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Name: Arcticfeather
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I am 19 years old and I just found out my ex-girlfriend is pregnant and i am here to get some support and to get some advice on what she is feeling and what i am to do. We dated for a year and a half before breaking up in order to go to college and we've had a pregnancy scare when we were together so this isnt entirely new. We slept together a few times throughout the year after the breakup in a few nights of passion and on one of those nights she got pregnant. We didnt use a condom because she had been on birth control for 11 months prior to conception so we figured it was alright.

Im very pro-choice and i believe in a womans right to choose what she does to her body so when she opted against the abortion i respected her decision and moved on. We have both finished our first year of college and we both have very high ambitions in the world to succeed. Ive made sure to keep in close contact with her and be there for her in any way that i can. Ive told her on many occasions if she needs anything to give me a call and ive made sure to help her whenever i can. Weve sat down and talked about adoption and she says she is not sure if she wants to keep the baby or put it up for adoption. I want my baby to have a good home with two parents who can teach it love and to raise my child in the best way possible, but she doesnt see it that black and white.

I really want children, ive imagined being a father since i can remember but im not ready and i dont know how to tell her i dont think that shes ready either. I dont even know what to say to my parents.

Another bit of information is that she is an only child and her mom just passed away from cancer a few months ago. Im scared that her emotions are overwhelming her but i have no idea how i can help her or really tell her that i want an adoption without seeming like im controlling her and pushing her away.

Ive asked her about child support and she says that she wants me to be the legal father and a father figure if she keeps our child but she doesnt want me to pay child support. She said she wants to have a document drawn up to sign away the legal binding to paying any child support in return for not being able to hold a custody battle for my child later in life unless she becomes unfit. Can this actually be done?

Ive told my friends and i have support of a lot of people but im still so confused and so unsure of myself. Any advice?
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Name: Jason | Date: Apr 6th, 2008 3:06 PM
Believe it is scary to have a child. I have a 17 year old daughter. I was very scared. She has always been a good girl, until 17. I was a single father. I need your adice too buddy, should I still spank my daughter, she seems to act better, also why does she sit close to mw when the spanking is over. 

Name: Share Your Story w/ Us | Date: Apr 8th, 2008 10:48 PM
Hi~

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That being said, as time is of the essence, if you are a pregnant teen (or know someone who is), we hope to speak with you as soon as possible. Also, please know that if chosen, the girls will be compensated for their time.

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Name: mich | Date: Apr 24th, 2008 8:31 PM
Hi,

I would love to talk to you about this if you would like to email me my email address is [email protected]

Love,
MIchelle 

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