| Name: nice20008 | Date: Sep 3rd, 2008 6:54 AM |
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| Name: chelle | Date: Sep 19th, 2008 2:28 AM |
You can do it! do let any one else make you think you can't/ I cannot tell you how much your decision will effect the rest of your life. Physically and emotionally. I was in the same situation . Infact i was 19 and 11 weeks pregant. I thought i could do it but no one else and i let them talk me into not keeping the child. I think about that everyday and it feels horrible. Its a human being, and if you dont keep it you will feel horrible the rest of your life. i Guarentee that. Just do your best and it WILL be good enough , and if hes not there for you, then hes not good enough for you or your baby!
best of luck! ↑ |
| Name: aprilbel | Date: Sep 27th, 2008 1:24 AM |
| Hello Bianca! I know it's scary but everything will work itself out! I'm 19 years old and I have a 2 and a half month old. Unfortunately, your friends may seem distant and may not "understand" your new life style... and sometimes you have to give up or put off some of your goals. But for me, at least, I don't regret a thing. I make time to go to school part-time so that eventually I'll have my RN degree. And at least in the States, there are a lot of programs for young parents who need assistance. I love my Nikolas dearly and I'm 100% sure I've made the right choice! ↑ |
| Name: sunshine08 | Date: Sep 27th, 2008 1:34 AM |
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| Name: Smart Guy | Date: Oct 2nd, 2008 6:41 PM |
Having this child is emotional and selfish descion...
It is not murder, it is legal. Nothing has been born yet.
All these girls on here who say that its a good choice are not thinking logical and are selfish, why not wait till marriage and when you can provide for the child. I dont understand why girls cant figure out why the guy always leaves...we are not stupid. We use our heads and not our emotions - which get you no where in life. I hope you do the right thing...end it ↑ |
| Name: leah | Date: Oct 2nd, 2008 10:34 PM |
| hi bianca my names leah i am also pregnant and i just found out about a week and a half ago and i am also very scared. I am 21 years old and my boyfriend also doesnt want me too keep the baby and makes it out to be my fault that this happened.im torn because i really want to keep the baby but i know he doesnt...and i know his feelings matter as well cause hes part of this too. ↑ |
| Name: Mostunique | Date: Oct 8th, 2008 8:34 PM |
| Hello Bianca , look I was 18 when I had my daughter, ( and was very much single ) was also given the choice by her dad, either I kept him or my daughter,, ( and guess what 20 years later I made the right choice and have a wonderfull daughter ) its not going to be easy for you , but it's got to be your choice and to tell you the truth I that your parents will be there for you more than you think. and if this isn't the case then you can do it alone hun.. and as for the father, well by sounds of things you'd be better of without him either way.. goodluck to you . ↑ |
| Name: Carrie | Date: Oct 23rd, 2008 10:08 PM |
Im in the same spot as you if you get any good advice let me know...
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| Name: bb | Date: Nov 3rd, 2008 5:58 PM |
| Bianca: It sounds as though you are scared, lonely, and unhappy. Although only you can make the final decision as to what direction you take, you must take into consideration those you who will be impacted by your decision. Tell your parents! and Tell them now! What will you accomplish by waiting to tell them? ↑ |
| Name: Kayla Hartinger | Date: Dec 3rd, 2008 8:47 PM |
| 2 months pregant and scared out of my mind until my scyco sister told me to relax ↑ |
| Name: Laura | Date: Dec 11th, 2008 6:27 AM |
| I too am 19 and pregnant and my boyfriend is supportive some days and others he doesn't even care he drinks every night and I am forced to stay up with him and go places at late hours of the night I am so tired all the time but I will stay with him because I cant do this alone I dont have a drivers liscense because im scared to death of driving and never had a job because I cant drive there I have to be completely dependent at this point which I hate. ↑ |
| Name: trista | Date: Dec 19th, 2008 4:33 AM |
| hi I'm 32 weeks pregnant and i don't have a father for my child. he told me that i was cheating and it's not his. anyway the fact of it is he's not ready to be a father and don't push him stay away from him and let him learn from his mistake. yes it does have consequences to the baby cause the baby is Innocent and but some choices you just have to live with there's no right or wrong answer just follow your heart and try to do the right thing. but like your parents said he's controlling and mentally abusive if you can't handle yourself from him what chance does a child have? you just have to answer that question and know that it's not true and not be convincing yourself the whole time that it's not. YOU HAVE TO DO THE RIGHT THING AND your the mother so whatever you do is the right thing as long as both of you are safe. ↑ |
| Name: juliana | Date: Jan 2nd, 2009 3:52 AM |
Congradss on the new little blessing. secondly, it is never the wrong thing to do something if you are following your heart. also, you may not be a single parent for ever, if you bf is abusive then i suggest leaving him and later finding some one else who will love your little family ; ) there is guys out there who will. And about your parents, it might dissapoint them but you are 19 years old, well old enough to make decisions as an adult. When the baby gets there they will be so happy when they see the little bundle of joy in your arms .. and when they hold him or her they will feel even more happy. i think you are doing the right thing by keeping it.
