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Name: heather
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has anyone here had a relative that tells how to raise/ take care of you child?!? its so annoying! i know that they dont mean to but it bugs the hell out of me. my grandparents make me feel like crap because theyre always telling me i feed my child too much and they say things to my baby like "do you have a stomach ache? you eat too much." as if telling me not to feed him so often! hes 5 weeks old btw. and then my fiancees mom keeps telling me where we should and shouldnt take the baby..as if its any of her business...im not a bitch, im just annoyed!
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Name: Ashlie | Date: Mar 16th, 2006 8:48 PM
I dont have any experience in that heather but I know I will soon enough, just tell them nicely that this is my child and I am doing what I think is right for my baby, I don't mean to be rude or anything but this is how I am doing it, if I need your help I will not hesitate to ask. HOPE I HELPED 

Name: Hot Momma | Date: Mar 16th, 2006 9:08 PM
I know I keep thinking how everyone is going to tell me because I'm going to be a first time mom in like seven days. My boyfriends mom really irritates me she thinks she knows it all already. Like she called here to see if I've had the baby yet like we wouldn't call her. That would just be mean, I'm not a mean person so it's hard for me to tell people how I feel so I can just imagine what it's going to be like. If you find a resolution let me know. Plus we live with my mom and she's already saying she'll be getting up feeding the baby no it's going to be my baby. She also keeps saying she's going to teach him this and that. HELLO MY BABY. Good Luck. 

Name: Nora | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 12:40 AM
Heather, if people are really bugging you that much then speak up... Sit down with your grandparents and your fiancee's mom and explain to them that the stuff they say isn't going to make you do what they want. Your fiancee's mom.. well unless she's willing to breastfeed, change diapers and be with the baby 24/7 and raise it for the next 18 years, she can just pipe up... to be honest.. but on the other hand be nice and explain to her that you appreciate the information on where to take the baby and you'll keep it in mind.. I think she's more worried than anything.
as far as your grandparents.. tell them the amount you're feeding your baby is fine according to your doctor, and when they say stuff like "you eat too much" is really hurtful and only upsets you.

If you dont express your feelings to people they're going to keep doing it.. so definately speak up and even fill your fiancee in and talk to him about the situation... 

Name: heather | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 1:59 AM
i cant...theyre my fiances granparents and the dont speak english...i dont know how to speak their language. sometimes grandpa can say little things in english and also a friend of grandmas told me what she was saying.
i know what your saying about his mom...she didnt even raise him, so i dont know why she even bothers now...his grandparents raised him.
i told my fiancees aunt about it and she talked to them...i didnt want to tell my fiancee because his words arent always the nicest way to put it and i dont want to seem like a bitch.
they come from a whole different country/culture that they dont have doctors so grandma said she only feed her babies when they cryed.
his aunt explained all of it to them..i just feel bad for having to say something. i dont want to hurt their feelings, i just want to raise my child my way.
thanx 4 yalls support 

Name: nora | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 3:07 AM
well so much for my idea of talking to the grandparents... *slaps forehead* lol 

Name: TO HEATHER | Date: Mar 18th, 2006 1:47 PM
BECAUSE YOUR LETING THEM THATS WHY, STOP LETING THEM AND STOP GIVING THEM THE SATISFACTION THAT YOU NEED THEM, DONT ASK THEM FOR ANYTHING AND WHEN THEY DO PUT THEIR TWO CENTS IN, JUST TELL THEM, IM THE MOM AND ILL DO THINGS MY WAY AND IF I NEED YOUR ADVICE ILL ASK FOR IT! 


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