Ok so first off I live in an extremely rich, uber snobby part of california. Finding friends here has been really difficult for me, let alone my daughter. My daughter has adhd, she is a good kid but gets in trouble for her in ability to keep her mouth shut, and or sit still.
She has friends at school, but none of them will come over for a play date or do anything out of school with her. The major problem is that now she has a birthday coming up. I invited her entire brownie troop(13 girls) and her entire class (19 students) NO ONE, not one is coming. Most didn't have the decency to rsvp, so I emailed and or called them all. They all have a "thing" to attend. I am so pissed off I don't know what to do. There will be family there but no children. My daughter is 6. ↓
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| Name: bethany | Date: Apr 13th, 2006 4:51 AM |
| im sorry, i dont have any advice. this happened to my daughter , only her best friend showed up, so instead of having a party, i took the 2 kids out for a fun day at disney land, then the next day at the zoo, and she had so much fun she didnt even care bout not having a party ↑ |
| Name: Fiona | Date: Apr 13th, 2006 12:32 PM |
I had this problem a couple of years ago when I invited my son's class to his birthday party. He was 5 at the time. Nobody wanted to come and it broke my heart. I cried for days and it was horrible. We just had a little party at home instead.
There's no easy answer, just try to get some effective treatment for your daughter and keep looking for friends through out of school activites and clubs etc. If the area in which you live isn't suitable then perhaps you could move.
My son still only has three friends and I don't bother with the other mums (apart from one) as I feel ashamed of my sons' behaviour and somehow different from everyone else. I am a good mum and I try hard, but people don't understand and think that disorders are always due to the parents being useless, which isn't true.
Do you go to church? They usually have childrens' clubs and are perhaps less snobby than some other kinds of place. ↑ |
| Name: deanne | Date: Apr 13th, 2006 4:51 PM |
ennead- thanks for your judgemental uncalled for response. You have no idea who I am or why I am here.
I am living with my mother in law here in this neighboorhood because my house was destroyed in Hurricane Ivan. M y husband is still in Iraq, he is a Marine so I can't move. I am trying to deal with things here. and the snobby attiude isn't mine it seems to be most people in this area. But thanks I really appreciate the emotional slamming, it made me feel so much better thid morning. ↑ |
| Name: to deanne from bethany =) | Date: Apr 13th, 2006 7:49 PM |
| ignore him deanne, he is a rude jerk that needs to mind his bussiness. u asked for advice and u got insulted, and it was not needed, so dont associate with his rude behavior ↑ |
| Name: bob | Date: Apr 15th, 2006 6:07 AM |
| Name: emtf71 | Date: May 2nd, 2006 1:26 AM |
| First of all it shouldn't matter where you live. Second of all I'm sorry your daughter had to go threw that even you it must of been painfull. I have a son with adhd 7 it is hard enough to support your child because of there behavior but you are all they got just rember that.Friends will come and go. But i would try to find a group of children that have adhd snd thier parents and get to know them and maybe she will find like a support buddy and make a friend that understands her for her that is what I'm trying to do for my son. I guess they have a summer group around here which I'm looking into. So I'm hoping my son will find a friend there. well Good luck and cheer up. ↑ |
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