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Name: Linda.Edwards54

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My 14 year old daughter wants a lock on her door. I don't really know why I'm so cautious of it, but I am. Before you get any of the wrong ideas, she doesn't smoke (anything). I know this because my mom (her grandmother) died of COPD because of smoking, and now I have it also. She doesn't sneak out, skip, or have sex (I really do know this we're very close). She has a 4.0 and is a great kid. I just think that a lock on her door encourages bad behavior. I told her I need to have a key, and she said that defeats the purpose.
What do you think? ↓

Name: lisaahe | Date: May 16th, 2012 2:25 AM

if she dont have one now dont give her it she will get over it and if she keeps on asking do what i did i took it off and now she dont have a door for two weeks you cant give them everything they want you cant be there friend you have to be a parent ↑

Name: Destiny#1 | Date: May 27th, 2012 12:35 AM

She is to young , maybe when 16-17 and you have the key. That way she will respect becasue she isn't sure if and when you will go in. ↑

Name: MiriRose | Date: Jun 7th, 2012 8:37 PM

Hi Linda, I can understand your hesitation to let your daughter have a lock on her door. I'm glad you enjoy a close relationship with her! As you make a decision about this, you might find it helpful to visit Focus on the Family's information on parenting teens:

http://bit.ly/IrGpi7

I work at Focus, and I know that it's not easy knowing when to establish boundaries and when to let go.

Hope this helps! ↑