I REALLY NEED HELP
I HAVE A TODDLER AT HOME. THE BABY IS OVER ALL A GOOD CHILD
BUT DOING THE TERRIBLE TWOS THING IS DRIVING ME LOCA
THE TODDLER HITS AND PUNCHES AND KICKS ME. ESPECIALLY WHEN I CHANGE THE TODDLER
I CANT CONTROL IT I GET SO MAD AND FRUSTRATED I HIT BACK AND SOMETIMES ITS REALLY HARD IVE EVEN PUNCHED THE TODDLER IN THE LEG AND ARM
IM LOSING IT
I FEEL LIKE A FAILURE
I DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT I SHOULD BE DOING WITH THE TODDLER I FEEL LOST? AND WHAT I SHOULD BE TEACHING HIM
THE TODDLER WONT EAT VERY MUCH ONLY THE BARE ESSENTIALS JUNK FOODS YOGURTS AND RICE
HE WONT EAT FRUITS OR VEGETABLES
HELP ME OTHERWISE IM GOING TO RUIN THIS KIDS LIFE ↓
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| Name: aiden | Date: Feb 23rd, 2009 2:24 PM |
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| Name: JessieMae | Date: May 18th, 2009 12:38 AM |
I am a professional nanny. There is a reason why your child is misbehaving. It may be because he wants attention or is trying to have power over you. Also at this age, your child may not be choosing the behavior. It is simply his only way to communicate to you that he is tired, hungry, mad, sick, frustrated, etc. because he cannot yet identify these feelings yet. You and your child should sit down and talk. What you should say: 1 Outline what behavior is expected from him. And ensure that he understands. Ask him questions and praise him when he gets the answer right. Be patient and explain again if he does not know the answer. 2 Select consequences when he breaks these rules. Make sure they are logical consequences. For example: !f your child throws a book at you, he will not be allowed to have this book to read anymore. He will have to sit on the step/stool/time out chair for 2 minutes is he is 2, 3 if 3. etc. And then apologize to you. You may want to create a chart or other visual aid to show your child how his behavior has been that day. You might draw a giant whale and a picture of Jonah. Every time your child hits you, etc. he must move Jonah closer to the whale. If the whale eats Jonah, then your child will loose a privilege. He may not be allowed to watch TV, or loose his favorite toy. If the whale does NOT eat Jonah, your child can have a reward, like an extra bedtime story, or another 10 minutes of TV that day.
If you are worried about your child's diet, the first thing you should do is confirm with a health care provider that your child is developing normally. Then, it is easiest simply not to have junk food in the house. Then you will not be tempted, or able to give it to him. Create meal time rules: If you do not eat your breakfast, you cannot have a morning snack. If you do not finish your dinner, you may not have dessert. Etc. Some parents continue to feed their child the same meal until the child eats all of it, others only make their child try the food. What he does not like, he does not have to eat. That decision is up to you.
The most important things to teach a toddler and the basic social rules: sharing, identifying emotions, playing nicely with others. He needs to be able to say his name, address and phone number before kindergarten. The ABC's, numbers 1-5, or 1-10, colors, and shapes are also fun things for him to learn. Remember that he is still learning his Gross, or Large motor skills (Running, throwing, hitting, etc.) and give him plenty of time and opportunity to exercise his new skills. This will help me be more successful when he learns his fine motor skills (writing, drawing, etc.)
I hope this was helpful. Email me with any questions. I will try to respond promptly.
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| Name: Bounty2009 | Date: May 19th, 2009 4:40 PM |
| Sorry to hear you are having troubles. The terrible twos aren't called that for nothing. Sometimes there are difficult phases all children go though, you mustn't blame yourself, or loose your cool and react. You need to think of solutions and put them into action and in the end im sure things will be loads better. First of all I would recommend you go see your doctor to make sure that the problem isn't medical in origin, you never know some behavioral issues are caused by medical problems. If there is nothing wrong medical you must find behavioral solutions, reward good behavior and ignore bad behavior and deny privileges. For more help head over to http://www.bounty.com/ and look up "toddler years" as there is loads of advice and support there. Hope it goes well hun, keep calm, it will get better I promise. xxxx ↑ |
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