By the way i was 14 wen i found out i was pregnant then i delivered when i was 15 as of today ( i am 16 with a 1 year old) the father is involved but we dont live together. It was realy hard when i had to tell my parents. But once my daughter was born it was better. I wish you the best of luck with your little blessing and if you want to talk some more my email is
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| Name: Charlie | Date: Jan 4th, 2009 9:01 PM |
| Heyaa all im 16 years old and im pregnant im so scared i dont no what to do. should i tell my mum ?? so should i wait?? i dont no how people will take it im still im school and have my exams to think about can someone help me?? ↑ |
| Name: Desperate to adopt | Date: Jan 24th, 2009 7:31 PM |
| Hi Charlie (16 yr old pregnant) - my name is Jenny and I live in South Africa. My husband and I cannot have our own baby so we are desperate to adopt a white baby. If you only know the heartache we are going through to hold our own baby one day... please, no matter what you decide, do not abort this baby, rather give it up for adoption if you cannot support it. Think about the cost of medical and schooling and clothing and night time crying - u need alot of support. Say no to abortion, say yes to adoption. ↑ |
| Name: Ruth | Date: Jan 25th, 2009 6:07 PM |
| hi Bianca. you're not doing the wrong thing. and if your boyfriend is mentally abusive to you, then you should leave his sorry ass. think of what's best for you and your baby. talk to your parents and see what they say, but don't let them force you into anything you don't want to do. k? ;) ↑ |
| Name: charlie | Date: Jan 31st, 2009 6:32 PM |
| Heyaaa jenny thanks for your advice im so sorry to hear that you cant have children that must be horrible and here me moaning about beeing pregnant i hope it all works out for the both of you x ↑ |
| Name: elnah | Date: Feb 6th, 2009 10:57 AM |
| hi bianca i have and am still in the same situation as ur my boyfriend ran away when i was 2months pregnant an one way to get my degree it has been tough and through the grace of GOD am still living the father and i we have never contacted each other since then because he said he doesnt want a baby it was like a nightmare am congratulating u on deciding to keep ur child because a child is a gift from GOD every human being living here was first born plz dont be a killer u acn make it on ur own with me my parents are very much dissappointed in me ↑ |
| Name: Amanda | Date: Feb 7th, 2009 1:27 AM |
| I hope this makes you feel a little better... IT IS NEVER THE WRONG THING TO KEEP YOUR BABY!!! I am old enuff to know better (33 and pregnant by my ex whom I already have a child with and already know he will make things harder, he actually sounds similar to yours) The best advice I would give you is look forward to having your child. I already have a 12 yr old (with him) my daughter is amazing, gets great grades in school, is in sports, funny, and always ready to hang out or watch a movie with me.. Dont worry about what anyone else is going to think.. make the best choice for you not your boyfriend and not your parents.. I have a pretty good job, went to school, own a home, and somehow always came up with whata we needed. I dont know you, but I do know NO MATTER WHAT YOU CAN DO IT!! ↑ |
| Name: carol | Date: Feb 7th, 2009 6:33 PM |
| I am now 66 years old, and back when I was single and pregnant I had the same fears as you do. I made an appointment for an abortion but after a weekend of crying I called and canceled it. I have no regrets. I kept my baby boy, got rid of the father, and raised him alone. I'm not saying it was easy, but I have a wonderful son and a granddaughter that I love more than anything in the world. Back when I was pregnant there were many more social stigmas about being an unwed mother. Despite that I loved being pregnant, and giving birth was the most powerful experience of my life. I am so happy I did not give in to my boyfriend's demands that I "get rid of it" He was both mentally and physically abusive. Don't put up with the abuse even one more day. Being a single parent is challenging, but the rewards are worth it. It turned out that was my only pregnancy. I am so happy that I didn't terminate it. If your parents won't accept your decision there are other people who are willing to help. I found that out, and am grateful to them to this day. ↑ |
| Name: Peyton | Date: Feb 8th, 2009 7:33 AM |
wow. i am so sorry, but just take it day by day. you're gonna have to tell your parents, and let them begin to get over it so they can start supporting you. the longer you wait, the longer it will take before you're all at peace with the whole thing.
raising a child alone isn't impossible. its done everyday by millions of people, but its how you mother and teach your child that they can be great, and be happy so they see you happy and then they'll be happy. .... day by day, but def talk to your parents; if not, get a counselor to talk to before hand so you can go into it with the right mind.
