Well, Ginger, how has this been for you? I haven't been following all these threads for too long so really I don't know how it has been for you. I have had an eating disorder for over 20 years. I won't go into the details but when it rears its ugly head it is all consuming. It takes over my life; it is who I am. If one of my friends wanted to lose weight and wanted to know if I recommended it my whole hearted response would be HELL NO.
Try sharing with your friend how this really is for you. How much of your day is spent obsessing? How happy are you? What is this doing to your health, and why do you keep it up despite the risks?
Part of anorexia for me was a need for control and a desire to feel like I was good at something. When it dawned on me I was actually putting a lot of effort into destroying myself for the small payoff of looking good and getting validation from a small group of people, it was a real "aha" moment for me. Sometimes I'm still symptomatic with all this but thank the Lord I am relatively free from it. I would not wish the visit to hell to anyone, the price is too high. If this is what it is like for you, let your friend know that and spare her tons of grief. Ultimately it's not what we eat but what is eating us. Figure out what is eating you and it all calms down. ↑ |
| you dont have an eating disorder if you are purposly making yourself do things just to blend in. if shes doing for attention thats just immature and insulting to people who are dieing from these problems. ↑ |
