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Name: Jenny
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Every other weekend for the last 6 months my 9 year old step-daughter comes to visit with head lice. We treat her and go on but when she comes back in 2 weeks she has it again. We tell her mother everytime we treat her, and even offer to buy the treatment and to even treat her during the week. It is like she does'nt know how to clean or to take care of it at her house. (Does'nt surprise me, she is not a very clean person.) There are even some weekends that she will come and her mother knows that she has head lice, but doesn't do anything about it. It is almost as if she thinks to herself "Oh well she is going to her dads this weekend, he will take care of it." I am so freaked out by it that I treat her as soon as she walks through the door, plus I use the spray on everything just in case. It has to be hell on her to be treated all the time not to include I have heard that it is unhealthy for the child to be treated that much. I am so fed up with it I called CPS but they do not handle head lice cases. What do I do? I would just like to prove her mother unfit, but how? When my husband got his divorce the lawyer told him to prove a mother un-fit is the hardest thing to do. Any suggestions?
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Name: hope this helps | Date: May 4th, 2006 8:30 PM
I would continue to call cps and talk to anyone and make them here you. That is neglect and there needs to be something done. I would also get an attorney and fight for soul custody and prove her to be neglectful. For that little girl to have to go through that is wrong and she needs to be with you and your husband. I do know that when you call cps just tellling them she has headlice will not get a responce but to tell them neglect and unsanitary living conditions and a possable threat to her health will ..I hope this helps you and good luck she needs a good mom like you. 

Name: Jenny | Date: May 4th, 2006 9:02 PM
Thank You, hope this helps--This gives me another route to try with CPS. 

Name: Terri | Date: May 4th, 2006 11:45 PM
Keep calling CPS but eventually the school will get involved because CPS does get involved when it continues to be an issue. 

Name: Jenny to Terri | Date: May 5th, 2006 12:45 PM
CPS will be my only hope, I have called the school several times but they do nothing. After calling the school and reporting it I decided to call the school nurse to talk to her about it. The office had not even reported it to her as I had called through-out the year, and even T says school had never checked her hair, when I ask in a round about way. Is it wrong of me to think my husband's ex-wife is an un-fit mother, and head-lice is that common of a thing now that nobody worries about it? 

Name: sally | Date: May 6th, 2006 10:44 AM
No unfortunatley head lice is common but no so common to be left untreated! My son got it in grade 1 and I remember that the treatment I used at the time, you had to use it in another 5 days to totally wipe out the head lice incase there were some in the eggs at the initial treatment. Do you think thats why maybe your step daughter keeps getting infected? You need to tell her mother to treat her after she leaves your care, maybe she doesnt realise this? I"m sure you know her better than I do! 

Name: Jen | Date: May 10th, 2006 4:39 PM
My husband and I have been putting up with his ex wife's unability to raise his daughter for a while, but we have finally had it!!! So, we interviewed some attorneys and are now taking legal actions. His first attorney was horrible and incompetent during the divorce--which was confirmmed after we found out what the law really says. We will try to get custody, but we don't have to prove her mom unfit, just that we are capable adults who are taking the best care of my step daughter and putting her best interest before our own. We have a lot of proof and great things going our way and feel confident to make this move. So if you can prove that your step daughter , in your care, would be best, you may be able to make a move. Good luck and hang in there. If you are like me-- I do the work of her mom, care for her like i care for my own kids, and spend more time with her than her own mother--- yet I don't seem to count--keep it up because she knows how much you love her. 

Name: Rick | Date: Dec 10th, 2011 1:14 AM
I have been fighting with the same thing. My ex wife does nothing for two kids. Your story is so very much familiar. 

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