.he is never motivated to do anything in our home, i try an do as much as I can but with two kids and a job and all of the housework,cooking,gardening etc i struggle.he is only interested in doing stuff for himself.if he has time off and it as home he does nothing except watch tv,stare out the window-as he cant concentrate on anything,,sit on computer or do ridiculous childish things. I get back and everywhere is a mess and he wonders why I am pissed off.We are trying to get a diagnosis for him but it is so hard as it doesn't seem to be taken that seriously in adults.he has tried some of our sons med,which we know he should not have done but he cant believe the clarity it gives him in his mind..and concentration.He was truly like a different man and said he felt so much better.He says his head usually feels like a tv with all the channels on at once and that the meds made all this go away.He loses everything all the while,keys phone etc and asks me about everything a thousand times and says things that are going to cause conflict for no reason.if i go out he rings me constantly..i feel like i am going mad half the time. It is hard but I guess we have to try and remember they really cant help it..but that is very hard when you are made to feel unimportant and deal with confrontations all the time.sometimes I feel like he uses adhd as an excuse to get away with everything and its like having another child. But he is a lovely person sometimes and i love him to bits when i see the nice side of him.I just wish it was more often. Keep smiling all of you! ↑ |
| Name: mybonkerslife | Date: Jul 17th, 2011 10:45 AM |
| It definately gets harder with kids,my eldest on is from my previous marriage,and even though my husband has always loved him to bits he never really got involved with parenting at all until we had our second son together. however, that is oftern a nightmare as i put on my previous comment, and i do sometimes wonder if i would be better off on my own.i spent time on my own with my first child and know how hard it is,but it honestly was easier than this! Rachel sooo know what you mean about indecisiveness..if we go to a restaurant and thats a big if! we have to move about five times until he is happy with the table,drives me n the kids mad!!has your husband been diagnosed? or does he even think he has a problem?? keep chin up hun! ↑ |
| Name: rachel | Date: Jul 25th, 2011 11:04 AM |
| hello Mybonkerslife, Yes my husband was diagnosed when he was 14 and is still medicated (when he takes it!)We have just started maraige therapy and the first two sessions so far have been good. my hubby refused to go (as he always has) but i told him i wanted a divorce and he called back a few hours later and agreed. the therapist mainly spoke to him and about his problem with anger and shutting off. When he does somthing wrong or feels bad he gets angry or walks off on me so he doesn't need to deal with the situation. I think thats why we never get anywhere! if i ever try to talk to him he yells at me and walks off, nothing gets out in the air or resolved. The therapist thinks it is a learnt behavior he got as a child because he had such a hard time being teased or pressured by his parents so he developed his shut off system but, it was was a saftey switch that has no purpose anymore so we are dealing with it. He tries to talk about how he feels, its very basic at the moment but its progress. I hope things get better I would like kids but wont have them with him if it's like this. I am now the only friend in my group that isn't pregnant or has children. its a little embaressing now because I know my girlfriends know its because of him :( ↑ |
| Name: mybonkerslife | Date: Jul 28th, 2011 4:00 PM |
| hey rachel,it sounds like things are getting alot better for you,its bound to take time but at least you got him there! we are trying to chase up consultant for my husband..or should I say i am chasing him to chase his consultant lol...same old.!he has always been funny about talking to people about this too.dont worry what your friends think,at least you are being sensible and going the right way about dealing with stuff first.if things get better and hopefully they will,thats something you can do in the future, bless him at least he has proved he wants to be with you by what he has done when you said you wanted a divorce.am sure it will work out,but its just on going and hard being with someone who has adhd..i sooo know how you feel.! we have been arguing lots recently because i go through fazes of just coping with it and then just getting sick of putting up with it..but am sure u know what i mean. i just hope he gets diagnosis and meds cos think he will take them as when he took those ones he said how much better and different he felt..he was brilliant.. fingers crossed!! hope you carry on getting on ok with the marriage guidance x ↑ |
| Name: amy | Date: Sep 25th, 2011 4:54 PM |
My husband has add bur denies it. Cant hold a job to save his life. Our family is pretty much in total financial ruin but he hasnt worked a day in 3 years! I seriously just plain hatw him. Just the sound of his voice is awful
..i have really just had it. Only wear my wedding ring to work. If i had momey i would leave in a heartbeat. He is disgustu.g and selfish. Only thinks of himself. Controlling and seriously dysfunctional
From cant find things on his own to blaming the world for everything except its really all him. My inlaws have been beainwashed that our financual and fighting is all me. That im a psycho and nothing is his fault
I wonder if they would put up with him! I doubt it. I dont even care anymore
Would love to jyst walk away from all of them including loser deadbeat
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| Name: mybonkerslife | Date: Sep 26th, 2011 9:13 AM |
they drive you mental.mine goes through fazes of being worse than others.he is on a crap one at moment,have gone from him admitting it and getting as far as speaking to a consultant,now denying it again..blaming it all on me..yes i get angry with him sometimes but its pure frustration,he is so thoughtless and selfish.we have two kids and I work part time,he works for himself and is working at the mo,but then will have six months off and just does stuff to please himself.i feel emotionally drained.he is same loses everything,blames anything that happens on everyone else but himself..he promises to do stuff and then never does it.changes his mind about stuff constantly,even with the kids,they dont know were they are half the time and neither do i,
i know how u feel.its an absolute nightmare........and you do get to the point were everything they do just annoys you..i have tried to help him loads but he never follows anything through and i am sick of banging my head against a brick wall. i'm exhausted by all of it. ↑ |
| Name: Chantal | Date: Nov 30th, 2011 4:24 PM |
| My son is 6 years old and we think he has adhd, he is so hyper, cant sit still. dont lisent to you... hits other kids. at school the teacher keeps call here saying he very hyper, dont listing to her, pull kids hat off outside, cant sit and do work...... he too busy looking around and seeing what very one doing, get ups at 5 every mornig. , he love to clim the conter, just off the couch , i need help with this. the school running some test today.... Should know more soon/ ↑ |
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