| I am in a similiar situation. My husband and i were together 3 months before I found out I was pregnant, 2 months later we got married and its only gotten worse ever since. He tells me he hates me too and I catch him in lies almost every day it seems like. We fight constantly he leaves for days at a time and since hes the one with the job when he leaves im stuck with no money and trying to take care of my other two kids. When hes in a bad mood he will stay up all night messaging people online. He used to treat me like gold and the more pregnant I've got the more he talks to me like Im his property and Im suspossed to cater to him like its all about him. It was his idea to have a baby and to get married and now Im afraid hes going to leave me high and dry with 3 kids now and no way to support them. I dont know what to do either. ↑ |
| Hi, I am in a similar situation but this time I hope I am not pregnant. I am married with 3 kids and possibly one on the way. My husband play his game all the time and tells me I am fat and that he hates me and I am his problem. I don't have a job but I am going to school. He also has a drinking problem. There are times when he stays out all night long. I am tired of his bull, but where there is a will there is a way. I am have been looking for a job because I refuse to let anyone treat me less than what I should be treated. It hurts really bad and I cry a very often but I know that I and my kids deserve more than what he can give us. You have to be STRONG. You will make it with what ever you deside to do. I can't tell you to leave and I can't tell you to stay, only you know what you can deal with. It helps if you have family for support. But not all of us do. I know I don't and that makes things seem a lot worse. I do wish you the best of luck in whatever you deside. I know I am ending my situation, I can't take it anymore. ↑ |
| Here is a different perspective. My Mom was in the say situation as you ladys are in when she was pregnant with me. My bio father went to jail for stealing. My second Dad was in the military and didnt beleave in only one woman and he left my mom with me and a baby on the way. She met my third dad and by far the worst. He didn't leave her, no, he was very VER sweet during there time dateing and she got pregnant. He treated her like GOLD, that is untill she got pregnant with Ally my baby sister. Tony was a monster after that. He started to control everything, and I mean everything, food, money, what we wore and did, who we talked to, EVERYTHING. When I was 8 was the first time he beat and raped me. I was 10 and pregnant with his child. He started out Amazing and a really good Dad and person, but the choice you ladys make now, your child/ childern will have to pay for later. If he does not treat you right now, what makes you think hes going to once the baby is born? What makes you think hes going to treat the baby any better? Hes not. Usually the father treats the child worse because he wants easy sex from the mom. Please think about your actions. IT IS SCARRY! I know it is. I am pregnant and my man is wonderful. Last year I was not so lucky. My ex-fience treated me really good for a few months untill i got pregnant the first time. I was excited and told him, then he punched me in my stomach and beat me all in my lower stomach untill i was bleeding out my vagina. It was bad. I got out. Itw as scarry as I had no ware to go in a new place that I knew no one. I did it and have a WONDERFUL man now who is so amazing and we have been together for about a year and it has only gotten better. Go to the state for help. Thats what government assistance is for. I'm on it. Please think about your childs future, not just your feelings of lonleyness or well he is sweet sometimes, cuz trust me, it will end and it was end fast. ↑ |
