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Name: Yvette

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Being a Christian is a common thing in America. Being a PRACTICING Christian is rare. Being an evangelical Practicing Christian is even more rare. I am this...a holy roller. However, I fell into sin because I am a single parent who is so tired of being single, that I tried to make the whole marriage thing happen with the wrong person. I got pregnant by a man who has a substance abuse problem. BAD CHOICE! He is a very good man; however, he has a bad problem. Unfortunately, I found out I was pregnant before I found out what a problem he had. Now, I am alone again WORSE off than when I started. I feel so ashamed and convicted about my behavior that I went for comfort and support from my pastor at church. Well, I was told that I cannot be a member there until the end of my pregnancy, AND that I had to go through a long process to make up my sin to the local assembly. I understand that I sinned; however, I am terribly depressed because I feel that I am even more alone since I have no support spiritually. And my parents have been supportive, but they are elderly and ill. Advice, words of comfort? Anyone? ↓

Name: Kristina | Date: Apr 2nd, 2006 1:24 AM

I think you should find another church and or religion. One that will love and accept you during the good and the bad times. How dare your pastor tell you, you can't be a member at YOUR church until your pregnancy is over. Apparently your pastor has not been practicing what he preaches as the bible says we should not judge. Let he without sin cast the first stone. Everyone sins whether in thought or action so your pastor needs to repent for turning a young woman away who clearly needs comfort. God will always be with you regardless of your sins God loves you more now than ever. I will support you if you need to chat or vent or whatever, you don't have to do this alone. Feel free to post here, I'll look for you. God Bless. ↑

Name: aaron | Date: Apr 3rd, 2006 4:50 PM

Hi Yvette i'm so sorry your going through this. I too am a practicing and Bible living person. Please don't take your pastor's word to heart. There are many loving christian people who would love to have you in there church. I'm here if you would like to talk more. ↑

Name: Dee | Date: Apr 9th, 2006 3:13 AM

I am sorry to hear that your church has shut u out in the time of need. That first of all is not tatically supposed to allowed but I think churches now days are becoming more realaxed with some sins. I was pregnant and I also had my wedding in my church will pregnat. I would ask for the Lord to guide u to another church. God bless and keep ur head up. ↑

Name: Stacey | Date: Apr 18th, 2006 5:25 AM

Yvette, I am 22 years old and 9 weeks pregnant by a man that is almost as old as my adoptive father. My adoptive father is a preacher and has been practicing/preaching in the mennonite church for a long time. I had the hardest time telling my parents that I was pregnant and I had made a few comments to them about being ashamed for possibly emberassing them in front of the whole congregation.

What I'm trying to say is that if my father says that he is not emberassed by a situation that most strict conservative mennonites would be horrified at, then I need to stop worrying about my past mistakes and move on to do the best I can with my indefinite predetermined plan by God.

I would love to talk more and chat back and forth so feel free to email me at [email protected]

I'm in a situation where I'm taking care of two kids already by the baby's father. They're not mine, but it's like I'm their surrogate mother because theirs died when they were really young and the father...well let's just say, he makes it hard to love him. Insensitive to the point half the time I feel like he only shows me attention when he wants something or he acts like he doesn't care at all. It's all mind games, and I get tired and I'm so nauseous all the time, I haven't gotten to sleep yet tonight... well I'm rambling...email me

Bye! ↑