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Hey my name is Kane, I am 17 years old and I am a full time dad to a two year old little boy.. I am gay and I worry that people are going to judge me or my child for that.. I never thought I would have kids it was just a one night stand and now I have been left with it for life.. I would like to hear other peoples opinions or if they know of other situations with gay people with children ?? ↓
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| Name: Busygizzy | Date: May 17th, 2009 7:49 AM |
| Hi i think ur brilliant for bringing up ur son alone at 17! its not an easy job but ur doin it very well!! Dont worry about what other people will say or think because no matter what u do people will always judge u! as long as u love ur son and ur son feels loved and safe ur sexuallity has nothing 2 do with it! I have a few friends who have had children then found out they were gay and there was the obvious whispers and name callin 2 start with but it didnt last long! People arent like they used 2 b same sex couples r aloud 2 adopt now, im not sayin there wont be whisperin but hold ur head up u have nothin 2 b ashamed about and the way u deal with everythin will show ur son how 2 deal with it aswell!!! Good luck x ↑ |
| Name: kanesandars | Date: May 21st, 2009 1:59 AM |
| Thank you Busygizzy yes its going to be a big road ahead of me but I am hoping every thing will be ok because I wont stand for crap I think every body is equal well should be equal ↑ |
| Name: Bounty2009 | Date: May 21st, 2009 4:36 PM |
| Hey there Kane, I think you are very brave being a single dad so young! As long as you love your baby (and you clearly do) then it really doesn't matter at all what other people will think. Your little boy will know that you have done everything for him and he will always love you for that. Do you have any contact with the boys mum? There is a forum just for dads over at http://my.bounty.com/forums/ if you feel chatting to other dads about your experiences? Best of luck Kane, I'm sure everything will work out just fine in the end xxx ↑ |
| Name: kane sandars | Date: May 25th, 2009 10:01 AM |
| Thank you so much Bounty2009, yes we have a bit of contact with Jason's mother but not much at all she pretty much just lives her own life and gets on with it and pretty much left me to deal with the whole lot. We are fine and I know I am a great, brave and young dad!! am just so worried about the future due to my sexuaility xx thank you so much for the forum for dads will go have a look at that xx ↑ |
| Name: Christopher | Date: Aug 12th, 2009 8:41 PM |
Kane,
I am a gay single dad of 4 wonderful boys. I grew up in the deep south and knew at a young age I was gay. I finally came out at the age of 19 years old. My family has always been very supportive of me. I also knew one day I wanted children. So at the age of 30 years old I adopted my first child. Then came my next three boys. I have put values and morals in their life just like anyone else. I have taught to never be ashamed of our family but embrace it. We are very unique family and for that they should be proud.
I do not have a partner but one day hope the right guy comes along. Until then I am raising my boys alone with the support of family and friends. I love being a father and would not change it for the world.
Hope this helps.
Christopher ↑ |
| Name: DESMINNA LEE | Date: Aug 16th, 2009 4:51 PM |
| WELL I KNOW A MAN WHOSE GAY AND PEOPLE USEDE TO THINK HIS BOYS WHERE GOING TO BE GAY BECAUSE HE RAISED THEM NO MOTHER JUST HIM AND THEIR GRANDMOTHER... HIS WAS A ONE NITE STAND TO... N HES FULLY GAY HES THE FEMALE BUT... HESE LIKE 45 ATLEAST NOW AND HE HAVE GROWN BOYS AND GIRL AND THEY DONT LIKE THEIR SEX THE LIKE THE OPPOSITE SEX .... PEOPLE USED TO JUDGE HIM... AND HOW I KNOW DIS IS BECAUSE HE ALWAYS TALKS TO ME SHID MY MAMA WENT TO SCHOOL WITH HIM AND HE WAS GAY THEN... HE JUST SAID HE ALWAYS WANTED KIDS.... AND ALL HIS KIDS GOT DIFFERENT MOMS AND THEIR ALL ONE NITE STANDS... BUT THEY HAVE GOOD JOBS AND NICE HOMES AND FAMILYS... SO I SAY JUST KEEP UR HEAD UP AND DONT WORRY BOUT OTHER PEOPLE AND WHAT THEY SAY BECAUSE THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS AND IS IMPORTANT IS YOUR CHILD ↑ |
| Name: colin | Date: Aug 20th, 2009 9:50 PM |
| hi kane i am also a gay dad altho i am now 40 and my child is 12. i also used to worry about what others would think and say and really worried about what the school play ground would hold for my little angel. luckily those life has been pretty good really apart from the odd comment here and there and i live in the country, ive always drummed it in to my child that no matter who or what you are, were all human and have feelings. shes growing up now and starting to understand life so am hoping alls well in the future. anyway good luck mate and dont worry just be happy and love your little one x ↑ |
| Name: Brian | Date: Nov 12th, 2009 1:48 PM |
I am 22yo right now and my son, James, is 5yo. I was 17 when he was born and his mother was 16. Right after finding out she was pregnant I knew I couldnt keep lying to myself if I was gonna be there for my son. I came out of the closet two months before he was born. My first and only worry was weather people were gonna judge me for being gay. what i have realized is people are alot more open minded than you may think. I have come across a few haters but they are not people I would want in my life anyway. After my son was born and I realized the importance of him I didnt care what people thought. I was happy to be a father and if it didnt happen when it did. I dont think i would have ever been a father.
Word of advice more people will envy you than hate you. Be proud of who you are. Be glad you have a kid. Alot of gay people wish they had what we have. ↑ |
| Name: braylonsmall | Date: Dec 8th, 2009 7:47 PM |
| i know what u mean. i want kids too. and im also gay. i have scary thoughts about what if people judge me, including my child, about my sexuality. ↑ |
| Name: emily bradley | Date: Feb 12th, 2010 2:32 PM |
| Hey i am Emily Bradley and i am 17 years old and i am looking for a single guy to go out with me plz ↑ |
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| Name: denvergrant | Date: Oct 27th, 2010 8:36 PM |
| Hi. Don't worry about it. Yes people will judge you, but people would judge you no matter what your situation is. That's just how people are. I am in a similar situation. I am 20 years old, and I have a 4 year old son who's mom left when he was 2 weeks old, and we haven't seen her since. I am bisexual so its not exactly the same situation but its similar. And yes, people have judged me with my relationships, and at one time I even decided to have no relationships, but then I decided I didn't care what people think. As long as I have my awesome son by my side. As long as you put your son first, everything will be fine. Don't worry about those judgmental people. They are just unhappy with their own lives if they have time to judge yours.----Hope it helped a little. Have a great day :) ↑ |
| Name: kanesandars | Date: Nov 4th, 2010 11:55 PM |
| i love boy beautifullll ↑ |
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| Name: Stacey | Date: Feb 22nd, 2011 6:28 AM |
You have been left with it for life???
You sound incredibly ungrateful!! If you don't want your child then try adoption, this way instead of ruining an innocent life you might actually be saving it. Lots of gay people raise happy healthy children, this doesn't sound like your problem ↑ |
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