i think a counselor will help for all aspects of this. hope that helps and good luck. : )
ps - my x (my son's father) is what you described in your baby's father. it sucks, but be prepared to do some battle because you guys will be in each others lives for a long time to come and your child is going to need you to protect them from that kind of behavior. no man should make a girl cry and be any kinda of abusive!! a-hole. ↑ |
| Name: mima | Date: Feb 19th, 2009 7:23 AM |
| First of all you are not ruining your life.. you are having a life companion.. you should do what your heart tell you to do.. if you want to keep it.. make a plan.. think how you will care for the baby and if you are still in school... I know kids who had babies at 15 and did fine.. you will be ok... ↑ |
| Name: Jaimie | Date: Mar 7th, 2009 4:38 PM |
| Hi Bianca, my name is Jaimie, and i'm 18 and just found out i was pregnant. If you want to keep it, then keep it. Dont let anyone force you into doing something that you will regret later on in life, or to do something that you really dont want to do. When I first told my boyfriend, that was his first thought as well, he wanted to get rid of it because he wasn't ready. But I sat him down and explained that nothing he said would make me change my mind in killing it or even giving it up. As far as yours go, you do need to leave him. No woman should put up with being abused in any way, and there are alot of support groups that are more than happy to help a single mother, and your family wil be there for you as well. You just need to do what your heart tells you, and there are many people out there who would love to help you out. ↑ |
| Name: UNIQUE | Date: Mar 18th, 2009 3:22 PM |
OKAY I CAN TELL DEAD BEAT DADDY ..!
DO NOT ABORT YOUR BABY FOR NO MAN OR BOY.I AM JUST 17 AND 13WEEKS PREGNANT MY BOYFRIEND ALSO LEFT ME SAYING HE AIN'T READY I WASN'T READY FOR A LOT OF THINGS.BUT I AM KEEPING MY BABY WHY BECAUSE IT IS AN BLESSING AND NO YOU ARE NOT RUINING YOUR LIFE AND YOUR PARENTS SHOULD BE HAPPY JUST AS YOU ARE.SO YOU KEEP YOUR BABY AND STAND STRONG AND NEVER GIVE ON YOUR CHILD FIGHT AND PRAY AND GOD WILL HEAR YOU AND BRING YOU THROUGH AND GOD BLESS AND I WILL KEEP YOU IN PRAYERS.0N3 M0R3 THING M3 TAK3N CHAN3C3S HAV3N MY BABY MAD3 M3 CHANG3 MY LIF3 AR0UND AND B3LIV3N G0D Y0U D0 TH3 SAM3 PL3AS3 K33P Y0UR CHILD...=P ↑ |
| Name: joe | Date: Apr 2nd, 2009 3:43 PM |
hi, you must feel a great burden to your life. I can't feel your pain but...if you are willing to talk to anyone I'm just here and I can listen to you freely.
[email protected] ↑ |
| Name: jennifer | Date: Apr 22nd, 2009 7:47 PM |
| hey my nam is jennifer im 21 from brooklyn nyc and im pregnant with my third child i just had a baby 4 months ago and i have a 3year old boy both children was c section and im scared because a lot of my family are saying that if i have this baby that there a possible that i can died and im so scared im 1 month pregnant ↑ |
| Name: Charlee | Date: May 4th, 2009 2:37 PM |
| I was in a very similar situation to you a few months back (i am now 26 weeks pregnant, and also 19) you have to remember that this is YOUR baby and YOUR body, I struggled to decide on what I ws going to do, but I kept my baby because it's what I wanted, and I think you should do the same ... if you want the baby, keep it. Even if your parents react badly at first they'll come round and be supportive, after all, you are their daughter and this is their grnadchild. I was in a mentally abusive relationship too, the best you can do is keep away from him, you and you baby deserve better, and decide what's best for the both of you. Good luck :) ↑ |
| Name: Deidre | Date: Jun 7th, 2009 5:25 AM |
| Well by what you have said on here. Get rid of the boyfriend unless he actually shows he cares about this pregnancy, if not he'll stress you out and that wont be good for the baby. Having a child is the most rewarding thing you'll ever do. Because you go that whole 9 months with that baby in you; then when you finally have him or her, it'll be worth it. No matter what you end up deciding to do whether keep the baby or not, you'll always have that question.. what wouldve happened if I done that instead of this. you're not ruining your life, I look at it this way, you spread your legs, here is the consequence. (no offense) your parents are not going to say they are keeping it. LEGALLY they can not. You are 19 and old enough to do this on your own if necessary. Your not going to make things worse, you're bringing another life into this world. CONGRATULATIONS! ↑ |
| Name: n | Date: Jul 2nd, 2009 10:35 PM |
| Name: Rachel | Date: Jul 4th, 2009 6:34 AM |
| I am 23 years old and due to have my #4 next month... I had my first born when I was 19 years old, just like you... I married the man who got me pregnant (for that exact reason), was married 4 years and am recently (7 months ago) divorced. And I still, out of everything in my life I could regret, do NOT regret my daughters... not for a SECOND. All I know is that there are a ton of girls who regret having an abortion and nobody I have EVER met regrets having their child(ren). Plain and simple. Obviously its your choice, and not gonna lie, I actually considered it for the 1st time in my life when I found out I was pregnant with this little girl... thank GOD I didn't kill her. I am so thankful I get to meet Sophie face-to-face next month, regardless of the fact that I just got divorced. Especially at 12 weeks pregnant... that baby is so BIG! Good luck girl! ↑ |
| Name: Seanix | Date: Oct 2nd, 2009 9:52 AM |
| keep the baby and love it with all your heart! [3 ↑ |
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